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ademoladeji:
Very clear.

I spoke to her by 2 different means vis common reasoning and using a neutral sermon (Bilal Philips).

I even asked her cousin to please talk to her for her to even reason with me as well as asking for opinions. All efforts proved to be fruitless.

I just dunno how ppl switch their humanities/emotions just like that. Relationship that was so good n smooth even tho there were one or two misunderstandings that never lasted thru the nights.

As part of the 6 articles of faith, I've accept my DESTINY.

cc: enieme

The weird part is because it's a lady, a guy can still unwind after getting a clear explanations with common principles. But a lady it is

enieme:
why are you using an internet enabled phone then bro?
Please do go back to your beloved Nokia 3310 o

Haha nutty. U

enieme:
I don't think it has to do with pornograph. Individuals came up with those acts themselves As they do everyday.
if all sexual acts had to do with porn, then Muslims would probably only adopt missionary style.

Where they doing anal or mouth action in the 70s. It's just civilisations

enieme:
How about the fact that she may just be ignorant about issues like this and May have been raised to always take what islamic auauthorities around her say to be true; and disobedience to them being tantamount disobedience ce to Allah?
I don't think u need to discourage the op as of yet.

It's cleared dear, she can't be convinced. It's two thing hun, she was introduced and she did it herself and got a result she needed. No Jupiter can convince her again

ademoladeji:
May Allah SWT grant you His blessings.

I listened to Bilal Philips'sermon about Istikhara and I think same point you just made.

What baffles me most is the way our 'so-called' clergies in this part of the world mislead us. The person I've given my all to, that person I thought was my dream, the lady I so much felt would carry my unborn babies, just left me because sm1 told her she'd see a dream of colour.

Yes! she did buh the colour was RED- meaning there is NO WAY!

God in His Supreme Oneness has the Sole Power to see 2mao but we outta our curiosity want to wrestle that power with Him.


I've accepted it as my Qadar (Kadara)

Everything occurs according to preordainment and according to what has been decreed. Such is the belief of Muslims, the followers of Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him). And nothing happens in the Universe except through Allah's Knowledge, Permission, and Divine Plan.

And certainly, we shall test you with something of fear hunger loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to the patient ones.
(Quran 2: 155)

And in a hadith, the Prophet (bpuh) said:

"Wonderful is the affair of the believer! His affairs in their entirety are good for him: if good befalls him. he is thankful, and that is good for him. And if harm befalls him, he is patient, and that is good for him. And this (prosperous state of being) is only for the believer."

cc: balash

Yes o brother! She has been introduced to that ways of life, don't be surprised when she gets promoted to visiting alfa to solve problems for her. By then she is done already and you won't have anything to do about it. And most of this Nigerian alfa are clearly fake in principles, they indulge in jinns revelations and ladies are known to been easily convinced! How I wish she knows how much you truly does love her, that's how she would be led to a wrong hands all in the pretense of someone said? When your lord has the final say. May Allah forgive her and get you a more resounding lady who would beleive so much in Allah as the author and solutions to every problems. There is no permanent problem when you look up to Allah. He would surely give you a solution. May he guide us to the right path!!

Never been a fan of all this weird new generation innovations, cause most times they don't wait for aftermath results before sending it to the world. I will stay with my shaving sticks mhen. At least am safer

enieme:
"I would like to ask a question which people have either shied away or have been afraid to discuss. I tried to look in some Islamic books but there is no clear guidance that I could find.

There are many married couples who are not sure about this but have not had the courage to ask including myself up until now. I would like to know what the Islamic shariah ruling is on the subject of sex between husband and wife. Is it permissible for the husband and wife to take or touch each others private parts in each others mouth?

I do hope that you will help with this.

ANSWER

In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,

Firstly, it should be understood that Islam is a religion of modesty and shame. It encourages its followers to be modest and not have the instincts of animals. Modesty is one of the things which distinguish a human being from an animal.

However, this should not prevent one from learning about matters relating to sexual behaviour. Then Sahaba (Allah be pleased with them) were never shy and ashamed in learning the truth. There are many incidents where the companions came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) and inquired about matters relating to sex. Even the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace), despite being very modest and bashful by nature, did not feel ashamed to discuss matters regarding the do’s and don’ts of sexual relations.

To proceed with the answer to your question:

The issue of MouthAction is frequently asked. Many people shy away from it, whilst others regard discussing it offensive. However, those people who live in the “real” world will know the importance of mentioning this topic. Therefore, it is important to mention the Islamic perspective on MouthAction in detail.

There are certain acts which have been clearly prohibited in Shariah, that are:

1) Anal sex

Anal sex is strictly prohibited in Islam. There are many narrations of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) which emphasize this.

In a Hadith recorded by Imam an-Nasa’i and others, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:

“Allah will not look (with mercy) at the one that has anal sex with his wife” (meaning on the day of Qiyamah). (Sunan Nasa’i)

2) Sex during menstruation (Haidh)

The Qur’an has clearly and explicitly prohibited sexual intercourse during menstruation. Allah Most High says:

“They ask you (O Prophet) regarding menstruation. Say: It his hurtful and impure. So abstain from women (sexually) in menstruation.” (Sura al-Baqarah, V.222)

The above two things are clearly prohibited by the Qur’an and Sunnah. When books of Fiqh talk about what is lawful and what is not, they typically mention that a husband and wife may give pleasure to one another in any way they wish other than the above mentioned things.

Although not specific to sex, we can add the following:

1) Swallowing filth (sexual fluids of the wife or husband)

2) Needlessly getting filthy

These things are obvious as sexual fluids and filth is impure.

There are also certain acts which are disliked, but permissible, for example: Total nudity, excessive sexual intercourse, etc…

MouthAction

As far as MouthAction is concerned, there are two aspects to the issue. One being the moral aspect and the other the actual ruling regarding it in Islamic Law (meaning, to state whether it is Haram, Makruh or permissible).

With regards to the first aspect, there is no doubt that the act of MouthAction (in its full meaning) is a totally shameful act. The mouth which is used to recite the Dhikr of Allah, send Salutations on the blessed Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace), recite the holy Qur’an and other things, can not be used for filthy and dirty things such as MouthAction, especially if it includes the filth entering the mouth.

This is more or less what the scholars of the Indo/Pak mention in there Fatawa books and (according to this humble servant), this is the aspect (moral) they are referring to.

As far as the second aspect is concerned, which is the Shariah ruling on MouthAction; this actually depends on what you really mean by MouthAction. The term “MouthAction” covers a wide range of activities, from just kissing the private parts to the actual swallowing of filth.

If “MouthAction” means to insert the male privates into the wife’s mouth to the extent that she takes in the filth, whether this filth is semen (Mani) or pre-ejaculatory fluid (Madhi), or the man takes the filth of the woman in his mouth, then this is not permissible. Taking the filth with all its forms in the mouth is unlawful. The fluids which come out are impure, thus make it impermissible to take it orally.

However, if the same act is practiced by using a condom (to prevent the sexual fluids entering the mouth) or the wife merely kisses her husband's privates and the husband kisses her privates and they avoid any areas where there is pre-ejaculatory fluid, then this should be (according to this humble servant and Allah knows best) permissible, although disliked.

It is mentioned in the famous Hanafi Fiqh reference book, and one regarded as a fundamental source in the school, al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:

“If a man inserts his privates in his wife’s mouth, it is said that it is disliked (makruh), and others said that it is not disliked.” (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/372)

This clear text from one of the major Hanafi books indicates that the scholars differed on the issue of inserting the privates in the wife’s mouth. According to some it was disliked whilst others totally permitted it. But it should be remembered that this is in the case when no sexual fluids enter the spouse’s mouth as mentioned in detail earlier. Due to the act being considered against the proper conduct of a Muslim, most scholars have held this practice to be disliked (even in the situation where one does not orally take the filth).

This is what I have on this particular subject. I thought that there was a genuine need to shed some light on it from an Islamic perspective. I hope I have been able to clear the queries people have had on this topic.

And Allah Knows Best

[Mufti] Muhammad ibn Adam
Darul Iftaa
Leicester , UK

Anal sex, mouth action are merely vices that this porn individuals introduced and the fact that you watched porn you should know practising whatsoever is shown there clearly meant filth and dirts, but the Prophet permits uss to satisfy ourself with 'ANYTHING' when it comes to sex but those aforementioned are practiced that the porn individuals introduced we dnt need evidence to know it's wrong.

enieme:
Please what are they seeing o
Contrary to belief that when one makes istikira, one would get the result in a dream form of some sort. Its a fallacy.
Knowing the meaning of the words uttered is even enough to prove this poin.
one makes istikira after seeking counsel on a matter. thereabout one chooses whatever option one's heart is more inclined towards and then begs Allah that if that option be good, that Allah makes it come through and if not, one would obviously encounter obstacles coming one's way whenever decision is made on that option.
E. G u want to make decision on either buying a Samsung phone or BlackBerry. U ask around and u seem to get more pros about bb. U make istikira and proceed to go buy it. If you encounter no probs then it's good, but if u keep being hindered by one thing or the other then it probably isnt what ur meant to buy.

Yes you on right track probably, but people's vices and hearsay are the problem we facing, every bachelor / spinster wants a perfect marriage forgetting that they would surely be ups and down in marriages and when it happens they equally claim it's the end. Am not an istikhara fan anyway. And I know surely well that when am married it won't be rosy always and I have every options to wakeup in the middle of the night, pray and seek for Allah's guidance.

But people want to see future and that's so wrong, imagine istikhara saying u can't bear child in marriage with a certain man u would love to marry and you left the man forgetting that only Allah provides children and he Allah can change everything as long as you beleive he can doo it.? Are u a fan of it?

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Lol!! Op better no disturb urself, you don drink far worse water than this mhen.. welcome to nigeria

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mysticgal:
Lemme just pretend like I did not see annie's bulging stomach

Ya have an eagle eyes mhen

ademoladeji:
*sighs*

So difficult to let go but as you've rightly said, I can't force it on her. Thanks brother.

May Allah SWT grant you blessings here in this world and in the Hereafter

Ameen! Thanks and you welcome. Just move on, you have better options. Loads of more pretty muslimah there. Though she might also be a very good lady but she has been exposed to the rigid istikhara beliefs, even it's said when you engage in istikhara and you not pleased about what you saw, you can pray to Allah on guidance. But Allah knows best.

Mouth123:
That will be discrimination na.... Everybody be mortal

Them go call am one bad english rules wey u spooil now! Like perjury of words lmao and them go send ur moniker to Syria lool

ademoladeji:
Jazak Allah Khaeran!!!

Thank you.

How do you convince someone abt that?

If there is a lady who has probably done istikhara on u and she ain't pleased with what she saw then I think you should let her be and move on. Don't force it because ladies have weaker heart and if you force her she might even cheat in marriage or thereabout. She has been exposed to it and let it slide please. Move on

Brymo:
r d into drugs?

Lol

benedictnsi:
This is a fat lie

Networth.com!!! Always at your service lol

There is nothing wrong in istikhara but am actually not a fan, I think you should marry a good muslim lady. Even if you not perfect in future pray about it together indoor, there is nothing difficult for Allah to do as far as you come to him in times of need.

Ban dey smell for your head Lmao

Just saw on frontage the wizkid / Linda ikeji bashings and I saw the comments about Linda been richer than wizkid. I was so surprised but I needed evidence so off to Google and networth site gave me the detailed evidence.


And I could remember wizkid has been shouting about wealth even before Linda got her 1st million. In all I think whatsoever you know how to do best, keep to it and be very dignified and professional about it and surely it can get you to every height even more than most of this people you look up to.



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Who do you think has a better chance of survival?

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Come on boys let's continue from where we stopped. To the final again mhen

H