₦airaland Forum

SIRTee15:
babaYibo ignore juvenile and immature rants here on NL. I read response to the friends one yesterday and concluded na small pikin dey nairaland. Until it happens to them, they won't understand.

Housing project is a big achievement in naija esp for the middle class. If not, why is the friend throwing a huge party because he built a house.

There's something called betrayal of trust and that's what your sister and the friend did. There's something in Yoruba called aponle- regard, it's obvious your sister don't have much regard for u, same for the friend.
Your sister don't want to have a close relationship with u, just see it that way and respect her choice. Do your thing and let her hers. It's painful but that's the way it is.

Xpol:
Lol. if she didn't do that, your numerous demands wouldn't have let her finished that project .
She's a wise woman/lady.
In Africa, if you're rich friends and family feel/think they're your responsibilities but if you're poor they feel/think you're on your own.

Ofadaman:
People owe you nothing ,because you yap about everything is the reason you expect others to do the same.

Plus exactly this kind of attitude of self entitlement is what made her not inform you.
Why do you feel entitled that she must tell u about her finances ,why do you feel pained that she built a house without telling you, if she told you would give her a penny?

Manuel91:
Abegiii!!
I don’t see anything wrong with that; people need to stop being entitled. What you’re allowed to know is what you get; be it family or friend. Respect people’s decision. The fact that your family decides to make moves without informing any of you doesn’t mean they love you less. They’re just comfortable operating that way, which shouldn’t be a reason to be upset. Being upset only shows some sought of envy towards the information… my opinion!!

Shalommy:
She's a wise woman. Some family members are obstacles. Chaii..

A305:
Never make that mistake man.

There are things you don't tell a woman. Ask yourself; How does her knowing your net worth or gross worth improve your relationship with her?

Sadly it don't, instead it will only stir up her greed and entitlement.

Things you keep secret from your woman

*Your finances ( how much you make)
*Your dark past
*Your insecurities
*The extent to which you love her.


Trust me, when you reveal the above; you would pay darely for it, because those are the information they need to manipulate you.

Persephone1:
It all depends on how you want to run your home. If you want a home where you both will contribute to managing the home then you have to let her know the range, not the exact amount. If you are good to run home expenses alone, then you may choose not to.

I'd advise couples to let each other know their financial capability to an extent. This helps in planning finances and family welfare. Plus it serves as a pointer if any of the couple picks up an unhealthy habit along the line.

You may not tell her the exact amount but range.

Jennyclay:
Biko let her know your salary so that she can know if the future is bright for her or not.

Is not as if you’re earning millions of naira monthly . I’m absolutely sure you’re not even earning common 100k monthly. Biko don’t come and put someone’s daughter in abject poverty!!

ibechris:
Marriage shouldn't be the first man,first of all save and invest some money.

U started work this year and u have started talking about marriage.

I wish u the best but remember,marriage and family have its own financial implications and can make one depressed if u don't plan well.

Better gather yourself well and don't marry a woman who has nothing doing.

All the best.

pocohantas:
It is not necessary.
I don't know my man's earnings,
I have never bothered to ask. I will never ask.

The closest I got to knowing how much he has stacked was when he sent me one of his bank statements for a trip we had planned. I saw the numbers and understood why men hide their earnings. If I were someone into flashy life, i would probably ask for a GLE the next day.

The most important thing to me is that a man PROVIDES, INVESTS AND SAVES.

Some men would tell you their earnings, both current and future, but hungry fit wan kill you. You go know say some money get audio, but no visuals. You go dey hear am, but e no go show for screen or your body.

He provides and I RESPECT and APPRECIATE that.
He tells me of planned investments and expenditure. He doesn't tell me of the money he sends to his side. That is none of my business too. Highest he would say his fam needs this or that and if he needs a plug, I guide him.

Life with him is easy. I can't complicate it with bogus expectations.

The more men talk,
The less they do.

Focus on actions. That is what would make a woman respect and remember you.

Waffarianman:
Try locate floating world hotel or Betti's hotel within the roundabout small smaller yakpa plenty dey for Allen avenue

tayo60:
That's how you men bring trouble to your life, later na to dey display preek on nairaland looking for solutions for STI contracted

shox:
go that Allen avenue side. Babes dey there .


Make una try to attend to the message first before una slaughter messenger.

He who never sin before should cast the first stone then🤔

jclassiq:
By then he would be 35.

Hausa:
Please what's the name of the IT job you are taking, and where?

Digitalstarlite:
Send me your email address to add u to groups for job opportunities sir

Devil1Messenger:
Get an IT skill
A friend of mine just rounded off a 10months graduate trainee program and employed as full time staff this month in a tech firm and he is 32 now

sofeo:
Plz acquire skills, or and also IT skills.

bet9ja:
I will adverse you to focus on skills acquisition and stop thinking like average Nigerian, I started my career at the age of 29 - 30 with just WAEC. Focus on skill acquisition, follow by certification, you may now proceed to get your BSC and others if you want to.

JARUSHUB:
Read JarusHub.com

PrinceOfLagos:
It's crystal clear that Tinubu is not the choice of Yoruba , he just wanna force himself on the people as the greedy man he's always been

slivertongue:
Ofcourse even d deaf, dumb &blind know this bt who will nt blackmail a thief to work for him