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Pastafarian:She gave you a controlled environment of 3 divisions. 1. Males only 2. Females only 3. Males and females Where then do you think the bisexuals will want to fall into? ![]() |
glowryhaa:You can say that again. |
Akiintom:Yes now. Almost every topic on homosexuality carries something like, then why do animals act like that if it isn't natural. Even animals are homosexuals..... The comparisons are just too much. We're talking about humans for crying out loud. So I drew my conclusion from the comparisons. |
Akiintom:When you say 'by choice' , what do you mean? Do you mean humans can't control whatever they crave for and once they crave for it, then it's said to be normal? And because it's said to be normal, therefore it is beyond the control of humans? |
glowryhaa:Amen ooo |
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analice107:The lessons I've learnt on homosexuality topics here on nairaland is that, human beings are to learn the behaviours of animals and apply it to their lives. I never knew that's how low humans have become. |
analice107:That should be the answer dear. They're against anything God is against. If they aren't, it won't make them atheists ![]() |
temi4fash:I meant I waited for him to ASK me back but he didn't. And I can't do that again whether mistakenly or intentional. I've moved on oo. My emotional senses have gone back to the reset settings by family and friends. So now I don't waste time with any born again that can't talk with his mouth. I will only be a good friend to you but I won't let your manipulations work again lailai |
Tosinex:Hi dear, you came to do amebor this time, abi? ![]() |
temi4fash:He was the one who asked God for something and if truly God answered him, he should have been the one to manage the affairs of things properly in that regards. He knew I was hurt with how things started, so he should have been careful with the way he seriously communicated any story related to it. And I can't be praying such prayer now, it sounds like I would be forcing him to love me. I prefer to pray for someone whom I love and who's told me how much he loves me to love me the more. Not someone I can't pick from his statements if he does love me. I don't think I'm valuable, if I was he could have summoned up courage to take me back. And you don't expect me to go back to him through the same route. Do you? That would be disaster now. Besides, I waited for him to take me back but he didn't. I guess he was waiting for me to do my magic as usual it took the intervention of friends where I served and my family to bring me back to my senses. This is someone I can't even say when and how we started the relationship because he started telling everyone I was in a relationship with him just few days after I told him I loved him. I Can't go back to that again. That's not my portion. I don't just want to know I'm valuable but I want to feel it also. Is that too much to ask? I'm writing to all guys out there especially the ones who take God to be everything.. When you see a lady who loves God as you do and at the same time has all the qualities you need, please treat her as a virtuous woman she is, irrespective of your shyness, principles, introvert nature and the likes because she isn't the type to hurt your ego. Even when she does, she's hurting herself too and she knows the best thing to do not to let such repeat. |
temi4fash:It's such a sad story. I pray the one who will turn her destiny for good will locate her. I'm so short of words but God please change her story, put songs of praise and wonderful testimony on her lips. Amen! |
temi4fash:It's a pity our individual experiences is somehow deciding for us. like I've decided on how to handle so many issues due to my past experience until the ladies here and a guy's comment made me think twice. You feel ladies know when a guy is interested in them, well that is said to be unknown until the guy admits it. I once met a guy who was the quiet type and he was so God fearing even till now, he stammers ( I realised I like the odd things about him ). He drew so close to me and start calling me on phone daily after collecting my number from someone else. We could talk for hours daily and the conversation was focused on God and the Bible . But after some months, he called no longer as he used to. I was then beginning to wonder why, so I started doing the calling. It turned out during my time of being the caller, he wasn't as receptive as I had been to him. Most times he acts so snobbish. But it was kind of too late for me because I realized I've fallen for him. That was the first time I've ever been in love - if I'm allowed to call that love. So I kind of felt hurt with how I was being treated. When we find ourselves in a group, he hides from me and doesn't relate with me at all. He spends time with others more and when we're alone he leaves first. If you ask me why, I'll tell you it's because he was shy of his feelings towards me but I think I'm wrong because he says so I didn't give up on calling him, though everything he does hurts me from time to time but it seemed I forgot then there were terms like a woman's pride and dignity. I couldn't even tell when and how I told him I loved him on phone . Because of that he got closer to me, so that was my only relationship and I am not proud of it because it hurts. We couldn't last because we were kind of having childish arguments like, who loved each other first? Can you imagine? And he will say I loved him first. Well it wouldn't have been a big deal but I felt I wasn't healed enough with all I've been through. So his answers increased or awaken the hurt in me. I then had to admit that the foundation of our relationship was not strong at all and if we continue building on that foundation, none of us would be happy. Because he can only be happy if I am but if I'm not then the relationship is as good as dead. During one of those arguments I let off my guard and call him some names like he isn't wise enough with the way he is going about it all and I think he is acting stupid. Well, that ended it all. Everything ended there because I was becoming who I wasn't and I was using the opportunity to take away his respect which I know no man like to trade for anything. How can I tell him, he isn't wise or he is stupid?. God doesn't like that too. I hurt myself for saying those things to him also because I loved him. But I've forgiven myself and I know God has forgiven me. I also asked the guy to forgive me but one thing I never did was for me to ask him to take me back since that's what he wants. We trust each other so much that he seeks my advice before doing anything. Anything I tell him now he believes, I don't know why but maybe because he knows the kind of person I am and what I can do. You know how we put God into the wrong picture? The guy told me he prayed to God that anyone who is for him should tell him she loves him first. When he told me that I was shocked and I was like then that would be unfair of God if He actually made me do that because I feel I don't deserve that kind of a start in a relationship especially since I haven't involved myself in any before, all because I want to please God and don't want to make any funny mistakes when it comes to relationships. So you see why we're on the different side of the divide? How can you be so shy and you wouldn't know when or if you should propose to that lady? What's then stopping you from doing that when you see you're connected and she has all the qualities you need and want. It's a pity I love him no more though he is good and Godly. I really prayed for God to take that love for him away from my heart. And I can't believe it worked because I know and everyone else knew how much I loved him. I have a great feeling he let all these played out easily because he saw I loved him than he does. At a point in time, he even explained why he stopped calling me from the start. He said he realized I was having feelings for him and that was why he withdrew. How can someone who is shy, know how to destroy the emotional pride of a lady? It doesn't make sense to me. Is that shyness or pride? Temi4fash, I'm telling you all these so you won't pet your shyness and let go of whom you know you shouldn't let go. You have your story and I have mine and it makes both of us not to agree in some ways. But I hope you see now you don't have to feed your shyness when you shouldn't. I don't know if I should call it shyness anymore than I should call it pride. But you should know when to let it go No matter how you see it and how you take it, the standard is for the man to speak first. So if you're rejected it shouldn't be a big deal because that's your calling. It's ladies who feel bad when they're rejected because it wasn't their original responsibility. If you want to wait for the feeling to be mutual, fine. But when you see it's mutual, don't hesitate any longer for your type who is shy ![]() Exactly.... Sometimes hmmmmm....Ok. I say sometimes or should I rather say most times cos I think I'm more of an introvert than an extrovert. Yes dear, my weekend was very OK. Thanks. |
Akiintom:Heii ![]() Akin o ni pa mi oo. If he is as good as you, shouldn't I be scared? ![]() You know We have to follow each other before a pm can be sent. So please send me a pm let me see how I can reply. But please keep your cool OK. |
Pastafarian: Bro, your closest neighbor is your wife now |
Akiintom:Were you banned? This is the Akin I know right? But akintom, isn't it high time you calmed down? When you're not Catfish.Billy that faced Space.tacular. Calm down now. For how many days now? It's OK jor. Its better we wait for the doctors to create another thread, then no one can misbehave again ![]() Calm down OK. Na beg I dey beg oo |
Hmmmm! Point 7 though ![]() Freedom from the Cabal is NOT about “North versus South”. In fact, the greatest victims of the Northern cabal are the Northern masses themselves. The struggle entails “Northern Cabal versus All of Lovers of Freedom”. |
The example he gave seem to be the duty of the government. Why don't we also look at it this way, if the government should treat the banks nicely, they might then remember how to impact wealth into the people without anyone reminding them. |
Something is fishy no matter how right and legal the procedure seem to look |
I guess we need a selfless leader. A leader who has the love of the people and the country at heart. |
What's really happening? Is he dead? The 'dead' articles are becoming too much already! |
I don't understand. You're lamenting like he's dead already ![]() |
He flirts and you're asking if he is right? Now why should I blame or argue with frosbel2... |
frosbel2:Yeah, I think I'm letting my emotions get in the way. And I never said anyone was condemned but anyone who has the Spirit of God in Him knows the answer to which is more Honourable and desired by God, whether is polygamy or monogamy. But if Christians are to go by loving our neighbors as ourselves, would anyone like that who loves his wife as himself go for another partner? Didn't you leave Christianity because of such since you defend polygamy to this extent? |
Thank God for Jesus |
frosbel2:The problem is you lust after so many women that's why you want to abuse polygamy. Since the time of the old testament men have been made to twists the law to their favour but not now. How can the law be made to favour you because your hearts are hardened? You're in charge of your life now so it's your choice. No wonder many so called Christians have concubines outside because they've been eying polygamy. All because of sex, sex, sex, sex and sex, you forgot your first love. I know what polygamy does to children and the entire family and I don't want to be part of those that don't want to change that. I care for my unborn children. And any responsible man out there will love his wife as he loves himself, otherwise he should let the woman have fun too. Hypocrites! I am a Christian, not a jew. I am a follower of Christ and I must do all that reflects His teachings and His love. |
frosbel2:As for me I prefer to serve God in the highest form of service. It seems everyone wants to go back into the days when law was made for man because of their hardened hearts. You may call yourself not brainwashed but All you did was graduating into gratifying the desires of your flesh. Enjoy yourself OK and also enjoy your sex because that's the main reason you lots crave for a polygamous marriage. |
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mrvitalis:You have the spirit of God in you, don't you? That's what we use to know the truth when there are confusions. So which one do you think that Spirit of God in you will go for? Polygamy or monogamy? I leave everyone's spirit to judge and not their flesh. Note.: that wasn't Timothy's opinion. |
A bishop then must be blameless , the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 1 Timothy 3:2 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; 1 Timothy 3:3 What does it mean to be 'husband of one wife'? Is this not English? What's the difference between one and only? If another wife has him as husband, wouldn't that mean he is a husband of more than one wife? So will you call yourself 'blameless' if you're the husband of more than one wife? I'm not someone who likes to twist Scriptures to my taste. But if the bishops, deacons and elders are asked to live such lives before they can lead then I prefer to live that life since it's the highest calling, highest sacrifice in God's house. Why should I then stoop so low to be in a polygamous marriage? What will now be the difference between so called Christians and the heathens? Christians are meant to live a life worthy of emulation, a life that prevents future bitter lessons. If you want to live for yourself, fine. But those of us that have decided to live for God, we are the light of the world. We will represent Jesus well and people will follow that light to Jesus. Why should you leave the instructions given to some to be a proper reflection of Christ so others can follow, but you so much opt for the one that will make people stagger. First of all we live for God, then we live for others. The truth is as a Christian, we do not live for ourselves. That's why most times we don't make use of the full grace in Christ because others won't understand and they may fall through it. We live in a way, our brothers don't fall because of us. OP, there's no harm in going by your desires, but I hope you will come back to share your lessons after you've began the journey of not following the instructions given to elders? |
MZLady39:That's a good one dear sis. Most of us don't understand yet the reasons behind stories in the Bible. I really admire Isaac and Rebecca, they gave us no issues unlike Abraham and Sarah, Jacob and Leah/Rachel. Rebecca was no ordinary wife because she was prayerfully chosen. |
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