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Lightway:
Mumu spotted

If you can't come up with a logical argument, but rather throw insults at people, it shows your level of maturity as no better than an uncouth woman.

Grow up

ubunja:
if it's a happy family moment you seek, then taking your family out to dinner is 10 X more joyful for any wife than you actually cooking.

There's really no point debating which is more joyful to any wife as it's different strokes for different folks.

What matters is the experience.

Lightway:
Simp spotted... Red Alert!!!

It's okay to cook and clean when she's Dead, Divorced, Puts to bed, ill, traveled out.
But if she's around and healthy and you cook and clean for a "happy wife happy life", then you should start dressing like Bobrisky and James Brown.

A man cooking once in awhile even when his wife is healthy and present doesn't automatically make him a simp.

It's obvious that many guys here do not really know what simping is.

Having witnessed first hand when men cook for their families, I know the kind of happiness, laughter, fun it can bring to a family. It is not just about the food but the experience.

Some men are very good cooks, and they enjoy doing it. It doesn't diminish his respect in the home if done once in awhile, but rather increases it, as the wife is made aware that food in her armoury is a useless weapon for manipulating the man.

It is only when a man sees it as his duty to cook for his family that it becomes a problem.

Do not deny yourself and your family an enjoyable experience just because you want to form jagaban or patriarch.

Kobojunkie:
Again...Now I see where your problem is.... you are not even arguing here against domestic violence but instead attempting to justify one aspect of domestic violence by suggesting it was likely provoked....

Anyways, like I already stated, Women desire to and are doing something about the situation. Those of us whose mothers experienced such abuse and found it deplorable also want to do something so it will not happen to our children.

You are free to fold your hands if you want to, but try to move out of the way so those who change matters to can waka pass you!

I guess you have run out of points.

Kobojunkie:
Not I see where your problem is.... you are not even arguing here against domestic violence but instead attempting to justify one aspect of domestic violence by suggesting it was likely provoked....

Anyways, like I already stated, Women desire to and are doing something about the situation. Those of us whose mothers experienced such abuse and found it deplorable also want to do something so it will not happen to our children.

You are free to fold your hands if you want to, but try to move out of the way so those who change matters to can waka pass you!

You very know my argument is against domestic violence but you're trying to shift the goal post. You ignored the part where I said reaction through physical violence is wrong.

There's no justification for domestic violence in any form, be it physical or verbal abuse.

Let the awareness against domestic violence face all parties involved.

Kobojunkie:
Women desire to and are doing something about the situation. Those of us whose mothers experienced such abuse and found it deplorable also want to do something so it will not happen to our children.

You are free to fold your hands if you want to, but try to move out of the way so those who change matters to can waka pass you!

Your first sentence is True, but then why the focus on only men as problem in any abusive relationship?
Why the neglect on the issue of verbal and emotional abuse particularly against men.

It takes two to tango remember?

A lot of women provoke men to anger through verbal abuse especially when the man is financially handicapped. Yet there's no awareness for women to stop this behavior. The only awareness is about the man's expression of anger through physical means, which is also wrong.

Those of us whose fathers experienced such abuse and found it deplorable also want to do something so it will not happen to our children.

If women want to curb the issue of abuse in relationships, then awareness should be made on every party involved.
Focusing on only one party isn't going to solve anything because most abusive relationships are cyclic, with one party the instigator and the other the reactor.

I won't fold my hands and watch women vilify only men as the abusers in any relationship in the name of curbing domestic abuse.

Women should be taught to take responsibility for their actions in relationships too.

Both men and women have a role to play.
The approach should be holistic rather than sentimental.

Kobojunkie:
What hogwash? A writer is not under any such obligations . If you want to focus on domestic violence against both genders, create another thread where you do just that.

What hogwash too!
No one is under any obligation to do anything really. Everyone has a choice.

Then why do standards exist?

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! Her Op is simply focused on domestic violence as it affects women.

She didn't mention anything about domestic violence affecting both genders, before going ahead to be specific about the gender she's trying to address.

A writer should not just focus on a specific detail without giving the readers an idea of the group from which he\she decided to pick an area to focus on.

When this is not done, the writeup creates an impression that only the author's focus area or perspective exist even if the author is correct in his\her assertion.

I didn't say the op was wrong, just biased in the writeup.

BluntTheApostle:
For as long as you continue to fixate on physical abuse, domestic violence is going nowhere soon.

Domestic violence includes:

1. Physical (typically used by men)

2. Verbal (typically used by women)

3. Financial (both genders are capable)

4. Emotional (both genders are capable)

5. Psychological (both genders are capable).

You can't reduce domestic violence by fixating on reducing physical abuse.

Emotional abuse is even worse because it is subtle, and the victim may not know that they are being abused.

If you as a woman are a chronic nag who resorts to hurtful words to hurt her husband, if he hits you, do not think he is the only one guilty of domestic violence. You both are guilty.

I have tried to sanitize society the best I could, but seems like you people just want to play a gender blame game, instead of tackling the malaise head-on.

Spot on.

Your take on domestic violence is very biased I must say.
It sees domestic violence as coming from only one gender, the male gender.

Domestic violence is not gender specific.

Kobojunkie:
Can you provide a reference to this research you claim. I happen to know from experience that the claim there is false.

There are no known genetic markers for abuse. Instead those born and raised in abusive environments have a 50% chance of turning out abusers themselves, this all depending on how they themselves were nurtured and raised, particularly by the victim(mother and father) of the abuse.

Abuse is behavioural. Behaviors are determined by but not limited to genetic and environmental factors. There are genetic markers for behaviors (personality traits) which can be inherited.

Also, have you heard about social learning?

Children learn behaviors from their social environments, through observation, which mostly begins with their parents\family. This imprinted social conditioning by the members of their social environments, especially as infants, is not easily unlearnt or modified through education or experience, and largely determines how a person behaves as an adult.

Concerning the bolded, it is very rare to successfully raise children to behave differently than how the person raising them behaves, because children learn behaviors mostly by observation.

A combination of inherited personality traits and social conditioning at infancy explains why children of abusers will most likely be abusers themselves rather than not when a situation permits. Far more than the 50% chance you infered in your submission.

Feminism is about women's freedom.
This freedom disguised as social, political and financial freedom, is essentially freedom for women to choose who they fucc.

The patriarchy denied them this freedom.
The patriarch feared chaos would ensue from granting women the freedom to chose.

A woman's choice of men isn't logical.
Illogical equals chaos, so thought the patriarch.

The patriarch feared chaos because chaos drowns the weak. Most men are weak.

The patriarch forced logical choices on women at expense of their freedom to chose.
Through marriage, placing a premium on virginity, paternity tests etc.

This gave many men access to what they didn't deserve.... the Pucie.

The feminist wants to give women power.
With power, they are liberated to make their own choices. Chaos be dammed.

However, The feminist fight favours the alpha.
The feminist fight is the alpha's fight.

The feminist liberation is the alpha's delight, as the alpha becomes the trophy.
The alpha supports the feminist.

Do the work it takes to Become the alpha, and watch the chaos feminism brings play out in your favour.

Get working on your body, your mind (confidence), and acquire knowledge (game).

The strong thrives in chaos.

VERTEX1:
Baba u sabi too much. There was this girl that I've been on her track, she doesn't talk to me much and removes my hand whenever I try holding her hand; so we do more of silent meet-ups and we communicate well on whatsapp as she doesn't like calls too, though I hardly talk outside and don't like calls too, but I try to make her lively with my words which she will always said that I talk too much and she doesn't like people talking too much. We can literally be together and be communicating with whatsapp as she said that's where she says her mind. I do make her laugh always on whatsapp and sometimes physically.
I've asked her if she's shy with me which she denied many times, but it's obvious she's . My problem is that she talk well and not shy with her peers and dates; classmates especially and even snap pics with them and post on her status. I always criticize and condemn her short comings Which others praises, which she termed hot temper which I know I'm not.
For like three times I've ghosted her because of that, which she always come back to beg me that she love me just that she can't trust a guy due to what she suffered in her previous relationship, she always said that I'm the best and different from others that she will like relationship with me just that she's still scared. I don't know how to handle her again because I've tried dropping her which she refused and always coming back to beg me. Though I love her but my brain is bigger than it.
My strength is my intellectual and cognitive problem solving skills. I'm good with any topic at all, even nails and wigs. Just that I'm very skinny, it makes me to look like a younger person, which I need help on improving too.
I'm tired of brain games.

You are not yet tired bro. When you're, you will move on from that girl.

This is a mild case of oneitis.
Prescription: take 2 tablets of redpill 2 times daily. The pills are available for free from the first page of this thread.

On a serious note though, ask yourself, will she play mind games with kiss Daniel or Davido?

She only sees you as her best option for now, but she's well aware she's capable of far better options. So rather than hastily commit to you, she's giving you hope that she will eventually commit while she's searching for a better guy. That's hypergamy at work.

Even if she commits now, she's still going to cheat on you when a better guy comes.

Trust me bro, if she sees you as her best option, you will know. She will worship the very floor you walk on. She can't waste your time cos she knows the consequences are not worth it.

Focus on yourself bro, and only deal on high interest ladies. If they're not forth coming, improve yourself and raise your value.
And when they eventually start coming, be prepared to clear their doubts about your genealogy of capable skilled carpenters

Kellzzyy:
Lol
This is bullshit

K

Kellzzyy:
What you are saying isn't rooted in truth.
Most men do not wake up and struggle to make it in life just to have sex.
That's a blatant lie oga.

But do they do it so they can afford the sex and from whom they want, when they need it?

Many men work hard to get a better life for themselves, but why do most want a better life for themselves?

Even if a man is not motivated directly or indirectly by sex, whatever thing they create, invent or do only ends up making life easier for other men and women, to have more time and energy for sex.

Whether you want to accept it or not, it doesn't change the fact that
All roads leads to sex.

Kellzzyy:
A lot of stupid statements flying around here lately.
When you say "All roads lead to sex", you state that as a matter of fact. There are no generalisations there.
Thus, it is right to call bullshit on such blatantly false and silly statement.

First, to make the twisted path straight, I'd like to correct the notion that when people seek out comfort, or strive to be better humans, they are directly or indirectly seeking sex.
That's very stupid.

In times of war, people had sex, people procreated. Before civilisations, there has always been sex and procreation. Thus, comfort isn't a prerequisite for sex. It'll therefore be stupid to say that men who develop themselves do so because of sex.

If due to some mystical event, the world came to discover that there'll be no more procreation. That is, the humans living on earth will be the last as no new life will be formed ever again.
In this hypothetical scenario, will people stop going to school because of this discovery?
Are people with the means going to stop buying luxury houses, luxury cars, go on vacations, etc because of this discovery?
Are we all going to destroy our houses and go back to being cavemen? Afterall, we can no longer procreate??


Catholic priests swear an oath of celibacy because sex is their end goal?
Mark built Facebook because of sex?
Elon Musk is started Tesla and SpaceX because of sex?
Dangote is building a refinery because of sex?

You now see how stupid it sounds.
I certainly hope to get married one day and have my own family. This however doesn't mean that all I'm working for right now, all I'm sacrificing to have a better tomorrow is because of sex??
My primary reason for working hard is to become a more financially comfortable person tomorrow. To become a person of high status. To become someone with means to enjoy the good things of life.
And not by any means because I'm hoping for some sex.
That's just too stupid.

I get that a person of high income, high status/value has some fringe benefits attached to them due to the said status.
Those fringe benefits are what they are, fringe. But by no means the primary goal of becoming a high value individual.

In addendum, before some people will call me incel or whatever ad hominem attacks they'll come up with; right from a very young age I've always had it easy with women never been in dire lack or want of sex.
But I guess the sex I'll get when I achieve my dreams is going to be one mystical sex that'll blow my body, soul and spirit away. That's why I'm working so hard to attain those goals.
Lol

You still don't get it bro.
Exceptions are a proof that a rule exists.
Theories are deemed true and accepted if the majority of a population follow a rule, and most are stated without recourse to any exceptions that might exit.
E.g Japanese are shorter than kenyans
Women are shorter than men
Men are stronger than women
These statements considered true and does not mention anything about exceptions, even though they exist.
It is the same when we say;
Men are driven by sex
Women are hoes etc.

The fact that you may be an exception does not invalidate the rule.
Look around you man, how many men are not driven by sex?

If majority of men are sex driven, and it is this drive which builds civilization, then it's logically correct to conclude that civilization is driving by sex. Exceptions don't matter.

fattprince:
I gave you that first like there. Was just coming to ask about this. I got the answers already, thanks to you.

You're welcome

unclemica:
Hello guys, I want you guys to help me out in some aspect of choosing signal( greenlight). I am a pharmacist I spend most of my time in pharmacy that is were I make friends with girls I do hangout with, especially when they come to buy drugs or cosmetics like perfume and other thing. when they come to buy drugs and other things I do have nice conversation with them, make them laugh and exchange contact. Which I suspect to be choosing signal(greenlight), because some of them do not want to have conversation with me always in a hurry to buy and go. The ones that exchange contact with me when I call them on phone we will talk and laugh and also they like to hangout with me but they will not like to involve sex. Some of them get angry when I tell them that sex will be involved when we hangout. while some I will spend on them before we will have sex which I want to stop. How can I know a geniune greenlight and how do I improve myself to attract more geniune choosing signal(greenlight), because very soon I will start working in the hospital and from hospital to pharmacy store

Don't be too overt or direct with women if sex is your aim of associating with them.
You can't just tell a lady that you want to have sex with her and she will just accept. Even when they show you the brightest greenlight you can think of, many will reject a direct approach for sex. It's called anti slut defense. They don't want to be seen as cheap, Even when they are.
Next time be more covert but confidently convey your intentions with:

1) Eye contact: there's a way you'd look into a lady's eyes and she'd know you desire her. Say any nonsense you want, but confidently convey that desire through intense eye contact, and she will understand. They read eyes, don't know how they do it,but they do.
Sensing that desire through your eyes turns them on, even the ones not initially into you.
When you sence the shyness and incoherence in her speech, the metal is hot. Get a private place to strike.

2) Relate everything you discuss with her to sex. Make any discussion sexual e.g. ask her how she will feel if....., If she has experienced.... if she would like to experience.... etc. Emphasize words like long, hard, pound, deep, wet, in any discussion. since you work in a pharmacy, innocently discuss things relating to pregnancy prevention techniques like pull out method, if they enjoy condoms or raw, sex styles best for slim or chubby ladies etc.
Just covertly create sexual impressions in her head through witty jokes. Make her know that she can be comfortably sexual with you and you see nothing wrong in it.
If she's smiling, laughing, and starts to communicate with sexual meanings to whatever thing you guys are discussing, the metal is already hot, just look for a private place to strike.
And please don't disappoint, strike well and hard.

3) Touch her sexually in a non sexual manner to stimulate her sexually:
This is quite advanced but if done right with confidence, it's always a hit.
For example, while suddenly holding up her face with one hand, look into her eyes and pretend like you're removing something from her hair with your other hand. Even if nothing is in her hair, just do it, and slowly touch behind her ear down to her neck while adjusting her hair.
If she responds like she's been shocked with mild electrical current or she bends her head towards the hand in contact with her neck, her clit just received a signal.
If you repeat this technique (removing something that may or may not be there and touching her in the process) or you continuously tickle her in these places like between the inner thighs close to her knees, inner arms, and her waist and she doesn't overtly object, be ready to finish the job

Another way you could touch a woman sexually in a non sexual way is to hold her hands while on stroll and casually but tactically try to brush your elbow against her boobs. Don't act shocked or apologize when you do this except she seriously complains. If she doesn't complain, repeat it as many times as you can, and in no time, she'd be the one to hold your arm against her boobs.
When she does this, it means the metal is already hot bro, just get a place to do the needful and don't disappoint your ancestors

ubunja:
if I want to see anything in a girl's phone I ask for the phone and do what I want then give her back. I don't snoop and turn CIA because that's just not how I deal.

This your method will only work once for Nigerian girls .
If they pass this your test the first time, you have to employ CIA level techniques before you can unravel their whoredom.
Nigerian girls are an advanced species. They employ AI and deep learning in their dealings with men.
You may need voodoo to catch some sef as only the gods can help you
E.g. what the yorubas call magun

If she demands marriage or a relationship before she can become sexual with you, she's a prostitute at heart, whether she's a virgin or not.
A woman's sexuality is more important than her religious beliefs when it comes to relationship & marriage. She's a female first, before her religious beliefs.
You don't have to be in a relationship or marriage with woman who truly desires you for her to become feminine and sexual towards you.
When a lady truly desires you, she automatically becomes feminine and sexual towards you. You only have to give her the chance for her to display them.
Marriage or getting your commitment isn't her reason for this, although she also wants them. She just finds herself doing things for you she wouldn't normally do for anyone, and behave in a childish manner towards you. It's a natural instinct. They can't control it.
Marriage or relationship doesn't automatically make a lady desire you. Desire is an instinct which a lady expresses by being feminine and sexual towards the man she feels that desire for. A man don't need to spend or be in a relationship with her for her to display them, he only has to be available. He is simply chosen.
If a lady demands your commitment for her sexuality, it's because she wants to colonize your resources, and not because of her religious beliefs.
If you think her abstinence from being sexual with you is because she considers it sin, then put it to her (while smiling) "but you still tell small small lies to men from time to time na" (They always do ). if she smiles and tries to defend herself With whatever excuse, just ignore her and know her faked abstinence isn't because she considers it sin, but because she's not sexually attracted to you. Lying and fornication are both sins, why take one more seriously than the other if you're truly religious?
Relationships isn't about love, but resources. Marriage is institutionalized prostitution, the aim of which is to force accountability and responsibility on the man for any child or children arising from it.
You don't need to be married or in a relationship to express love or romance.
If a lady is not sexually into you, forget about her other qualities and just dey your lane. Don't ever consider her for anything relationship, just friend zone her. And if such friendship results in a constant outflow of finances from you, cut her off. She's using you.

The definition of Prostitution is not limited by the number of clients or the form in which she gets her payment from her clients (cash or kind).
As long as there's exchange of sex for resources, she's a prostitute.
Prostitution is also a mindset.
And as a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.
If your woman, girlfriend or wife believes she deserves your resources because you both have sex, or she believes sex is something that a woman gives to someone and should be rewarded for it, she's a prostitute at heart.
You're just the only customer she has in mind.
Stop spending on your wife or girlfriend for sometime, and observe her. if she starts resisting sex?
Let me stop here...

Martinez39s:
How can this one be delivered now?

Caveadullam already finished the anointing oil needed for his deliverance.
Even the gods have rejected him.
Nothing can be done. A miserable death awaits him.

I'm interested

Thanks

I'm interested

Iamzealousman:
I really appreciate the advice gotten here.

And now, I think I know what she want and what she trying to use me for.

I have once made a decision to let her be. Of which I stood sternly by but broke it when she call to say she misses me and with the fact that she has been very very supportive.

I see her a whole lot in pictures she post on her status trying to make her finger obvious etc. Which implies she probably searching or otherwise.

And it's a month now since we last spoke or even chat.

I have now know that all she was trying to do was to give me the impression that I could go for her. Though she trying to keep me as an option or back up plan. Or probably a boredom killer.

That's why she gave me answer that can still keep me around when I spoke to her about been in a relationship. She'll pray about it


A girl actually once used that line on me and I have ghosted her for years now.


Will be a good idea to do same with this new lady?
She is a very good girl and very supportive. Was actually there for me financially too.

Iamzealousman:
Yes I am not yet over her. Cause because this I have once gotten this kind of response from another girl. That was 2018, this said girl actually wanted to given a feedback from what she has prayed about. She call me repeatedly, texted me I didn't respond I ghosted her thoroughly even till today I haven't spoken to her. Because the time which was just 3days she took in thinking/praying about what I told her was enough for me to think that she wasn't right for me. I moved on.
Till date I haven't looked back.


But this one is different!

Women set rules for men that want them, while they break rules for men they want.

It is you who feels different towards her.
She's not different, she's female.
When it involves a man, all females are instinctively the same.
How they act, react and behave may not be the same, but why they do what they do is always the same.
When you understand why females do what they do, you will realize that they are very simple beings, but it's our emotions that complicates matters.
The red pill enlightens men on why females behave the way they do irrespective of how they behave, and what to do in situations that involves them.
I don't think you have read this thread from the beginning, if not you'd have known what to do by now.

I would always advice men, stay away from women towards whom you feel differently amongst other women. While it's ok to like or prefer a particular woman, Have nothing to do with women you love.
Women are meant to be managed not loved. When you love them, it becomes very difficult to manage them. You can't manage what you don't understand.
When you understand women, you will realize that the hardest commandment in the bible for men to observe is the commandment to love their wife.
While for women it is, thou shall not lie

Uche/Uchenna/Uchechukwu: the worst kinds of people to do business with or buy something from...scammers and fraudsters. Most male apprentices also bears this name.
Shegun/Tunde: Quiet and hardworking
Damola/Obinna/Lekan, Jeffery: players
Ifeanyi, Musa, Tunji: likes fighting
Samuel, Jerry, Nnamdi, Ikenna, Emma: great Simps
David/Benjamin: Churchy
Chinedu/Obiora/Moses: very stubborn people

Ovo200:
After reading all this heart breaking stories of wives abandoning their husbands yesterday on front page I was thinking;
1) what happened to the supporting nature of women?
2) are today women not taught to be there for their husbands through thick and thin?
3) what happened to the better for worse vows?

I have learnt one day in the past couples of days there are still great women in our world today just that the majority of them are just useless as the p in psychology.
Men, never use your money to attract women, I abhor the popular saying here: make money and women will come after you that's a crazy philosophy. A woman that cannot love you during your down times can never love you when you have the whole world. Money is meant to build oneself and family not to attract women.

@ the bolded, we men need to learn how to be objective, stoic and accept the Truth, whether we like it or not, so we don't waste time complaining about things we can't change, when there are ways we can apply such truths in our favor.
See bros, it doesn't matter the reason or the way a man makes money, money will always attract women, whether she's a gold digger oh, reverend sister, rich, poor, ugly, fine, Nigerian, Israeli, Taliban, it doesn't matter, even witches , it attracts them all, including men, and there's nothing anyone can do anything about it except he chooses to becomes poor again
It is folly to even pretend to be poor to determine if a lady truly loves you and will stay with you when things are down, as women even prey on the poor too. You only have to be male to become their prey.
What can be done to insure yourself as a man is, after she has passed all your vetting to determine her suitability for your commitment according to your set standards, get her invested in you with something she values very much e.g. all women value money. It could also be children (especially without court marriage). however, don't consider sex as investment oh, even if women see sex as investment; they can easily let go of that one, afterall, they enjoyed it too . Just get her continuously invested in you especially when she's still drooling over or still has that high interest in you, while you become smart with your own resources, before you commit her.
When a woman has high interest in you or chooses you, it doesn't matter whether you are poor or rich, ordinary or famous, Nigerian or Taliban, she will invest in you, whether she's rich or poor. They know how to get money from simps to invest in the man they desire. Sometimes you will be the one that calls the shots regarding her own finances. She just wants you to lead her, whether you have sense or not .
With time, they will realize the game because all women are natural accountants. Some will pressurize you to also invest in the relationship or commit to them after they realize they're running at a loss.
If she strongly desires you and does not want her investment to waste, she will hardly leave and will be very loyal and submissive so that you no go vex end the relationship . She would be the one who tries to make the relationship work, even if it means sharing you with another woman.
A woman will rather share an unfaithful looser than become a looser her self.
If she just wanted your resources or using you to pass time till she gets a better man, she will use her own hand and end the relationship with any flimsy excuse when she discovers she has been running at a sustained loss without your commitment.
However, if you choose to commit to her after she's heavily invested, never assure her of that commitment oh, even after marriage or children.
When a woman feels assured of your commitment, she no longer sees the need to invest or compete for your attention. The assurance of your commitment secures her investments.
I already posted something on why men should not assure a woman about his commitment. I will repost it later sha. I wan rest small.

Winnerly:
The poison you’re preaching here is that it’s perfectly fine for women to cross their hands, wait at the finish line and leech unto the successful guys just for existing.

It is what it is
This is one harsh reality men have to accept.
You can't blame women for being hypergamous. It won't change anything. Nature made them so.
Set your own standards too for the women that are interested in you.

Winnerly:
One thing I’ve learnt about life is that everything is fleeting. If she’s with you because of your career, what happens when you loose that career? Imagine dealing with job loss plus heartbreak. Only few can survive that.

Another harsh reality. Whether a woman is with you because of your career, money, sexy body, social status etc., It's a game of dice expecting her to remain with you when you lose what made her attracted or stay with you in the first place, while she's still able to attract men that are better than you in that regard (money, body, social status etc.). Religion and culture can only do so much to make her stay (albeit with daily nagging and regret), however, odds are that she would follow her hypergamous instinct and dump your sorry ass for the better guy she can still get, if the opportunity comes.
This is why it's important to let the woman choose you, and invest so much in you that if you should lose whatever made her attracted to you, that investment of hers will make it very difficult to jump ship and would make her try all her best to ensure you regain whatever you lost.
Humans do not easily accept the logical decision to walk away from their investments even when a better opportunity presents itself, because it is considered a painful waste and emotions are involved in investments. The heart follows where it's treasures lies. This is particularly true for females.
An example; Ever heard a woman complain about her useless husband and only staying in the marriage because of her kids?
It's because she's invested in them (financially and emotionally), and she's gonna lose those kids to the man if she leaves cos by customary laws, children belongs to their fathers.
Same is true for a lady that has invested so much financially and emotionally in a man, she will hardly leave, irrespective of her hypergamous instinct.
Never commit to an uninvested woman.

Winnerly:
Job loss aside, can a person’s joy really be full amid the realization that there is a price on their head?

Yes. This is why a man should not seek happiness in a woman or marriage, but from the achievement of personal goals and dreams. Happiness flows from man to the woman to the kids. Expecting the reverse is futile. Seek happiness from your performance in life.

Ronnnie:
If you are a guy,reading this post and your feel your relationship is on the brinks of collapse...it could be your girl is acting distant,cheating on you,being rude or disrespectful...you shouldn't feel bad,we have all been in that situation,but don't make the same mistake we did...

If there is one thing you should never do....don't ever try to fix the relationship ..trust me when I say it's never worth and even if it's works,it's just a short term solution as she might remain just out of pity for you or there is something she still derives from you(which could be money,sex or anything)..yes we men are problem solvers just because we are solution oriented...but never try to fix any relationship where the other party isn't willing to put the same effort..

NOW,if there is one thing you should do...BREAK UP with her and Walk away without looking back....this seems to be the last option(thats if you even considered it) you ever considered...maybe due to the number of years you have been with her,or the love you have for her,or the sex you enjoy from her and so on...But one thing you should know is if you could get a girl like her,you can get someone better...As a man,you need to put away anything that ain't just serving you,it's called self respect....meaning you value you peace of mind..LET her go...she isn't worth it,she is never worth it...You are the price,you always were,forget what society dictates to you...

When you let her go and Walk away:one of the two will happen..it's either she starts chasing you and corrects her behavior (you have to mean it Kos she might test you to know if you are serious) or she never Chase's and moves on...one thing is that you need to be OK with whatever of the two happens...You don't need her or any other woman to make you complete kos you already are...
Forget all this alpha male,beta,redpill and simp tags...never classify yourself or your personality with this...of you are a nice guy be a nice guy,if you are a bad boy then continue...never try change yourself just to get girls or something,rather take necessary steps to improve your life in all aspects(financially,physically,morally,emotionally,socially and so on) and live a fulfilling life...


Just LET Her go,don't think you can never get anyone else like her,don't listen to your heart giving you 100 reasons to fight for her when you are the price here...it's never worth it trying to keep a woman,trust me Kos I have done it and ended up devastated and depressed..don't make my mistake...be a MAN and make a decision and stand firm on it ..loosing her won't kill you.."A fisherman never cries over a lost fish in the middle of an ocean"..You will get someone better than her,just don't focus on getting girls rather focus on improving your life and the girls will come naturally...then it's up to you to choose the one that matches your Energy...

I am not giving you this advice as a tedpiller but as a fellow concerned brother

Very apt!
Guys, never try to make a relationship work. That is the woman's job. Yours is to perform (become useful and create value)

A topic I would like the house to discuss on is this:
Considering that virgins are more valuable than non virgins, and the premium parents tend to attach to their daughters in marriage rites when she's proven to be chaste, should men pay this premium or not irrespective of the amount?
If yes or no, give your reasons.
If yes, differentiate it from simping.
If no, wouldn't you be settling for less?
Assuming a premium must be paid for a virgin.

Been a while I contributed to this great thread.
so many things to say but so little time and chance.
However, commenting on the current topic about virginity, my little advice to the house is this:
In intergender relationships, a woman's value lies first in her sexuality (which is objective), other qualities are secondary (which is subjective). If you want the best, then don't settle for less.