₦airaland Forum

I decided to contribute to this post having seen so many comments.
1. The idea of guys been polygamous is a very wrong notion. Personally I am not polygamous. I am a one man one woman person.
2. The act of guys cheating even when they have all they want in their partner is inevitable. Let me give an example. As christians we all love God but often time we sin, that's us cheating on him. When guys cheat simply it is physical, it might probably be to boost their ego, boost their control over the women folks or probably to boast among their friends so they won't be ridiculed.
3. The issue of money and some guys been scared of their women more comfortable than them. Personally I don't know why some guys think a confident, self assured woman is a turn off. I would always want my woman to elevate me in the positive ways.
4. I decided personally that no matter how rich my partner is when I get committed, I would always pay you a salary for your upkeep, though it might be small but yes I would pay my part. I took you from your parents because I felt I can take care of you, when then should I not play that role. So earn *2 of what I earn, I would still pay you salary.
5. The issue of sex again. Personally I believe in intimacy sex. If you can give me a good Mouth Gig then I should be able to eat you out there so well. I believe a normal penetrative sex shouldn't be more than 5-7minutes. The fore play and the intimacy is the sexual stimulation. That is even enough sexual satisfaction to me.
6. As for guys being nice or doing a lot of calling when asking a lady out. I do that often personally because I believe communication is key but I learnt my lesson the hard way because I pushed my one true love away due to that. It became stalking at a time. Sometimes in relationship I believe we need space, space to do our own thinking without our partner interfering.
7. Personally I don't like excessive. I don't love the busty and big yanshed woman. Just me moderate and above all be very intelligent. Your intelligence is what I need, not you cooking my food or doing styles in bed. And the idea of you washing my cloth is a no no for me. You are not my slave.
For any relationship to work, communication and time is key and money is very very important. I say again important, if not now later, responsibilities needs money and as a man it is my duty to provide for my partner and my family, that's what makes me a man. Thank you.

ObaKlaz:
I even had to re-check the meaning of the word 'Opportunist', cos I didn't really get what that pharisee meant by " D'banj is just an opportunist" Hater jatijati... Oloshi!

Lol don't mind him... Their type call dedication, determination and lotta hardwork opportunity.

NwaTeacher1:
Who is D'banj? A carpenter or a palmwine tapper. I do see this guy as a lucky noisemaker. If we term him as a musician, what name should we give to wizkid them. D'banj is just an oppurtunist

An opportunist who used his opportunity so well. What did you do with your own opportunity. When people achieve success, celebrate them not castigate them. I wish you well too.

asadike:
No be Madam Oby be dat? Buhari no go dey happy over dis.

Your chest though. Can I know you?

Awesome

skarlett:
it all started with freewill, I highly doubt the bolded to be sincere

You are awesome girl. Can we be friends?

And why must you all bash people for being gay. If that's what they chose to be, simply let them be. They didn't create themselves. And what's bad about being gay really?

g8662:
okay... just trying to help. you said, it was urgents

thanks

g8662:
Well, I don't know what you call profession but these are some of the Masters and PhD courses that you can study with scholarship in EMU and CIU.

Economics
Political Science
Public Administration
International Relations
Banking and Finance
Business Administration
Business Management
Marketing Management

You can check more of the courses here... http://cyprusuni.com/how-to-apply-for-admission-scholarships-for-international-students-and-cyprusuni-affiliate-program/

Thanks. Professional courses like ICAN and the likes not like the MBA really.

Dear Nairalanders!
Kindly help with any professional course an Economics graduate can enrol in apart from ICAN. And please what's the duration of this course. Thanks!

Dear Nairalanders!
Please kindly help with professional courses an Economics graduate can venture into apart from ICAN and going for an MBA. And what's the duration of those courses. Something that can help boost one's CV. Thanks so much...

BeastOfNoNation:
Hello Nairalanders!!

Recently, I realized that the idea of marriage doesn't excite me AT ALL. This realization came about when I was talking to my older cousin who's sister just recently got engaged. I was very happy to hear the news and we were all celebrating for her and wishing her good things. So while I was hugging her, she looked at me and said "Ejirooo! Very soon we'll be celebrating your own engagement ooo!" So we started laughing and she went to talk to the other cousins and aunties. It now occured to me that she was right. One day I will kuku marry. And the thought of that seriously scares me.

You see, I've had relationships before and I've met some of the nicest Naija guys on the face of the planet BUT I've never imagined myself being married to any of them. I've never even experienced real attraction to any of them

Ironically, I've imagined myself being a mother (I'm very nurturing and maternal by nature) and I think it's part of the problem. I would like to adopt children in the future and I haven't met any Nigerian guy who is okay with that idea. Please let me clarify, I WANT TO HAVE MY OWN CHILDREN but I also want to adopt some so that I can give them a better life. I know that being a single mother carries a stigma in Nigerian society but I like the idea of it personally. Lots of fathers are not even directly involved in the rearing of their child anyway.

My second issue with marriage is the multiple problems that can arise. Domestic abuse, Infidelity, Divorce, etc. It seems like everyday one person is having issues with their marriage and it's making me believe that this marriage thing isn't worth the pain. I don't like wahala in my life. I'm also afraid of those guys that control their women's lives and dominate in every aspect. I understand a male being masculine but I don't want to be regarded as a lesser human being to him. It seems like some guys can't differentiate between a wife and a slave

My third issue is that I just don't really understand the need for marriage. I'm pretty self dependent and I can't imagine living with a man let alone marrying one and taking care of him for the rest of my life. While dating, me and my ex just did our own thing. We both had jobs so I didn't need money (plus I have a father if I really need anything ). Marriage title won't add any benefit to my life so what is the use? When I used to go to my last church, the Pastor will be shaking and shouting and praying that the women in church will find husband. The women will now be jumping and fainting and rolling on the ground. I used to stand there and just look at them because I didn't understand. Is It because of Mrs. title or diamond wedding ring? Monogamous marriage doesn't even seem to work in Africa from what I've seen

I'm definitely going to marry just so that my mother will not shout but it will have to be somebody that does his own thing and isn't looking for the conventional wife. It just seems very inconvenient though.

So my questions are:

1) What is the actual use of Marriage?

2) Do any other females feel this way? (I specifically ask females because I have met males who feel this way but if you are male you can answer too )

3) Is marriage for everybody?

Please respond! thank you!

whao, this is awesome. The idea of cohabiting or just having a baby is all I ever wished for not some senseless marriage and some fantasies of love.

MzzTega:
Obvious she's a hungry girl.
Don't feed her.
Just inform your lawyer.

I found you. Am braver and smarter than King Solomon I guess.

mii4u:
There can't be any good reason for cheating.

If you cheat, you must believe this much; fated love is a lie, monogamous love a deception.

CC Bb Sharon. Her wife material is just so long. Sweet, smart and intelligent bae. I love you Dami.

Loyalblak007:
Do you reside in Lagos? Fun...Matured....i hate pretenders please...Male or Female...I just moved to the mainland...I need a chat mate please am so bored

Hello, where on the mainland do you stay?

HERSLEY:
lmao... Funny u

Saw it too mehn. Your yansh is tempting.

rosieluv:
kingrex pls na,am nt married ooooo. Do u wanna marry me? dis one u r forcin marriage on me

Yes I want to marry you and I must marry you. How are you?

faithesco:
Am single and searching,I want to datie oooo,mo ti ready oooo#in adekunle gold's voice#sadface

check your pm