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For aspiring patriarchs who desire stable relationships with females, a little advice for you.

Females instinctively desire security (emotional, financial and physical), and are drawn or attracted to men who can or have shown capacity to provide this security to them.
This isn't a bad thing as they need this security in order to fulfill their biological imperative (to raise kids with the best genes, in the best possible way), so the human species doesn't go extinct.
However, when a female feels assured of this security, either by relationship, marriage, children etc., with time she becomes relaxed and then laxity sets in.
She no longer feels the need to compete with other females for her man's security. By compete I mean sexually, emotionally and physically.
She begins to dress for her comfort and not to appeal sexually, by tying wrapper at home, and dressing like a "married woman" outside.
Her hair do is no longer priority and it's done when she likes and is solely for her comfort.
Same with nails, and makeup.
Her hygiene and diet no longer matter, she eats whatever and however she likes. She gets fat and out of shape because her shape no longer matters. She isn't competing with anyone for a man, because she already has one.
Sex to her now becomes a luxury and not a necessity to secure her man.

However, if this continues unchecked by her man for a while, little by little, the shit tests starts coming.
Starting with daring her man, she begins to misbehave with little insults here and there and she then begins to do as she likes.

Then the man starts wondering, how did it came to this?
He asks himself, what happened to the beautiful girl who always made sure she was at her best physically, sexually and emotionally early in the relationship or marriage, just to please him and have him seek no one else?

He asks himself, What happened to this lady who was always on her best behavior to please him or not to offend him, and will quickly apologize if he was upset she did something bad?

Now, he no longer finds her sexy and appealing like he did before in the relationship, and now often gets irritated by her presence.
The relationship or marriage has becomes stale. Attraction has become repulsion.

He feels trapped with a woman he no longer feels attraction for because he feels restrained to cheat due to his religious beliefs.

If you are keenly observant, you will notice that ladies married to religious men generally look less appealing than ladies married to non religious men after being married for some years.

This is the problem many men are facing today in relationships and marriages, but don't know exactly what the problem is that made the woman change, and what to do about it.

The problem SECURITY.

You have given and assured her of her one true need: SECURITY.
The security of your commitment to her through a relationship, marriage, or children.

She no longer feels scared of loosing you to another woman.

A woman's fear of losing her man to another woman is what compels her to always be at her best in terms of behavior, physically, sexually and emotionally.

This same phenomenon is what we experience when we compare the staff of government institutions and staff of private establishments.
You can connect the dots.

Now, dealing with this problem isn't a simple matter as it requires high emotional intelligence and would be most effective at the early stage of any relationship with a lady, before marriage or before children.

The first step is to know that while you can provide a lady with the financial, emotional and physical security that comes with your commitment to her through a relationship or marriage, NEVER assure her of it.

Ladies unwittingly seek this assurance early in a relationship by consistently asking if a man loves them either before or after sex, or make him promise never to cheat on them, by trying to know his account balance and source of income, by knowing his friends and family and becoming close to them, by seeking his views about polygamy and his religious beliefs etc.

Never give her a definite response whenever she asks these assurance questions.
Never assure her of that security, but always leave her guessing and on her toes with your response.

Covertly make her realize that you are the prize and let her observe that other ladies desire you.
Covertly make her realize that she's always in a competition for your commitment and that if she messes up or no longer meets the standards you want in a woman or gives you wahala, that you will not hesitate to dump her for better options, whether there's children or not.

Also, let her know you are open to polygamy, even if you don't intend indulge in it.

She will definitely whine and reel about your lack of assurance of your commitment, sometimes even threatening to quit the relationship.

However, do not yield, it's a shit test.
Your only assurance to any lady should be that she's not assured of your commitment.

Tell her she's free to go, and that you can always get someone better than her, and guess what? she'd never leave and would always be at her best.

Why does this work?

Let me explain.

Ladies hate the thought of competing for the attention and commitment of a man, but will gladly compete for a man if they find him high value enough.
The feeling of having a man who other women desire makes a woman feel she's better than other women.
Also, a lady having to compete and win the competition with other ladies for her man gives her an indication she has made a good choice in securing a high value man (to fulfill her biological imperative), and his commitment to her makes her feel like a biological super human.

In addition, no lady believes another lady is better than her in getting a man.
They know if a lady looks more appealing than them physically, but they never want to believe it nonetheless.
Most ladies would rather share a high value man than totally lose him to another woman.

Loosing out on a man she considers high value to another woman is one of the most painful thing to a woman. It's makes her feel like a biological failure and a looser.

A lady who is assured of the commitment of her man sees no need to compete with other ladies for it.

However, with time, she becomes bored and begins to wonder if she has made the best choice in a man.
This instinctively prompts her to shit test him with increasingly progressive bad behavior to provoke him prove his masculinity and self worth.

A man passes this test if he's able to ignore her, withdraw his attention and commitment and tries to replace her with better women.

When the woman sees that other women desires her man and she's going to lose him to them, she becomes worried and begins to try to win his attention by being the best version of herself.

She unconsciously enters the competition to prove to the man that she's better than other women out there.
She instinctively now realizes that she still made a great choice in a man, because other women desire him and would easily replace her if given the chance.
She will try to be at her best, to prove to him that she's worth his commitment and no one else, even after marriage or children.

A lady who isn't assured of a high value man's commitment wouldn't dare to shit test him because she knows she could easily lose him and be replaced.

A man fails the test when he seems helpless about her bad behavior and begins to try to talk to her, and do things to please her, so she can return back to being the sweet girl she was.
This makes her feel she is the prize because you're trying to win her affection.
She begins to feel that she settled for less because other ladies aren't interested in him, and he doesn't have options.

Desire in a woman can't be negotiated, it can only be stimulated.

One of the ways to make a woman desire to be the best version of herself is to make her realize that other women also desire you and she could easily lose you to them if she misbehaves.

Build your relationship with a woman like a private establishment and watch her give you her best.

However, if you decide to build it like a government establishment with the assurance of job security, don't complain about her when she begins to misbehave.

A woman's actions are a reflection of her man's decisions, and she will always blame him for her actions.


Here's the link to another thread of mine that will help you if you want the best decision for a relationship

https://www.nairaland.com/7164615/costly-mistake-many-men-make

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slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
Damnnn


I just dey pray make I catch you one on one

Many things go happen that day sha

Hope you no go rapture the guy sha...

Skidee:
It's funny how someone will be in a corner of his room, thinking he has experience about how an uncountable number of a certain specie in the world operates.
Just because you have a whoring experience of the females around you, shouldn't be tantamount to the result of your vague hypothesis about a large number of women.

Bring your superior reason or hypothesis to disprove the write-up, rather than just disagree with it because you felt triggered by it.
You're triggered by the article because it exposed something about you that you know is true but you don't want to accept it.

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MrEar:
Wow. Anyway... I'll leave this thread in peace with this.

To the young gentlemen and boys that still visit this thread...

If you want to be a hardcore skillful flirt and womaniser who has the ability to pick up and sleep with girls at will without any feelings or strings attached, I strongly suggest you pay close attention to every single comment from Ubunja. His redpill, sorry, His pick up artistry skills are second to none. By all means, feel free to change yourself and your personality to become something you're not just for pussy if that's what makes you happy and good luck to you. I really mean that.

However, If you have no interest in being a womaniser, I strongly commend you and urge you to continue to maintain that mindset. Its not easy. When you are faced with sudden moments of temptations to bulala and deep down you don't really want to, remind yourself of the spiritual, financial and health benefits of keeping your urges in check. Don't allow anyone deceive you that you're missing out on something. Keep being your natural self. NEVER EVER change anything about yourself to impress any woman. They are insatiable beings. They lack contentment. Just when you think you have them figured out, satisfied and under your control, they morph, counter attack and you won't see it coming.

The Devil did not tempt adam because adam was principled and he had contentment. He had zero interest in being like God. He was satisfied with what he was...A MAN.

The devil tempted eve, with the idea of she being like God, because he saw an opportunity in her nature which was similar to his. She was not satisfied being a woman(feminism)...She wanted more (lack of contentment).

To Impress Eve, adam changed himself by ignoring just ONE of his core principles, OBEDIENCE. You all know what happened next. I'll end my irritating preaching and leave this thread in peace by repeating, NEVER EVER change anything about yourself to impress any woman.

Well said.

But I'll suggest you still stick around the thread tho. We learn everyday.
And to contribute too so others can learn.

LutherSanchez:
So there's this girl that's my in-laws relation. We usually see during Xmas period and she do say that i have pride as i no dey follow her talk,so one Xmas like that,she come gimme her number. She's one of the CLITOCURRENCY Dem. So last year December she got married to a guy,as i get her number for WhatsApp,it wasn't up to a month,i started seeing some funny status updates and I was wondering like how?? No be this girl wey marry last month be this To the extent i had to ask someone close to her wetin dey xup. She told me that the husband left for Lagos and she had to stay in Aba,and I was like NEWLY MARRIED COUPLE The girl started posting their (CLITOCURRENCY)usual pictures to the extent i had to mute her and in time block her on WhatsApp. Last week she chatted me up on Facebook,and said it's been a long time no see and no chat and in my mind, I was like wetin dey worry this wan,even when you never marry i no dey follow you talk,na now wey you don marry,na e i go follow you talk? I replied her normally,she con like try dey ask whether i still get pride like before abi I don change,i told her anything you wan call am,call am. Fast forward today I went to my sister's house and she was telling me that her marriage didn't work,that her husband was a ritualist blah blah blah,so i was like even that girl sef no normal man wey dey well to do and wey get sense go wan marry that girl keep for house say the girl dey wayward,i con dey tell her say even wetin the girl been dey post after she marry sef,no be wetin married woman suppose dey post. Say na only person wey wan use am do yeye go fit marry am,say no reasonable man go fit marry that kind of girl. She con say as i take reason am no be so another man go take reason am,say after all na she say she no marry again no be the guy say he no marry her again. I just replied her like this,"YOU BE WOMAN AND YOU GO PROTECT AM TOO BECAUSE SHE BE WOMAN,EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW SAY HER CHARACTER AND BEHAVIOR DEY WAYWARD" She con dey ask me wetin i mean by that i just told her to leave the matter that am going home. I just leave her comot.


WOMAN GO ALWAYS PROTECT WOMAN AS LONG AS MAN MATTER DEY INVOLVED,KNOW THAT AND KNOW PEACE.

Anytime a woman you know tries to defend or support another badly behaved woman, don't argue with them. Just tell them that their sons and her unmarried brothers will marry such women. And watch them receive Sense immediately.

Rosement:
This is just your opinion, it is not the fact. How do you think? How can you compare a person's belief to a short moment of pleasure?

It is just my opinion? No wahala.

Just Kindly share this article to 5 or 10 random guys around you and ask them their opinions about it.

Where in the article did I compare a person's belief to pleasure?

I really don't expect most women to understand the message of the article tho. Even Men hardly understand the logic of emotions.
So if you didn't understand it or don't agree with it, that's fine. I understand.

However, those who resonate with the article will understand its message,
and use it to make better decisions for their future.

Fortune118005:
I am a novice when it comes to human relationship!
Please what is green light?

The subtle signs a lady displays to let you know that she likes you.

They're many. Check Google.

Fortune118005:
OK, thanks
How can I approach a woman I like and I discovered she likes me too but doesn't want to show it out for others to see?

If you're sure about her green lights, then simply approach her, and schedule a time and private place you guys can meet to discuss. Don't go to a restaurant or cinema.
If she looks forward to it, then she's really interested in you.

In the private place, you guys should try settling down for few minutes with some petty chat about irrelevant things ,
(make sure to maintain a confident eye contact while chatting with her. Very important).

After then go straight to the point of the meeting by telling her that you find her attractive and you'd want to hear from her if she feels the same about you (still maintaining the eye contact).
Don't suggest anything relationship.

She's most likely to give you an immediate affirmative response about how she also likes you too.
And if she does, tell her congratulations and that you hope you won't find her boring, or give you stress, if not another lady is going to take her place .
This puts in her subconscious the notion that she's always in a competition for you. This would make her try to become whatever you want her to be so you don't see her as boring.

However, If she tries to beat around the bush and refuses to give you a definite positive response, but no negative response, don't push it. Don't insist, don't persist.
Just tactfully switch the subject of discussion to something else, maybe something you guys were chatting about earlier, and find a way to end the meeting so you guys can go home.

Don't even try to bring up the discussion again or later chat her about it. Don't initiate any contact with her after you've confirmed she's home safely. Try as much as possible to ignore her if you guys are in the same space and focus on other people or things.

If she really wants you, she'd start trying to get your attention back, or even toast you sef. You'll be the one now doing shakara.
Then tell her you'd only accept her on the condition that she's not going to be boring, or else, another lady is going to take her place.

But if she gives an immediate negative response to your inquiry about how she feels about you, just do the bolded above, and forget about anything serious with her, even if she tries coming back to you.
She just wants to secure you as an option or she misses your attention.

Fortune118005:
Wow
Deep very deep
I have a question. Hhmm
How can you know a woman that is genuinely attracted to you after you have become attractive to her?
What will be her actions?
Please summarize
Thanks

The answer to your question is in the article.

Love is proven through giving and making sacrifices.

No matter how broke or poor a woman is, if she loves you, she will willingly spend on and make sacrifices for you, no matter how rich you are.

No matter how broke or poor a man is, if she doesn't love you, she will hardly spend on you and will always look for ways to make you spend on her, no matter how rich she is.

Attention wants to take from you, while affection wants to give to you.

Sexual Desire is not a prove of love, Spending her hard earned money on you is.

A woman can sleep with any man she finds attractive or for money, but she can only spend on one man, the man she loves.

But sexual attraction must come first because a woman can only love a man she's sexually attracted to.

JESHAL:
RUBBISH

Baba will simp hard and will become a wallet to women, I don't know what is wrong with our generation of men, this is not America where there is infrastructure, you are not Bezos, You don't have leverage like Davido with a rich family or Dangote, masculinity is not just making fast money, I don't understand whether at all you guys are learning from the redpill, don't you understand sexual market values of both gender, men prime years require time, I'm sure he wants to make money to be attractive to hoes, he's a stupeid boy


If he was my son I would have cursed him, chasing excellence without any real life experience only to fulfill a hoes mating strategy

TUEHHHHHH

I laughed real hard reading this.

What these boys are chasing ain't even excellence cos excellence requires time and experience and discipline.

They're chasing success.
They will learn the hard way.
Since they don't want to take the redpill voluntarily, women will give it to them by force.
Women will always be women.

If you're a young chap still trying to figure out life, learn to grow not jump.
Your biggest asset is time. Use it to grow with the right knowledge and discipline.

Knowledge is power, money is only an illusion of it.
Don't Chase success.
Rather chase excellence, and success will chase you.

iLegendd:
I was reading this and saying to myself, "Who is this mad man that entered my brain and stole my content?"

You nailed it. I rank it 20/10. Ten extra points for being so simplified. Topnotch. First class content. In fact, you can turn this to a small book and make money with it. Keep it up.

I did not enter your brain and steal its contents oh, although I wish I could

Thanks for the ranking and encouraging words.

kingviny:
The submission to man that was advocated in the Bible is actually selfless service and not submission in the slavish sense.

Selfless service is absolute giving of one's totality without expecting anything in return and this is the antidote to materialism plaguing not just women but men too.

It is this age of liberty powered by Lucifer that has caused this decline.

Crazy hot sex is different from deep, fulfilling and rewarding love making.

The women you described above, unfortunately in the majority only feel lustfully fulfiled after such crazy hot sex rounds. This they mistake for love. Attraction or orgasm is not love.

Love is selfless, love is life!

When a genuine woman has selflessly been there for a man, after off course intuitively choosing the right man, when they make love, it is always magical! The radiation exchange is very complementary , the man strives to satisfy her and vice versa ... the energy influx sets them aglow and together , they both become invisible no matter the external challenges that life throws on their path. Even if there is shortcoming in performance from one person, they would both lovingly work it out.

Let's educate our women to do the right thing.

First they must recognise their role (selfless service) , secondly, they must know what is keeping them from fulfilling this role (materialism) and lastly, they should know that they are not helpless, they are not built that way. It is wrong programming . With the right knowledge and self discipline, this can be corrected.

It is for their own good.

I am not a religious juggernaut, but if you read my submission deeply which is borne from primordial knowledge, you would eventually come to appreciate my point of view.

You have painted a picture perfect reality of what has been obtainable hitherto, but I am painting the picture of how it should be.

Alright.
Cheers!

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Maverick777:
How such a post didn't make frontpage is just beyond me!
OP, pls send me your bitcoin wallet ASAP.

Wow! Thanks. But I'm sorry I don't have a Bitcoin wallet.

However, if you want to show an appreciation for my post, I will message you on a dead thread my details.
Thanks

[quote author=kingviny][/quote]

However, what I feel you are advocating is for men to be more materialistic to be able to win over their cherished trophies, in this case ... Ladies.

Pls try and reread my responses to your questions, especially the one above to really understand what I mean.
The opposite of what you said above is what I tried to explain to you.

But the Intuitive woman can see beyond these. She can see the core of her suitor. She can smell a scammer and a saint . She can see his future . And as a gift from God, she would chose and mould the man to fulfill his destiny while also attracting and birthing noble children for him.

What you said above is true, particularly of godly women, but this is when she's thinking about marriage.
Marriage for women is a logical decision mostly based on the man's financial and social prospect and his character or morality.
This is why they marry good men who are ready but will sleep around with who they're sexually attracted to if they're not sexually disciplined.

When it comes to who she's sexually attracted to, it is a totally different story, because it is mainly physical and not financial or moral.

It is then that the man's physical value shines . No man is ugly or poor if he is healthy and hardworking. All he needs is a good woman who can pray him to success , feed him to stupor lol, give him peace and great love making and that's all a man needs to ignite the zeal in him to love

The thing you wrote above is the exact mistake the article tries to warn men about.

Sexual attraction from the woman should come first, before her other good qualities are considered.
If not, that phrase I bolded above will be a mirage. Especially if the man later faces financial difficulties.

Maybe you're thinking that because a lady is a good godly woman, she would continue having sex with a man she had no sexual attraction for after childbirth or when that man can no longer or sufficiently provide because she's married to him, then you have no idea what many men are silently enduring in their marriages.

Godly women are first females, before their religious beliefs.

[quote author=kingviny][/quote]

But do you not think you are stereotyping women, do they all fall into your assertions?

The word stereotype just means characterization based on observed traits or features.
There's nothing wrong in stereotyping women if an overwhelming majority of them display the same features or traits that defines the stereotype.
Yes, there might be exceptions, but exceptions are proof that a pattern or rule exist, which the majority follow.
This is how scientific or social theories are made. There's hardly any theory based on the absolute whole, but rather on absolute majority.
Many People associate words like stereotype, sexism, etc with negative meanings, because they focus on the exceptions, and they expect that if the absolute whole don't follow a pattern due to exceptions, then the pattern does not exist or is not true.
They're just trying to deny a reality determined by careful observation. However, experience is an excellent but cold hearted teacher.

Why do some ladies still stick to men who don't make them feel good... Yet, they would still say they love him bla bla bla?

Sex, especially good sex, can get women emotionally attached to men. Especially men that disvirgined them and men she's sexually attracted to.
It has to do with an hormone called oxytocin, released during sex. You can Google about it.

Also, for financial benefits.

In my opinion, you have just described a materialistic woman. Is family and society not also responsible for turning our women into this? Poverty playing a big role.

Every woman is materialistic by default. It takes some level of self discipline, training and restrictions for them to control it, because It is a natural instinct.
Every woman wants good things, how far each is willing to go to get it, is what differentiates them.

Family, religion, culture and society, are the institutions that restrict women in how far they can go in getting these good things.

However, civilization and individualism have weakened these institutions, and given women too much freedom, which is why a lot of women have gone haywire in their desire and quest for good things, which they mostly get from men through sex.

It's not about poverty, because even rich women still prostitute themselves, neither do the poor ones stop desiring for more after getting these material things.
It is a natural instinct.

I want to believe that Genuine women are still out there. They might be few, but they are out there. And he who finds such, is indeed Fortune for he would definitely obtain favour from the Lord. The materialists cannot channel the blessings purely.

Any woman can have genuine feelings for a man. He just has to be naturally chosen by her. What made her have genuine feelings for that man is anyone's guess.
A woman could be excessively materialistic, badly behaved, uncouth, lazy, etc to other men, but for that man she has genuine feelings for, she can become everything that man wants her to be.

A man who can find a woman that has genuine feelings for him is considered lucky. This is what the Bible meant by saying he that finds a wife hath found a good thing and obtains favor...Prov 18: 22.

Note the Bible didn't say he that marries a woman, because it is not marriage that makes a woman a wife .
Otherwise, finding a wife would've meant that men should look for women that are already married, if marriage is what makes a woman a wife.

It is a woman's genuine desire for a man that makes her a wife to him, because she can do anything to make that man happy and his life easy.
This is what the Bible describes as help meet.
A woman with genuine desire for a man automatically becomes a help meet (wife) to him without marriage.
Marriage is what makes her his wife.

Having someone that makes your life easy is what the Bible mean as a good thing,

Also notice that the word 'obtain' in that passage is used as an immediate past tense and not a future tense.

Obtained - past tense
Obtains - immediate past tense
Obtain - present tense
Obtaining - present continuous tense
Will-obtain - future tense

It therefore means that a man is already favored by God just by finding a wife (woman with genuine desire for him), because it's rare, and not that he will receive favor because he married a woman.

This is one of the most misinterpreted passage of the Bible to make men jump into marriage because they want to receive favor from God.

Men need to learn to find a wife to marry and not marry a woman to make her a wife.
It is not just good character that makes a woman a wife material, it starts with genuine sexual attraction.

We really need to work on our women for if we get this right, we would get our family and society right.

True but I believe the main work should be on educating our young men, to make the right choices.
Men are the ones who create the systems. Women just simply fit in and leverage it for their own benefits.
Men are the ones who reduced their standard for women eligibility for marriage from godly virgins, to sluts, then to prostitutes, then to single mothers, and now to divorced feminists.
Women simply took advantage by eating their cake and having it, while their standard for men have largely remained the same, 'marrying only men who can provide'.

kingviny:
Excellent write-up OP, you deserve a Nobel laureate in womanology lol.

But I have some questions for you.

Thanks for your kind words.

These are some really good questions.
I'll try to answer the best way I can.

1. How can a financially struggling but promising young man package himself to be of "high value" when he has no means of doing so?

The term 'high value' is very subjective.

However, Women interpret it from 3 different angles which are, physical, financial and social.

Any man who is very endowed in all three of the above stated angles, with respect to other men in the same environment, will be seen as the highest value male to women in that same environment.

However, when it comes to pure sexual attraction, for women, it is mainly connected to the physical attributes of a man. That is, how fit and sexy he looks, and how he carries himself.

When it comes to marriage, for women, it is mainly about a man's social class and financial capacity, or the prospect of achievement of these two.

A whole lot of things can be written to explain how a man can make himself high value to women but here's what I usually advice men;

There's no need to worry yourself about how and why a woman finds you high value.
Just try to be the best version of yourself and be happy.
No matter how you are as a man, there's always a lady or ladies around you somewhere somehow who genuinely likes you and will find you high value to her.
These are the ladies you should look out for.
Why they find you sexually attractive is anyone's guess, and I doubt such ladies would even know why, but it's usually more about your physical attributes which they somehow find appealing to them, and this varies greatly among women.
There's no need to live a fake life or live beyond your financial means to become attractive to women.
If the women showing you greenlight are not your spec, then invest in and upgrade yourself physically and socially. This will broaden the pool of women who will find you attractive.
More money only attracts more prostitutes to you, and will make finding women with genuine desire for you more difficult.

2. Most men of integrity and honesty are termed boring and un-romantic by most ladies , how can this be reversed so that the good guys would not be missing out on their desires when it is time to settle down.

Unfortunately, this cannot be reversed as women will always be women. They're creatures of emotion and will always respond to whatever triggers that emotion. They don't follow reason or logic like men.

The phenomenon of good and bad is based on logic for men, but for women, it's based on how she feels.
If something makes her feel good, then it's right, even if it's logically wrong. if something makes her feel bad, then it's wrong, even if it's logically right.

Women, like children, always want to feel excited, happy and loved, without the burden of being responsible for the provision of such happy feelings, and will easily follow any man who can provide such for them irrespective of his morality, honesty or integrity.

So, Instead of banking on women to be logical and follow good men because they're good, good men should learn to be and do those things which women are naturally drawn to, and the women will respond accordingly.

Women are loyal to their emotions and not men, whether he's good or bad.
Only Very few women can understand the logic of good and bad. Don put your hopes in finding one.

Instead, If you know that women like exciting men, then be an exciting man, and they will follow you whether you're good or bad.
If women like confident men, then be a confident man.
If women like sexy men, then be a sexy man.
If women like men that are good in bed, then be that man.
Don't rely on them to make logically or morally right decisions. They're only loyal to emotions and will follow who can trigger them.
Good men should Learn to trigger them.

Knowing about female nature and what they respond to is a necessity for men.
The art of doing and saying things to make a woman respond in a particular way is a skill all men should learn.
Men who are called players are just men who are naturally skillful in stimulating certain emotions in women, and apply it to multiple women, for their selfish reasons.
Women may hate players but can't resist them because they're loyal to their emotions, and these players know how to trigger them.

Women know if a man is lying to them, or deceiving them. They can smell lies far better than men, because they're expert liars themselves, but they don't mind mind and would play along, as long as what that man is saying to them makes them feel good or happy.
Women would hate the truth if it makes them feel bad, and would love being lied to if makes them feel good or happy.

Here's an example of female nature and how leverage it, for good guys that are unaware.

Female nature:
Women are like children, only just sexually aware, and more manipulative. They respond to emotional triggers the same way.
To handle women, treat them like children.

Interpretation:
Children are naturally attracted to or like people who play with them, buy them gifts, and easily open up to people who are non judgemental and friendly.
However, play with them too much and they get too comfortable around you, your presence starts to loose value to them, starts feeling entitled to your gifts and demand for them, and may start disrespecting you.
Withdraw your attention and gifts from these children and give to their friends, and they'd start getting jealous and try to come around you to win you back, will be willing to be of good behavior and do anything you want them to do just so they don't miss out on your attention and gifts.

Leverage (application on women)

Be friendly, provide fun, be non-judgemental to women, and occasionally get them surprise gifts, and they'd naturally find you interesting, start liking you, start coming around you to play with them, and be comfortable around you.
if you're physically ok, they may start getting sexually attracted to you.
Just like children, they don't really care if you are good or bad, as long as they're happy and comfortable around you.

But Suddenly withdraw your attention from them and give to other ladies around them especially their friends, and like children, they'd start getting jealous, start chasing you to regain your attention and would be willing to do anything to get you back, even with sex.

Things like honesty or integrity which doesn't matter to children in determining whether to like a person or not, don't also matter to women.

Also, marriage doesn't stop women from being women (children at heart). It only makes them older children who takes care of their younger children after childbirth.

3. Are there some ladies who can invest their money and time into a man just for joint business purposes and not love that man emotionally?

Yes, although not common.

4. Is it wise for ladies to love based on feeling mainly? Pls advise them appropriately.

A Woman's love is based solely on feelings. You can't advise a woman on who to fall in love with.
Desire is spontaneous, not negotiated.

RealistRedpiler:
This is my 5th time of reading this.
Who can assist me on how to convert this to pdf and share it to most men.

Lol... And some people are finding it difficult to read till the end even if just once.

Concerning your request, You could just copy and paste it on any word editing software and convert to PDF from there.

omolasho:
Your article is great and very enlightening. However, sex before marriage is ungodly and it's a sin against the souls they that commit it and a disobedience to God's commandment.

This where our generation consistently get it wrong and lo the lack of trust, Lust, sexual perversion, paternity frauds, turbulence in marriage, separation, divorce, divorced kids, etc. It's spiritual, you can't understand it by the soundest worldly enlightenment.

Thanks for the your kind words.

Pls you can try to edit your post to remove the article you quoted and leave just your post.


Concerning the bolded, if you read between the lines, you'd notice the article doesn't promote premarital sex, but rather, promotes chaste relationships by advising young men to marry virgins and explaining its advantages.

Remember, sexual attraction is not the same thing as sex. Sex before marriage is the sin, not sexual attraction.

The main point of the article is that the burden of wanting and keeping a chaste relationship should be on the man rather than the woman because if the woman is genuinely sexually attracted to the man, she will find it very difficult to control her desire for sex with him.

Men have better emotional control then women and should be the ones to demand and keep a relationship chaste.

Women who insist on no sexual relations with a man they claim to love are simply not sexually attracted to him and want that man for something else, which I explained the consequences if a man ignores it.

But unfortunately so many men today lack sexual discipline and place this burden on women, which is why there's so much sexual perversion in the world today.

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Kipaji:
I've read your post about how men approach marriage. That's a great write-up! Kudos.

Thanks

Here's a link to the article for those who are interested.

https://www.nairaland.com/7164615/costly-mistake-many-men-make

Cheasystickylov:
Hi. This is powerful. Please can we talk briefly ?
Thanks

I'm yet to receive your mail sir.

You can reach me on other mail

benartwork8@gmail.com

Thanks

tosaino95:
FVCK THE SIMPS

The okada rider sef no try...

He should've used that woman to upgrade himself before he got busted.

[quote author=opeyy post=114584184][/quote]It seems you didn't read the background article to understand where I'm coming from.

This article wasn't about a wife denying her husband sex because they have issues that needs to be resolved which she isn't comfortable with.
In this case, if the woman's concerns are reasonable, then it should be addressed by the man, because a woman has to be unburdened or unworried for her to desire and enjoy sex.

This article however, was to explain how a man could get his wife to desire him for sex because she didn't find him attractive in the first place and only married him for financial or social reasons.

In this case, there's nothing making her not desire sex with her husband, just lack of attraction.

KiingShay:
You deserve an award for this thread, it's a MASTERPIECE!!!

Thanks

Mcslize:
Op you've done a great job. What an insightful read! Your write up is filled with lots of hidden insights that only those with unfathomable wisdom will discern.

cc: Benee1000

Thanks for the kind words.

Smartb0y:
You can never know who you're involved with until after the day of your marriage.
There's no smartness to it my man.
I'll stop there

To a very large extent, a man can know the type of woman he is involved with before marriage, and there are many ways to know this.
This is the purpose of the redpill in the first place, revealing female nature.

The thing is, most men don't know what to look out for in a woman they want to marry to qualify her, and a lot of the few who happen to know ignore red flags because of emotions.

There's smartness to dating and marriage bro. You just have to be logical about it.

CAPSLOCKED:
"bELiEvE aLL wOmEn. iF sHe sAyS iT HaPpeNed, tHen it HaPPeNED. WHaT iF iT wERe YoUr OwN MoThEr/SiSteR?"

Lol .. hell hath no fury like a woman scorned