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cococandy:
Depending on age, I even see old people as kids.
This saying that the older one becomes the more like a kid they act is very true.
I've experienced it.

I absolutely adore old folks especially those ones that are no longer physically strong.
They throw tantrums and asks questions like kids sometimes it is amusing.
And you're looking at them like "so someday I'm gonna be like this"

And some of them are just full of blessings.
If you buy then only one wrapper they will bless you[b][/b] until your black cheeks blush bright pink.[b][/b] Aww.

untill my toning creams start to be effective

cococandy:
I wouldn't even hit back at someone my own age let alone an older person.
Seriously I'm so anti-violence I don't even want to spank my kids.
So I'm with you in that angle.


But when will the posters on this forum admit that some older women are troublesome.
All I see is blaming the girl and insulting those who try to say that men should set boundaries in their homes.

It is like everyone is saying amost the same thing but some can't just agree because they don't like the folks saying it.

me too oooohh

i didnt spend 20yrs in education to start acting like i was raised by wolves

on the topic, older ppple are troublesome no doubt.

my gran ma came to live with us wen i was a teenager, lord knows d woman can talk. she complains about everything,

can be very annoying. but wat can we do? beat her till she shuts up?

we just pet, and pretend we are going to do wat she says, and that makes her happy. but in reality we do wat we want

Ewuro4:
Tayour, thank you for this thread, what a breath of fresh air. Very well said.

Well what can I say @ end time advices on here; You can only give what you have so You can't give what you don't have. If you respect your own parent at home then respecting any adult won't be a chore, it's inbred no story.

And misery they say loves company.

@Bebe2, your story reminds me of a sister I used to share my mind with, but it took me a while to figure out how frustrated she was in her marriage. Everytime I show her or tell her about my MIL, her replies are always laced with negativies, like; 'Mmm be careful oh, they are all the same my dear, why would you allow her to cook in your kitchen, you have to create boundaries oh or she'll get too comfortable , be careful oh, it's too much, you're giving her the wrong impression and blah blah blah' I stopped calling her and that was it.

some pple are like that ooo, they are so negative,

i spend 30mins wit this woman on the fun and i start to suspect my husband,

even if he says, i love u, am like why? wat did u do? ur conscience dey judge u?

total paranoia

i had to stylishly drive her out of my life ooo

cococandy:
Na wa. So person no fit come nairaland type that sons should maintain boundaries between their mothers and wives or that MILs should respect their DILs.that must be a very evil opinion
Smh.

Why the unnecessary catching of feelings? No offense.

I would assume that anyone especially if raised in Africa knows that respect for elders is non negotiable.so it goes without saying that before a lady is married, she knows she has to respect her MIL. (Of course there will be the exceptions to the rule)
Now does the MIL know that her DIL is a human being with feelings too? Is it wrong to say a MIL should respect her DIL too?

Someone who can't slap her grown up daughter will raise hands to slap someone else's grown up daughter and we turn the girl into a witch because she reacted.

I don't know the last time my parents hit me. Maybe as a teenager in my early teens.
After that if you do something wrong, they will tell you "you're now an adult. Do you want to be flogged or slapped like a child before you learn"
Most people here didn't even get hit by their parents but then somehow it is ok to get hit by parents-in-law.

You guys can keep pretending that such problems don't exist or that it is only the duty of the DIL to bear all but the problem won't go anywhere with such attitude.

Taryour pls I'm not trying to rain on your parade, your story is sweet and teaches tolerance which I'm an advocate of BTW but it is as unbalanced as they come. And the fact that you were already expecting someone to attack you for it is funny.
Who no like sweet story
For the girl looking for poison to kill her MIL, I don't have any words. Shey she no fit leave the man if it is that bad.
Anyone with a brain will agree she's evil. so what's the lesson? Don't try to kill your MIL?

Well she can try and end up in jail for the rest of your life. Or be killed too. (He who lives by the sword dies by the sword)


If only nairaland is A place where people can share different opinions without things getting heated up and some people with agenda and issues making derogatory remarks about other people's families and how they were raised just because they have different opinions.

i see ur point,


but physical fight with an elderly woman?

i beg no excuse.

ok, lets assume she wansnt her mother in law, its iya alata the pepper seller that slaped her, so

she will put her bag down and start to rumble? dem go fight naked each other for street abi?

and if the husband is lucky, he too might be on his way frm work with his frd and dem too can watch the show abi?

there is no excuse for getting physical with her MIL or anyone for that matter.

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Shiningmama:
I had similar experience too. How my MIL was advising me to be pounding yam for my husband to take to office so that he won't look outside. She gave example of how she will roast a whole chicken and she and her husband will eat and merry then. I was just laughing when she was telling me. She asked me why I was laughing and I told her that sebi despite all the roasting of chicken and merriment her husband still went ahead and married another woman.
She just kept she didn't know what to say again. I begged her sha for laughing. I wasn't expecting her to say such things when she knows all her own pampering and merry merry didn't stopped her husband.

Hahaha ur mouth sef,

It's all about being playful.

Some of them can be so unreasonable.

Wen my husband took me to london without informing his family , his mum called and asked to speak with me, I was thinking she wants to congratulate me but wat I heard was " do u know I own dat peni*s that u ran to in London"?

I froze, I quickly apologised and made excuses for not informing her , after much petting she calmed down and started demanding for plenty grand kids

coogar:
spineless men have been brain-washed by the selfish wives. it's not about civilisation, some of these men are the "wives" in that they are totally dependent on their spouses.



that's the hypocrisy we always talk about here. when a man misbehaves, he's a monster. when a woman does, she should be loved.

It's so sad, never been so angry about a common post.

Well, I wish all our young men gud luck finding a gud woman in the midst of these thorns.

coogar:
the ones who are clamouring for intolerance & disrespect would soon get their comeuppance. what goes around comes around - all the DILs today would become MILs tomorrow & someone's daughter would disrespect them.

a woman slapped her MIL & some retärds were somehow justifying the action. if her mother was placed in the same scenario, would she have slapped her own mother? sometimes, you just have to assume some of the posts you read here are typed by animals.

Nemesis will surely catch with them.

But how about the so called men that have become spineless all in the name of being Civilised?

I wonder, if I came here to say my husband beat up my mum for some quarrels, how many pple will be asking me to remember my loyalty is to my husband like they were telling d guy in that post.

mufutau55:
Many of the roof water tanks I have seen are like this.. That is why I built a steel tower stand for my water tank stand.
Thanks Spyder.. I was looking for sample photo to post to the OP (Bebe2).

Hajji M.

I was talking to my mum about it and she said, my brothers house used to have same issues until they bought that red ball ( a bigger version ) that's usually found in a toilet cistern, that helped to stop the water over flowing.

spyder880:
I was trying to avoid a more unsightly scenario, like this......... http://amazingviewpoints..com/?m=1

Ohhh .

Totally agree.

taryour:
Yes sis very true. I keep screaming it.

** if you cannot tolerate, love and care for your mother inlaw like your own mother then please do not marry the man **

simple!

Tolerant is the watch word.

was home a few weeks back, sat with my MIL and all of sudden she started advising me,

how i shud love my husband and always ''beg'' him when i offend him and he is angry.

i kept saying yes ma, yes ma, wen she finished i asked her, wat if he offends me?

she paused, look at me and said, '' my son is not a trouble maker he can never offend anyone''

i fell to the ground with laughter, cudnt control myself, it was my SIL that was telling her

so ur son is an angel abi?

wen i got home i started gisting my frd the story but she was so angry, saying NOOOOOOO i cant tolerate dat,

how can she say that to u? u shud have answered with this or that.

i just stood there shocked, i thot it will be gud laugh o, after her reaction i jeje carry my bag and went home.

Some ladies are crazy.

mufutau55:
That thing is massive and worth every Naira of it..

Hajji M.

cudnt they have put the tank on the roof.

its so unsightly to see that massive metal work in compound.

its same thing i did sha, but not keen on it.

spyder880:
Toilets, bathrooms, water heaters...........

*coughs*

oga spyder na like my tiles be dis oo

i bought mine for 850 psmtr.

hope dem no cheat me

hmmmm,

tell those that were supporting the woman that fought her MIL in the last thread.


some pple go into marriage like its a battle, ready to attack their in laws at the slightest provocation.

StPete:
It is now quite a worrisome trend that many Interstate buses deceive passengers to board their buses only for them to drop them off half-way.

These drivers deceive their unsuspecting passengers that they would be carried off to their respective destinations only for them to be taken to a place like 'Oore' and be asked to wait for another bus that would take them to their destination. Not only are passengers charged more for such trips, time is wasted cos the passenger(s) has/have to wait for hours unending before such buses are completely filled up for the trip. Most times passengers are then forced to miss their scheduled appointments or even get to their destinations at very late and dangerous hours. It'll even be more terrible for first time travellers who don't even know their destinations.

Interstate buses like Edegbe, Vicolins, Uhuomba, Peace etc have been regular culprits

Cc
Ishilove
Seun
Lalasticala

I still don't get it.

So edegbe carry u from lagos, then off load everybody for Ore and asked them to wait for another bus?

Any ways, edegbe don spoil, the buses are very old and the last one I entered was full of mosquitos.

qbd2:
Hmm, srry oh op but dis poist seem to b pointing only at pple dat don't want togo home for negative reasons.
Some pple may just not want to come home cos the environment at home isn't condusive for them with respect to our not less develped economy. Some may also decide to not come home until they have sucessfully improved thei r condition as to b able to offer a benefitiing change to nigeria.
Although I must say, those posts are true enough for certain pple.

No mind d guy. He just arrive, 2yr only.

He never know ground

BTW which kai oyinbo women dey dat e side?

chii8:
Hmmm....Seun,what is happening,i just logged in successfully since two days attempt...is this the kind of change you will be giving us?diarisss godiooo.

To the presido elect,make sure you dont fail the Nigerian citizen,God will be with you.
To all Nigerians,lets move forward and pray for change of things in Nigeria.
It is well.

Same happened to me

take this rubbish out of fp,

Today is an important day in Nigeria, not a time for trivial matters

If u in uk go to Tvc news, sky channel 517

Moana:
If you google you will find more airlines apart from BA unless you really want to go through all these numerous "agents" you find on NL

i thot agents will be cheaper.

guess i will have to source it mysef.

tnk u

poor man say beer dey bitter

ayomidegambari:
Dad has been a regular member of PDP meeting for a while, because I voted GMB he promised me that if he wins, he'll send me out of his house. That am a bastard.

Gud for u,

U Dey under yr papa roof dey oppose am,

u no fit jeje keep quiet vote ur choice?

Wen u homeless, I go see wetin GMB go do for u

worry359:
Then go on line and use Google to search yourself.

Begging on here will lead you into the hands of THIEF agent and lost money.

No mind me .

I checked opodo I saw British Airways for 609£ I think Dats too expensive. I will try again.

Just came back frm naija .am too exhausted for all this wahala.

pple pls help.

i need an affordable ticket from lagos to manchester for april and returning in october.

seconded,

i just came back from naija a week ago,

after much thot , i said to myself, in my later age i might come back home,

BUT, i cud never visit such misery on my children.

dats my opinion and am entitled to it.

bosun11:
got ur msg , would holla soon but am so suprised y u aint even following back yet...mean on NL.....Its okay tho

lol, dnt knw how dat works oo,

will follow now

adepiero:
oh! that's cool.
was even thinking about the security risk until now. when the change arrives, you can come back home and work like in the UK

na true

na wa ooooo

play play Buhari go win this election ooo,

ok, we still dey look

bosun11:
yes.think m interested in your profile picture..etc

Oya pm

olu77:
Oh! Ok. Welldone! You are a great support to your husband. May God grant unto you your heart request for another car

Amen ooo

adepiero:
That work na die o! but I hope the pay is worth the stress.

Well sha he can manage till CHANGE is announced tomorrow

unfortunately dat change no go too affect us, na queen country we dey