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missimelda01:
You better watch your dirty language on my thread, you feel attacked because you are a rape apologist.

My post was not meant to make any innocent person feel uneasy,

Madam take it easy na, you were the first to use a dirty language on your own thread by calling a fellow human like you an animal. By doing so, you forfeited any right to caution anyone doing same.

Secondly, @ the bolded. It does actually, cos you actually called what your contact said about needing evidence before conviction rubbish In your reply to him, when he's actually right. It show that you support sentencing a person without evidence, simply because he was accused of wrong doing.

And finally at your question about what he meant In the chat you bolded? He is actually lawfully correct, even In a rape case. Let me give you a typical example how.
A jugde can grant a accused person leniency (reduced jail time) during sentencing, when he or she has been proven guilty depending on the circumstances leading to the committed crime.
In a rape case, an example could be if both couples were under an influence (drugs, alcohol, medical condition etc), and the rapist (male or female), has had no previous record nor has displayed a behavior leading to such crime as rape, when normal & under no influence.

Another example, could be if the rapist was forced to do it, like say, if a gun were pointed to his head & told he or she would be killed unless the crime is committed, so the gun possessor passively commits the crime of rape for whatever reason eg revenge at the framed rapist or the raped .

The same can leniency can be granted even in murder depending on the circumstances leading to the crime, for example, murder committed as an act of self defense, which would then be regarded as man slaughter, which carries a lesser sentence.

So you see? OP, the guy you called an animal is actually correct.

But the example he gave trying to explain his point was incorrect. That is taking laws Into your own hands.

Don't always fight people who have a contrary opinion to yours OP, for in the end, yours could be the wrong one. If u can't accept a person's opinion, leave them, it is their opinion, it is their choice and they have a right to make that choice. Don't insult people any how for their opinion especially if they didn't insult you first.

Peace

For me, love is a feeling expressed by taking active responsibility for the happiness of the object of your love (lovee), and expecting nothing in return, but whose reward is the satisfaction or happiness felt from fulfilling such responsibility and the happiness of the lovee.

Love exists and is real and at a point in life, everyone has loved or will love, and has been or will be the object of another person's love (being loved).

The amount of responsibility a lover is willing to shoulder for his\her lovee is the depth of that persons love, the ultimate of which is death.

The reason why many people think true love doesn't exist, especially in romantic relationships, is because they cannot differentiate between commitment and love. They expect both to be together, but are often disappointed as this is not always so.
And another reason is that, many times, the love is not mutual.

Love is practically a feeling expressed in taking responsibility for someone's happiness, whereas, Commitment is a decision based majorly on self discipline, circumstances, goals etc, to be dedicated to a particular person or thing.

Why many relationships fail isnt because there wasn't Love, but a lack of commitment to the lovee and vice versa, and also, personality incompatibility.

My humble opinion.

Here's another

Funny thread..
Well here's mine.

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Ubunja's miseducation on 'that lil breakup she initiated for no reason' comes to mind.

Find this article op, enlighten ur feeble mind and advise urself.

Pls I need more information on this.

Thanks

EmmaNuella77:
Oga if she's a Jesus lover then she knows you're supposed to love her more..

Man - Love
Woman - submit

Id est

Man- Love more
Woman- love and submit

Who naturally loves more between a man and a woman? Without bias then you should know it's the woman. Love is naturally more expressed by a woman, love by a woman is boundless and defies logic, cos it's purely emotional for her.
But this is not so for most men. Love for men is a decision and not just based on emotions, and his expressions of love has limits.
Hence the commandment to love for men cos it doesn't come naturally to him, unlike taking lead in a home. A man has to decide to love.
Hence also the commandment for women to submit and not love. Love is natural for a woman, but she is commanded to submit to what comes naturally for a man, which is leadership. Two captains can't sail a boat.
Why am I saying this?
If a woman whose expressions of love that should be natural and boundless is less than a man love that is a decision for him & has a limit... That's recipe for doom....
Once that woman's love is tested by unfavorable circumstances, she moves... Her love isn't boundless, which isn't love from her in the first place.

Neddyogu:
Only this ur No3 alone contains 7 criteria. U sef no show say u get good heart naa

Lol..
A criteria could also be a group of qualities na. The op said criteria not qualities.

smiliyB:
they need just three and you have already stated the whole world as if you're near what you have up there

Hey, I don't need to be near what I wrote up there. I ain't perfect, but no one is. But then, I have a standard I look out for in a potential spouse, & I stated some of them up there. Ladies too are free to choose a standard for themselves.
If any lady meets mine (and I know there are cos i've seen them), and I meet hers, then we're good to go.

newdawn2017:
Y should she love u more than u love her?? Ur creator commands u to love ur wife, as urown flesh, yetu dis demonic wicked man with dark heart is commanding otherwise. Ladies beware here of dis man here

Why are you this bitter?... Na wa oh. I simply stated what I want in a future partner. If u don't agree, u could simply ignore or state why u don't agree.
Why the name calling?
Also, I didn't command any body to do anything did I?
Ladies beware? Lol... for your info, I have met ladies who met and surpassed my expectations for a potential spouse, and they can testify that am an equally amazing person too.
I have the right to choose what's best for myself self and my kids and I won't settle for less. Your opinion doesn't count.

1. Must have a good heart & be a Jesus lover
2. Must love me more than I love her & also be a virgin
3. Must be good looking, neat, smart, have great sense of humour, hard working, fun to be with & a great cook.

Have all these? Then it's Us against the world.

Won't settle for less

missimelda01:
Men have established the fact that they are polygamous in nature, so women are always trying to prove them right while telling themselves otherwise and that's why they end up hurt. For the men, they can't stand the thought of their woman being with another man, so they just don't bother themselves until the woman is caught. I hope I made sense sha, this topic is a confusing one

Yeah, you did, a lot of sense actually.
It appears you're not one of numerous ladies to shy away from the truth or avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

Cheers!

Stay safe!

missimelda01:
I'd definitely be sleeping on the same bed with my husband .. wait, you thought I was referring to boyfrien.. nahh, I don't have strength for that kind of thing.

Good for you.

But let me ask, why do ladies this days go into relationships, even marriages, with a side mission of wanting to catch their partners cheating, like it's makes them any happier? Hardly do ladies trust their partners this days, but expect the man to always trust them. Men hardly care about their partners cheating until they are actually caught, but this isn't so for ladies.

missimelda01:
Thank God for fingerprint, once I notice any strange behaviour, I'll do night vigil for your sake and make sure I satisfy my curiosity

That means you guys have to pass the night together on the same bed.
Lose - lose situation for you then

Yes, it's very possible to see behavioural traits of parents in their children. It could be genetically or environmentally inherited. Examples of such habits are temperaments, womanizing, stinginess, neatness or dirtiness, anger issues, smoking etc.

Kudos to NPF!

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There's no universal rule or formula to totally avoid romance in a relationship. It is part of what makes it a relationship in the first place.
However, there are things that could be done in limiting the chances of a romantic relationship being converted into a sexual relationship.
Such things would definitely easier if both partners are virgins, and have similar religious beliefs.
First is that both partners agree that it's a no sex relationship.
Second is both partners set a boundary to the kind of romance allowed in the relationship which would depend on their level of self discipline
Third is both partners should involved a mentor (pastor, parents, close relative, older respected married friend, etc.) To guide and monitor their relationship.
Forth is Both partners should Limit exposure to friends or media which share contrasting views on what they want in their relationship.
Finally, pray and work towards the marriage as quickly as possible to avoid stories that touch..

But if after all the precautions taken, konji still prevailed, you both should please note:

Use protection by all means and/or morning after pills.....e get why....

It's not the end of the world, we're humans afterall,

God is more interested in accepting back repentant sinners than condemning them, so ask his forgiveness and repent.

Accept responsibility for your actions, forgive yourselves, forgive each other.

Analyze the circumstances that led to sex in the first place, discuss them and try to avoid them.

Finally, most likely going to happen again and again after the first, so get married asap

My two Kobo

Stay safe!