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Emotionss:
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Some people are just deceiving themselves about being Redpilled. While in truth, they are nothing but glorified beta's.

A true Alpha /sigma sees himself as the price and not the other way round.

If you as a man is still trying to improve yourself just to impress and win women, then you are still a beta male.

very true

CaveAdullam:
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Thanks.

you're welcome man, and yes that write-up was from Rollo.

Zabiboy:
Anytime i hear people say the bolded, i just smile honestly.....Because i know if i ask you how i pay indirectly, you'll start mentioning the data i used in chatting, the airtime i used in calling and all that....
Ok man, i want to know how i pay indirectly. because
1) i can't give anybody (guy or girl ) t-fare to come visit me....Not even my own siblings..
2) Data? I wasnt chatting with myself....i did not also buy the data just to chat with one person...i use it for eveeyday stuffs
What else....I only call my parents, siblings and close nigga's....
So tell me bro...i honestly want to know how i'm paying indirectly...
I'm not saying this to attack you...if you mention something i'm doing and i see it as paying indirectly, I'll stop it right away....i despise transactional sex alot....
Thanks man

I have modified the initial post. pls read again, and you'll find the answer to your question.

emmaodet:
Rather than constantly putting myself on unnecessary pressure to perform and please a woman, i will rather pump and dump them thereby putting them on pressure to secure my commitment.
Bro,life is hard enough, don't let us add women's issues to it.
Most of my life, have always been in a position to impress others. Always trying to get their attentions, to be in their good book so as to receive praise from them.
From our parents, to trying to impress our teachers in school so that they will like us, to our pastors so that they will recognise us, all the way to our boss at work so that we will be in their good book, down to our gfs/wives/women so that they won't leave us or start considering other guys.
Enouuuughhh!!!!
I am fuuucking tired of trying to impress others. Who will impress me? Or is that a taboo? Am i not human too?
Ever since i realized that pattern, have made a reverse, a U-turn.
I don't impress my pastor again - he has been giving me cold shoulder lately because other members are falling over to buy him things, raise money to send his family on vacation etc
At work, i just do my thing. No more among workers trying their best to be boss boy - worst case scenario - you sack me or not promote me when due. Solution - i mind my business and alternative sources of income.
Women - i even enjoy there own more, ever since i stopped trying to impress them, i noticed there is this peace of mind, no more pressure to impress, i just do my thing. I f you like me fine, if not faasii. Even if you like me, na your problem. I just pump and dump.
Now all i hear is am arrogant, pompous, feeling to high or big, wetin i get sef, i qm stubborn etc i just don't care anymore. To hell with them all

I guess you didn't really understand the write-up, so let me clarify.
The idea about men's performance is the concept behind the phrase "women are born, while men are made".
A woman, simply by being born with a pair of boobs, a vagina, and a womb, already posseses most of what is required of her to survive and even thrive on earth.
Required by who? men.
Man is instinctively wired to provide, cater and protect any woman, if she can simply be available to satisfy his sexual cravings.
A female, simply by existing, already posseses an intrinsic sexual value.
All females posses sexual value; not to every man, but can be to any man. After puberty, a woman tries to package her self (make-up, push-up bra, plastic surgery etc.) to increase her sexual value. the higher her sexual value, the higher the resources she commands.
A man has to pay a certain price if he desires this sexual value. There's no free sex anywhere. you pay one way or the other, directly or indirectly.
A female easily transitions from being a child taken care of by her mother to a lady being taken care of by any man, simply because her existence commands it.
This is not so for a man.
A man has little, to no sexual value. he Posseses no intrinsic value.
He has to do something of value to someone or himself to be rewarded with resources to survive, because his value is extrinsic. He has to be useful to someone or at least, himself.
A man has to earn to survive. He gets little or nothing free. if he can't do anything valuable, he gets nothing.
A man's value is a function of what he can do, and the resources his skills commands.
A man who cannot do anything for himself to survive is a useless man. He has no value to anyone, including himself.
A male transitions from a boy to a man based on his capacity to do. A female transitions from a girl to a woman based on her sexual capacity, which comes at puberty.
A female has to be something to get something, but a male has to do something to get something.
A man having to do something to get something is what is meant by performance.
now, why and how a man performs to get the sexual value of a woman is what distinguishes an alpha from the beta.
An alpha performs solely for his best interest. He has to perform to well enough to afford what he wants and the freedom to do as he pleases. Women are not his goal for performance, they are side benefits as reward for his performance. women are attracted to a man's performance. It is based on his performance that he get options to choose from amongst women who desires him. No performance, no options; no options, no Alpha. An alpha doesn't pay any additional price for sex, his performance as an alpha is enough.
The beta performs to get women. women are the reason for his performance, hence he has to exchange his resources gotten from his performance to get a woman's sexual value.
This my friend, is the origin of simping.
Read the initial write-up again, and you'ld get the hang of it.

angelfallz:
Nice write up. But you are making a mistake by asking men to perform to be able to get women. That is not TRP. Men should perform simply for themselves, for their own well being, for their status in society, not because they want to get women.
Men performing for themselves would naturally get women, because women are attracted to such men, getting women is a by product of men performing for themselves, for their own well being etc.

So, don't perform with the idea that, "let me perform so that i can get women" don't perform with the mindset that the end result should be to get women that is not TRP.
Rather perform for yourself, perform to improve your lifestyle, perform to become one of the movers and shakers of society, the end result should be your own improvement, the by product is getting women.

I guess you didn't really understand the write-up, so let me clarify.
The idea about men's performance is the concept behind the phrase "women are born, while men are made".
A woman, simply by being born with a pair of boobs, a vagina, and a womb, already posseses most of what is required of her to survive and even thrive on earth.
Required by who? men.
Man is instinctively wired to provide, cater and protect any woman, if she can simply be available to satisfy his sexual cravings.
A female, simply by existing, already posseses an intrinsic sexual value.
All females posses sexual value; not to every man, but can be to any man. After puberty, a woman tries to package her self (make-up, push-up bra, plastic surgery etc.) to increase her sexual value. the higher her sexual value, the higher the resources she commands.

A man has to pay a certain price if he desires this sexual value. There's no free sex anywhere. you pay one way or the other, directly or indirectly.
A female easily transitions from being a child taken care of by her mother to a lady being taken care of by any man, simply because her existence commands it.
This is not so for a man.
A man has little, to no sexual value. he Posseses no intrinsic value.
He has to do something of value to someone or himself to be rewarded with resources to survive, because his value is extrinsic. He has to be useful to someone or at least, himself.
A man has to earn to survive. He gets little or nothing free. if he can't do anything valuable, he gets nothing.
A man's value is a function of what he can do, and the resources his skills commands.
A man who cannot do anything for himself to survive is a useless man. He has no value to anyone, including himself.
A male transitions from a boy to a man based on his capacity to do. A female transitions from a girl to a woman based on her capacity to be, to become sexually capable, which comes at puberty.
A female has to be something to get something, but a male has to do something to get something.
A man having to do something to get something is what is meant by performance.
A man's performance determines his value.

Now, why and how a man performs to get the sexual value of a woman is what distinguishes an alpha from the beta.

An alpha performs solely for his best interest. He has to perform to well enough to afford what he wants and the freedom to do as he pleases. Women are not his goal for performance, they are side benefits as reward for his performance. women are attracted to a man's performance. It is based on his performance that he get options to choose from amongst women who desires him. No performance, no options; no options, no Alpha. An alpha doesn't pay any additional price for sex, his performance as an alpha is enough.
The beta performs to get women. women are the reason for his performance, hence he has to exchange his resources gotten from his performance to get a woman's sexual value.
This my friend, is the origin of simping.

So as a man, you must perform. To become the Patriarch, the MGTOW, PUA, etc, you need performance.
Even
the beta male has to perform too. Simping requires resources, and he has to perform to get it.
A male who cannot perform is worse than a simp. he is entirely useless.

Read the initial write-up again, and you'ld get the hang of it.

CaveAdullam:
The future is happening now!

Sometimes ehn, I wonder if men at the helms of power think and ask themselves these questions.

why should special laws be made to protect women? are they more important or more human than other human beings who are guided by general laws? does having special laws for women not negate the gender neutrality of the constitution. Should a special ministry of women affair exist if the affairs of all human beings is taken care of by the constitution? should there be anything like women rights if all humans have the same rights based on the constitution?
Why should there exist various special social and human development programs and funds that are gender biased towards females, but non exclusive to males?

Martinez39s:
Notice how everything is centred around women and how they (politicians) want to mimic the western world in order "not to be left behind"; that's gynocentrism in motion. Also notice how they talked about "women protection"; this is a vague phrase that could mean almost anything thing disastrous to a man, especially those in a relationship or cohabitation with a woman: it could be an exact replica of the biased domestic violence laws in the west, the alimony/divorce laws in west, the common-law couple stuff, etc.

The sad thing is that if these laws are instituted now, marriages that were solemnized before the advent of these laws will be subjected to these laws during a divorce initiated after these laws were established. Ask many American men who got married in a traditional fashion before certain marital laws were established. That's one of the reasons I shake my head at those that want to marry in Nigeria: they don't know what the laws might be in ten years time. They are only thinking about now. E dey sweet them to born pikin and be the powerful and respected red-pill patriarch in a traditional setting... the pleasurable happily ever after of many.

There are many good reasons I don't want to get married. Even if most people don't share them, they should at least look at the legal bombs feminist are preparing for men who will walk down the aisle. Men, protect yourself.

Hard times create strong men; strong men create good times; good times create weak men; weak men create hard times. The cycle continues till humanity ceases to exist. We are currently in good times which created pathetic, weak men (simps, wimps, hopeless manginas) and they have created, via their complacency, disunity, and stupidity, a gynocentric world which is getting more gynocentric with time.

BLOODYSPERM

I understand your points, and I agree with most of them.
However, the idea of men avoiding marriage as a panacea against the annexation or incorporation of gynocentric laws in African states, I believe will only make matters worse.

Suggesting men avoid women altogether for sex and children, strips him of an instinctive desire for sex, and a group (family) where even the least of men in the commercial world would have the opportunity to exercise his instinct for leadership, a major trait of masculinity.
See bros, this thing is about instinct, and not really about "E dey sweet them to born pikin and be the powerful and respected red-pill patriarch in a traditional setting".
It is a man's biological imperative, and only few men have the will power to go against it.

Also, the children of most unmarried or irresponsible parents, especially single mothers, make up a very large source of feminized males and beta simps, as well as masculine ladies and whores, and it is this group of people who are the problem of intergender relationships and society.
It is this group who instigate, formulate, and propagate these gynocentric laws, when in position of power and influence.

Marriage itself is not the problem, the problem is the transfer of the regulatory authority of the institution of marriage from the individuals, families of couples and their cultural traditions, to the state, which started from the church.

If Marriage is strictly between couples and their families, Why should the state be involved in it? why does the state recognize marriages, and have to issue certificates for it? should the state have the powers to annul marriages and issue divorce certificates?
why should the state regulate my choice on the number of persons I choose to have a personal relationship with? (think bigamy).
If on the basis of protecting human or children rights the state has to interfere in a couples private matter, why is the interference from the lens of "gender" and not from "human" perspective?

Marriage should be regulated by the individual's, family and cultural preferences, and not state laws because it is a personal and cultural matter, and not state matter.

Gynocentric laws exist and will apply to marriages or relationship when people choose to give the state, authority over their personal decisions, through court marriage, because these laws are made by bitter masculine ladies for vengeful purposes, as well with feminized males, and beta simps influenced by cheap pus.sy and validation.
I understand, these gynocentric state laws have now been so modified by these guys that it now even applies to live-in couples who avoid official state recognized marriage in western countries.
However, gynocentric state laws don't apply to traditional marriages or personal relationships, at least not in African states or states with strong cultural marriage traditions like south american and asian states.

The problem is not marriage in itself, because the solution is not avoiding marriage, this will only make the problem worse.
The problem is designating marriage as a state function rather than an individual, family and cultural function, and we know the solution to this.

For aspiring patriarchs and religious guys who desire stable monogamous relationships with females, a little advice for you.

Females instinctively desire security (emotional, financial and physical), and are drawn or attracted to men who can or have shown capacity to provide this security to them.
This isn't a bad thing as they need this security in order to fulfill their biological imperative (to raise kids with the best genes, in the best possible way), so the human species doesn't go extinct.
However, when a female feels assured of this security, either by relationship, marriage, children etc., with time she becomes relaxed and then laxity sets in.
she no longer feels the need to compete with other females for her man's security. By compete I mean sexually, emotionally and physically.
She begins to dress for her comfort and not to appeal sexually, by tying wrapper at home, and dressing like a "married woman" outside.
Her hair do is no longer priority and it's done when she likes and is solely for her comfort.
Same with nails, and makeup.
Her hygiene and diet no longer matter, she eats whatever and however she likes. she gets fat and out of shape because her shape no longer matters. she isn't competing with anyone.
sex now becomes a luxury and not a necessity.
However, if this continues unchecked by her man for a while, the shit tests starts coming, and the man starts wondering how it came to this.
He asks himself what happened to the beautiful girl who made sure she was always at her best physically, sexually and emotionally early in the relationship or marriage, just to please him and have him seek no one else.
He no longer finds her sexy and now gets irritated by her presence. The relationship or marriage has becomes stale. Attraction has become repulsion.

The problem is you have given and assured her of her one true need: SECURITY.
Yes, the security that came with your commitment to her in a relationship, marriage, and children.
This problem is even worse for religious (christian) guys as the lady's assurance of security is further consolidated by her man's religious beliefs against cheating, divorce or polygamy.
ladies married to religious men generally look less appealing than ladies married to non religious men, because of this.

Dealing with this problem isn't a simple one as it requires high emotional intelligence and would be most effective at the early stage of any relationship with a lady, before marriage or children.
The first step is know that though you can provide a lady with security (financial, emotional and physical) that comes with your commitment, never assure her of it.
ladies unwittingly seek this assurance early in a relationship by consistently asking if a man loves them before and after sex, make him promise never to cheat on them, knowing his account balance and source of income, knowing his friends and family and becoming close to them, seeking his views about polygamy and religious beliefs etc.
Never give her a definite response whenever she asks these assurance questions. Never assure her of that security. always leave her guessing and always on her toes with your response.
covertly make her realize that you are the prize and let her observe that other ladies desire you. make her realize that she's always in a competition for your commitment.
covertly let her know that if she messes up or no longer meets your standards or gives you wahala, that you will not hesitate to dump her for better options, whether there's children or not. let her know you are open to polygamy, even if you don't intend to.
She will definitely whine and reel about your lack of assurance of your commitment, sometimes even threatening to quit the relationship. however, do not yield, it's a shit test. tell her she's free to go, that you can always get someone better, and guess what? she'd never leave.
your only assurance to any lady should be that she's not assured of your commitment.
why does this work?
Ladies hate competition, but want it.
they hate the thought of having to compete for the attention of a man, but relish it, and will gladly compete for a man if they find him high value enough.
no lady believes another lady is better than her in getting a man. They know if a lady looks more appealing than them physically, but they never want to believe it nonetheless.
loosing out on a man she considers high value to another woman is the most painful thing to a woman. it's makes her feel like a biological failure and a looser.
a lady would rather share a high value man than lose him totally to another woman.
Also, a lady having to compete with other ladies for her man gives her an indication she has made a good choice in securing a high value man (to fulfill her biological imperative), and his commitment to her makes her feel like a biological super human, that she's better than every other lady out there, and she's ready to do all she can to remain on top of the world.
A lady who is assured of the commitment of her man sees no need to compete with other ladies for it.
However, with time, she becomes bored and begins to wonder if she has made the best choice in a man, which instinctively prompts her to shit test him to prove his masculinity and self worth.
A lady who isn't assured of her man's commitment will always be at her best, always trying to prove to her man that she's worth his commitment and no one else, even after marriage or children.
No female wants to be a biological failure.
So why should you?

KevinDein:
Might sound a little controversial, I'm really not so keen on a highly educated/intellectual woman. I find them to be too argumentative just for the sake of it; always trying to prove some non-existent point. Give me a beautiful woman with just enough education to pass her points across when needed. When I want to discuss intellectual stuff, I'll do it at the bars with the boys or the manosphere such as this.

Controversial? Maybe but then, observe the traditional sit at home or house wife and then the intellectual career boss lady, and you'ld get my point. Might not apply to all but most.
It's just an observation BTW

A funny observation I've made.
Most ladies whom many may consider as intellectually dumb, the ones who go mute when topics about politics, tech, religion etc, are being discussed, but seem to come alive when things like relationships, sex, love movies, fashion etc are discussed, are not really dumb.
They are geniuses. Manipulative geniuses.
Their intellect is focusd on men, and how to get things from them.
However, they're more feminine than the seemingly intellectual ones.

Females are at their manipulative best when they become emotional.
They lie the most when they cry.
Behind those tears and histrionics, is a well thought out plan.
A female's emotions are not abstract. They are well calculated. They are emotional until they get what they want. There's a logic behind their display of emotions, which is;
To make you emotional too, so that you abandon logic and make decisions that will favour them.
Their logic may seem stupid to you, but guess what? It works most of the time.
From using tears as a little girl to get gifts or have their way with their dad, uncles, teachers, boyfriend, etc, to getting favourable decisions in the court of law, to even mothers getting things from their husbands and sons with this technique. It is an age long practice.
A man's tears doesn't have this same manipulative effect, and thus he sees no use of it. A man's tears flows from the purest springs of emotion.
A female cannot use emotional histrionics or tears to manipulate her fellow female because they know it's a farce. It's a game they're all aware of. A girl's tears will hardly move her mother, aunties, female teachers, or female judges. But they still publicly support each other against men because of their herd mentality, and loyalty to the sisterhood.
As a man, never abandon logic, to favor any female simply because of her display of histrionics or tears.
It is not chivalry but pure stupidity.
This is why simps at the helms of political, legislative or any platform of authority are the biggest threats to humanity.
They made the illogical femcentric laws we're reeling about today.
So guys Never forget:
Eyes wey dey cry still dey see road.

CaveAdullam:
AWALT: ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT. AND NAWALT: NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT.

A man will find peace with himself if he first understand himself before stepping his feet outside. Inculcating the knowledge of the redpill without this prior knowledge will lead to different obfuscation within himself and between society of which women are part of.

A man must perform whether he likes it or not. Women are not expected to perform because they lack the natural temerity to be highly creative and productive because their brains aren't wired as Men. For this reason, women and children are taken care of, while men are judge by what they can offer. A man that can't perform is a useless man! Performance here don't mean providing for wives and children, though, it is part of the puzzle. He must become valuable to himself and society at large. A man who society doesn't regard for his power, wealth, status, reputation, is a man not worth mentioning in the lips of any. He's a useless woman!

I have said it before, and I will gladly repeat;
As a man, you must perform!
To be successful, to get the girl, to live a good life, men must do. Whether it’s riding down the street to get that cute girl’s attention or to get a doctorate degree to ensure your personal success and your family’s future, Men must perform. Women’s arousal, attraction, desire and love are rooted in that conditional performance. The degree to which that performance meets or exceeds expectations is certainly subjective, and the ease with which you can perform is also an issue, but perform you must.
“In our contemporary world, women no longer seek out comfort or stability in men as they used to, they now seek entertainment. They seek distraction. They seek hedonistic pleasure. This is why provider men (beta males) are so hopelessly failing today to secure the commitment of beautiful women in their prime (they're seen as boring), and this is why even lesser alpha males loose their woman over time.
Once the entertainment or novelty you provide her declines—and it inevitably will—she moves on to something or someone else (she says 'you're no longer the man you used to be). In essence, the only way you can keep a girl is if you adopt the mentality of a soap opera writer, by adding a cliffhanger to the end of each episode that keeps a woman interested when being a good man no longer does.
Right about now I’m sure various male readers are thinking, “f*ck this, I’m gonna be who I am and any girl who can’t appreciate me for me is low quality anyway.” This will probably piss you off, but this is exactly the Blue Pill mentality most ‘just be yourself’ Betas adopt for themselves.
It’s actually a law of power to despise what you can’t have, and deductively it makes sense, but the fact still remains, as a man you will always be evaluated by your performance.
So even with a ‘f*ck it, I’ll just be me’ mindset you’re still being evaluated on how well ‘you are just you’.
Looks, talent, tangible benefits and other core prerequisites may change depending on the individual woman, but to be a man is to perform. Even if you’re a self-defined man going his own way who enjoys escorts to fulfill his sexual needs, you still need to perform in order to earn the money to enjoy them.
It Doesn’t Get Easier, You Get Better.
The concept of men’s idealistic love, the love that makes him the true romantic, begins with a want of freedom from his burden of performance. It’s not founded in an absolute like unconditional love, but rather a love that isn’t dependent upon his performing well enough to meet up with a woman’s Hypergamous concept of love.

For the religious guys interested in marriage or long term relationships, with religious ladies, please beware of the age long scam of their promise to fulfill all your sexual desires UNTIL after marriage. Especially the ones who claim to love you but totally avoid being sexual with you with the excuse that sex before marriage is sin. Do not fall for this seemingly upright but ultimately destructive scam, whether she's a virgin or not.

A woman's sexuality is more important than her religious beliefs when it comes to relationship & marriage.
Females are emotional beings as much as they're sexual beings, and religion doesn't change this.

A lady is a female first, before her religious beliefs.

Let me explain:

A lady who genuinely desires & is attracted to a man cannot help herself from being sexual with him, whether she's religious or not.
This genuine desire and attraction predisposes her to be in the feminine and automatically, sexual towards him.
They are incapable of controlling their lust for the man they desire, and desire, is an emotion, something felt and not intentional nor negotiated.

Have you ever wondered why sex with a lady in a highly emotional state (after a quarel, aka make up sex, or when she's excited, scared, sad and dejected, drunk, lonely etc.) is often very intense and pleasurable for her?

It's because Sex is directly proportional to a woman's emotions.

The more emotional she is, the more sexual she becomes.
The more logical or less emotional she Is, the less sexual she becomes.
The more emotionally expressive a lady is, the more sexually expressive she is (legends know this).

This is also why the easiest way to sleep with a lady is to make her Emotional.
Emotions opens up a woman sexually.
When her emotions are high, sex is not far away.

Females require emotions to enjoy sex.
And as such will seek an emotional connection with a man they're sexually attracted to.

Since desire is an emotion, and emotions opens up a woman sexually, a lady therefore can hardly control herself from being sexual with a man she genuinely desires because that desire makes her emotional, and emotions makes her sexual.

She could be a cold blooded nun to every other guy but burns hot for the man she's attracted to.
She may withhold sex for religious reasons but cannot control being sexual or romantic with him, and unless such a man can control himself, it's only a matter of time before sex happens.

Again, desire, my friends cannot be negotiated. If a lady doesn't desire you sexually, she simply doesn't, and therefore cannot attach to you emotionally.

There's always a level of emotional fulfilment and attachment in a lady when has sex with a man she sexually desires.
The strength of this attachment is strongest for the man who disvirgins her and the man who can give her earth shattering orgasms. They don't easily break up and forget this categories of men.
However, the more sexual partners a lady has had, the less the strength of this emotional attachment, and the less chance of her bonding emotionally with her next sexual partner.

A lady who is not attached to you emotionally is not a lady you want to get married to. Neither your money nor her religion can keep her loyal in such union.
This is the reason why most married women cheat, especially with their ex. They're still emotionally attached to that ex.

Moreover, sex with a lady who desires you sexually is at opposite ends to one which a lady does out of obligation.
The Former indulges her emotions, as well as her sexual fantasies, fetishes, and lustful desires, which easily takes her to the promised land (orgasm), and doesn't require stress from the man as only few minutes of penetration, or just caressing or touching her, or even just hearing his voice or seeing him, is enough to open her flood gates. It's how she feels emotionally about the guy that really matters.

The later, (obligational sex) is akin to prostitution and you go drill her hole taya before you see water, if you see at all, no matter the size of your drilling rig .
This is because it involves little to no emotions from her. She's doing it as her own duty in a business transaction. To get money or financial security from the man in return for the use of her coochie.

This is why the sex an olosho gives to a client is very different from the one she does with her boyfriend that she loves and is sexually attracted to.

For a female, sex borne out of desire (validational) is for her, to please herself, while sex due to obligation (transactional) is for the man, to please the man and get his resources in return.

Which one do you think you will enjoy more? The sex you beg or pay for and she agrees to so that peace will reign, while she barely partakes and simply lies down like a bag of beans as you pound away with a handy bottle of lubricant as drilling mud ,
or the one she looks forward to, begs you for and brings her A game so she can satisfy her sexual cravings with multiple orgasms?

The first is just like masturbating, but with a real person. The sex is like eating food to cure hunger but didn't savour the meal.

For the second, the pride, pleasure and satisfaction when a man cums after he has made the lady orgasm is on another level.
You feel like a king, the lady adores you and she feels like a Queen.
You satisfied your hunger, savoured the meal, and you look forward to the next meal.

If you are made to wait for sex, you will eventually discover that the sex was never worth the wait.
Because what you get at best after that wedding is obligatory sex, of which as soon as she gives birth to the first child, she fulfils only sparingly, because no woman really enjoys obligated sex, and that child is insurance of her financial security from you, while your obligation to provide as a man increases with each new birth.

Ever heard of women having sex time table for their husbands? This is the origin, obligation, void of desire. Desire can not be negotiated, it is spontaneous.

Moreover, since there's no emotional attachment involved in obligatory sex, the day you default on your own part of the deal (financial provision), or when she considers it insufficient, that is the day you lose your value and respect to her, including her loyalty to you.
She may not show it immediately, but with time, nagging, disrespect, disregard, sex deprivation and even cheating will creep into that marriage. she may even elope with your children sef.
Peace of mind will be very far from you, and your journey as a philosopher will be on full throttle . That is If she doesn't kill you so she can inherit your resources and go be with the man she really desires.

No man with a better past dies a simp.

So beware guys. If she demands that you must wait until after marriage for her to become sexual with you, abort mission.

Her marriage demand is not borne out of righteousness but rather a need for the security of your resources.
She's codedly offering sex in exchange for the resources that comes with your commitment.

Marrying such a lady is like marrying a prostitute, albeit a religious one, with you as the only customer, that is if she decides to be loyal to you.

Prostitution isn't about having multiple sexual partners, but wanting to be rewarded for sex. It is a mindset.

Marriage in itself, has little to do with love, it's all about resources. To make a man accountable for a woman and her offspring.
While this is necessary as a woman needs resources to properly cater for her offspring, a man don't need to be married to a lady to experience her love and sexual side.
That sexual side of her comes naturally when she meets a man she's genuinely attracted to.

Marriage doesn't automatically make a woman sexual towards you.

A lady who genuinely desires you won't even bring the idea of no sex without marriage to you, because
1) she would be so scared of loosing you to other ladies who wants you, especially when you're high value.
2) A lady has little to no control over her body for a man she sexually desires.
Only the man does. Only the man can determine whether sex will happen or not.

What she'd rather do if really serious about being chaste before marriage is to beg you not to take advantage of her sexually and help her keep herself whenever she's with you.
She knows she can't help it, and you only have to make the move for sex for it to happen.

Some ladies will even make the move for sex themselves, put their hope in you to resist, and will genuinely blame you when you fail to resist.

A lady who insists on a no sex before marriage most likely has other options, certainly doesn't desire you sexually, and definitely cannot attach to you emotionally.

A man who has to win a woman's affection, is already playing a lost game, and he'll pay dearly for it, when whatever won and sustained the woman's affection is no more.

A woman's affection, while very rare and priceless, comes free. It's a gift. Gifts are freely given, not bought.
However gifts are giving to those who are found worthy.

But here's the corollary;

No female proves her love for a man through sex or the promise of sex. The existence of prostitution should reveal this to you.

Sex to a lady is either for her pleasure, a service to be rendered for a price, a tool for manipulation, or a weapon for destruction.
If a lady is clever enough, all can be applied at the same time, to multiple men.

Sex is never a proof of love, neither is the offering of virginity.

Love is proven through giving and making sacrifices.
However, sexual attraction comes first, because while women can be sexually attracted to a man they don't love (their crush), they can only love a man they're sexually attracted to.

Marry a lady whose fertility is highly guaranteed (young virgin), can raise your children properly, can manage a home with the resources at both your disposal, and will be a useful companion, and not because marriage is the only way to have sex with her.

If a lady is not sexually into you, just forget about her other qualities and dey your lane.

Don't make the grave mistake many good men make by saying "she'd make a good wife cos she's a good person, and sex is not that important to me".

There's a big difference between a wife who finds you as her lover and a wife who only sees you as her husband and father of her children.
One makes a happy home irrespective of circumstances, and the other makes a peaceful home as long as you can provide.

Finally, A lady's personality and investments (financial, emotional,time, etc) in you is a better precision Instrument that should be used in your calculations to prove her worthiness for your commitment.

However, dealing with the female is a gamble. And while you can predict the odds of an outcome from your calculations to know where best to stake your commitment, nothing is guaranteed.

The only way a gambler is guaranteed not to lose is not to stake.

To be able to gain absolute control over your woman, and indeed any lady, isolate her from any group she belongs to, and make yourself her only source of attention and validation.

I'ld explain.

Have you observed that whenever a lady wants to have a man all to herself, & under her control, she gradually isolates him from any group he belongs to (family, friends, club etc), and makes sure he spends all his free time with her? This is usually done by her through her constant nagging about how the man is not always giving her enough attention or spending time with her and if present, kids.
Unwittingly, most men out of love or sense of responsibility, succumb to this and gradually withdraws from his relatives and friends, to focus his attention on the lady or his own family. This makes him isolated and makes the woman his only source of attention and therefore validation. From this isolation, the female predatory instinct is ignited, and with strategic opening and closing of her legs, manipulates the man to do all her bidding.
Applying this same process on any lady can yield mind blowing control over her. I'm talking from experience. Why?
Females instinctive herd mentality.
A woman is her group. Any group she finds herself in and she's comfortable with, and the group accepts her, invariably controls her and her decisions. Why? Cos they provide her with 2 basic needs.
Attention and validation.
A woman's group could be her man, friends, church, social media, family, etc.

Isolate and Strip a lady of attention and validation from any group she belongs to and be her only source of attention, and you can control her to do the unthinkable for you.

This is one secret of pimps who control ladies and you'ld wonder if he's using juju.

A necessary skill every redpill aware male should have is the ability to distinguish between green lights for purely sexual attraction and green lights for being chosen. Learn to differentiate between attention and affection.

How?

Attention only wants your d1ck & money.

Affection wants your d1ck, money and leadership.
She easily submits to you, to be in charge of her life, Even before sex. After sex, you literally own her.

4ckz:
Men please help me with this. So a good friend of mine, in his 28-29 years met this 33 year old lady.


After reading this thread I feel like I have made a mistake pushing a young vibrant guy to settle with an evening news paper, but then again I still think the lady is God sent at the same time.

Does this redpill apply to all women, because I seriously think there's bound to be exceptions

Yes, the redpill applies to all women, no exceptions.
The redpill are objective truths about reality, with particular emphasis on the female nature. However, what you choose to do with this knowledge depends on you, what you want, and the circumstances surrounding you.
For example, The red pill reveals that, females are at their sexual prime within the ages of 16 and 25. But then, the decision to date or marry a woman in her prime or post prime is entirely up to you, as both have their pros and cons. Successful relationships or marriages goes beyond sex and children.
Now, there's a plethora of reasons why a lady that desires marriage may be single, even at the age of 33 and beyond. She might have whored away her prime years while hypergamy made her wait for the highest bidder, until she crashed past the wall, and is now looking for a retirement plan or she might have been a good girl who is just plain unlucky with previous relationships, if any.
I personally know a single 33 yr old beautiful, intelligent, well behaved, working class Christian lady, and guess what? she's still a virgin. why is she single all this while? her smallish stature, shy introverted personality, as well as her insistence on no sex before marriage made potential suitors scarce for her. however, she is getting married next month sha.
My simple advice for your friend would be for him to thoroughly vet that lady from people who knew her at her prime years, and then make a decision from his findings.
She might be an angel to your friend but he has to discover if she's God sent or a fallen angel, before commitment.

[quote author=TheExclusive post=95076229]Great. I agree with you on your points.

However, Does this mean that marrying a virgin guarantees a baggage free and happily ever after marriage or LTR.

No, nothing is guaranteed when dealing with humans, especially females. But can be predictable.

There are virgins that have less desirable qualities.[/quote/]

Yes. Then go for virgins with your desired qualities. They abound everywhere. Don't lower your standards if they don't meet up.

TheExclusive:
What happens when you meet someone that has all the qualities but has been in a relationship that led to sex before. Are you going to use her past against her when she didn't know you then?

A female's sexual quality is her most important quality, and this quality is objective. Other qualities are subjective, and therefore secondary, but may be important.
Considering females with prior sexual experience, whether with just 1 person or with multiple partners, for marriage or LTR, are always complicated. Hence the reason guys just save themselves the stress and go for young virgins.
It's not about using her past against her, it's about whether you are ready to deal with the baggage that comes with a woman with previous sexual experience, which increases in direct proportion to the number of sexual partners.

The baggages includes but not limited to the following;
Dealing with Okafor's law
Comparing you with her ex, either sexually, financially, socially etc.
Dealing with loose vj, damaged womb resulting from previous abortion, etc.
Dealing with Hegemony
Etc.
You can confirm the weight of these baggages from married men who ignored the most important quality of a female. You see the stories everyday.
However, It's your choice, whose consequences you bear alone.

To be successful, to get the girl, to live a good life, men must do. Whether it’s riding down the street to get that cute girl’s attention or to get a doctorate degree to ensure your personal success and your future family’s, Men must perform. Women’s arousal, attraction, desire and love are rooted in that conditional performance. The degree to which that performance meets or exceeds expectations is certainly subjective, and the ease with which you can perform is also an issue, but perform you must.

“In our contemporary world, women no longer seek out comfort or stability in men as they used to — they seek entertainment. They seek distraction. They seek hedonistic pleasure. This is why provider men (beta males) are so hopelessly failing today to secure the commitment of beautiful women in their prime (they're seen as boring), and this is why even lesser alpha males loose their woman over time.
Once the entertainment or novelty you provide her declines—and it inevitably will—she moves on to something or someone else (she says 'you're no longer the man you used to be). In essence, the only way you can keep a girl is if you adopt the mentality of a soap opera writer, adding a cliffhanger to the end of each episode that keeps a woman interested when being a good man no longer does.”
Right about now I’m sure various male readers are thinking, “f*ck this, I’m gonna be who I am and any girl who can’t appreciate me for me is low quality
anyway.” This will probably piss you off, but this is exactly the Blue Pill mentality most ‘just be yourself’ Betas adopt for themselves.
It’s actually a law of power to despise what you can’t have, and deductively it makes sense, but the fact still remains, as a man you will always be evaluated by your performance.
So even with a ‘f*ck it, I’ll just be me’ mindset you’re still being evaluated on how well ‘you are just you’.
Looks, talent, tangible benefits and other core prerequisites may change depending on the individual woman, but to be a man is to perform. Even if you’re a self-defined man going his own way who enjoys escorts to fulfill his sexual needs, you still need to perform in order to earn the money to enjoy them.
It Doesn’t Get Easier, You Get Better.

The concept of men’s idealistic love, the love that makes him the true romantic, begins with a want of freedom from his burden of performance. It’s not founded in an absolute like unconditional love, but rather a love that isn’t dependent upon
his performing well enough to assuage a woman’s Hypergamous concept of love.

Rational male (preventive medicine).
Rollo is too Good

AreaFada2:
Oh actually Benin elite people spoke Potuguese pidgin until late 19th century.

How do you think a word like sabi or over sabi came into pidgin English? Why do you think Niger Delta still shape pidgin? Because pidgin European languages have a long history there.

Sabi comes from Portuguese sabir, which is "to know". From old Latin that today is Saber in Spanish, savoir in French and Sabere in Italian.

Many of us don't just speak pidgin in SS. The words were known to our ancestors hundreds of years back. Of course English later displaced Portuguese. Until 1918, end of First World War, Togo, and much of Cameroon spoke German as German colonies. French has since displaced German.

I write my epistle not for those who argue blindly but for reasonable people silently reading.

God bless you for this reply. Some people are very difficult to reason with. It's much more difficult to unlearn than it is to learn

oneeast3:
So why is it that the oldest colleges established by British in the old eastern region were all in Onitsha?

Oga, stop making simple things complex for yourself.
Common sense should tell you that Europeans can't enter Eastern Nigeria without first passing through the coastal areas of the niger delta. Abi are there ship ports in eastern Nigeria?
And it's not like the Europeans would just pass through the niger delta and head straight to igboland without relating first with the niger deltans.
Also for the mission schools in onitsha that u are basing ur flawed argument on, note that
The first Europeans to make contact with the southern part of Nigeria were traders not missionaries. Missionaries came long after slave trade was abolished. Go read up

Lessons I learnt at that early stage of my life are that:
1. Average Nigerian girlfriend are prostituting indirectly. They equate money to sex you both had.
It's not about Nigerian girls, its a general female instinct. Sex is their treasure. It's like currency. They rarely give it for free. It has to be exchanged for something else they treasure. Like money, time or attention, favor, commitment, societal validation, etc.
You only get free sex with game.

2. Helping a lady through school with the hope of marrying her most cases end in tears.
Never forfeit personal development in furtherance of that of any female. Hypergamy will ensure you brew premium tears.

Skepticus:
I co-sign.

Women have always been about their purpose and that's why they have more Reproductive Success [RS] than men which is all nature cares about in evolution and survival. Most men who are often ignorant of this fact throw themselves into this cognitive dissonance of "Women are always confused".

In her mind, the bîtch is laughing at his confusion.

Women always know what they want.
What most guys fail to realize is that, women want it all, at once if possible.
Best genes, best sex, best provisioning, the security of exclusivity of these three, and freedom from responsibility.
How they can achieve all these covertly is the origin of their famed mystery and confusion.

When dealing with females, avoid working with feelings, as They're unstable, volatile and unpredictable, because no law guides them.
Instead of making a female feel something for you, because you feel something for her, get her attracted to you.
Working with attraction guarantees a predictable outcome, as attraction is instinctive. They follow laws and have a predictable outcome.
Attraction is sustainable as long as you know how to manipulate the laws guiding them.

Learn these laws and how to manipulate them to be successful with women.

She's my Soul mate, she's the best for me, she's the one for me, she's my one and only, etc are all fallacies, as well as dangerous and limiting to what you can get out there.
There's always someone better or worse.
Females know this. Its hard wired in them.
They're not irrational or illogical beings. They're very logical with their emotions. They're emotional until they get what they want.
Don't mistake them as being emotional with logic.
They conceal intent and logic using emotions.
Their emotions are not abstract, they're well calculated.
When dealing females, work with their intentions not their actions, but figure out their intentions from their actions not their words.

GLYCOLYSISS
You need to calm down a little...if there are more pills at your disposal, share them.

See, the TRP movement, Game, and the manosphere in general wasn't created for alphas. it is meant for guys who need help in understanding a reality that is otherwise alien to them, & how to manipulate and maximize this reality to their personal benefits.
Manosphere forums are always bombarded with derailers, critics, arguments, insults etc. Because these guys are the intended audience.
Hospitals treats the sick not the healthy.
By exposing the realities of life in these forums, these guys learn to gradually, painfully but surely unplug from the matrix they've been deeply submerged into.
OP, continue the good work ok? If someone is bent on derailing or opposing this thread, it shows the pills are hitting the right spots where it hurts them most, cos where it hurts is where the medicine is needed.
Thing is;
Truths are often bitter pills to swallow, most especially the Red Pill.

In intergender relationships;

Most females learn from experience. However, an experienced female is already damaged (sexually and psychologically). The more experienced she is, the more damaged she is and the more baggage she carries. Any relationship with an experienced female, transfers the baggage and damages the male.
The best and most valuable female is the most inexperienced (no prior relationship, young virgin).

Most males learn from the experienced. However, many choose to ignore the need to, or they learn from the inexperienced or effeminate men(simps), because they are the majority of males and are readily available.
The experienced male is a scarce gem. The more experienced a male is in intergender relationships, the more valuable he is to a female. The most experienced male is the male
who values himself above any other human or thing (alpha males). His happiness and needs always come first, and are non negotiable.
The least valuable male is the most inexperienced (no prior relationship, young virgin).

missimelda01:
Benee1000 just look at what a person is saying, it's hard to ignore things like this you know.

Yeah, I know, but then, we have to realise that not everyone understands or see things the way we do.
It's a very thin blurry line & often intercrosses, when differentiating between seduction by physical arousal, sexually manipulative sex, and non-violent rape.
Many times only the victims of rape can know if he or she was raped or not & sometimes, people don't know if they're raping someone or not.
Many times, people experience “post-coital dysphoria”. PCD, is a condition marked by feelings of agitation, melancholy, anxiety or sadness after intercourse, even when it’s good, consensual sex. This is more commonly experienced by females than males, and females may often misunderstand it for being used, violated or even raped.
Also, most Nigerian ladies, like playing cat & mouse with men. They unnessarily like being chased by men for relationships and sex, even if they equally or even want it more sef, so they initially act like they're not interested in a relationship or sex with the chasing male before giving in. Many ladies believe this makes the men to value them and not see them as cheap.
This makes it hard for guys to differentiate when a lady is playing cat & mouse and when the lady actually not interested, as many guys believe that the only way to differentiate what from which is to persist.

So you see? This issue of rape is indeed a complex one. However, it's our responsibility to enlighten the people we can about the issue of rape.

I don try... Lol...
So I rest my case here.
Peace & Stay safe

missimelda01:
I should edit my post and add this for everyone to see.
What are you saying? You blame a girl for walking at night, which mean you blame Uwa for going to read at night. Guy this your illustration no follow at allllll.

I'm dating a guy and he rapes me, I'm supposed to take part of the blame for that too? Are you kidding me right now.. do you have sisters?? Damn.
Jullima I'm done with these guys.

Lol, I knew that guy's response would surely piss you.
He clearly misunderstood your question that he replied, and gave an answer that is offpoint.
But let me try to answer your question about where a rape victim can share the blame of a rape crime.
Do you remember a thread on this same romance section that asked people to share weird things their partners has asked them to do?
If you do, and you read through the pages of that thread, you must've read comments of people whom their partners asked them, and sometimes pleaded, for them to become violent, aggressive before or during sex, and some even said their partners asked them to rape them, because the requesting partner only enjoys violent or rape sex.

Personally, I've come across couples like that and they're happy that way.

But then, when the love goes sour and one of the couple decides to report that the other raped him or her, what do you do?
Do you solely blame the Raper when the said victim requested that him or her be raped?

your honest reply sould answer your question about when a lady can share the blame as a victim of rape.

In the end, there is no moral justification for rape. A rapist rapes because he or she made the choice to rape someone. Rape is a grievous crime irrespective of the circumstances leading to it and the rapist be punished accordingly if proven guilty.

missimelda01:
He's right because you say so?
Before I say another thing, please read the bolded in my post again, then read yours and tell me what is the relation. The man said 'if a girl has wronged him..', meaning the reason for rape can also be the girl's fault.. how's that a proper statement? And why shouldn't I attack anyone that supports that kind of thing.

His point is correct according to the law, not because I say so.

And Like I said earlier, he used the wrong example in trying to explain his point about hearing from both parties and providing substantial evidence before passing judgment.

No one said u shouldn't argue or 'attack' someone who shares a contrary opinion to yours, but when you do, do it from a logical perspective, bringing your facts, proof or ideas to the table to counter the opposing opinion, not being clouded by emotions and resulting to insult the person, or you could simply ignore them.

Jullima:
I never said a rape allegation must favour women, where did you get that?

I said rape victims should be heard, they mustn’t be shut down. If rape victims don’t feel safe to report rape, how then do we fight rape in Nigeria?

Let them be heard, do not call them liars without facts and encourage them to report to authorities. Let’s encourage the process to play out.

Well said.
I support your stance that rape victims should be heard. But then, who should hear them? Is social media the right place to accuse a person of rape? Moreso without any evidence to prove it?
Especially in this day and age where merely accusing a person of a crime especially rape already tarnishes the person's image as the accused is already seen as a rapist even if he may be innocent?
@ the bolded, You're saying people shouldn't call
Them liars without facts, but 'them' are free to accuse on social media without facts?

Truth be told, doing the right thing wrongly is'nt going to get us anywhere.