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sexdoll:
The truth is that there are some things you can't just understand as a straight man no matter how much you try.

Male gay sex is one of them.

Lol.... it's like a white man saying there are some things he can't understand and one of them is saying a black man is human like him. The reason you're saying you can't or don't want to understand is that, you're not on the receiving end of the hate, attack , insults and all sort of shits that come with being different. One day, you'll understand or you'll be forced to understand, when one of your siblings , kids or loved ones come out to you as gay (save me with the God forbid shit), if you still have a bit of humanity in you, you will understand, you will learn to understand and see that there's actually no difference and nothing weird you just fail to see it.

I remember a guy in my school , he's albino, we (his classmates and friends) used to make fun of him, we'll remove his glasses from his face, taunt him that he couldn't eat salt or play football with us under the Sun. Though I stopped as i grew older. In our final year, our senior prefect (one of the most popular and liked guy in the school), his mum gave birth to an albino. It was then we learnt and we understood that that friend of ours was not an abomination or different (we used to call him "ebora" ) . No one like him more than that our senior prefect .

Do you know that there are still countries in Africa where Albinoes are killed and are still seen as an abomination. Do you know left handed people are still seen as "not right" or abomination. Do you know that people that suffer from down syndrome are still seen as "mad people.

I understand you when you say you don't want to understand. You feel you're on top of the food chain, you're straight, you're perfect , you're not an abomination, you're better than those that love differently or look different. Until Boom!!!, You find yourself in a racist environment e.g Russia, Italy, where you're treated and seen as nothing but a black monkey, you look like and abomination to them, you're attacked and cursed all the time. You have no right to choice of anything, not even life, cause they can take it anything. At that moment in your life, you'll beg and cry for understanding. Note that this racists tormenting your life can't just understand why a man with black/ brown skin can be considered as humans and not monkeys. It sounds disgusting for you to say a monkey(black man) deserves to live same quality life as them, no!!! An animal should be treated as one. It should attacked, cage and made fun of. His life should be miserable. Then you'll learn to understand.

sexdoll:
There's really nothing complex about humans if only you can understand the simple or basic psychology behind some of the actions of humans.

You see, sex is actually a thing of the mind.

You cannot have or enjoy sex without some form of imagination already formed in your mind.

Thus when a straight man imagines or thinks of gay sex, it automatically registers a very horrible picture in his mind.

He knows it's something he doesn't want for himself.

Thus, he just can't understand why another man will want such a horrible act for themselves.

So of you don't understand something , the right thing to do is to attack it. Now I can imagine why polio really thrived in the north, of course they didn't understand what vaccination is. When you don't understand something, is it not imperative to learn and read about it. You see why this country will always be backwards, it's because ignorance breathes and thrives amongst our youth and they revel in it. There's surely no hope.

Newbiee:
Please forget about all these blackmails to force us to agree to same sex marriage. It will never see the light of the day in Nigeria. It is against our culture, tradition and religion. We may be divided in some other areas, but we are united in saying no to same sex marriage in Nigeria. The west is trying to force it down our throat through whatever means. GEJ has denied it, they empower Boko haram to scuttle his government and back PMB to do their bidding. Now that PMB has betrayed them by denouncing it, they are Reenforcing insecurity in our land and promoting Atiku to do their bidding. It will never work. Nigerians are united in this. We say No to Same sex marriage period.

This is the most stupid thing I've ever read in my life. To think it has people who "liked " the post, shows there's no hope for the country. Yes, there's no hope for a country where ignorance reigns and thrives.

Nigeria was a shithole, is a shithole and will always be a shithole. A country were fundamental human rights is worthless.

A progressive country in action. Watch the hypocrites from the shithole country come here with their holier than thou comments.


New Zealand , country of my dreams.

Kenthumphz:
14 days. Unofficial results take 10 days

Ok ... thanks

Hello house, please how long does it take for Toefl results to be ready

Hello house, please how long does it take for Toefl results to be ready

He wants to turn from an armed robber to tithe robber

Following the outrage that ensued over Renowned writer and unapologetic feminist, Chimamanda Adichie's questioning of Hillary Clinton's use of "Wife" as the first descriptor on her Twitter bio, during a conversation at the PEN world voices festival. The writer has taken to Facebook page to reply critics, cynics and haters. Read below.



Dear Unnamed Person Who I Am Told Is On Social Media Saying I am Her Family and Telling Me to Shut Up:

Cynicism is ugly. It doesn’t flatter anyone. Yours doesn’t suit you at all.

I remember you vaguely; I think you were in my class in primary school. And now you claim to be my ‘family’ and you are asking me to shut up.

Did you watch the video of the conversation? Did you read a full transcript?

I am tired of Nigerians who read a headline and, without bothering to get details and context, jump on the outrage bandwagon and form lazy, shallow opinions.

I am tired of Nigerians cynically thinking of anybody in public life as a ‘brand.’ No, I am not a brand. I am a person who feels strongly about certain issues. I choose to talk honestly about them. I made the choice to talk about feminism knowing very well the kind of hostility it brings – but I think it’s important and I will continue to speak my truth and hope to bring about some change, no matter how small. Adirom agba egwu ka m data ego.

No, of course you don’t actually deserve a response, but I have some free time today. So I want to make you feel a little important because it sounds like you need it.

And I want to reflect on an absolutely lovely hour spent on stage with Hillary Clinton.

I was happy when I was told that Hillary Clinton had specifically requested to be in conversation with me at the PEN World Voices festival. I am an unapologetic fan of Ms. Clinton’s. I have been for many years.

I felt quite emotional when I met her. Having read and followed her for years, it was moving to see her: the warm, human, observant, present, thoughtful person (and looking wonderful, with her hair and makeup on point!).

She said she had read my books and I restrained myself from doing cartwheels.

“Is there anything you don’t want to talk about?” I asked backstage.

“Ask me anything,” she said.

Towards the end of our conversation, I told her how, having read her writing about her own life, I think she has a great love story with Bill Clinton. A wonderful friendship. I said I feel irritated and protective of her when people dissect her personal life, but I also confessed to having an interest myself, particularly about her public Twitter profile. (I first noticed it when I was researching a piece about her during the presidential campaign). I was upset that the first word used to describe her was ‘wife.’ Was it a choice she had made or was it something done for her campaign and, if it was a choice she had made, did she think my reaction to it was fair?

Her response was very thoughtful.

I was too excited, emotional, slightly nervous, to be on stage with this remarkable woman. Had I kept in mind how easily outrage-mongers would jump on a headline, I would have phrased my question better. I would not have made it about my being upset, because it can come across as navel-gazing.

But the truth is that we were supposed to be having a ‘conversation,’ the context of our conversation was personal and warm, I had made the decision to speak from the heart, and it would be dishonest to pretend that I had not reacted personally to so many issues around Ms. Clinton, whose life has become a kind of crucible of all the questions that affect women.

We all react personally to public figures. And I WAS upset that the Twitter bio of a woman who is the most accomplished person to run for President of the United States, would begin with ‘wife.’ And considering her personal history, it just didn’t seem to fit.

I felt that ‘wife’ was used as an attempt to placate all the men and women who will not vote for a woman unless they are able to see her FIRST in domestic terms.

Yes, it’s just Twitter. But it matters. It’s a public platform. It’s where people go to hear directly from her.

And there is context to consider.

In LIVING HISTORY, Ms.Clinton writes that the two most difficult decisions she has made in her life were staying married to Bill Clinton and running for the senate seat in New York.

Women, especially women in public life, face a lot of societal pressure about how to be, how to live, much more than men do. Women in public life are considered ‘cold’ and ‘un-relatable’ unless they define themselves in domestic terms. Women’s accomplishments are often considered incomplete unless they have also ticked the ‘marriage’ box. These things are not true of men, even though marriage can be a wonderful thing for both men and women.

Feminism is indeed about choice. But it is intellectually lazy to suggest that, since everything is about ‘choice,’ none of these choices can be interrogated. Choices are never made in a vacuum. And sometimes, for women, choices are not always real choices.

After she got married, Ms. Clinton kept her name, but she was so viciously criticized for this that she then took on her husband’s name. Was this a ‘choice?’ Would she have done so if she wasn’t being attacked and if she didn’t want to feel responsible for her husband’s potential losing of votes?

During the last presidential campaign, she was expected to account for the policies of her husband’s administration. She was labeled an enabler of sexual harassment. She was accused of cynically staying married because she wanted to benefit politically.

Much of Ms. Clinton’s public image is a caricature of a person who is untrustworthy, calculated, cold, dishonest. That caricature has its roots in her early public life when she was the First Lady of Arkansas.

Her crime was that she did not conform to the traditional role of First Lady. She had kept her name. She clearly considered herself to be her husband’s equal partner. She did not intend merely to be a Wife. She had her own dreams, her own ambition. She dared to say that she wasn’t planning on ‘staying home and baking cookies,’ which was not about denigrating stay-at-home mothers but simply about saying that that was not what she wanted to do.

A small comment about a small thing, but it was significant and revolutionary because she was consciously resisting the status quo.

But she was attacked for that. Horrendously. And those attacks were repeated so often that they stuck and they contributed to her being reduced to a caricature.

It was therefore upsetting to see her first descriptor as ‘wife.’ The question isn’t about including ‘wife’ in her Twitter bio. The question is about giving ‘wife’ a certain primacy as the first word that describes her, and it speaks to larger questions about the societal expectations placed on women.

Ms. Clinton wrote in her most recent book WHAT HAPPENED, that she ran for president because she thinks she would have been a ‘damned good president.’

She certainly would have been. And so I suggested, half-joking, that ‘Would have been a damned good president’ is a perfect Twitter bio start. And then mother and wife and grandma and Senator and hair icon etc could follow!

I completely stand by my question and by my conviction that it is a subject that matters.

I had a truly enlightening evening on that stage with Ms. Clinton, and was once again awed by her grit, her humanity, her sparkling intelligence.

After the conversation, Ms. Clinton told me, “It was like talking to a friend.” She is now my Aunty For Life.

Oh, as for YOU, Unnamed Person, saying that I am ‘family’ to you, mbakwa biko. The people I consider family don’t ‘do petty.’

Saying “shut up” to a woman who airs an opinion is so unoriginal. Try and be a bit more inventive.

Try reasoning. Try intelligent debate. Try understanding things in context before you reveal your ignorant misogyny to the world. Try reading more than a headline. Try reading a whole book. Or two. And please keep talking. Keep speaking. Don’t ever shut up.

~CNA

Awwwn..... so romantic...... wish them a blissful life together. Love is love

Firgemachar:
Are you a moronn

So people don't need to study the operating manual of a new equipment they have never used before in order to be able use it properly because they have a brain

Are you mad

So the bible is your operating manual. Now I see why you're a retardd*

Firgemachar:
That's quite significant.

But can anybody be prosecuted for turning gay people away ever again?

No!

LGBT is on the backfoot in the US forever.

Lick your sores...

It's ok to be stvpid, it's somewhat ok to be ignorant, there are millions of people like you but to pride in stupidity and ignorance is what I find disgusting. How is the LGBT community on a backfoot in the U.S.....

Firgemachar:
It's in the Bible. Go check It out.
Mr Dullard!

oga, the bible is not a replacement for your brain. If "God" wanted you to think with the bible, he wouldn't have created you with a brain. Use your brain and stop shouting it's in the bible.

sanpipita:
Imagine the likes he got from such stupid post, look at way they reason and they don't they are the bigger problems we have.

The fact that you can't compose simple English sentence is a bigger problem to me than 2 men or women fvcking in the comfort of their room

introvertedsoul:
Anything, NOT capable of PRODUCING any OUTCOME.
Hope that answers your question.

What about nuns , monks, barren or impotent people then. They should be discriminated because they are not natural, going by your logic.

AreaFada2:
How come the West have no single respect for us in Africa?

Can they tell Saudi Arabia and Kuwait such nonsense?

I respect both gay & straight but others should not impose their views on other people.

It is disrespectful and arrogant.

Don't you think you're imposing your views on gays too, it's disrespectful and arrogant

ibotic:
Stupid ...perverted...ill mannered....arrogant....western leaders....
On top of all the things wey we dey face for Nigeria
Poor health infrastructure....power cuts....herdsmen....insecurity....collapsing educational sector...
Oyinbos best suggestion at this point is that....
We should let men sleep with other men and women with other women

How does homosexuality affect the infrastructural deficit (as you display) and intellectual deficit (as displayed by you) of this sh!thole of a country

All these 15 year olds comparing Beyoncé with Michael Jackson, how disgusting. It's an insult to music and art as a whole. Michael Jackson isiswas/was the definition of Entertainment. He is not even the standard but a pinnacle. Before you open your smelling mouth, please watch MJ's Bad your, History tour and Dangerous tour. People were able to stream and video the Coachella with their phone at the concert. If you're at a Michael Jackson's concert, you fight for air to breathe talk less of thinking of taking videos with your phone. The energy from Michael Jackson was passed to the crowd, you could feel it . I was watching Coachella yesterday and the crowd was dull

martineverest:
true... but she is a better performer and more energetic... while watching the show,I kept asking myself where she got dat energy from........ everything was perfect

You don't know what you're saying. Go to YouTube to watch Michael Jackson's bad tour, then come here to tell me Beyoncé is a better performer or more energetic......mtcheeew

osas87:
I would advise you stay away from IELTS by IDP, go for the one by british council. Reason I learnt of someone who did IELTS 13 times (12 IDP, 1 Bristish council) before making good scores. She claimed she was always marked down with a 0.5 score in one or more of the tests ( and the test in which she was marked down by 0.5 varied in each time she took the exams). She finally took british council and made it. For me its better you take IELTS by british council, thats wat i took and I made 7.0 at first sitting.I believe so many ppl here can testify to this. I know a trial will convince u but dont try what has a negative reputation with ur hard earned money. goodluck.

Ok... Thanks for the advice

cruchenutii:
IDP Education has announced a partnership with MOD Education to deliver International English Language Testing System (IELTS) tests in Nigeria. The main examination venue in Lagos is conveniently located at G.R.A in Ogudu.

https://ielts.ng/idp-education-mod-education-open-new-ielts-test-centre-nigeria/

IDP is just an organization that wants to deliver IELTS tests in Nigeria at their own Venues.

Ok thanks. I really appreciate your response. When I saw IDP, I was thinking Internally Displaced persons

Hello house, please is there any difference between IELTS test by IDP and the one registered through the British council website. It's really getting my confused because I'm seeing that of the IDP for the first time and they also have the date I wish to take the exam available. Is there also any price difference?

Mrbigman1:
Send them a mail. Explain this to them, from dia response u can carry on.

But I thought passport is wait and take?

I wasn't given the passport that day. I was told to wait till April 21. Thanks

Hello house, please I intend to register for the 12th of May exam. I lost my passport and I just applied for a new one which will be ready in the next 11 days, Can I register for the exams with my lost passport ( I have the scanned cop in pdf format) then present the new one for the exams at the center?.... I really don't want to register for a date later than May 12

Originalsly:
Never said to be [b]good[/b]parents...just said to be parents period. Parents can be good...can be bad. It is unnatural for two guys to be living as husband and wife... have a child growing up in that unnatural environment will mess with a child's head.

Do you have facts or evidence to back this up. Or you just come up with a beer parlour theory and expect dimwits to swallow it and believe you

Kennydoc:
@first point in bold: Oga, let's respect ourselves and avoid going personal. Are you wishing me dead? Did I wish you or anybody dead? The kids are already orphans. We are talking about whether or not they get new families. Do you know how many kids that have been adopted in unstable families where they were abused, molested etc? Do you think it's every adopted child that lives happily with their new parents? So if a homosexual couple doesn't adopt the kid, nobody else can adopt her? Who told you she wouldn't have been adopted very soon by a heterosexual couple?

If you're not saying homosexuality is acceptable, then why are you calling me homophobic? I don't hate on anybody cos of his sexual preference rather I detest their sexual preferences especially when they keep flaunting it on our faces. It's unnatural! That is an indisputable fact. I never said it's a crime, it's their choice to be gay but if in any way a child may be affected when adopted into such an unnatural family setting, then it's not fair to the child.

And you think it's out of this world to compare homosexuality and paedophilia? Now, let me ask you a question. Would you rather have your 25 year old brother marry a 16 year old girl or a 23 year old boy? Many of our forefathers married girls in their fourteens, fifteens and sixteens, and they raised proper families. Today, you will be considered paedophilic to have any such dealing with a girl of such an age, yet the same society (the western world) will accept an 18 year old boy getting married to a 23 year old boy. What insanity!!!

Sorry for "orphanising" your kids.... I do not wish you dead...... No matter the reason why the kids are put up for adoption, I'm sure those in charge of the adoption process will ensure they are being adopted by a stable family and all conditions are safe and right. Do you know better than them?..... When is the "very soon" gonna happen, how many kids have you adopted yourself?..... how many kids that are not yours do you provide for?..... easy for you to say nau.

I never said homosexuality is not acceptable.... I only questioned myself in your words and stated my line of reasoning from which you should be able to deduct what I meant.

You detest their sexual preference....[color=#990000][/color] buhahahahahha....lwkmd.... the thought of you saying that , really had me laughing out loud. My question is wetin consain you. Man dey fvck man, how is that your problem. Na on top ya bed dem dey kolobi each other, abi dem invite you join?.... or are you among those people that peep through Windows and door holes to watch people have sex. Cos I'm trying to figure out why you're bothered by what 2 grown men do within the confines of their room. Then you say they keep flaunting it in your face, I'm honestly trying to understand what you mean by that. If you can explain that , I'll appreciate.

Marriage is a matter of consent. And there's a legal age of consent. If the parties involved have attained the particular country's legal age for marriage and they both want and consent to it , why deny them.......

KushyKush:
Instead of taking pictures and showing swags, she should be on the pulpit at mountain of fire or Redeem camp praying that God should not let her daughter be a homeless woman with two kids from different husband just like her.

I find it hard to comprehend how a human can be so bitter...... tueh..... I spit on you