₦airaland Forum

SapaProMax:
More and more, I'm fearing this thing called marriage.

The devil has breast and big yansh. I'm sure of it.

DrAda:
I am sincerely concerned for all men who don't have working wives during these trying times. I pray that time is kind to you and that God meets all your needs. It is well

Jennyclay:
If men can be praising us like this, sending us money every time and taking good care of us, Honestly there won’t be problem.

We ladies (old and young) like flattering words that would make our head swell and blush. We like to be pampered like eggs and carried like a pot made of clay.

Nairalander248:
They are always angry like this one

Zonefree:
In whatever you do in this life, avoid short women.

A short Nigerian girl is a recipe for disaster.

bro4u:
How person wan take give dis one doggy now

Risingblue008:
This kind girls kpomor dey deep shaa

Well

She's wonderfully made

Our God loves varities
Thats why we got the
white
Blacks
Pigment
Dwarf
Tall
Slim and
Huge

Zxcvbnmghtr:
Always talking from your anus.

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.
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First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

Vinnie2000:
95% of our Nigerian Ladies do NOT love their husbands @all.

They marry for convenience Sake.

When they get to 26,27yrs and have seen Time is Going,
They pick any Ready Made man from their Workplace or Church and start forming Good Girl and finally Deceive the Brother to Marry them.

ShadowMan667:
Gees OLOSHO don get freedom



WTH MAN!

God1000:
But why are Nigerian women behaving behaving like that

You hardly hear such thing about women in other countries.

Men need to wise up, I don't like hearing such sad stories which some people try to justify and rationalize.

bablojnr:
How do the millions of people in Somalia and Libya escape getting their kidneys harvested?

maxiuc:
I don already tell am sey na for Somalia dem go disconnect him network

princeemma69:
like Hushpuppy in dubai

9japicker:
What do you think or what is your preferred choice between a net salary of 130k for a job in Ibadan or 200k for a job in Lagos?

Note: The 130k job is for an operations manager while the 200k job is for a business manager.

simp4rebel:
they have started bombing LinkedIn too?

EreluRoz:
Abroad grannies have suffered in the hands of young Nigerian men .

Zonefree your own oyinbo granny never accept your proposal?

mightyhaze:
Flower mature sha but can't gift this to any lady in Nigeria,including my own mom, sisters, wife

Well my daughters maybe cos they see all I do as ethereal...


100k in new notes neatly packaged with a big Lattafa perfume will get me all the wows I need from any Nigerian lady ,including momma

mightyhaze:
Aza Room

Cromagnon:
Calm Dan shiaman mi

Their eye go soon clear

Shebi they were sitting Muslim Muslim cannot happen
Tinubu will be used and dumped
He will not win
He will be disqualified

Dia eye clear abi ẹ no clear

Be patient and enjoy the show

Cromagnon:
they will learn

IrepChrist:
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