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Sanguine:
Great one there!
That OP probably got married for the wrong reasons to the wrong person! And then thought he'd brainwash the people he would with his wack and ungodly ideas about marriage!

key word there. thats d problem i had with his thread

hizson:
if this thread no make fp make my iPhone 6 fall for water

lol. iphone 6 abi tecno fone?

Pdizzle:
For someone who is indifferent, if you weigh the argument, this thread is too weak for the other one.

that says alot about where u stand

nickz:
hahahahahahahahaha like seriously the thought of living with a woman for that long;is enough to drive one insane
going by this your logic everyone without a wife will get. a disease of some sort
you should sign up for "AY's open mic contest"seems you haven't heard about "WHEN YOU MARRY A WOMAN YOU MARRY HER AND HER PROBLEMS" where is the balance in that

trust me with proper management u can realise that. stop been pessimistic and be optimistic u will see sense in that post

kuphid:
Op weldone really for this piece. The other thread was really disturbing...

thanks kuphid. the other thread was more than disturbing to me, had to search vigorously through the net for this piece of info. Marriage is a good thing, no one should speak ill of it cos we all came out of it.

pieces2:
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1. Some ladies think that acting like a wife will automatically persuade the guy to put the ring on their finger. That is faulty thinking and could lead you into big emotional problems.
2. Just so we are clear, until he puts the ring on your finger, you are NOT, I repeat, not, his wife. You go everywhere together, hold hands, kiss in public, he introduces you to his friends as ‘my wife’, all that is nonsense until he puts a legal ring on your finger.
3. You are dating him, that doesn’t give him the right to demand wife duties from you. Dating and marriage are totally different things. Even if he is engaged to you, that doesn’t give him the right to demand wife duties from you.
4. Some men demand that you cook for them, organise their apartment and give them sex to prove that you are good wife material. Don’t you fall for that. Any man who tells you that wants to use and dump you. And, DON’T move in with him because that will automatically make you his ‘in-house-mistress’ who will perform all his wife duties for him without the commitment of marriage.
5. You don’t have to submit to him until he puts that ring on your finger. Some men demand that you should submit to them because you are dating. If he wants you to submit to him when you are not dating, just think of what he would do to you if you are married to him.
6. Don’t give him your money unless you are sure that you will get it back. If you give him your money because he is a ‘potential husband’, you can kiss that money goodbye because you may never see it again.
7. Stop giving him your body whenever wherever. Anytime he wants sex, he calls you up, yet he hasn’t put the ring on your finger. Giving him sex is counter productive. Your objective is to get married to him, not to warm his bed. Pretending to be his wife by giving him sex will not make him put that ring on your finger.
8. It is not complex: if he wants you to perform wife duties for him like cooking, organising his life, sex and all other wife duties, tell him to take you to his family and organize a marriage.Stop being foolish. If he really loves you as he whispers in your ears, he should take you to the marriage registry.
9. If he gets all the wife duties from you for free, why on earth do you think that he will make you his wife? If he is not ready to make a life commitment to you, he doesn’t deserve any wife benefits.
10. Protect yourself from emotional and sexual abuse. Stop giving this man what he doesn’t deserve. If he is not willing to honor you by putting that ring on your finger, then he is not worthy to receive wife benefits from you. When you become his wife, then he will get treated like a husband.

relationship is a risk, it works for some while it doesnt for some. do wat works for u. not everyone is like u, or reason like u. let everyone be abeg, stop forming holier than thou........ only God knows the worst ones u have done

Justosaus:
All of this is based on the assumption that you marry a good partner, right?

sure.

mizzkeji44:
INTERESTIN

. nw ur marriage hungry right?

10 LONGER LIFE


It has been estimated that the number of people who die is twice as high among unmarried couples. Married people take better care of each other, support their partners and provide help if needed. People who feel responsible for their spouse and kids feel the need to take care of themselves. They understand that there is someone who needs them. Advice: If you want to live longer, get married. Do not make a mistake though by marrying someone who is not your true soul mate!

9. LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF


Statistic data show that married females and males are healthier. Some married people feel so responsible for their beloved that they start taking better care of themselves, they quit bad habits which leads to a longer life. It is devastating and destructive to live in a relationship where people misunderstand and mistreat each other. In this case life can only be shorter and health much worse. So, the point here is not just to get married for the sake of marriage but to be happily married, enjoy your married life, love your partner and be loved back.

8 LOWER RISK OF SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES


Married people have a regular and stable sex life. They do not need to constantly look for a sexual partner. This lowers the risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases. We are now talking about couples in which both partners love each other and stay loyal and faithful to each other. People who disrespect their spouses and cheat on them stay at a higher risk of STDs.

7. BETTER HEALTH

For women there are health benefits in being married. Good sex life proved a complete feeling of satisfaction and happiness. This influences mood and as we know, mental health is not less important than physical health. Research has proved that single people suffer from mood swings and even depression more often.

6 HEALTH ISSUES SOLVED

Not only ladies experience health benefits. Married men are also healthier both mentally and emotionally when they are married. They are taken care of, feel loved and needed. It’s good for men’s cardiovascular system. They are less prone to strokes, heart attacks and other diseases.

5 BETTER FINANCIAL SITUATION

It is obvious that a couple spends more money than a single person. But the thing is that a couple makes better money and they can afford to buy more. Married men realize that they are providers for their wives and kids and start earning better money while single men can live on a lower salary since they are not motivated to work and earn more.

4. BEATING BAD HABITS

Studies show that married people get rid of their bad habits much easier because their sense of responsibility for their family won’t let them drink or use drugs. Some quit smoking when they are motivated by their spouse and children. If you are single, then fighting your addiction on your own becomes far more difficult.

3. EASIER TO TAKE CARE OF KIDS

When you are not alone it is always easier, especially if we are talking about growing up children. Parents who share their responsibility for their children serve a better example. Their kids learn what a real family relationship is which will make them happier personalities in their future family life.

2. FULFILLING LIFE

Since a couple earns better money it means that they can improve their living condition and buy a better house or apartment in a nice location. They can also afford travelling, better food and education for their children.

In response to an earlier thread by ''Killjoy'' (what a moniker ) about ''Reasons Why Guys Should Never Get Married'', i was so disturbed that such a young man will have such a mindset about marriage, an institution that was made by the all knowing Creator for a special purpose, an institution upon which we are all a product of. if our parents had his views we wouldnt have been born let alone create a thread on Nairaland with the sole aim of discouraging guys from getting married.
Well this thread isnt to counter his (''killjoys'') thread, but to show the other (good) side of marriage which he chose to hide for reasons best known to him.

Being married is nowadays considered to be old-fashioned. Young people find matrimony conservative and prefer to stay officially unattached. Countries with traditional views still believe that family is something essential in every person’s life.

There are advantages and disadvantages in being married. Apart from weight gain and argument, there are positive aspects. If the union is happy, what the couple may experience is financial benefits, support, and good health. Sociologists have proved that those who prefer to get married to their partner are happier in their relationship than those who stay unmarried. More than that, kids who are born to married parents are much happier and psychologically healthier.

Here are 10 solid reasons why u SHOULD get married



1. LIFE LONG COMPANIONSHIP

Being committed to someone is great. It’s rewarding to have a person who cherishes and protects you. These are eternal virtues. They have always been highly appreciated by people. All of us dream that some day we meet someone special with whom we will spend the rest of our lives.


source: http://wmnlife.com/relationships/10-reasons-to-get-married

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

am preparing a counter thread right about now. ''10 Reasons to get married''

emmytayor:
planet earth ni oo,wil text u his digits nw

Pls who is jaystar? I need his digits

I rep unijos geology and mining stream 2..

louisdaniel:
congratulation 2 me delta here I com

U just printed urs?

syahboy:
I think so. Someone should try contacting this sidmach guys

if its in batches then they should send us an email stating this fact. heart attack wan kill me here o

butanep:
what were they telling you @ first

how did u do it? mine is only showing 3 tabs still o, and am using system

i havent received any text nor email about my call up letter been ready. whats wrong? i paid and received the call up number and am yet to see my posting. anyone have an answer?

Mizcurrency:
My day was fine.....but am yet to get my call up later, 'twas pasted this evening immediately I left school tho, will check back tomoro. Ave u checked urs?

Pls which school?

gandyluv:
Jus got a txt dat my callup leta is ready for printing

Wat time did u got it?

Godditex:
I was hinted by a friend that NDE are currently registering Graduates in my state for FG jobs or whatever. Why am worried is the extortion of 2k from every grads that intend to register.
This is broad day light fraud to me.
Kindly share your thought if you have any ideas about this and other NDE programs. Thanks!

I swear I don't know why