I just realize I have been to this thread many times but i still haven't posted anything related to it. I have many pics of fula girls and yes they are pretty but I don't like posting people pics without their approval I know i wouldn't like it if it's me. Some pics posted on the 2nd page I know these girls 2 or 3 of them live in the bronx and I doubt they'll like seeing their pics on the net. so I'll try to look for some model pics which by the way is very rare to come by.

emöfine2: BahPulo so you're from Senegal. Nanga Def?

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Yeah I was born and raised there but my parents are from Guinea. Magui fi rekh

Fulaman198:

You are right, we have Nomadic Fulani who are referred to as Mbororo and Settled Fulani.

In the Northeast of Nigeria, Fulfulde is common, in Adamawa state it is one of the main languages, same with Gombe and Jigawa region. It is only the Northwest like Sokoto, where you find people who are ethnically Fulani who can't speak one proper sentence of Fulfulde. They only speak Hausa. Why Hausa has become the main language of Yan Arewa (the North), I don't know. But a lot of Non-Hausa (like Fulani) have adopted it as their mother tongue. I agree it is the first rule of Pulaagu/Pulaaku, but those ethnic Fulani are not Fulani they are Hausa now. They have lost the Fulani way. We Fulani in Northeast Nigeria speak the same or similar dialect as the Fulani in eastern Niger, Northern Cameroon, Central African republic, Chad and Sudan.

ok thanks Bandiraawo. I am loving this conversation. you seem to know a lot about ur culture. As for the fula who don't speak their language I refuse to see them as fula That's the 1st rule of the Pulaaku you must speak the language to able to call yourself Fula.

LOL @ Fulaman You try I am telling u. @ least u can spell it and seem to know the differences btw the dialects. I would not understand the Nigerian dialect if my life depended on it. I remember the first time I went to guinea whenever I speak people would laught so hard and where did u come from will follow. according to them my fulani lacks proper construction and respect. between us though I think their dialect is more beautiful I like it better than the one we speak in Senegal. because of my husband I only speak the fouta djallon dialect, I still understand the one from senegal. Also did you know in guinea you have two dialects, Dinguirayi(in the south of Guinea) dialect which is similar to that of futa toro and the fouta djallon which is spoken among the people of moyen Guinea?

uplawal: I also wanna tell my brothers and sisters in Islam that Allah has blessed me with a beautiful baby girl,whose name is Sekina,mum and daughter are doing fine all glory to Allah,as a matter of fact,her Aqiqah was this sunday,while the walimat would insha Allah hold next sunday,she sucks like a baby boy ,what can i say but Alhamdulilah Allah is supllying the milk in due measure.

Congrat waooh a baby girl good for you how I wanted one but only have boys they are still fine though

@Maclatunji I'll respond your post later.

maclatunji:


However, it is not advisable for a husband to be doing dishes when his mother is with you (albeit temporarily) because there is no amount of hadith and sermonising about the Prophets' (SAW) sterling qualities that you will tell the mother that will convince her that her son has not been turned into a sissy. Of course, it won't take long before she transfers aggression to her daughter-in-law which is all-too-easy because she might not like or understand why the young woman feels she has to cover-up from head-to-toe any time she goes out and so on.

I think that's where the problem lies with many african men they are so worried what other people and family members will think of them that they forfeit their duties. This remind me of my mother complaining about my brother's wife letting him help with taking off her braids, I asked how would she feels if my husband was helping me take off my braids knowing well I hated it so much that I'm willing to go without braids for years just so i won't have to sitdown and unbraid them? will you be mad or happy that I married such a man that helps when I am dealing with a task I hate? her reply was I guess you right the girl has too much hair anyway let me join them. So you see sometimes you don't even need to bring in hadith the human compassion is enough to help people see reasons my brother

maclatunji:
We young people need to distinguish between knowledge and wisdom, a good number of us have knowledge about Islam but lack the wisdom in applying such knowledge. Yes, you and your husband are Muslims but there is the day-to-day interpersonal relationship you have and that which you must maintain with extended family members. A little give-and-take is needed sometimes to maintain peace especially for the wife- I know many of you will say it is not fair but hey! that is the way the world works, if you try too hard to fight it you lose big-time. However, if you moderate such extraneous variables, you will be much better for it- (Insha Allah).

Yes you're right little give and take is needed in any human interaction to maintain peace. But you wrong that it should come from one side only it has to come from both parties for peace to win. I don't think that's how the world is but that's how people who benefit from it wants it to be. I mean up until 30 years ago some people in my ethnic group did not think girls were worth educating for once it's never been the role of the girl to go sick knowledge outside of the family, the girl should just learn how to be a wife and mother. But with time those with such beliefs have to give in not because they are less of what they were but because change is the only thing constant in human life

deols:

Your response is a breath of fresh air I must say. And btw, I read your post on 'the first year of marriage' in the family section. Yours is a very beautiful marriage and whatever position you take on this is valued because You've been there.

I love the highlighted parts. they speak my thoughts.

thank you. I think people should know what they want in a partner, what they can tolerate, or not before engaging in finding your better half. I mean once you know where you stand don't move from it until you find someone with the same wants as you. it'll save future headach.

Fulaman198:


I will be fair, a lot of us Fulani from Nigeria want to retain our culture and our Pulaagu which is what is holding us back from being "Western educated" instead some opt for Dudal (Islamic school in Fulani language). With the way Nigeria is (industrialized), many Fulani don't want to be a part of it and retain the old traditional ways.

I see thank you. So from your post I understand that in Nigeria you have 2 groups of fulanis, settled and Nomadic. While the settled fulanis accept modernity and the changes that come along; the nomadic ones are still living the old ways. Am I right with this description? In Guinea all the fulanis are settled even those in the villages engage in activities suchas farming selling commercial driving)they also send their children to school. One thing I can't get over with is the fact some among you don't speak the language, that's rare to see in fulanis from Guinea, and Senegal. Isn't that the first rule of the Pulaaku. it seems to me that they have lost the first thing that made them fulani. Don't you think?

Nice thread!

@deols well done I see you do your research well. As for men (@leastsome of them )just want to take benefits of 'i am the leader therefore you must do as i said' without the disadvantages that come along. You can't be a leader without some sort of sacrifices. I mean how can you call urself a leader and not care about the well being of ur 'subjects'? you think sitting down while your wife cooks, cleans bathrooms, takes garbage outside, washes the family cloth, and helps kids with their homework is what makes a head of the family? As a human being you should not treat a roommate like this not to talk of your wife whom you are suppose to love and care for according to the rules set by Allah. Any way I have been married for nine years because I married a good muslim man who lead me the right way not by bitting or insult but by patience I am still here. I mean I hated cooking and anything that deals with house chores I did not do them in my father's house and was not about to start in my husband's. Patience and love for a selfless man and the children changed me. I take pride in setting food on the table now, same with arraging cloth after a day in the laundry, or clean the house(except the bathroom no way I hate cleaning that thing no way ). he lead by example and I followed his good ways. You can't win a thing by force. So muslim sisters look for that man who will tolerate your short coming, and teach you how to be a good wife . He is there you just need to detect the superficial things (like his cloth, job, wealth) so you can see the real him before you say I do.

BIGER BOY: I even wonder why anybody would call himself Sunni or Shia when Allah the most high throuh the lips of his most beloved (Ibraheem) chose the name 'muslims' for us?

I wonder the same thing too why should I be Sunni or Shia when all I ever knew and learned from my parents is how to be a muslim nothing less and nothing more? I remember the first time a paskistani friend of mine ask me if I was shia or sunni i told her I don't know what she meant and where I come from we only have muslims and catholics. she was surprise and so was I but we drop the matter. I just wish people will stop creating unnecesary tensions btw them.

Fulaman198:

The problem with a lot of Nigerians is that they don't understand that Fulani in Nigeria actually have it the toughest out of any other country where there is Fulani, and you are absolutely right.

I got that idea too from the posts I read in here. I wonder why is that though, I mean why do fulanis in Nigeria, and the other countries you mentioned have it the toughest? Also if you don't mind I would like you to help me compare and contrast btw the fulanis in Senegal/Guinea and those in Nigeria. I will create the thread later please do contribute. I have a feeling that there are very few people who can help with that.

Fulaman198:
Fulani in Senegal, Guinea, Gambia, Mali, Burkina, Western Niger (not Eastern), Sierra Leone, etc. in the far west are doing quite well because Fulani presence there is strong and Fulani in those countries are actually respected.

Where are you from? From your name I'm guessing you are Pullo (Fulani) from Sierra Leone or Gambia.

i am Guinenne but I was born and raised in Senegal. My parents migrated to Senegal during the reign of Sekou toure.

maclatunji:

Don't be too hard on yourself, we are also trying to learn more about our religion- If it will make you feel better, blame it on the French.

You are funny, there are many things want to blame on the French but this one is not one of them lo nice try though.

Fulaman198:

That's not true, I wouldn't say that. In Guinea, Senegal and Mali, the Fulani there are quite a force to be reckoned with. in Fact in Guinea, the Fulani are 40 - 50% of the population in the Fouta Djallon region. In Senegal, there are two distinctive groups of fulani, they are the Fulakunda on the Senegambian border near Casamance and the Fulani in the Fouta Tooro region in Senegal/Mauritania.

Fulani actually thrive more in the far west. Baaba Maal for example is the King of Fulani music.

I know right. I wonder where the poster got that idea from? I know Guinee and Senegal well, and the fulanis there are anything but the constant descriptions of them I see in this forum. i mean it's in here that I heard fulanis are illiterate and live in extreme poverty. Yet in Guinee the commerce, education, and real state sectors are all in the hand of the fulanis, same in Senegal where the toucouleur of Fouta Toro control many sectors. It's so annoying sometimes when I read certain things in here. I am sorry to say this but some people here keep giving a wrong impression of nigeria.

good job city you beat my enemies, you become my friend I am routing for you guys till the end how I wish this was arsenal feeling a lill jalouse but I am happy the ones that shall not be named won't get the title. go go go go City

rokiatu:

OMG that is lovely. SO, I am sorry to be asking all these questions I married young so I am quite fascinated by your story as it is a bit similar to mine. So you were pregnant while the both of you were in school? How did you find that? Was it difficult for you?

Lol it's ok even some of our professors used to spend half of lecture to try to figure out our story, Americans can be very nosy lol. My husband was a senior when we married and I was a freshman, so he finish before we had our first boy and he started working for himself which made it easy I went back to school right away he and my older sister who came to visit looked after the baby. Our family have been really supporting they are here whenever we need them. most people think it's impossible to marry early and build your life but it's possible if you really work for it. Also we like how most people think our older son is our little brother the boy is too tall for his age and on top of that he calls us by our names for a while though now he is starting to call us nnene and baba it's still difficult for him. We don't mind though since the little one call us nnene&baba

rokiatu:

Great wishing you guys all the best for the future. Any kids yet?

yeah we do have kids 2 boys (8 and 5 years we decided to have them while in school so we would concentrate on career and raising the kids). we are also expecting a third boy not luck with with girls

rokiatu:

OMG what a cute love story.

lol thank you yeah people around us call us 'ton pied mon pied' meaning your foot my foot whereever u see one of us the other one is there standing. But I don't mind at all he was my friend before we got married and he still is. [code][quote author=rokiatu]

Kilode?!:


Although you are not Nigerian, but still, it's nice to read someone on here write they are FULANI and not HAUSA-FULANI.

Nice to have you on Nairaland BTW, do post more.

Well thank you for the welcome, I did not even refer to myself as fulani until recently I am Peul or haalpoulard but most english speakers I meet won't understand when I say peul so now I use fulani when I am dealing with them

Bah, do not mind the ignorant poster, who has no shame calling a group of people illiterate. You see, the majority of Nigerians are the most self-centred, egotistical and parochial people you will ever meet. You mentioned Guinea and Senegal, if you asked ekiti about the wonders of the Fuuta-Jaalo, the bear would rub it's belly then burp a reply. Fula/Peul/Peulh people are renowned for trading from Senegal to Eritrea but due to the highly individual Bleep-up that Nigeria has become, people cannot think beyond the 'Hausa-Fulani' mental prism. Restez tranquille - On ensemble.

I just wanted to shed some lights in this matter I see many people refer to us as haussa- fulani in here and the opinions I read about this group here are not nice at all it makes me wonder about the real reason for these resentments their own countrymen have toward them. I don't know much about Nigeria, the only nigerian I am in contact with does not know more than I do lol she is just nigerian by name I tell her that all the time (sorry Nneeka darling if u see this i could not help myself,but I try my best to stay inform. it's not acceptable to have access to a computer, and say certain things. Google is freeeee!

Amin thank you for the well wishes it really means a lot to me. I notice that nigerian muslims are really up to date with their deen. For example you wear the hijab more than we do in senegal it looks like sallah and ramaddan are well respected in your community, and many other things. I am not saying we don't have people with good devotions but there are more people like me (but i intend to change inchallah) muslims in name but knows very little about islam.