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Another one has learned from his mistakes lol..

Why give a bxxxh your heart when she'll rather have a purse? - Lil Wayne.
Always have options so when she flops, you NEXT her and focus more energy on your other options (girls).. There's no such thing as soul mate or other half.. humans are natural selfish.. people even do good and give to the needy because it makes them feel better... So be confident, have other options and don't rush to get married yet..

There's an exception though.. We call them givers.. they're rare, a giver is any female that commits to a relationship 100%.. every guy wants a giver as a wife.. Don't be deceived about this feminist rants.
1) Men's purpose in life is not women. It is something else. Find it, do it. Women are the distraction, preferably a pleasant one.

2) Women's purpose in life is to find a good man and procreate, have a family. Her career/job is just a distraction from that purpose.

Because we got these two all mixed up, we find a lot of problems between men and women nowadays. We have men who make their relationship their life purpose (like me about a 1 year ago) and it never ends up well and we have women who wanna make a career and think that is going to make them happy. It doesn't, neither side. We need to get back to the basics.

A good relationship, if you ask me about it? A man following his life purpose everyday, with passion + a woman that has her own interests, but does not confuse their importancy and is there to support her man.



Anyone need quality dating advice can pm me, I'm willing to help anyone. Peace!

mhizesther:
Just let her go or you forgive
That's all

She must be very special for him to forgive her.. she has the ability to increase his bank balance.. sigh.. most guys this days worship women that's why they get their hearts broken hahaha.. they're other girls out there, if you cheat, i have other options, if you don't cheat, i still have other options waiting for you to flop.. so the moment guys start seeing no girl is that special, the better their relationship in general.

timosky1:
Hello friends

I need your advice
I caught my girlfriend kissing my nigga emotionally
I didn't approach them, I quietly left, I do not if I should continue with the relationship or I should move forward without her...
She still forming good girl for me
Wetin I go do mbok?

lol you don't know what to do? kiss another girl in front of her.. don't be silly.

g

Wanna kill yourself? Imagine this. You come home from school one day. You’ve had yet another horrible day. You’re just ready to give up. So you go to your room, close the door, and take out that suicide note you’ve written and rewritten over and over and over You take out those razor blades, and cut for the very last time. You grab that bottle of pills and take them all. Laying down, holding the letter to your chest, you close your eyes for the very last time. A few hours later, your little brother knocks on your door to come tell you dinners ready. You don’t answer, so he walks in. All he sees is you laying on your bed, so he thinks you’re asleep. He tells your mom this. Your mom goes to your room to wake you up. She notices something is odd. She grabs the paper in your hand and reads it. Sobbing, she tries to wake you up. She’s screaming your name. Your brother, so confused, runs to go tell Dad that “Mommy is crying nd brother won’t wake up.” Your dad runs to your room. He looks at your mom, crying, holding the letter to her chest, sitting next to your lifeless body. It hits him, what’s going on, and he screams. He screams and throws something at the wall. And then, falling to his knees, he starts to cry. Your mom crawls over to him, and they sit there, holding each other, crying. The next day at college , there’s an announcement. The principal tells everyone about your suicide. It takes a few seconds for it to sink in, and once it does, everyone goes silent. Everyone blames themselves. Your teachers think they were too hard on you. Those mean popular girls, they think of all the things they’ve said to you. That boy that used to tease you and call you names, he can’t help but hate himself for never telling you how good you really are. Your ex girlfriend, the one that you told everything to, that broke up with you.. shee can’t handle it. shee breaks down and starts crying, and blames herself . Your friends? They’re sobbing too, wondering how they could never see that anything was wrong, wishing they could have helped you before it was too late. And your best friend? He’s in shock. He can’t believe it. He knew what you were going through, but he never thought it would get that bad… Bad enough for you to end it. He can’t cry, He can’t feel anything. He stands up, walks out of the classroom, and just sinks to the floor. Shaking, screaming, but no tears coming out. It’s a few days later, at your funeral. The whole town came. Everyone knew you, that boy with the bright smile and bubbly personality. The one that was always there for them, the shoulder to cry on. Lots of people talk about all the good memories they had with you, there were a lot. Everyone’s crying, your little brother still doesn’t know you killed yourself, he’s too young. Your parents just said you died. It hurts him, a lot. You were his big brother , you were supposed to always be there for him. Your best friend, he stays strong through the entire service, but as soon as they start lowering your casket into the ground,he just loses it. He cries and cries and doesn’t stop for days. It’s two years later. Your teachers all quit their job. Those mean girls have eating disorders now. That boy that used to tease you cuts himself. Your ex girlfriend doesn’t know how to love anymore and just sleeps around with boys . Your friends all go into depression. Your best friend? He tried to kill herself. He didn’t succeed like you did, but He tried…your brother? He finally found out the truth about your death. He self harms, he cries at night, he does exactly what you did for years leading up to your suicide. Your parents? Their marriage fell apart. Your dad became a workaholic to distract himself from your death. Your mom got diagnosed with depression and just lays in bed all day. People care. You may not think so, but they do. Your choices don’t just affect you. They affect everyone. Don’t end your life, you have so much to live for. Things can’t get better if you give up. I’m here for absolutely anyone that needs to talk, no matter who you are. Even if we’ve NEVER talked before, I’m here for you. Copy and paste this as your status to show people there are people out there that care.let's see who actually read all of it. For anyone that feels this way

IamKashyBaby:



I don't think so...


It's even very rare I say SORRY. How much more to kneel down...I DEY MAD?

lol you're probably dating a sheep

oderinde151:
I got her number frm Facebook, she stay close to my nd also we attends same uni


after getting her number frm Facebook, I sent her a message on whatsapp nd we got into talking about I got her number. I told her hw I got it but to my surprise she comported her slf...fastforward she said she wanted to knw the person she was chatting with(which I knew she was forming cos we stay close to each other nt upto 50m sa). nd I told her when she comes back from shop...around 8pm in the night sa we started chatting on WhatsApp she now said I sud come outside from my aos that she is on her way (note: like 2 mins walk from her aos to mine) less than 30secs she was starring at me..was she lying that she doesn't know me? Na her prb be that o...
after that night we got ourselves talking about relationship nd co, which I now asked her if she was in a relationship which she said no(nd she only dupes guys nd I was like u dey do wetin?..i asked her why is into thatt which she said because of her ex cheated on her *epele ma*..she said she is nnt ready for any relationship for now..dis story is last month o..
we came to sku on Sunday but NT together
I went to her aos once nd left early because she has a roomate nd one stupid amebo guy was der also..
she is the type that don't call, text but rather beg u that she didn't call u

gurus
why did she tell me that she is duping guys
she dnt allow u to press her phone ( is she is keeping something from me ?)
if she Is sly wud she say she had been duping guys
or is she doing that to steer me away?
bros nd brosess I don lost
I like dis girl no be small

* She trusts you
* She's shy you may see things you're not supposed to see on her phone


You shouldn't like her, she wants to use you for her own enjoyment.. And you know it doesn't end well..

youngfocus:
Am sorry for the long espistle nd pls over look my grammatical burarrah
omo av been following dis drill back to back,for a whole year nw,to who more is giving need to show appreciation,
harddon am very gr8tfull to Dis ur treat u created,av gain alot from it, dis drill av b help me frm the hand of this soft creation ever since av bump into dis drill,it a big turn around because av again a lot financially with dat, I don't gv a fucking damn for any fucking girl,
nt dat I raise my ego,BT wen I look back into d past hw I swim a red sea for a soft creature,hw I pass through a fire to pleased all dis soft creature, I Jst av to hit my head wit a book,dat am once a fool,desperate, (to girls)
nw it same me a girl will come to my house sitting on d same sofa,Jst talk normal put my rod in control,no matter d body language they gv if am nt gonna do,am nt gonna do.
Financial my money av b wit me or other way round dey buy me card,buy me drinks,cloths, as if the world revolve around me only,as if am d only guy in d planet, even though my current phone was gotten for me by a girl.
It nw dat i knw am d 1 dat make dem to b bad to me.by been nice to dem,it nt there fault it my own fucking fault.
when i snd a card to a girl,my GRADE A foolishness lead me to a situation dat when she call to appreciate, I will tell her to cut the call DAT I will call her back dat she should nt waste d card,pls sum1 call me I tell her she is wasting d card tomorrow will she card me.
I don suffer,BT nw DAT my eyes are open,it my time dey should b after me like suger in d mist of an ant
I still need one more tins oooo,hw can sum1 format love out of sum1 girlfriend head she is too on my neck,I don't like it. nt DAT am wicked to dem oooo,cos if I am wicked dey won't come back oooo.
Jst tip to format,pls after downloading all dis drill on her heard nt knwing is too much for her,she av been after like hw lastman is after danfo dat violate the traffic rule a run away.
she was d first girl I use d drill for ,and it up to a year nw,atleast I need to free her b4 she will b tinking of marriage oooo,she even said if I brake up with her she will nt go into any relationship again,the love is Strong in her heart oooo,abeg help ur brother out pls
d last time I said am nt interest she way crying oooo,I Jst av to plead wit her dat am Jst joking,
and today nw I saw it on Facebook a girl dat drank snipper because her bf leave her,I don't won't such case oooo,any tip pls I will b appreciated,

Dude don't be silly lol..if you're looking for LTR this won't work.. if you're looking for ONS then cool.. Every relationship should be 50/50, both partners investing on each other.. with the way you're going, you'll get tired eventually as you will only attract low quality girls..

ikp120:
Do you have money very well? If you do, then you are with a cunning little bìtch

jesu.. that's what everyone is saying..

Dotwillis1:
she gave it to you because she has another account

lol.. if i was using my head I wouldn't ask this.
Thats her only account.

I didn't ask for her Facebook password.. we just started dating.. I'm not insecure but I've heard many things about her before we started dating (that she has a lot of orbiters (guys hitting on her 247)).

She must have thought: 'this guy has heard the rumors about me", thus her trying to earn my trust by giving me such a personal thing as a Facebook password? i didn't decline the offer..

Also to add, she's always really nice like super nice when we're together, like this holy Mary attitude and my dad always say: if it's too good it's not true. Could she be that wolf in sheep clothing? have any of you guys encountered such a person? it wouldn't be safe to assume now that she's a pretender.. what are your thoughts on this?

Edit: Some of the nice things she's done are:

*Giving to road side beggar as we drive on a date
*Paying for the food
*Sharing food and drinks with my friends

And generally, not getting angry no matter how hard i pick on her... I think I'm getting played big time. How can i know her true character? though I've checked her messages and saw her flirt messages with her Ex, nothing out of the norm.

MhizzAJ:
She's trying her best nah at least she's not the demanding type..All she's asking for is a little bit of care.

The motive of some guys is just to take as much as they can from a lady.

you dance!? what's your Instagram?

Betmaster3:
Girls always call back if you don't call them as before, it's just normal. You don't know the game well, yet you claim to know, I didn't speak with my babe for 1 month plus straight on one occasion and 2 months plus straight on the other occasion, she was the one that first called me back on those two occasions, Calling her tomorrow will make her feel you can't do without her and you'll have yourself to be blamed, learn from the elders. Call her on Sunday boy!

lol nice analysis.. but bro please don't be rude to me.. i wasn't rude to you. I'll call on Saturday then.

pcguru1:
as in we don't old for this forum, I know a lot about those slings I used to be a member there and read a lot of the articles that's why I made the shout out nice signature bro, though not a Nodejs fan too much dependency and packages wahala

Lol NodeJs really cool hahaha.. i got paid really good as a node developer this year.. i wanna settle down with a good girl hahaha

Betmaster3:
Don't call her tomorrow. Call her next tomorrow or sunday evening

oga but that's wickedness the four days no contact never do.
forget all my ego.. i actually love this girl but I won't show it fully yet till I'm sure. i don't want to screw things by not calling tommorow.. I need to strike a balance between trustworthy/honest and WiseMan.

ibkayee:
Lool she try for a naija girl, think well before deciding to end it (if you do).

I won't lie, some girls can take forming to another level, however I also think a lot of them do it as a 'pride-preserving'/defence mechanism because a lot of naija guys have a habit of labelling girls 'desperate' for any small thing, 'traditional' dating culture etc. I don't know if that applies to her though, but from the sound of it, she actually try lol. I don't know sha, lol she's a product of her environment

lol you deserve a gift you're special and intelligent unlike that kashy who posts for likes.. she was forming shit.. she gave up and called when she realized I'm not ready for games.. hats off to you milady.. for being so knowledgeable.

pcguru1:
White knight, beta hmmmmm Red Pillerr and MGTOW spotted

hahaha... you seem like a cool guy that used the Internet back in the days just like me.. i started using forums before nl became popular so this are slangs we use alot back in the days

sekxy:
happy for you..better treat her right and avoid those things that promote break ups. .
btw,mellow your shoulders too.

Gucci on your feet... guess who bought you that? me.. sekxy

Hahaha guys guys... she just called 10 minutes ago though her credit was really low (according to her) so i called back.. She didn't ask me why I haven't called her for like 4 days now lol she was really soft and sweet with the phone call.. she says she's not feeling too well.. i asked why she called and she said: Nothing.. just wanted to hear your voice hahaha... she lost.. anyway she's probably learnt her lesson and said again on the phone call that she'll call tomorrow when she loads her phone.. i lied to her though, i told her i was sick as well yesterday and was vomiting too.. she was now telling me to get well soon and all that... i told her to get well soon as well and that I'll call her tomorrow..

Hopefully all the guys will learn from me and adopt this mindset that will make them get the respect they deserve from their SO.
Peace.


ibkayee, walepackage, sekxy, Maiconyoung, wh33z, Apina, IamKashyBaby, fayded, dingbang, Titheman

MissTechy:
Whew!!!!! Thank you for unsubscribing. I don't need people with such mindset as yours

lol... butthurt.. you need to learn to take corrections from your fans.. a response like: I'm sorry, I'll work on that, subscribe again, would have been more matured rather than bringing the i don't need people like you thrash.. Good luck with your YouTube career.

ibkayee:
No problem, hmm, maybe mention it again and if she improves and then slows down again, start mirroring all her actions. If she calls, you call and if not you do the same, if it becomes ridiculous and it's clear that she won't change....you may need to consider leaving, since it clearly bothers you as much as it does and I personally don't think you're even asking for too much

Hahaha you're right.. i really admire your intelligence!

ibkayee:
What did she say when you spoke to her about it?

Thanks for your positive response..
When i spoke to her about it she apologized whole heartedly, started calling again then now she's slowed down again.. it's like a game and I'm not playing with that silliness.

sekxy:
boastful op,,why do you even need help when you can help yourself then?abeg

Hate if you want, advice is all i seek, if you can't say anything substantial then the door is open.. i don't have energy to argue over nonsense with you

ibkayee:
Lool she try for a naija girl, think well before deciding to end it (if you do).

I won't lie, some girls can take forming to another level, however I also think a lot of them do it as a 'pride-preserving'/defence mechanism because a lot of naija guys have a habit of labelling girls 'desperate' for any small thing, 'traditional' dating culture etc. I don't know if that applies to her though, but from the sound of it, she actually try lol. I don't know sha, lol she's a product of her environment

As a girl, what do you think is going through her mind now that I've cut contact?

Biggie225:
op show us her pics,make we see.

. lol I'm not that dumb

wh33z:
bro leave that pride shit...atleast she suppose don call u nah since una no quarell

Thats why i opened this thread.. she's probably playing games and I'll end it. i won't call, that's the sad part.
ps: i did mention that she's used to being on the receiving end of everything.. we're talking about a girl here of whom i control her social media and gets to pay for some things for both of us when we go out on a date. Be civil man, don't be like the trolls.. She thinks if she calls everytime I'll get bored of her!?

fayded:
if a girl loves you or is even serious with you,she won't stay 2days(tops) without either calling or chatting u up,doesn't matter if you guys are quarelling

you see, the problem here is you speak as if you're really experienced, have you met every girl in Nigeria and had first hand experience of each and every one of them and their characters? if a girl loves you The bolded is your opinion anyways, sadly i don't agree to it as you don't have a degree with knowing what every female can do if they love you.

IAMSASHY:
Op, ur post down to ur qoutings is filled wt pride, hv u calmed down to study her and no her kind of person , weda she is an introvert or extro , if u ar dating an introvert, it usually takes time b4 dey cn get used to u, open up and share conversations wt u. Dat doesn't make her bad person, hw many gals wl b sincere enoff 2 let u handle dia social media , u ar here talking of hw u wl break up wt her and go 4 prettier gals instead appreciating d one u hv.

Yeah you might be right... she looks very introverted.. she's had a very rough childhood and was abused severally and almost had an incestuous abuse from her family member, could this be a reason? she opens up with me about a lot of things and I've met her family on different accounts.. could this be why she's taking advantage of me wanting me to initiate all the contact?

walepackage:
You wrote a story.But, your comments was full with pride and ego.If you aint perturbed about the 'situation' why bringing it here for opinions from folks.

sorry bro if it seemed that way... I'm bp.
she still hasn't called, she wasn't in her work place yesterday, maybe she has issues? or oh, the holidays... ... at this point I'm fed up with her. Maybe she doesn't love me.. she's just feeding off my energy and attention from every meeting we make.

Titheman:
beg?

u sef get dick?
y would u beg a girl to call u
if she ahv any feelings for u and she doesn't hear from u for long she must call u.

dude you're confusing yourself..

safiaa what? are you facing what I'm facing?

IamKashyBaby:


Definitely u dont own her even u control all her social media, thats wat P.A.(Personal Assisant) do but u cant control her mind...She is still having her own world..#bittertruth

Any sane woman, who is in a "exclusive relationship" wont be bothering herself picking up calls from her other suitors..but lets be real here, she keep her option OPEN.

eh.. lol.. I'll break up with her and she'll definitely beg again.. i have other options and she knows it..

ps: everywhere she goes they kiss her foot.. calling her sweet names and all that gay stuffs.. maybe it has gotten into her head too deep that she expects me who can get 100 other prettier girls to do same.. craxy..

Anyway i guess she's with me because I'm different from all the other guys being the same old white Knights..

Titheman:
mumu...she loves u yet she dosnt miss u enough to call

check ha contact u r mugu no 12

oga you need to check your head

You clearly the type of guy that begs your gf to call you.. weak man...

IamKashyBaby:
If u know the game is tight..its either u gotta step ur game up or juz GIVE UP...

Communication is very important to make any relationships work.. NO COMMUNICATION, NO RELATIONSHIP..

If a person doesn't bother to call u, its bcoz they don't give a fvck about u...#bittertruth

lol.. you clearly didn't read.. she's mine. i do whatever i want, except for this communication issue.. she calls but she's used to guys calling her thus the communication issue.. i control her social media, not because i asked for it, but because she uses my device to login regularly.. why do some girls prefer the guy do all the contact initiation? now that's the question..


Stop sounding like that dingbang firstbank junior staff