Betmaster3:
Girls always call back if you don't call them as before, it's just normal. You don't know the game well, yet you claim to know, I didn't speak with my babe for 1 month plus straight on one occasion and 2 months plus straight on the other occasion, she was the one that first called me back on those two occasions, Calling her tomorrow will make her feel you can't do without her and you'll have yourself to be blamed, learn from the elders. Call her on Sunday boy!

lol nice analysis.. but bro please don't be rude to me.. i wasn't rude to you. I'll call on Saturday then.

pcguru1:
as in we don't old for this forum, I know a lot about those slings I used to be a member there and read a lot of the articles that's why I made the shout out nice signature bro, though not a Nodejs fan too much dependency and packages wahala

Lol NodeJs really cool hahaha.. i got paid really good as a node developer this year.. i wanna settle down with a good girl hahaha

Betmaster3:
Don't call her tomorrow. Call her next tomorrow or sunday evening

oga but that's wickedness the four days no contact never do.
forget all my ego.. i actually love this girl but I won't show it fully yet till I'm sure. i don't want to screw things by not calling tommorow.. I need to strike a balance between trustworthy/honest and WiseMan.

ibkayee:

Lool she try for a naija girl, think well before deciding to end it (if you do).

I won't lie, some girls can take forming to another level, however I also think a lot of them do it as a 'pride-preserving'/defence mechanism because a lot of naija guys have a habit of labelling girls 'desperate' for any small thing, 'traditional' dating culture etc. I don't know if that applies to her though, but from the sound of it, she actually try lol. I don't know sha, lol she's a product of her environment

lol you deserve a gift you're special and intelligent unlike that kashy who posts for likes.. she was forming shit.. she gave up and called when she realized I'm not ready for games.. hats off to you milady.. for being so knowledgeable.

pcguru1:


White knight, beta hmmmmm Red Pillerr and MGTOW spotted

hahaha... you seem like a cool guy that used the Internet back in the days just like me.. i started using forums before nl became popular so this are slangs we use alot back in the days

sekxy:

happy for you..better treat her right and avoid those things that promote break ups. .
btw,mellow your shoulders too.

Gucci on your feet... guess who bought you that? me.. sekxy

Hahaha guys guys... she just called 10 minutes ago though her credit was really low (according to her) so i called back.. She didn't ask me why I haven't called her for like 4 days now lol she was really soft and sweet with the phone call.. she says she's not feeling too well.. i asked why she called and she said: Nothing.. just wanted to hear your voice hahaha... she lost.. anyway she's probably learnt her lesson and said again on the phone call that she'll call tomorrow when she loads her phone.. i lied to her though, i told her i was sick as well yesterday and was vomiting too.. she was now telling me to get well soon and all that... i told her to get well soon as well and that I'll call her tomorrow..

Hopefully all the guys will learn from me and adopt this mindset that will make them get the respect they deserve from their SO.
Peace.


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MissTechy:


Whew!!!!! Thank you for unsubscribing. I don't need people with such mindset as yours

lol... butthurt.. you need to learn to take corrections from your fans.. a response like: I'm sorry, I'll work on that, subscribe again, would have been more matured rather than bringing the i don't need people like you thrash.. Good luck with your YouTube career.

ibkayee:

No problem, hmm, maybe mention it again and if she improves and then slows down again, start mirroring all her actions. If she calls, you call and if not you do the same, if it becomes ridiculous and it's clear that she won't change....you may need to consider leaving, since it clearly bothers you as much as it does and I personally don't think you're even asking for too much

Hahaha you're right.. i really admire your intelligence!

ibkayee:


What did she say when you spoke to her about it?

Thanks for your positive response..
When i spoke to her about it she apologized whole heartedly, started calling again then now she's slowed down again.. it's like a game and I'm not playing with that silliness.

sekxy:
boastful op,,why do you even need help when you can help yourself then?abeg

Hate if you want, advice is all i seek, if you can't say anything substantial then the door is open.. i don't have energy to argue over nonsense with you

ibkayee:

Lool she try for a naija girl, think well before deciding to end it (if you do).

I won't lie, some girls can take forming to another level, however I also think a lot of them do it as a 'pride-preserving'/defence mechanism because a lot of naija guys have a habit of labelling girls 'desperate' for any small thing, 'traditional' dating culture etc. I don't know if that applies to her though, but from the sound of it, she actually try lol. I don't know sha, lol she's a product of her environment

As a girl, what do you think is going through her mind now that I've cut contact?

Biggie225:
op show us her pics,make we see.

. lol I'm not that dumb

wh33z:
bro leave that pride shit...atleast she suppose don call u nah since una no quarell

Thats why i opened this thread.. she's probably playing games and I'll end it. i won't call, that's the sad part.
ps: i did mention that she's used to being on the receiving end of everything.. we're talking about a girl here of whom i control her social media and gets to pay for some things for both of us when we go out on a date. Be civil man, don't be like the trolls.. She thinks if she calls everytime I'll get bored of her!?

fayded:
if a girl loves you or is even serious with you,she won't stay 2days(tops) without either calling or chatting u up,doesn't matter if you guys are quarelling

you see, the problem here is you speak as if you're really experienced, have you met every girl in Nigeria and had first hand experience of each and every one of them and their characters? if a girl loves you The bolded is your opinion anyways, sadly i don't agree to it as you don't have a degree with knowing what every female can do if they love you.

IAMSASHY:
Op, ur post down to ur qoutings is filled wt pride, hv u calmed down to study her and no her kind of person , weda she is an introvert or extro , if u ar dating an introvert, it usually takes time b4 dey cn get used to u, open up and share conversations wt u. Dat doesn't make her bad person, hw many gals wl b sincere enoff 2 let u handle dia social media , u ar here talking of hw u wl break up wt her and go 4 prettier gals instead appreciating d one u hv.

Yeah you might be right... she looks very introverted.. she's had a very rough childhood and was abused severally and almost had an incestuous abuse from her family member, could this be a reason? she opens up with me about a lot of things and I've met her family on different accounts.. could this be why she's taking advantage of me wanting me to initiate all the contact?

walepackage:
You wrote a story.But, your comments was full with pride and ego.If you aint perturbed about the 'situation' why bringing it here for opinions from folks.

sorry bro if it seemed that way... I'm bp.
she still hasn't called, she wasn't in her work place yesterday, maybe she has issues? or oh, the holidays... ... at this point I'm fed up with her. Maybe she doesn't love me.. she's just feeding off my energy and attention from every meeting we make.

Titheman:
beg?

u sef get dick?
y would u beg a girl to call u
if she ahv any feelings for u and she doesn't hear from u for long she must call u.

dude you're confusing yourself..

safiaa what? are you facing what I'm facing?

IamKashyBaby:





Definitely u dont own her even u control all her social media, thats wat P.A.(Personal Assisant) do but u cant control her mind...She is still having her own world..#bittertruth

Any sane woman, who is in a "exclusive relationship" wont be bothering herself picking up calls from her other suitors..but lets be real here, she keep her option OPEN.

eh.. lol.. I'll break up with her and she'll definitely beg again.. i have other options and she knows it..

ps: everywhere she goes they kiss her foot.. calling her sweet names and all that gay stuffs.. maybe it has gotten into her head too deep that she expects me who can get 100 other prettier girls to do same.. craxy..

Anyway i guess she's with me because I'm different from all the other guys being the same old white Knights..

Titheman:
mumu...she loves u yet she dosnt miss u enough to call

check ha contact u r mugu no 12

oga you need to check your head

You clearly the type of guy that begs your gf to call you.. weak man...

IamKashyBaby:
If u know the game is tight..its either u gotta step ur game up or juz GIVE UP...

Communication is very important to make any relationships work.. NO COMMUNICATION, NO RELATIONSHIP..

If a person doesn't bother to call u, its bcoz they don't give a fvck about u...#bittertruth

lol.. you clearly didn't read.. she's mine. i do whatever i want, except for this communication issue.. she calls but she's used to guys calling her thus the communication issue.. i control her social media, not because i asked for it, but because she uses my device to login regularly.. why do some girls prefer the guy do all the contact initiation? now that's the question..


Stop sounding like that dingbang firstbank junior staff

dingbang:
you are confused....

anyway you will call her everyday like a slaveboy? what are your personal reasons sir?

dingbang:
I don't spend on girls bro

you're lame.. i spend for my female friends as they're humans too just like you and me.. everything is not about getting laid.

dingbang:
Stop being a kid. .. If u can't initiate a bootycall another guy will...

lol guys like you who will probably spend on her while she splits the money with guys like us.. haha

bro if you call a girl too much you're just lame.. she's supposed to call you much don't be silly.. you're a man not a gay..

Hello guys.... So my recent gf is supposedly getting white knighted (getting tons of guys chasing after her like hell i.e giving her phone calls every minute) because she's beautiful, the white Knight beta guys be ruining things for us the real guys.. so I discovered this excessive white Knighting makes her think i should be the only one initiating contact i.e doing the calling etc (She does call me but it's not much and looks silly and short), so i cut contact starting from Sunday and I'm busy with my own life as well, she hasn't called since... I'm not planning on calling soon until she calls, I've talked to her about this but it seems this white Knights and family upbringing has wired her brain to expect the guy to do the calling....

Summary:
She loves me, we have the wildest moments when we're together and alone, great romance, she calls but rarely, we started seeing seriously last week and she's never disappointed on a date, last Sunday she was really held tight with her family issues but she still made it for our independence outing of which she paid for drinks etc but she waits for me to initiate everything.. i can't date a robot! i always do the touching, kissing, etc love is 50/50.. both parties investing.. she just like Siri waiting for my command, call, action etc... I'm guessing she's used to guys doing everything for her (white Knights) advice guys.. because i won't call.. this is day 3 without contact, I'm sure she's craving for my attention while being white Knight by those bets .



PS: I'm controlling her Facebook and Instagram(11k) account of which she has thousands of followers.. and i can see and read all those crazy guys messages calling her 'my love' etc ;








Update: October 5 2017, she just called 10 minutes ago, saying she wanted to hear my voice when i asked why she called this is after 4 days of my no contact.. she has finally realized I'm not a white Knight.. hahaha!!!!!! Now i see, i don't need opinions of sheeps.. thanks to all the real guys here that gave me high quality advice.. you have a place reserved in heaven....

walepackage:
@op,two things are involved,either she like you for the impression she has form for you as the 'mr nice guy' for the gesture you showed her,or she just want to play game of mind with you.

spot on sir! that's why i asked that indirect question in the first place.. wanted to put her in her own game (if she's playing any).. i don't want a situation where I'll invest alot and later when I'm going for the kiss/pre-intimacy she says she was dating someone before she met me or that she's not ready and don't want to leave him bla bla thus breaking my heart.. i don't need a night stand, i know where to get those.. so now she can't ask me to:
Lend her money
Buy her lunch
Or any big favor, because I'm not her bf and I'm not obligated to give her shıt... now she gets to decide whether she should jump in the same boat with me or not... problem solved! no one gets played..



UPDATE
I called her this evening.. she was sounding romantic and really calm, we talked about lots of things and she seems to be enjoying the phone conversation but we both ran out of words to say, call duration was 10 minutes, so i asked her why she's sounding tired she said she's tired cos of work and wants to sleep immediately the call ends, i then said "okay, you need to rest, I'll hangup now" (to show that I'm send-less and not very interested according to peerless0012). I then said: Call me anyways, I won't call you anymore.. so you have to call me this time and surprisingly, she said:
That'll be tomorrow... i don't know when I'll wake up.. but I'll call tomorrow. (remember she called yes evening).

Me: Okay, Goodnight. ( then i end call.)

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walepackage:
@op,two things are involved,either she like you for the impression she has form for you as the 'mr nice guy' for the gesture you showed her,or she just want to play game of mind with you.

spot on sir! that's why i asked that indirect question in the first place.. i wanted to put her in her own game (if she's playing any).. i don't want a situation where I'll invest alot and later when I'm going for the kiss/pre-intimacy she says she was dating someone before she met me or that she's not ready and don't want to leave him bla bla thus breaking my heart.. i don't need a night stand, i know where to get those.. so now she can't ask me to:
Lend her money
Buy her lunch
Or any big favor, because I'm not her bf and I'm not obligated to give her shıt... now she gets to decide whether she should jump in the same boat with me or not... problem solved! no one gets played..



UPDATE
I called her this evening.. she was sounding romantic and really calm, we talked about lots of things and she seems to be enjoying the phone conversation but we both ran out of words to say, call duration was 10 minutes, so i asked her why she's sounding tired she said she's tired cos of work and wants to sleep immediately the call ends, i then said "okay, you need to rest, I'll hangup now" (to show that I'm send-less and not very interested according to peerless0012). I then said: Call me anyways, I won't call you anymore.. so you have to call me this time and surprisingly, she said:
That'll be tomorrow... i don't know when I'll wake up.. but I'll call tomorrow. (remember she called yes evening).

Me: Okay, Goodnight. ( then i end call.)

walepackage, tobaseye, latexxbro, IAMSASHY, peerless0012, ITbomb,

7footre:


You need to get off your asz more nd relate with people kid. Cheers

hahaha... lol

7footre:
All these epistle just because you spoke to a girl? You'll shut down NL the day she offs pata for you be that.. rubbish and ingredients

get a life and grow up...

IAMSASHY:
Make sure u com bak and Tel us hw d tin go, no b say wen e don dey sweet now, nobody go hear 4rm u again

hahaha sure.. but believe me i still don't really have a strong move yet. I'll just keep things flowing..

ennyhola:
I am actually waiting for the day I "ENIOLA" will buy food for a gal on our first meeting...

Hey!

You dunno even talk about love before you start buying food for her!!


Hey!

You took her on a Mini shopping on your first meeting without her asking!!!!!!!!!!!!


Is you mad?

Brother..you're in for a serious Financial relationship stuffs!

I take my gals by surprise by buying stuffs for them when they don't expect and with that they do respect me!

And not me buying stuffs up and down for another man's Daughter!

I will rather give to the street then to a well capable lady

Bro read the first four lines of the post again.. it's not first meeting.. i knew her since last year but only on a surface level.. I'm not stupid.. i didn't buy anything that big, just lunch.. which is quite normal and a nice gesture.

hertz9te:
most girls these days are undercover hoes...just tell her you'll love you guys to hookup how much will she charge

Hahaha you're Savage bro.. i admire you.. you sound like a guy i know irl.. hats off to you sir for being so straightforward..

IAMSASHY:
K, it ur choice, mayb d nxt lady u wl like is d one dat wl lie 2 u dat she has neva met a man in her life. Let assume she told u truth, y dnt u ask her y she is gvin u attention, den u cn draw ur conclusion

nice.. smart question at the bolded.. now you've said something really powerful.. I'll ask her this when we meet again.

peerless0012:



Listen to me young man, almost every lady out there has a boyfriend. You need not asking either jokingly or seriously.

Besides, when you meet a new lady, don't show desperation no matter how much you like her. Always shows this send-less attitude, like you don't dig her much. Before you know what is going on, she will start telling you things going on in her life without you asking. She will start wondering why you never ask her out like every other guy, and then developing feeling for you.

Then you can make up your mind on what to do about her.

Now what you should do?
For now drop the mentality that you want a steady relationship with her. Just see her as a normal girl.

No matter what you do, Never ask her out! Never! Rather talk about you and her (not her boyfriend), talk about future with her, tease her and flirt with her. In no distance time, you would be surprised to see some of the results you would be getting.

In all this, never you always give in to her demands or control. You must be in charge.

thanks bro.. i just wanted to know and weigh my chances before i do the main asking her out whether it's too early or not.. clearly for her to say she has a bf means it's too early to pour my feelings because she would've probably betrayed her bf and told me "not really" or "no, i don't have bf" if she was ready for a relationship, now i think she's analyzing me and as you said, it's time to play my cards correctly by seeing her as a normal girl, playing by my own rules and not talking about her bf since I've already gotten the info i wanted already (that she has a "mysterious or fake or real" bf somewhere).. thanks bro..