Viperman please help!

Abeg, how much should I pay for a 1997 cherokee jeep? Used in nigeria but only occasionally as the owner works abroad. So it is still in good condition.

No vex say no be all una four four million jeeps I dey ask about but ground no level reeach that side. I would really appreciate your advice. Thanks

If you read the majority of the letters in the new testament we are constantly reminded that the apostles need financial support to continue their work and that the church needs donation to cater for the needy, the widows, fatherless etc etc.

Originally the whole point of the tithe was to pay the expenses of church officials i.e. rent, feeding allowance, living allowance (and not mansions and expensive cars and other frivolous stuff!) and for the church to spend whatever is left over on the needy. This is still practiced in the older churches like Catholic/Anglican/Methodist. Out of the tithes and donations the priests are paid a salary sufficient for a reasonable lifestyle and the rest is spent on feeding the homeless, visiting people in prison etc etc.

So when you paid your tithe, you knew the church and the needy would automatically get their share.

I understand that in many pentecostal/newer churches, tithes are spent on lavish decorations for the church buildings and other luxuries and a lot more is spent on recruiting new (wealthy) members than on ministering to poor folks.

In any case, if placed in such a situation I would rather give directly to the needy, but God sees the heart and he knows your intentions when you are giving so its all good.

Any members of these churches please enlighten us as to how it works.

If you guys have been together for 3 years then you obviously have something good going on. But you need to ask her WHY she lied to you, because as the previous poster said, she could be hiding all sorts of things. However, I suspect that she could have lied because of this thing you guys have of not dating older women (I think tha is ridiculous by the way, if you like the person it doesn't matter). I am sure we all know how difficult it is to come back and admit the truth after lying. She may have been looking for a way to tell you.

So I think you should question her seriously, and if this is the case, you should reassure her of your feelings for her and that she doesn't have to lie to you because you love her regardless. Forgiving our partners is an important part of a relationship and it actually strengthens it.

However, if you feel that you can't trust her anymore ot that she lied because of some ulterior motive rather than just insecurity, better to let her know how you feel and let her go. If you stay in the relationship under those terms you will end up hating and victimising her and anyting could happen. Let us know how it goes.

Its obvious that you don't want your daughter to be circumcised. Have you actually said that to the people stressing you about it? Or have you just kept quiet and given them varous excuses? I am just trying to find out how you are handling the situation presently. If you have told them straight and they are still insisting then there is every possibility that they will do it forcibly, so your daughter is not safe and you may have to leave or if you don't want to lose wyour present security send her away - maybe to boarding school or to live with more sympathetic relatives?

If you have told them and they are still trying to convince you then the situation is less desperate and you may have more time to think and plane.

But seriously, it would really help if you told us what part of Nigeria you are from because nairalanders from your area will be able to understand your culture better and give you the best advice.

Good luck and remember: the children are our future and your daughter's happiness is the most important thing. I will be praying for you.

If they ban okada how will people get around? The ridiculous price of petrol has driven bus and taxi fares through the roof and Okada is the most affordable option now. And that is apart from the fact that you can avoid traffic and get to certian inaccessible areas on okadas.

They have even started using them in the City of London, because traffic is so bad and all the bigshots can't get to their meetings on time . They call them executive bikes and they are way expensive.

@ naijacutee

They built a new boarding house? By backgate? Abeg gist me. They only introduced that yeye B/D badge thing in my final year and we all refused to wear it until they started suspending people. But we didin't have a barbecue chicken guy. Damn!

@goodbobo

I thought you set up this thread to ask for peoples opinions. It seems you are now vexing and becoming very defensive of your friend.

Understandable, but you should try and look at it objectively because quite a lot of the replies (not all, I know) have been objective.

My personal opinion is that what she is getting out of the relationship is not worth what it could cost. So she wants to have sex, and she found someone who was up for it, fine. But if we consider all the yawa that will break loose if this relationship becomes open (not to talk of the negative efects on his relationship with his wife right now) then, to be honest, its not worth it. If she HAS to have regular sex then she should go and find a toyboy. I hear they are not scarce these days.

And I find myself agreeing with all the people who have said she should not give up hope of finding love and a man that belongs to her. At the moment all she has is sex, and the threat of exposure in the back of her mind. She is cheating herself and settling for less than she is worth. I would advise her (and you as her friend) to reevaluate her self esteem and realise that she is better than just 'the chick on the side'. If you are proud of yourself and hold your head up - married or not, nobody can disrespect you.

Yaba has changed then, innit?

@ onyeozi

pls what is your source? The list announced by the minister, or something else?

Also pls tell me something about this school you mentioned because i have never heard of it. thanks.

@daviddylan

How dare you mention a completely unrelated person's name in a negative light? If you have beef with someone there is no need to air it in public behind their back. Unless ofcourse you are totally incapable of dealing with them in person.

Mrs Abiola-Costello is a private individual, what gives you the right to go bandying her name about.

Was it your brain she used to study before graduating? Please what school did you go to and did you graduate with any honours? Were you valedictorian? How many honurary degrees do you have? Apart from all the things you post on the web have you ever put your effort and and money where you mouth is and DONE something about the situation in Nigeria?

How are you less of a nonentity than you claim she is?

Sounds like an inferiority complex to me.

In future stick to the thread topic and don't try and drag people's name in the mud. You will not get away with it

@ Naijacutie

They wore white uniforms, white shirt, white trousers = white white.

Stupid choice for boys in Nigeria, it was more like brown brown. At least KC boys had a blazer to wear to cover the browness.

Are you not a QCOG? Don't tell me Yaba wasn't full of guys in white uniforms in your time

Smoking in public inNigeria is illegal, has been illegal from time! But its never really been enforced because people don't smoke all day everyday everywhere like they do elsewhere.

But for places where it is legal, I think it should be banned. I am a non smoker and I find it realy offensive to have to inhale other people's smoke not just in clubs, but on the street and 8am while waiting at the bus stop.

Since came to scotland I can count the number of times i have smelt smoke, shich is how it should be since i am a non smoker.

Went to london for the weekend and they almost killed me with the stuff.

All this list does is show you for who you really are.

You are not interested in having a wife i.e. a companion. You just want a slave who will cook and clean and allow you to call yourself a married man (while you continue to sleep around)

It shows that you obviously did not have any positive female role models in your life since you think women are all gold diggers and prostitutes and cows/horses to be subjected to physical examination before sale.

You are not man enough to follow your heart and actually develop feelings for your partner

You think lying is a good thing

You do not get on well with your family members and you are all out to 'get' each other

Your friends are illegal immigrants who aren't really your friends because they are ready to use you

You are so ignorant that you think education = arrogance. You no see person wey no read book wey arrogant before?

You are insecure about being able to keep a woman. Even if you are on a desert island if you dont have what it takes her eye will be outside

My friend, you need to sit down and look at yourself and pray that God will improve things for you.

Now you are talking. The fact that the dog doesn't bark all the time doesn't mean it cannot protect you. The most important thing is the bond/affection between the animal and its family. We once had a dog that followed a guy around for 30 minutes before biting him. But he still bit the guy. Not all dogs are as sharp as the others.

By all means try traditional methods but I think you will end up with the same result. My Grandma knows a lot about traditional remedies for veterinary use but they are geared towards health problems, rather than a change in personality. Hypnotising a dog so it barks sounds like a complete waste of time.

There are professional dog trainers that you can hire, mostly from the police or the military and they are good. But you have to make a commitment to REGULAR training, it won't work if it is a matter of come today, no come tomorrow.

Good luck and enjoy your dog.

I have given you my professional advice.

But since you want an answer at all costs: beat it constantly until it becomes so frightened that it will automatically bark and bite anybody who comes near it.


But I have to warn you that that is cruelty and abuse. And you will be bitten, and the dog will bite lots of people and put you in trouble.

Like I said, if you dont want a quiet dog, give it to somebody else and buy a new one. No be by force.

This is the main reason why I have abandoned the clinic and gone into research, people will never believe you if you don't tell them what they want to hear.

I go to Our Saviour's TBS, Lagos, and the Canongate Kirk, Edinburgh.

Interesting to see that everybody here is either catholic or pentecostal (with the exception of myself and one other anglican). And even the catholics seem to be few and far between

What happened to all the catholic, baptist, methodist and anglican churches that have been around for so long? My Grandma's methodist church and Our Saviours are always full, but these congregations still seem to be such a minority. How come?

I know thats not what the thread is about but I am interested in people's thoughts

Veterinary Advice:

There is nothing you can do. Either it barks or it doesn't. It is a matter of personality. If you are tired of the dog give it away. But you can't MAKE it bark. That is like saying 'How can I make my child shout at people?'

Hope this helps.

Queen's College, Yaba

Interact meetings LOL! Went to only one and the hall was just packed with guys from 'white white' schools.

And as far as authenticity goes, make we wait for WAEC to announce officially now. Then we will see.

People, people, don't hate on QC.


I know for a fact that for almost all of the past 15 years it has been in the top ten, and mostly is first in both SSCE and JSCE.

Despite all the issues that school has (don't forget it is run by the same federal government that is ruining the country) we are still maintaining our top spot.

It is not new but I am extra proud of the school because I had assumed, from the reports I hear that standards would have gone down.

So big up to QC for maintaining their high standards and PASS ON THE TORCH!

Hanging out with vivian fowler chicks makes you an ajebo Abeg!

That was rather razz in my day. What is happening to lagos?

Nobody has answered the question yet! As a guy, what would you do. because in all the films I watch, as soon as the guy finds out he leaves the chick high and dry, like its her fault she got raped.

I would like to know what real guys out there think and what they would do.

QUEEN'S COLLEGE FOREVER!!!



It is so nice to hear that QCY is keeping it real, despite all the ups and downs and horror stories we hear.

PASS ON THE TORCH!

WHy not? Some people actually prefer fat girls. It is a mater of taste abeg.

What kind of question is this? Are you sure you are reading your Bible right? God is everywhere and he answers prayers anywhere. If you are looking for a powerful 'spiritual church' or 'prayer house' then it means you are looking for power outsiide God and that you don't reeally believe in him.

I would advise you not to waste your time. And to simply pray over whatever issues you may have and get the people around you (friends, family, your local church) to pray with you also.

Going around looking for spiritual power is how people get duped, or hypnotised, or involved in juju, even though their intentions are good. As the Yoruba say, eni n wafa, rofo.

Thanks.

How strict are these things when it comes to the 3 years experience required?

I am sick and tired of the assumptions that vets only exist to look after pets!

That is a very small part of what we do and it is the least important.

Abi una no de chop meat? If all the vets leave the country tomorrow we will see whether nigerians will turn to vegetarians.

We have a lot of work to do when it comes o food production and the health of people and animals. There are so many diseases that can be passed between animals, food products and people and the vets tend to know more about it than the doctors. And there is also a lot of research that needs to be done. Most drugs are developed for animals first before the human version is brought out.

So, this advice goes out to vets as well as the people who think its all about pets. IT IS NOT! We do important work and we should be proud of it and respected accordingly.

I am studying in scotland at the moment and will be returning to nigeria to work as soon as I have finished. I am alrady involved in research on animals in Jos with the Nigerian Institute of Trypanosomiasis Research. So I know what I am talking about, it works.

It amazes me to see the kind of ignorance that still abounds out there.

A lot of people (men and women) hear feminisms and instantly reactive negatively, mostly because they don't know what it is. I am sure we ALL know women who are strong, confident and able to speak their minds, after all most of our mothers, aunts, sisters, grandmothers, wives, girlfriends, etc are like that. Some are educated, some are not, some have families, some do not, for whatever reason. Some work (whether it be in the market, in the school, at the world bank), and some are housewives. These women are ALL feminists. You don't have to be a militant to be a feminist. It all depends on the name. It is like the difference between 'runs' and prostitution. What difference?

The 'anti-feminists' should sit down and think about the people who give us women a bad name. Is it people like Dora Akunyili? Or the makers of all the Nollywood films that glorify prostitution?

Feminism as a movement is simply about removing obstacles in the way of women making the most of our lives. If there is something holding you back, you try to change it. Sometimes people don't go about this the wrong way buyt, hey thats life. It applies to men too.

Nigerian women are admired all over the world because we stand up for ourselves and (mostly) have fulfilling lives. There are so many of us who manage to raise six kids and have a successful high level career. That is part of feminism.

So I think we should all calm down and look at the women we know and respect imagine what it would be like if we lived in Iran and you were liable to be hanged simply for removing your face covering while you were having an asthma atack (true story, they killed the woman)

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