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My dear,please call 112 from any Multilinks,starcomms or land phone and report the case accordingly stating your house address and the landlord's name.I assure you that he will be picked up ASAP.If a law has been passed then lets obey it.I am also a LANDLORD's son like many others here but I live in my own house.In the United Kingdom you get to pay monthly so why should ours be different?No sentiments my dear,REPORT!
PS: You could also report to Alex Omorodion on facebook (Search with the name,look for pix of a man in grey blue suite browsing on a desktop).He is actually in charge of security related issues in LAGOS STATE but he might be able to channel your complaint to the appropriate body.Good luck!

I know this should not be here but for some reason I did not see the "New topic" option on the Job/Vacancy section.

A Male marketer is needed between the ages of 24-28 years in a small ICT company.

Duties would include:
-Getting customers(companies,individuals etc) to patronize the ICT services of the ICT company.
-The Services which include supplies of Servers,Laptops and building and managing of customized software and applications might be delivered by this marketer.


Skills and experience:
-The marketer is expected to have a drivers license and hands on experience with computers and computer packages like excel,word etc.
-The applicant should have fair English skills and know how to convince prospective clients. Good English skills will be an edge.
-The applicant should be an OND holder or have some computer diploma at least.
-The applicant is expected to have at least 1 year experience.

Remuneration is based on commission.

Interested applicants should forward their resumes to BEMMATECH@YAHOO.COM

Good Luck!

Thanks alot.Wish I also had folks to pay mine.LOL But I really felt your story.God really lives.

My dear I will advise u to build yourself.The Nigerian economy is so bad its no news.Get more degrees before you plunge into marriage.Its not a child's play my dear.Unless your wife can hold her own.But regardless of thta u must remember that the man is the head of the family.Please do not try it.Improve yourself so that you can catapult yourself to the next level.If you guys are so in love then get married and live kids out of it for now,why bring a child into the world to suffer? I am sure u want the best for your unborn kid.Please think wisely.Heaven helps those who help themselves.Cheers bruv!

Nosyke:
Honestly, I must commend all who have contributed to this thread, many people are actually in the same shoes with the op.
I have not seen such  sincere and educative replies from nlders for while now.
op, the ball is in your court

I am away from the ball.LOL

babaijesha:
I will advise you to stay in Nigeria,  If its about MBA, you can always do a distance learning MBA from these foreign university without wahala of immigration and huge tuition fees.  Most pple in Nigeria are opting out for that option.

[b][b][b]If you feel na must you wan leave Nija, you can opt out for processing of Canada/Aussie immigration while you are sill on you job for Naija,  [/b][/b][/b]

Dont quit your job,  U will know the meaning when you dont know where the next meal is coming from , it makes things worse when you have a family , Shikena

Canadian/Aussie?

moremi2008:
A lot of people have given you really good advice. Look very well before you leap. In the process of chasing "dual-citizenship" for your children, you might end up losing your entire family. America is not a joke. It is merciless. Even friends and family that promise to "sponsor" you will kick you out after a few months if you aren't contributing anything to the household. Don't let anyone fool you that you can get a decent job on an F1 visa. It's a lie. If you're lucky, you will find a job that'll help with pocket-money and living expenses. Forget about about funding tuition/books with a student job for two reasons 1) the US is flooded with cheap labor from illegal Mexican immigrants. Things are so bad now, even the illegal Mexicans are heading back to Mexico. All the jobs that prior generations of Nigerian students used to support themselves are gone. Don't bring your family here on somebody's expired advice. 2) Good graduate programs in the US are difficult. I just don't see how you can work enough hours to pay tuition and still do well in class while remaining sane. Don't even contemplate bringing your family with you because that's going to be extra mouths to feed.

You should only consider coming to the US on an F1 visa if 1) You have enough money saved-up to pay for tuition/books and a little extra in case you can't find a job immediately and 2) Your wife has a good job and can support herself and the children back in Nigeria. Leaving your family in Nigeria is safer and saner - you won't have to worry about the extra mouths depending on you while you hustle and bustle and you will have a solid home base to return to in case things don't work-out as planned.

Good luck! And please, don't make the terrible mistake I have seen a lot of people make by leaving all in Nigeria in search of greener pastures in the US. Some of them live HORRIBLE lives here (even some with green cards).

Thanks bruv!

donsoft:
@beeman80, it is a good thing to relocate to Yankee but you really have to consider a lot of things before taking your final decision. I will suggest you apply for Msc in some of the Canadian Province's eg Manitoba as that will automatically qualify you to apply for Permanent Residency immediately you graduate. Another option is to apply via the Quebec Province of Canada while you are still here working. If you are granted residency, you will take it step by step to relocate. The best you can get in USA after your studies is H1B visa which you can equally get from here. Your wife will be given H4 visa a non-working visa. The H1B visa will allow you work for the employer that sponsored your application. You may spend between 5 to 10 years before you can obain residency. All things been equal, citizenship will be granted three to five years afterwards. Relocating to Canada as a permanent resident will make life a lot easier for you and your family. You will otain your Canadian citizenship only three years in Canada. Once you are a citizen in Canada, you can work in USA if you so wish. Please be informed that Canadian passport is also as powerful as US passport and should be able to get you into over 150 countries without entry visa.

I have contributed my two cents. You have the final decision to take.

Good luck bro.

How do I go about it? I hope I wont get to do the GMAT cos I already have a masters degree and hope I will not be required to pay the fees until I get there.

Jiah011:
Even for those of us born in diaspora, things are not promising. I have two degrees (BA and Masters) and I am feverishly looking for employment here in the US. I'm even thinking of coming to Naija or (some other country) to look at job prospects there or to help develop Nigeria. A lot of people are unemployed. Those menial jobs you could get on a student visa are now what people are turning to because the big jobs are unavailable. Experience and connections are really what will get you a good job currently in the US, and as a foreigner these may be hard to get. Talk less of someone from Nigeria coming to the US, and with a wife and kids. You already have a decent job.

Bro, things are really tough right now because of the economy and things seem to be getting worse. Let's say you decide to come here and with much difficulty and personal investment, you complete your program. I'm not even sure anyone can say what america will look like by then. To start looking for job and to build a life here, it's tough. Immigration will soon be in the presidential debates, as is the economy, and I'm not sure what will be the outcome. Also you and your family will change. Your wife and children will be different, just like you will have to be different to adapt to the culture and survive. You just have to change in many ways or you won't make it together. If you change for the better, that will be great. But if you change for the worse, that will be a waste of hard work. Those old-school mentalities don't work in the US. What price are you willing to pay (and not just financially)?

Things are NOT like they used to be. The "american dream" has turned out to be the "american nightmare" for some. Just turn on BBC news or read the news and talk to people who have struggled in the US and returned, or even traveled out. The world is quickly changing, the US included. If you are looking for a glamorous life and all that, don't believe the hype. Those village-types will always say, "Oh you know so and so in the US or UK?" "He/she is now a millionaire! There is too much money abroad. And we're here suffering!" Na story! Half the story is never the whole story! Please choose reality over a fantasy/dream, unless you find a way to find realty in your dream. Money is not flowing here, oh! Shine your eyes! A student visa job will NOT take care of you and your family! Do proper research before you make your decision! Why not make a trip to the US first to help you make a better decision. I think it would be wise before moving yourself and family out there. Things are not as they seem.

Ultimately, the decision is yours to make. I pray God gives you wisdom and continues to bless you and your family. All the best!

Thanks dearie.This really touched me.

dinggle:
If you are going for MBA in IT go for Cyber security, you stand a great chance for a good job, however your family could suffer and the trickle effect could affect your kids. Life will be hard except you already have a good savings of N3-N5million to maintain your family and self during your studies. I would say continue with your job and take an online course in cyber security then try your hands on lottery visa. Be smart! Even migrating with lottery visa is a challenge if u don't have anyone here.

Mhhhh.Pls could u recommend a school?Hope its not so expensive.Thanks bruv.I owe u one.

lastpage:
Okay now, "Cicero" is Italian for "Family Head or Boss", right?
I give it to you Bruv, you're a real "Cicero"! Every letter of that word!

Indulge me to quote you for a third time!
Man, you said it all.
But let me add a few more lines and dress it with "Salad cream".  

@Poster: You have a family; You have a not-so-bad job; You have an MSc; Thus: You're fairly doing well!
You want to "go to the next level", You are thinking ahead; You love your family and you want to "catapult them ahead, NEXT LEVEL" (as in U.S citizenship, in the long run).

Like Cicero mentioned, let me ask you more:
*What would you do if the American economy does not improve and getting a job proves very difficult for you?

*Knowing what it takes to "abandon and check-out", if it does not work out, how easy is it for you to "abandon and check-in" again? Note: You would have lost traction, footing an contacts!

*Are you the typical "Nigerian man" (the typical Ijesha man! ) who still believe in a "Matriarchal lifestyle" that says the man is the head of the family? Be advised, that dont work over here. I smell you have a loving wife and you love your family. Will you trade that for the level of "family breakdown" we have over here in the States and Europe? (Be aware, close to 85% of immigrant families that emigrate, get irreversibly broken down within 5yrs of emigration! reason being that our men are too stiff and rigid and would not be flexible enough to the western culture where the woman is the head of the family!).
I am harping more on this issue because [/b]"family is most important" as l see it and once "anyone" (God forbid its you) develop problems in that area, that fella, his wife and their children's dreams are ruined, the Oyinbo Social Welfare people would be too happy to help you break it down further, (We cant afford "another Obama" in the future you know! )
Would you trade your family happiness (wifey and children as you have it now) for that future Green Card? Which is more important to you?
[b]Be realistic, at 85% "black family"  [b]failure rate, you can be the "struggling" 10% or the successful [/b]5%!

*Have you seen people who checked-out and came back when it did not work-out, can you talk to them and share experience so you can learn and not make the same error they made?

*Aside when someone is struggling to earn a living, what exactly do you think "abroad can provide for you" (which you cannot get by travelling there regularly on Holidays), that you think you cannot get or make a financial outlay to provide for yourself?

-Is it stable electricity? How about if you really make money and invest and install Solar cells on your own roof, completely independent of NEPA?
-Is it Security? If Security were so difficult or impossible to arrange, all those much-hated Politicians should have been dead by now, including the IBB's, OBJ's, e.t.c. It costs money, l know but it is achievable is what l am implying.
-Is it good schools for your kids? It cost money but l assure you there are some "private" schools that are better than U.K/U.S public schools in Nigeria today.
-Good medical care? C'mmon, EKO Hospital along Ikeja Road is open to everyone. Just go along with your big purse!

In essence, with money, you can provide the best for your family in Nigeria without making yourself "An Alien"   in a foreign country!

Now, on the[b] flip side[/b], can you cope with the derision of being discriminated against, at every turn, by govt Agents (Police, Customs, Immigration, Courts, e.t.c), ordinary White folks that are way below your level in Nigeria, (have you heard the term: Abroad is a leveler" before?)?

What about the weather? Until you live there, you wont know what l mean, walahi!
The cold can and have indeed shorten th elife span of some darky Nigerians O! From Arthritis, back pain, heart conditions (due to lack of adequate exercise and not sweating enough!), e.t.c.

What about the restrictions on your ability to just decide to "do whatever you like, at any fecking time" (We Nigerians call it FREEDOM and l love it sooo much" Build any kind of house, withdraw or save any amount, buy any kind of car l like, speed as l like on the Express road!, even yab Policeman if he did not give me my correct recognition ). Abroad na different sroty o! You go 'paam' and gentle like mad!
At times, even to repatriate your hard-earned money home, can be a hassle as "The Govt owns you and Whatever you have" over here.

I can go on and on but at the end of the day, its a question of putting the "Pros and Cons on a balance" and seeing for yourself where it tips for you.
Its your decision, its your funeral and its your enjoyment in future: YOU BE THE BEST JUDGE.

No Pain, No Gain! Are you ready to make the sacrifices?

Good luck and l pray that God of heaven will give you the wisdom to choose that which is right and most beneficial to you and your family, in the long run.

Cheers,
Lastpage.


Ajoo o'dabi ile, No matter where you dey, remember Area o! (Sings that "Faze" song and smacks it down with some cans of red Bull! )

You make sense and the song was actually by SOUNSULTAN.Laughs!

Nija4Life:
@Beeman80
I think what you have asked for is advice but the decision whether to move or not will ultimately be yours, I don't think anyone should be telling you what to do quite frankly.

I believe you have received some very useful advice so far which mainly borders on the grim economic realities in the west and the better opportunities that may still be available out there regardless. You have to match these realities side by side with your current job and family circumstances and decide if it's a risk worth taking because let's face it, it is a risk. However, what you have to understand, that is if you don't already, is that greater success in life (depending on your definition of success) involves considerable risk taking and getting out of your comfort zone.

Listen, whatever you do, I wish you goodluck and ultimately God's wisdom in making the right decision for yourself and your family.

http://www.apenandaheart..com/

Thanks men!

Lax75:
@ Poster:

First off, I understand your frustration with naija. But also know that everywhere has its good and bad. Here's my take. If you said you were trying to migrate during the Clinton era, and pre-911, I would have actually encouraged you to give it a shot. But now, the patriot act has made things super difficult for immigrants and the shot economy has made it even harder. On a daily basis, people are losing their jobs and companies are folding.

I have been on F1 visa once, however this was back during the Clinton years where getting a job off campus was not difficult. Drawback is that with an F1, you are only allowed to work 20 hours (though I know people who do 40 hours). Ofcourse the jobs you will get will be non-professional jobs. Do you intend on feeding and sustaining your family working at the mall as a security guard or a sales associate at say, Macy's?

What do you then do after you finish school? Will you apply for a H1 visa? That is so damn hard to get in this economy and these visas are in limited issuance each year (I think about 55,000 but don't quote me). The thing about H1 is that you are bound to that employer, and they tend to take advantage of that by paying you and keeping you on a crappy salary! Trust me I know because I've been there. After my F1, I was LUCKY enough to find a company to sponsor my H1 but in the 6 years I worked for this Bluechip company, my salary didnt even go up by $3,000!!! In 6 whole years! When I got my greencard and left the company, do you know my salary jumped up by 100%?? Just to give you an idea of how I had been underpaid all the previous years?

If you told me you won the Visa lottery, I would say give it a shot, even though it would still be a challenge given the state of the economy. In my honest opinion, Yanks is NOT all that at ALL. And I am one who has spent the majority of my life abroad (was taken to England since age 2, moved to naija and lived for about 7 years, then came to Yanks). My mom likes to call Yanks "no man's land of America." She can't stand this place (Mom lives in Naija). Don't get me wrong, Yanks has it advantages. But to me, the only thing good about this place is (1) Good education (2) The exposure and work experience (3) Their blue passport, Omo if you come this country and get these three things, I say get the hell out, move back home and start making things happen. It's what I plan on doing.

Even with Naija's challenges (power supply, armed robbers, bad roads, etc), you are still around your own people. You don't have to deal with the ignorance of stereotypes, the racism etc. Very depressing place and it's every man for himself. Unless you are the inferior-complexed kind of person, you would feel lost here. I know I do and I feel relieved anytime I'm out and about and I run into say any of my naija brothers. People I can relate to.

All the best brother.

I really felt your advice.Its a huge dilemma i am in right now.I am also worried about giving my kids the very BEST most of all.You know the dual citizenship thing that comes with the move.Mhhhhhh.Thanks a bunch!

shesi:
We need more information to really give helpful advice. First of all, what is your career. Don't just say IT. Be more specific. Engineering? management? sales? IT is a hot field in general but it is also very saturated with professionals. you need to know whether you can compete with other professionals in the field.

One thing i would advice against though is moving with your whole family at the onset? especially if it's your first time here. You need peace of mind, and freedom to be able to hustle your way into the system. and yes, it will be a hussle no matter how comfortable you are starting out. Unless you have a couple 100Ks to smooth the transition.

Best to test the waters first alone and then make your own decisions thereafter. Some people just cannot cope with certain aspects of life here and until you find out for yourself firsthand, you wouldn't know. Nobody can advice you there.

Overall though i would say go for it. Life is hard everywhere but it's a softer kind of hard here. If you are smart, work hard, and stay away from some bad habits, you will have at least a comfortable average life. Your life is more in your hands here. But it's not an easy life.


Good luck!

Thanks bruv!

Good riddance to BAD rubbish! All boyz out cos u want to shop? The military man was lenient,some hot tempered Military man would have settled the whole thing with his riffle.Hope the young spoilt rich kid has learnt his lesson.

I am sure that their faces must come down after collecting their 'Kolanut'

Kx:
The perception of america from prospective emigrants is always different from the realities on ground and the true life experience of those already living in God's own country.
I wish u could get some real life stories shared to put you in the right perspective.

Whatever u decide, start by empowering your wife first so that family upkeep wont be an issue if and when u decide to leave.

Thanks bruv!

ifegy:
@ OP, have you considered looking to the US' cousins, Canada? Yes, it's colder, but as a student, your spouse can come over and work while you study, and it is also possible to get a work permit as a student. Not that you are likely to be able to raise all your tuition and living expenses this way, mind you. Also, as a student with work experience you could look at immigrating as a skilled worker. There is also the new Canadian experience class for foreign students. In my experience, the Canadian immigration process is more straightforward than the US's. Check out the Canadian government immigration website, cic.gc.ca, for more information.

@ifegy u know I have actually looked into canada in the past but could not find my profession on the list of needed professions.They seem to always reach cap in no time.The thing about US skools is that u dont necessarily have to make school fees deposit while u are here.U could pay when u land US.I dont know if US has that.If you have experience on how to go about the schooling I would humbly accept your assistance.I arm a masters already so do i still need to do the GMAT exam and all?Revert pls.

GoldCircle:
@moderator,
  Help this chap & put this up on the front page. He'll get more useful advice that way.

Meanwhile,
@ OP, now you've got a family and that's one thing that should stick. Pardon me if I'm a bit rash, but the truth is whatever you do from now on, putting food on the table of your kids have got to come first. In Africa, at this point, it ain't about you no more. its about your family and giving them the best irrespective of the circumstances surrounding you so that when you eventually bow out, the kids will say "at least Popsi tried"! Don't get it twisted bruv, all I'm saying is we in here can advice for all we care but the ultimate decision is yours and don't forget for a sec that family comes first. Don't mortgage their comfort and tomorrow for anything else. Picture would have been very different if you were still single. so think am well my broda!

@Goldcircle your point is well noted.Thanks bruv!

damola1:
What's your dream like?


I think it's all about the dream,  Also, testing the waters isn't a bad idea, get the student visa, that doesn't stop your work,  maybe you can get an holiday and see what real time opportunities are in there for you. US is quite big,


There's a worse boko haram in the US and that's alqaieda, in 1 day, they killed over 6000 people, and they also got armed robbers too, sophisticated ones,

Thanks! However do u think it would be wise to live my job and "test the waters"? Are u actually in the US?Are there good opportunities for me after i must have been done schooling?Whats it like working and schooling in the US?Is the pay okay to cater for the family and foot school fees?

27naira:
certain professional careers and technical skills are employable in the states and other parts of the globe. It depends on your career line. It is will be difficult and risky gamble to move to the states to pick up a student status given the fact that you're a family man. That are many ways you can plan your intended migration. I know of a Naija banker  who picked up an online Msc from the states, got a job with HSBC in the gulf and currently got transferred to chicago.
Layout your options and go for the best.

Thanks! But are u inferring that I go for am an online masters?I am looking at MBA in IT.

Thanks!

Hello House!
I really appreciate you guyz on nairaland and right now i am in a dilemma and some advice from you guyz might be of great help.
I am a young dad, married and upwardly mobile but I want to try my hands on the US student visa so that in the end I might be able to settle there with my Family.
However a part of me is just skeptical due to fears of regrets and all.
Is it a smart move to resign my not too bad job for the US with my family? Will i get a good job offer there to cater for my family as a student and after graduating from the school?
Should I just stay put here and keep managing what Nigeria has to offer(Boko Haram,NEPA,Armed robbers,Bad roads etc) ?
I am begging for answers here.Advice from people who have gone to the US on legal grounds would be most appreciated here.

Thanks in advance!

Mimiko has missed it here.Is he running an Authoritarian government or a Democratic one? He should be careful not to allow Political tricks get him on people's bad side.He is equally free to own his own station or air his own views.Its democracy and there is freedom of speech and expression.Let the indegenes be the final judge.

Simple question here; I am an abandoned pregnant lady  where do i go to report the case? The INEFFICIENT POLICE or where? My point is there should be some special task force or agancies for this purpose.

This is hideous and crazy.Arrest him for what? He confessed that he once USED it and so?Did NDLEA catch him with the substance?

Chidoxyl:
Where @ Ogba? Also, is it a bungalow? If no, is it on d ground floor?

Replies 2 my question above are needed urgently.

Tanx.

Opp sweet sensation.

3Bedroom Twin Bungalow for #3.95m @ MOWE/OFADA.
Benefits: 5months delivery time
Building within fenced estate
Get documents immediately
Monitor speed of work

I can't see any comment from the Ooni of Ife here and many of our Yoruba leaders.

Mustapha is whipping up sentiments and looking for digressions.Its okay to confess the players and snitches in the whole drama however he should face his own music.