marlockj:
End time rubbish thread.

Is it a mst dat a relationship get crious during nysc.

Who does not know that nysc is for fun not for marriage activities.

If you see a girl dat like you,u should run abi.fooooolish opinion.

Mst you marry the girl?.cant you hv 3girls and still Kip ur main girl.

Op you Dnt hv anything to say.

U Jst finish nysc, ppl finished theirs 8 to 10yrs ago.they had many girls in camp and now married to another girl.so wats wrong with it.

Do you think girls Dnt knw wen to hv fun outside boyfrnd?

Do you think all girls in camp want marriage from any corp member?

girls does not like fun abi.

Distance stop nothing,if you are crious of marriage.

Background stop nothing,Afterall all the girls hv various Background.

Incase you Dnt knw,wen I served I had targeted number of girls I will sleep with before I passed out.that was my own business not others.

Nysc is for fun take it or leav it.


Rubbish post

Speakdatruth:
your heart was never there
looking at your pics sef, you look either mermaid or possessed

obiorathesubtle:
Ahhhh, I know your problem, there's one guy I know that used to talk like this, but after the General Overseers of celestial church and cherubim&seraphim handled him special(azin gave him special experienced flogging) he actually came back to his senses, started following the natural order, picking girls at random and trying to make a pass at them *puts on shoes and walks away*

maverickboy:
In Islam, there's high regard, from us Muslims for family at large. And there are certain red lines which we shouldn't cross, hence when we face crucial issues like this, caution must be taken so as not to invade others sanctuaries.

Parents should be treated with utmost respect and care. Their directions should be placed before any other, and their ideas shouldn't be treated with contempt. And if we must turn down their offers, we must be diplomatic as much as posible in doing so. We should let them see what we saw which they don't. And should they fail to come to terms with our opinion, then the judgement should come from God, The Most High.But, if it's only a worldly matter, where whatever decision we make don't incur any sin from God, we'd be rewarded if we honor our parents by accepting their wish over ours. The only situation where they have no say is when they are against what God's law stipulates.

Now, you know your dad than anyone else and can tell how he is likely to handle the situation at hand. So in order not to get yourself into what you are not ready for like being disowned, you need to keep your conversion to yourself for the mean time. Of course, you can't hide it from him forever, but let it be at a time he'll respect your decision. And if he's not going to respect it, his disapproval and consequence actions will not be too burdensome for you to cope with. Especially being a female child, who has lost her first sympathizer (mother), you may not be able to handle it if it explodes untimely.

For now, start learning about Islam, read books by reputable scholars and ask about whatever you don't understand on this forum. You can start practising your religion (Islam) after taking the Shahada as circumstances permit.

As regard your family, you need to start communcating with them through your actions. Show your household as well as neighbors the the virtue of Islam... Let them perceive changes in your life. Let your household know what good you are bringing in from afar. Be a light that illuminates your community at large, like that it will be easier for you to come out clearly when the time comes.

As_salam alaykum warahmotullah wabarakatuh.

Annunaki:


What exactly is attracting you to Islam ? are you sure you really know what Islam means

SiaFuller:
I am an Avid reader of Nairaland and i have never bothered to comment but to enjoy the comments and advices of others i relationship matters but i think i now need your assistance before i lose the plot.

I have been dating this guy for a while now and honestly speaking without exaggerating too much, he is the most perfect man to me. He is tall, dark, handsome, hardworking and very kind to a fault. He helps people at will and takes no offence whatso ever at my excesses except i over do it to a fault and instead of getting mad at me to hit me or abuse me, he just walks away for an hour or 2 and comes back as if nothing happens. The only snag i have with him is that he is an atheist and doesnt believe in God whatso ever. I am a very strong Christian and i didnt take it as anything at first when he was trying to date me. I saw it as a juvenile boy's thing and maybe misguided and my purpose was to date him to make him change his ways and believe in God, but instead he has kept steadfast to his belief of not believing in God and hating anything about religion but apart from that, he is everything a girl could want in a man or more.

Since i have known him, he doesnt smoke or drink or party, move around with unserious or bad friends. He has never cheated on me and promised to never do so because its not his nature. He hasn't hit me before and also swore the day that he hits me mistakenly i should stab him and dump him there and then because he doesnt appreciate Men who beat women. He takes care of me and sometimes even cook for me when ever i come to his place. He even paid close to N300,000 for my hospital bills when i had a surgery and he stayed with me most of the time. I know he truely and genuinely loves me but this issue of his religion and atheism is my only problem with him. He has even driven me to church on so many occassions when it rains or when am going for Night Virgil but he never comes down or attends it and he sometimes comes back to pick me up when i am done.

He blatantly refuses to change. My pastor dislikes him so much and sees him as a bad influence to me because he says anybody that is not of the spirit and with the spirit of God is a temptation to be cut loose. My Mom doesnt even want to hear anything about him until he renounces his atheism but she hasnt complained about him concerning anything else. My Dad has warned me not to bring a devil to his house hold and sees him as a Devil's incarnate and spritually unclean. He even promised to disown me if i ever call him my financee talkless of bringing home as a potential husband. Most of my female friends drool over him and tell me how lucky i am to meet such a good man while others warn me that he is demonic and i should stay away from him because he doesnt believe in God.

The thing is that he is very brilliant and intelligent and when you hear him speak sometimes he could be so mesmerizing when denouncing religion and the bible or Koran as mere propagandas and fictional works. There was even a day some people in my fellowship came to meet him to pray and convert him and it turned into a debate and he ended up winning the argument and making us question or faith back in a total reversal of roles. He is very unsparing and merciless when it comes to things of God, Bible or religion and makes no apologises for it. Apart from that, he is a total kitty cat. Calm, collected, mature, responsible and humble. 2 days ago he jokingly made a feeble attempt to propose to me but added a clause that we would only do a registry marriage and not church wedding because he cant stand the site of the hypocrisy of christianity and the church but he would go out of his way to make sure i have a memorable wedding @ the registry and reception. He tells me that prayers dont work and only daft and lazy people believe in prayers. He says you don't have to be a christian to be kind, compassionate and honest and to help people. He says its human nature and the society that dictates how we think and act and he chooses to be someone that is kind and honest to people and not attribute it to one God or Church. Anytime i come back from Church and talk about my pastor or what i was taught, he gets very angry. He doesnt like hearing anything about pastors, churches, tithes and sermons but when you get into a biblical argument with him, its as if he knows the bible inside out and the right quotes without even reading it. He is that articulate.

For the past 2 days i have been in a dilema now. He wants to marry me i believe and i love him seriously to bits. I have dated other so called born again or spiritually filled guys in my past that messed me up so badly and i know alot of men use this as a bait to catch women and end up showing their true colors later on. My boyfriend is not disguising who he is in terms of his spirituality but he is offering me this unconditional love which i have seen and no man has given me despite their promises. My only fear is that my parents will see me as an out cast, my friends dont like him for it, my pastor and church members loathe him for being an athiest and dislike more everyday i am with him. If i go ahead with my choice to stick with him, i lose my soul and my community but gain happiness because he has truely being a wonderful man so far but if i leave him for my friends, family and community i might lose my prince charming that every woman dreams of that loves me dearly.

I am really confused and i have to make a decision quickly. Please help advise me. Please no nasty comments too i beg you. Hope we can be civil with this.

P:S: I will be 30 in September.

maverickboy:
I greet you with the best of greetings: As-salam alaykum warahmotullah wabarakatuh. Your decision is crucial indeed, but since according to your words; you have made up your mind, I believe you have already overcome every other challenges. Having said that, you need to know that in reality, every challeges demand readiness and sacrifices. So, are you ready to face this one?

Incase you are ready to face it, what about the sacrifices - can you afford the sacrifices now?

I want to help in a little way I can, let's talk about your family. Shall we?

MaverickExcel1:
Never for once did I imagine that quitting my job will make me cry. About four weeks ago I quit form my job because of some irreconcilable differences I had with the organization.

It was a big shock to the organization because the resignation letter came impromptu. I don’t know if I was thinking that morning but I had to do what was on my mind that fateful morning.

Though, I had spoken with my best friend earlier that morning who discouraged me from quitting but my mind was made up already.

The next day I applied at another organization where my mother had told me there was vacancy. And after the rigorous test and oral interview, I emerged as the best candidate; in fact, I was given the position higher than the one I had applied for.

But…

When I was told the arduous terms and conditions that will qualify me as a staff, I almost threw up (not literally).

I went back home feeling so frustrated but this experience was not the one that made me cry. After, about two weeks, I was approached by a lady (my neighbor actually) to come work for her saying I was really smart.

Finally, my prayer has been answered, I thought to myself. On reaching there, I was told what shocked me to my teeth but I acted as if everything was ok.

The salary was ridiculous.

Another shock was when I was shown the work I’ll be doing (which I love anyway) but the amount of work compared to what she agreed to pay was unbelievable. After, the work that day I felt really stressed out.

When I got home I cried until my eyeballs yelled for mercy because it just occurred to me that where I was working before I was paid higher than what I’m about to be paid even with a lesser work.

The work in this present organization is three times more than what I am doing here.

Though I cried a lot and regretted over why I left the previous organization, I learnt really valuable lessons that I think will benefit a lot of entrepreneurs and employers out there.

Moral Lessons:

Always be contented:

It was my discontentment (oh Lord forgive me) that made me leave my former organization because I wanted more. Little did I know that I was actually in the best position.

Always be contented with what you have, no matter how trivial.

Be patient:

The patient dog always eat the fattest bone. Don’t be in a haste to achieve your dreams.

Stop complaining:

Never complain to others or feel overly agitated over your present condition. My agitation led to impatience which led to discontentment.

Appreciate your boss:

Always appreciate the ‘peanut’ your boss is giving you because he also has bills to pay. So, if you can’t work for him, start your own business.

Don’t be too quick to make decisions:

It’s always best to think over a matter over and over again before making a crucial decision. Think before you act but don’t act before you think.

I hope you have learnt from my mistake?

Experience is not always the best teacher because you won’t live long enough to make all the mistakes in the world.

Has this happened to you before? Share your experience with us. we love to hear from you.


http://maverickexcel.com/how-quitting-my-job-made-me-cry/

TheSonOfMark:

Love? Couples can be weird. One minute they are at each other's throat and the next they are coiled on a secluded couch. Crazy really.

Exactly why I do not take sides when lovers quarrel.

Of course she'd take him back. Maje is an _idiot but even _idiots need to be loved, don't they?




Perfect story with a 'novel-esque ending'. Just the way girls like it. I know you just said "awww". Wipe your tears.

ellahzy:
donJazzy's kids.

I love how decent Dija dresses.

misspresident:
she is beautiful. *but who cares*

SAMBARRY:

Oya drink cold water to cool YA temper

EfemenaXY:


Someone's angry.

MusingsOfALady:
I read a sob story online a few days ago. Well it’s actually a story that has been going round the internet for years but in different variations (with changing names and forms of course). It’s the story of how a married man was dating a single girl and lavishing money on her... bla bla bla and the wife prayed against the girl for 21 days or so and the girl was in an accident and lost all or went mad or died – or whatever variation of ending you will like to slot in here. And boy, do a lot of women love these stories! They click “Like” and "Share" on their Facebook wall immediately. Holy Ghost Fire!

Let me state categorically that adultery is wrong; it’s a sin, a betrayal of trust and no man or woman should be involved in it. So I am not about to defend husband snatching, no! Yet, I am writing to the many women stripping themselves naked at the stroke of midnight, raining curses on the other girl whom they say “snatched their husband” (Snatched? Is he a toy? 'cos toys get snatched but full grown men? Hmm…)


Before you send down thunder and fire, ask yourself: Would God punish the girl without punishing your husband? Would God be just to do that? If God is a just God, then the first person that prayer will likely land on, is your cheating husband. Okay, I know most of you won’t like this but it’s the truth. The other lady is not breaking any vow, she is committing a sin alright but she made no vow to you. The one who made a vow to you and is breaking it is your spouse.

Let’s be truthful, he is probably the one who initiated the affair (I said probably oh!) but surely, he agreed to it. He is the one bankrolling it, he is the one lying to you, deleting her texts, hiding behind your back to see her, probably telling her lies about you, buying her gifts instead of you, making her promises, sleeping with her, made a CHOICE to be with her… He! He!! He!!! The other woman owes you nothing "IF" she is a stranger to you. So cool down with the thunder and fire because you may just roast your hubby.


What if it’s Juju? Yeah, if it’s Juju, she will definitely get the fire and thunder but it’s not Juju 90% of the time, No, its indiscipline! The reason most women blame and curse "the other woman" is because they don’t want to face this reality or this truth. So what should you? Fold your arms? No!

1. Get your facts right and confront him calmly.
2. Get a commitment from him to break it off, he should get good pastoral/spiritual counsel.
3. He needs to get himself into an accountability relationship.
4. Check yourself. While you are not to blame for his straying eyes, you might have contributed. So check yourself, have you been unavailable, ignoring him, taking him for granted or something. Remember you pulled his strings, that’s why he married you, so, pull them again.
5. Pray for him for wisdom, strength and discipline to be faithful. Pray that every link between him and the other person be broken.
6. Pray for yourself as well.


If your husband can’t commit to being faithful then cursing other girls won’t work because even if the current girl or girls die, he will get another. Let’s stop trying to use God’s name for selfish reasons. God is a just God, if the girl who had an affair with your husband deserves death then so does your husband.

What are your thoughts?

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engrjacuzzi:
is your dad known? the way he just lied is obviously an issue to ponder on.

mykel231:
You're an idiot for refering to your dad as "this man"!On the other hand,he's angry because he believed in you so much and you let him down.It's very normal.He'll forgive you when you make him realize failing a course does not really make you a failure.Though,he's wrong for the comparison.Meanwhile,were you among those co habbiting while in school?That must've lead to your failure.

Welcome:
Serves dem ryt. shun malpractice.

Durentt:
I learnt first borns carry all the acenstral curses from their greatest grandfada's up to their father's and thats why they are less successful and most of dem run mad sometimes. #i wouldnt dare marry a first born