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I have always considered it as an option. Lets see I'm Haitian-American and my Gf is Indian, and the only issue my family brought up was religion. Of course in interracial relationships there are cultural differences, but religion is an issue that sadly can't be ignored. I just don't like when parents only want there children to date or marry someone of the same race, sounds pretty narrow minded.
I remember there was a Filipino girl in high school i liked and the only reason we couldnt date is because she didnt think her parents would like the idea of an her dating a black guy. Lol, we sorry next time im born ill check off a different race on the way out.

You are a wise one cute-ass, i agree you should write a book. Distance can be annoying but she is well worth it. *salutes* Ill do my best lol. I go and visit her on the weekend if time permits.

Its funny I can talk to my friends for hours, but when its with her its not that long. Maybe like 5 to 10 minutes. She has told me she isnt really a phone person, but she did get mad at me that i didnt call her enough lol. I meet the quota now i guess, she used to want me to call her at like 6 or 7 am. I felt bad cuz shes always up late so i wanted to let her slept a little more. Now my friend (who introduced me and her) is like im the biotch because she got me calling her like this.

No no i feel like its not enough, or its just me thats why i posted lol. Its just with the distance, phone is all i have to keep in touch with her. Im wondering if theres anything else I can do while shes away.

P.S.- I hate long distance lol.

My dilemia is that she is not the biggest phone person, its not like she doesnt like talking to me, its just that on the phone its not as long. She would actually like 3 short calls other than 1 long one. Some ppl would actually like this since it means that there no obligation for long conversation, just the thought of calling. I mean I call or she calls, we pass texts or whatever. Its just that i know with the distance and all, communication helps, i just hope im meeting the quota.

This sunday I was spending some with my girl and b4 she left her parents came by. She said" OO you wanna meet my parents as my "friend". It was a quick exchange of "hi's" I know that Indian culture has some strict rules of dating, but im just wondering. Good thing I was dressed nice, lol. Should i worry about that?

Good stuff guys, its funny cuz the other day we were at the bookstore and she was looking at journals and she said" hey did u ever write anything in the diary i gave you?". I told Ive been writing stuff in it for while now (mind u its been a month since i got it), she smiled. She was like" Oh after i gave u the gift i wasnt sure if u were gonna write in it or not".

well you could use it to write down your feelings lol or list of girls you want to sleep with. but why would she give u a diary, maybe she was broke

Believe me my friend she is FAR from broke, lol. Thank you guys for your feedback.

SO I can assume at some point she might want to read it, correct?

Back on V-day weekend, me and my girl spent a good amount of the weekend together. To my suprise she got me something for Valentines day, it was a diary. She said, " this is something you can write all your first times and good memories" (Mind you she is my first GF) . Me and her have been together about 2 months and half, despite the distance we have been making it work. Shes actually gonna be in town this coming week cuz of her spring break from school.

The thing is Im not sure what to write. Does she want me to write about times I spend with her or does she want me to actually write about my everyday life? I didnt mean to procrastinate but I know I want to have some writing in there. Any advice would be much appreciated.

What can u guys tell me about indian women? Where i live its not something all the time, this is unknown territory for me.

Would be wrong to go into it as a learning experience? A friend told me that. Can someone explain to me what exactly is a Casual relationship in most cases, im so used to hearing FWB that "casual" is new to me.

Thats not necessarily true more often that not ppl assume that it is that way, i actually no alot of ppl who are virgins.

O PLEASE I KNOW A LOT OF FEMALES THAT CLAIM THEY'RE VIRGINS AND STILL DOES MouthAction. SO I DON'T THINK FEMALES THAT ARE STILL VIRGINS ARE STRONG, THEY ARE THE FREAKEST WOMAN

THat is the truth its like there at he breaking point,lol.

You girls can date anyone u want just dont go hating men after u date some a$$ that cheats you. I hear it too many times, " but realy he was nice in the beginning " lol plz. Im hope i dont sound bitter i just dont like it when women judge all men according to the men they have chosen to date.

Im a virgin and im proud to be one. I think its worth the wait. this may suprise some ppl but some women do actually like that. Sadly in society when ppl think virgin, they automatically think no experience. My question is as there is black and white there are also grey areas. When u guys mean virgin do u mean, he or she hasnt done anything? cuz a girl i was seeing told me she considers it anything except penetration.

Im afraid that if we go to being friends we might drift apart, i still want to get to know her more tho. It doesnt really make sense really, i really need to figure this out completly when i see her again. It sucks because shes not even in town and im not sure when shes coming back in town maybe this weekend or next.

I'm a very interesting situation that has left me between a rock and a hard place. I'm 22, never dated before, used to be labeled the "Nice guy" but learned from previous experiences to not be so gullible. (don't wry the story is interesting,lol)

Shes 19, one of my good friends introduced me to her back in December and we really hit it off. I took her on a date during the following week and we shared our first kiss (my first kiss), and that was a great feeling. For the next 2 weeks, we were spending alot of time together and finding out more about each other. I think shes used to guys being intimidated by the facy that her parents are really well off, that didnt rly bother me at all. Shes real hard worker, looking to make success on her own and shes also very down to earth The only thing that made me raise a brow was the fact that she was Hindu (nothing against hindus) because i am Seventh Day Adventist (Christian for those who don't know what it is) . I decided not worry about that right now, lol. I respect the fact that shes still virgin, and wants to wait. I mean she still like to have fun, lol. To my suprise, She actually got me something for christmas, she made me scarf from scratch that was very nice. A conversation about what our "status" is at the present time, she implied that we should get to know each other better before we officially become a couple. Whats tough is that she goes to school out of town so there some distance, but not too much. I think about an hour and a half hour of driving, not bad. I actually went to visit her and she was very excited to see me. I visited her about 2 times after christmas, and spent part of that weekend over her apartment. Theres no better feeling than to wake up in the morning and seeing her sleeping next to u. She comes into town as well so i don't always have to leave town to see her.I actually didnt mind taking in slow in this relationship but whenever a conversation came up about "us" came up it wouldnt be a fun conversation. She was mad at me because she thought i had no problem with her going out on a date with a guy from her class, I simply told her that i didnt like it but i can't tell her what to do at the present time. SHe was saying that i had the choice to talk to another girl, but i quickly made sure to tell her she was the one i wanted to be with. A week later she came into town and that next morning we got breakfast. She was hinting that she had a dress she didnt want to go to waste, so I took it as she wanted a romantic night out. Then she was saying that she might spend that time with her friends that have no dates (talk about friends dragging u down). Then out of no where she said that she promised herself she wouldnt date for a while. I replied" what is this we have right now?" and she told me " I liked u alot but i can't give u a serious relationship. I wont lie to u guys but it flet like all the air that room was sucked out, i felt terrible fearing that i was going to lose her. I mean from now since before i christmas we talked to each other or seen each other every single day since then. She even told my friend that me called her 1 to 2 times a day wasnt enough (women, ), we talk like 2 to 3 times a day. She has given me the choice to stay in the "casual relationship" or go to being friends (mind u we were never friend in the beginning we skipped that step). I know that Indian families the parent want their kids to marry an indian as well and are very strict about going against that. As where form some people the thought of friends with benefits sounds nice its not fun when one party has feelings for the other and that other doesnt want to commit to real relationship. I'm afraid that if i chose that route and she did find someone else that would be really hard to take. IF i choose the "friends" route i guess i could get to know her better ( i mean i do its just in that situation i would be wierd) and maybe if something is meant to happen it will. This whole thing really threw me off because in the beginning she like me a whole lot more than i liked her, but i caught up in one way or another. We decided to discuss this when we see each other because talking over phone wont be good. Even after that talk were still talking on the phone, but decisions,

So what do u guys think about this? any advice? thanks in advance.