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dingbang:
you are confused....

anyway you will call her everyday like a slaveboy? what are your personal reasons sir?

dingbang:
I don't spend on girls bro

you're lame.. i spend for my female friends as they're humans too just like you and me.. everything is not about getting laid.

dingbang:
Stop being a kid. .. If u can't initiate a bootycall another guy will...

lol guys like you who will probably spend on her while she splits the money with guys like us.. haha

bro if you call a girl too much you're just lame.. she's supposed to call you much don't be silly.. you're a man not a gay..

Hello guys.... So my recent gf is supposedly getting white knighted (getting tons of guys chasing after her like hell i.e giving her phone calls every minute) because she's beautiful, the white Knight beta guys be ruining things for us the real guys.. so I discovered this excessive white Knighting makes her think i should be the only one initiating contact i.e doing the calling etc (She does call me but it's not much and looks silly and short), so i cut contact starting from Sunday and I'm busy with my own life as well, she hasn't called since... I'm not planning on calling soon until she calls, I've talked to her about this but it seems this white Knights and family upbringing has wired her brain to expect the guy to do the calling....

Summary:
She loves me, we have the wildest moments when we're together and alone, great romance, she calls but rarely, we started seeing seriously last week and she's never disappointed on a date, last Sunday she was really held tight with her family issues but she still made it for our independence outing of which she paid for drinks etc but she waits for me to initiate everything.. i can't date a robot! i always do the touching, kissing, etc love is 50/50.. both parties investing.. she just like Siri waiting for my command, call, action etc... I'm guessing she's used to guys doing everything for her (white Knights) advice guys.. because i won't call.. this is day 3 without contact, I'm sure she's craving for my attention while being white Knight by those bets .



PS: I'm controlling her Facebook and Instagram(11k) account of which she has thousands of followers.. and i can see and read all those crazy guys messages calling her 'my love' etc ;








Update: October 5 2017, she just called 10 minutes ago, saying she wanted to hear my voice when i asked why she called this is after 4 days of my no contact.. she has finally realized I'm not a white Knight.. hahaha!!!!!! Now i see, i don't need opinions of sheeps.. thanks to all the real guys here that gave me high quality advice.. you have a place reserved in heaven....

walepackage:
@op,two things are involved,either she like you for the impression she has form for you as the 'mr nice guy' for the gesture you showed her,or she just want to play game of mind with you.

spot on sir! that's why i asked that indirect question in the first place.. wanted to put her in her own game (if she's playing any).. i don't want a situation where I'll invest alot and later when I'm going for the kiss/pre-intimacy she says she was dating someone before she met me or that she's not ready and don't want to leave him bla bla thus breaking my heart.. i don't need a night stand, i know where to get those.. so now she can't ask me to:
Lend her money
Buy her lunch
Or any big favor, because I'm not her bf and I'm not obligated to give her shıt... now she gets to decide whether she should jump in the same boat with me or not... problem solved! no one gets played..



UPDATE
I called her this evening.. she was sounding romantic and really calm, we talked about lots of things and she seems to be enjoying the phone conversation but we both ran out of words to say, call duration was 10 minutes, so i asked her why she's sounding tired she said she's tired cos of work and wants to sleep immediately the call ends, i then said "okay, you need to rest, I'll hangup now" (to show that I'm send-less and not very interested according to peerless0012). I then said: Call me anyways, I won't call you anymore.. so you have to call me this time and surprisingly, she said:
That'll be tomorrow... i don't know when I'll wake up.. but I'll call tomorrow. (remember she called yes evening).

Me: Okay, Goodnight. ( then i end call.)

walepackage, tobaseye, latexxbro, IAMSASHY, peerless0012, ITbomb,

walepackage:
@op,two things are involved,either she like you for the impression she has form for you as the 'mr nice guy' for the gesture you showed her,or she just want to play game of mind with you.

spot on sir! that's why i asked that indirect question in the first place.. i wanted to put her in her own game (if she's playing any).. i don't want a situation where I'll invest alot and later when I'm going for the kiss/pre-intimacy she says she was dating someone before she met me or that she's not ready and don't want to leave him bla bla thus breaking my heart.. i don't need a night stand, i know where to get those.. so now she can't ask me to:
Lend her money
Buy her lunch
Or any big favor, because I'm not her bf and I'm not obligated to give her shıt... now she gets to decide whether she should jump in the same boat with me or not... problem solved! no one gets played..



UPDATE
I called her this evening.. she was sounding romantic and really calm, we talked about lots of things and she seems to be enjoying the phone conversation but we both ran out of words to say, call duration was 10 minutes, so i asked her why she's sounding tired she said she's tired cos of work and wants to sleep immediately the call ends, i then said "okay, you need to rest, I'll hangup now" (to show that I'm send-less and not very interested according to peerless0012). I then said: Call me anyways, I won't call you anymore.. so you have to call me this time and surprisingly, she said:
That'll be tomorrow... i don't know when I'll wake up.. but I'll call tomorrow. (remember she called yes evening).

Me: Okay, Goodnight. ( then i end call.)

walepackage, tobaseye, latexxbro, IAMSASHY, peerless0012, ITbomb,

7footre:
You need to get off your asz more nd relate with people kid. Cheers

hahaha... lol

7footre:
All these epistle just because you spoke to a girl? You'll shut down NL the day she offs pata for you be that.. rubbish and ingredients

get a life and grow up...

IAMSASHY:
Make sure u com bak and Tel us hw d tin go, no b say wen e don dey sweet now, nobody go hear 4rm u again

hahaha sure.. but believe me i still don't really have a strong move yet. I'll just keep things flowing..

ennyhola:
I am actually waiting for the day I "ENIOLA" will buy food for a gal on our first meeting...

Hey!

You dunno even talk about love before you start buying food for her!!


Hey!

You took her on a Mini shopping on your first meeting without her asking!!!!!!!!!!!!


Is you mad?

Brother..you're in for a serious Financial relationship stuffs!

I take my gals by surprise by buying stuffs for them when they don't expect and with that they do respect me!

And not me buying stuffs up and down for another man's Daughter!

I will rather give to the street then to a well capable lady

Bro read the first four lines of the post again.. it's not first meeting.. i knew her since last year but only on a surface level.. I'm not stupid.. i didn't buy anything that big, just lunch.. which is quite normal and a nice gesture.

hertz9te:
most girls these days are undercover hoes...just tell her you'll love you guys to hookup how much will she charge

Hahaha you're Savage bro.. i admire you.. you sound like a guy i know irl.. hats off to you sir for being so straightforward..

IAMSASHY:
K, it ur choice, mayb d nxt lady u wl like is d one dat wl lie 2 u dat she has neva met a man in her life. Let assume she told u truth, y dnt u ask her y she is gvin u attention, den u cn draw ur conclusion

nice.. smart question at the bolded.. now you've said something really powerful.. I'll ask her this when we meet again.

peerless0012:
Listen to me young man, almost every lady out there has a boyfriend. You need not asking either jokingly or seriously.

Besides, when you meet a new lady, don't show desperation no matter how much you like her. Always shows this send-less attitude, like you don't dig her much. Before you know what is going on, she will start telling you things going on in her life without you asking. She will start wondering why you never ask her out like every other guy, and then developing feeling for you.

Then you can make up your mind on what to do about her.

Now what you should do?
For now drop the mentality that you want a steady relationship with her. Just see her as a normal girl.

No matter what you do, Never ask her out! Never! Rather talk about you and her (not her boyfriend), talk about future with her, tease her and flirt with her. In no distance time, you would be surprised to see some of the results you would be getting.

In all this, never you always give in to her demands or control. You must be in charge.

thanks bro.. i just wanted to know and weigh my chances before i do the main asking her out whether it's too early or not.. clearly for her to say she has a bf means it's too early to pour my feelings because she would've probably betrayed her bf and told me "not really" or "no, i don't have bf" if she was ready for a relationship, now i think she's analyzing me and as you said, it's time to play my cards correctly by seeing her as a normal girl, playing by my own rules and not talking about her bf since I've already gotten the info i wanted already (that she has a "mysterious or fake or real" bf somewhere).. thanks bro..

IAMSASHY:
dnt Eva ask a lady if she has a bf bc d answer wl always b yes, if u feel attracted 2 any lady, cross d finishing line and pull her out, dat Wat makes u a real man after all, she is stl single.


4rm ur write up, al dose moves she made shows she likes u, dat hw we ladies roll. Bt ur concern now shud b weda she likes u bc of d iPhone, d lunch, d fact dat u patronize a mall or she truly likes u. 4get d bf k.

hahahaha if you really love a guy and want him to be your bf, will you tell him: yes you have a boyfriend?
it just doesn't make sense and it's childish and shows that she has tendencies to be a cheater in future.. but if she really has a bf then she's being matured and facing reality. She's like a semi stranger so i don't want to just waste my time leading an already taken girl.

IAMSASHY:

I'll really like it if you give your opinion.. i wanna see this also with a female perspective..

peerless0012:
I've been trying to overlook your error untill I get to the bolded. You seriously deserved to be flogged mercilessly. Why on earth would you ask a girl about her boyfriend, what is your own business with that. What you have started on a very nice level, you use your own hand to ruin it.

Do you know that, even if she has a boyfriend she would not dare reveal to you if you have played your game very well. The point where you were supposed to build attraction, you were busy asking boring question.

Next time, rather than asking her boring question you can say, " oh I see, you are already tripping for me, but you might need to compete with the like of Rihanna to finally win my heart ooo". That way she will see you as a confident, charming person. Not an insecure guy as you have portrayed yourself.

You need to learn the art of attracting women my brother.

I don't want to be lead on.. she sees me as a confident guy but I'm getting to know her and i deserve to know if she's dating someone or not.. before i can advance.. i don't even touch her or hug her tight when we meet.. its feels cold to me so i had to know what i was dealing with. i don't want to waste time playing games.. she's supposed to show tiny hints and gestures that she's tripping not to let me do all the work by flirting etc..

I clearly understand you, i didn't ask her directly if she has a boyfriend (the insecure guy style), i jokingly said: You have a boyfriend..? he must be cool, I'll like to get to know him, you know, so he gets to see the guy taking care of this beautiful lady when he's not around?. Maybe because I've once been in a situation where I was having this attraction with a girl only to figure out she's a liar and dating other guys.. i was looking for a potential relationship and steady SP not a night stand, if i was looking for someone for night stand then you're absolutely right. So what step do you suggest i take now, i wouldn't mind if she leaves her bf for me.

stupidity:
Asked her if she's got a boyfriend? Wrong move. Don't back out o. Continue what you started. The pvssy is yours already. Atleast if you be guy man

lol boss.. i be guy man.. true... that girl really fine to be single. but imagine she's trying to eat her cake and have it back.. two guys at once.. she was supposed to say No.
@latexxbro true.. she's confused at this point.. when she called yesterday night i knew she was hurt for saying she has a bf.. well I'll see her in 2 weeks from now while maintaining contact with phone calls (once in 4 days).

CHAIRMANMAO:
I am waiting for a day i will such luxury of time to write such a long epistel

hahaha it's worth the read.

horlumightyy:
imo u made a mistake initiating the boyfriend stuff, did u expect her to say she is single?? u should have just hit the nail on d head and just ask her out officially because frm ur explainations so far, d babe was already feeling u but all hope is not lost. wen next u c ha, just pour out your mind to her and let her knw watsup, she could still end up wit u or atworst she friendzones you like dat ��

You have a boyfriend? - - - - - - - > I might be interested in you so I'm just checking to see if you're taken that's what the question really means in face value.

latexxbro:
I don't believe what she said, esp wen she now asked where you lived...why don't you just call her to come over your place this evening that you re already missing her in a matured tone though

I thought about this too. but i can never know now can i? she already used her own mouth to say she has a bf so i can't know if she's lying or telling the truth + won't she start disrespecting me or feel I'm possessive if I keep leading her on after she's clearly made the reveal that she has a bf?

izaray:
Good. Dating is all about trying of lack, you put in ur application then wait for her response . You may be lucky to be loved by her or friendzone. Two things are involved. So when next you see her, pour out ur feelings to her, and see her reaction.

hahaha you cracked my ribs right there.. i don't want luck.. I'm not stupid.. this world is filled with selfish people and i want my self-confidence in check, i need to first know if she has a bf first before making any move which i did.. also i wanted it to happen naturally.. no need to pour out feeling to a girl this days they'll take advantage of your honesty.. it's better i get to know her true character/personality etc then let the relationship flow from there.. she's probably a whoře that's why she didn't even say she has a bf while hanging out with me the whole time?
@horlumightyy

mployer:
Only few ladies will admit they don't have boyfriends, it makes them look undesirable. Now that she has admitted to having one, it will be more difficult for her to date you cos you will see her as a cheat.

You would have gone straight to ask she become your girlfriend. You can even toast and win a girl that obviously has a boyfriend by feigning ignorance of that. Some girls keep improvised boyfriends while waiting for the main one. You can be the main one bro.

Smart thinking.. but there's a 90% chance that she'll probably cheat on me if she already has a boyfriend but still going out on dates with me like she's doing now.. that's why i asked her that question.. you know as guys if we like a girl and she asks us if we have a gf, we always say No.. so i think she has different guys on her neck because obviously she's really beautiful and she doesn't want to break his heart but yet still wants me.. she can't eat her cake and have it back

izaray:
Are you a learner?

Not quite.. I grew up around ladies men.. i have some experience but I'm willing to learn from anyone.. what are your thoughts?

mployer:
Your story is romantic but your final move was wack.

Other commenters will explain to you.

hahaha explain sir.. please how wack.. I'm willing to learn from anyone. (no need to be close to me you're taken was said in my mind i didn't say it out) lemme edit my post @izaray

So we started seeing each other, she works close to where i eat lunch from on a daily.. So I've known her since last year but only faintly on the surface level (just hello hi type of knowing).. She's beautiful (20+yr/o), at least any guy will find her attractive. So this started 4 days ago, i was going to have lunch and she saw me (i didn't see her) she called me and initiated a small chatter, i admired her humility and all so invited her to join me for lunch (a date in disguise, yeah I'm not dumb,wanted to know her beta) i bought her food and some grocery items (mid shopping I told her I'm not even rich with a loud voice because we were at a mall and because she kept saying bla bla is expensive and only rich guys can afford it, indirectly she was referring to me) to take away with i then offered she escorted me a bit as i went on about my business she escorted me really far.... please note before i offered her an invitation to join me for lunch i asked her to escort me a bit while we talk but she was uncomfortable and said she can't go more than a few meters from her shop (I started getting character hints that she's probably a selfish person and will always want control if in a relationship but hey we are not dating yet so lol.. ) but after the lunch and other stuff i payed for she escorted me to my destination and i had to escort her back a bit so she doesn't walk back the distance alone (me trying to be romantic and a gentleman because I didn't expect her to trek this much).. why did she have a change of heart to escort me that far? + when we meet she pulls out the hand but i open my hands wide and opt for the hug instead (I'm guessing she's scared of getting emotionally attached to me just yet?).

then fast forward to the next day, i was using the usual route and she spotted me again, she immediately left her office and came smiling to me, she looked hungry though and i she told me she's hungry (I felt really hurt inside, is she trying to take advantage of my kindness the other day? like she works.. I'm not a freaking free meal ticket or her boyfriend) but i just wanted to show her i can be nice to anyone so i offered to buy some Coca-Cola drinks for her colleagues at work that she should follow me come get them since it wasn't nice me taking her for lunch while her colleagues wait up on her.. so we hit the mall again, i brought out my phone to check my messages and she started making a big deal about it because it's an iPhone, she collected it and was using it to take selfies up and about.. she asked how much i bought it, i said i can't remember that it's not as pricey as she thinks it is (just to drift her from thinking I'm even rich because we all know a relationship built on money is crap.. but it didn't work.. she started blushing up about taking selfies etc) i bought the cokes and my own lunch (take away) she surprisingly said she doesn't want a drink but a cheap bottle water and that she's fine (reverse psychology?) anyway she escorted me a bit and asked me to please check on her when I'm passing her workplace.

Anyway yesterday was the day to clear the air, so i went to her work place and she wasn't around, her other colleagues where really nice to me, even offered me to sit that she'll be back soon, but i didn't want to sit at it'll be less dramatic, because her seeing me standing waiting looks better.. so she finally arrived, I told her i came to see her for the last time because I'll be taking a long leave and wouldn't be seeing her for a long while etc she immediately pullout her phone feeling sad and asked for my number which I gave her, while smiling, saying: "If you wanna call, call.. if you don't want, don't call".. she says she's not that sort of person and that she'll definitely call me ASAP as she reaches home.. so we talked for minutes and minutes until i hit the nail on the head because I'm not a gay guy who will get friendzoned by any girl I'm attracted to.. so i asked her: You have a boyfriend? Your boyfriend must be really cool, I'll like to get to know him, you know, so he gets to see the guy taking care of this beautiful lady when he's not around? (reverse psychology)

She was uncomfortable at this point but faked a smile while looking the opposite direction and said: Yeah my boyfriend, i have a boyfriend.. (she paused a bit, then continued..) I'll let him know. so where do you even live?

I replied: wow.. lucky guy, then proceeded to tell her my street address. I then reminded her about when we first met how she lied about her name telling me a fake name etc lol she was like: You're really close to me now and that time i barely knew you so.. and I was like: no need to be close to me hey.. you're taken.. (I said this in my mind not to her)

i won.. i won't have to spend/waste time with someone that has been taken.. deep inside she knew that her reveal that she had a bf has changed a lot of things.. and things won't be the same anymore with us..

sorry for bad English guys and punctuation.. i was typing fast. what do you think i do? she might be lying to see if i chase her or I'm genuine? anyway I'm out of an awkward situation.. what do you think?


edit: I forgot to add, no one really asked.. She called me around 8pm as soon as i reached home, as she promised.

Kelklein:
You are just being unnecessarily apprehensive..

I don't see any problem here... She told you she's not feeling fine and when she gets well, she will find a way to go to a bank or ATM to reverse your money back to you. All you need now is patience. You will get your money.

you don't see any problem here? haha, braindead. unintelligent. oldman. dull. choose one that fits you.

OmaniPadmeHum:
No one on this planet can stop me from killing those dogs.

Forget whatever bullshit philosophy about animals did it based on instinct. Or that animals have rights, bla bla bla... Or that the animals did not know what they are doing. These are all valid arguments but these arguments will only make sense to me when those two dogs are dead. Other animals can have rights, but these ones must die.

Nah..I must kill them regardless of who the owner is. Even if it is the Guard Dog of ''Duara Secret Service", if I can't get close enough, I will poison them from any distance. I'll even bribe someone in Aso Rock to help me give them poisoned meat. One way or another, these dogs MUST die by my own hands.

you're sick in the head... mentally ill person... it's a dog, killing them just makes you less than a dog..

PhonePlanet:
The new iPhones came with AR using just your smartphone, a new portrait mode that changes the background and faceID which is face recognition using new technology, and animoji and a bionic chip on an iphone. All industry firsts

From next year you'll begin to see this technology on other phones. It is the way it has always been. Apple brings that new thing that everyone follows. Im not saying other companies do not innovate, but just look at the list of innovations just the iphone X came with. For others, innovation happens once in a while. Over the years, this has earned apple the rerubspect and hype it gets today.

+1 for that sensible post..

ollah1:
The edge screen is updated to understand real press from unexpected ones. You can create connection with Xender even in low end devices.

You are wrong about the selfie camera cos S7 edge has one of the best cameras in the industry .

Mind breaking down the simplicity of the iPhone? You don't need root in this day and age to get the best outta your Android devices except it's a low-end version.

get a life bro.. i use both Android and iPhone unlike you

jashar:
I thought I'm the only one that thought the Apple brand is over hyped.

The picture quality sef is wack.... I would rather a Samsung anytime...

Can't even watch film from 02tvseries. What is now their use?

lol i hope you never use an iPhone and experience what I'm experiencing �

kimbraa:
If not that I've been resilient all the while, I don't think I'd have had the cause to read books.

hey you sound like a really cool person..wanna chat on whatsapp? i think i might be helpful to you

okpaire:
I hope naijatechguy is seeing this oo

that cheap blog looking for cheap traffic reviewing cheap phones.. i like him but he should chill the fůck out.. he should start reviewing and recommending apple products maybe Apple might invite him for their next keynote etc and his life can change for good not doing silly reviews that can't properly sustain a man and family.

Tosyn007:
I don't think there has been a time where any android phone has trumped the IOS in terms of performance and speed. But I for one can't use an iPhone, even if I have the money, I'd rather go for a note 8. Reason is the freedom android offers you. You can do a whole lot of things on an android os that you can't even dream of on an iPhone. How would I buy a phone that expensive and my usage freedom will only be limited to the average phone usage? That's why android phones would continually be the highest selling phones.

But all in all it depends on what you want from your phone.

lame excuse.. you'll outgrow that shitty customization from android.. most people work in big companies and don't really have time to tweak phone.. or all that nonsense except you're a "developer" + android not even secured even if they bring in faceID on Samsung, the Kernel and OS can be easily hacked because it's Android..

Why android be selling more phones because it's really cheap and you like feeling cheap? Samsung doesn't feel cheap though but it still doesn't match the iPhones.