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Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 1:05pm On May 23, 2017
Pastafarian:
it seems that going by the wonderful logic of this hypothetical scenario Analice107 keeps trotting out like a gotcha that she hasn't even considered bisexuals

so if "separating and no children possible" is all she's got what then does she have to say to bisexuals?
She gave you a controlled environment of 3 divisions.
1. Males only
2. Females only
3. Males and females

Where then do you think the bisexuals will want to fall into? grin tongue
Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 12:58pm On May 23, 2017
glowryhaa:
it's so pathetic the western world supports their sick desires... And call it "freedom"
You can say that again.
Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 12:55pm On May 23, 2017
Akiintom:
Are you sure you learnt that here?
Yes now. Almost every topic on homosexuality carries something like, then why do animals act like that if it isn't natural. Even animals are homosexuals.....

The comparisons are just too much. We're talking about humans for crying out loud. So I drew my conclusion from the comparisons.
Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 12:41pm On May 23, 2017
Akiintom:
I will continue this conversation with you, on the condition that you don't bring ME into the thread.



What's right?

*Homosexuality is a sexual orientation variant and not deviant. Scientifically speaking.

*therefore, Homosexuality is not a sexual orientation by choice.

*Homosexuals should therefore not be demonized, stigmatized, condemned or killed.

The above are what makes Homosexuality right, and require rational processing.
When you say 'by choice' , what do you mean?

Do you mean humans can't control whatever they crave for and once they crave for it, then it's said to be normal?
And because it's said to be normal, therefore it is beyond the control of humans?
Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 12:19pm On May 23, 2017
glowryhaa:
We live in a perverted world where even pedophiles think their desires are only natural and should be accepted in the society... May God help us
Amen ooo
Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 12:13pm On May 23, 2017
analice107:
If we are to be separated into three groups;
1. Opposite sex: Males ans females.
2. Only Males.
3. Only females
And, leave us like that for a 100 years, what do you think will happen to the only males and the only females?

You have not seen anything wrong because we are still kept together. they adopt kids which come as a result of two opposites sexes coming together to produce.

You said Homosexuals can also have kids by taking the male sperms and fertilizing it with his partners Testosterone?
grin grin grin grin
Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 12:10pm On May 23, 2017
analice107:
The question should be, shd we now do as dogs do? Are we so degenerated that we begin to copy dogs?

Lord!!!!, Human beings now compare themselves with animals. because dogs are doing it, it's alright to do it.

Why aren't this atheists having sex publicly in broad day light since dogs do it?
The lessons I've learnt on homosexuality topics here on nairaland is that, human beings are to learn the behaviours of animals and apply it to their lives.

I never knew that's how low humans have become.
Christianity Etc › Re: Is This The Future? (photos) by bennyann: 12:07pm On May 23, 2017
analice107:
Why do i find all atheists taking a stand for homosexuality? Is it because the Bible is against it?
That should be the answer dear. They're against anything God is against. If they aren't, it won't make them atheists embarassed
Christianity Etc › Re: What's The Fate Of Good, Godly Single Girls? by bennyann(op): 11:36am On May 23, 2017
temi4fash:
But you said you didnt want him, Should he have forced you ni??
I meant I waited for him to ASK me back but he didn't. And I can't do that again whether mistakenly or intentional. I've moved on oo. My emotional senses have gone back to the reset settings by family and friends.

So now I don't waste time with any born again that can't talk with his mouth. I will only be a good friend to you but I won't let your manipulations work again grin lailai
Christianity Etc › Re: What's The Fate Of Good, Godly Single Girls? by bennyann(op): 10:40am On May 23, 2017
Tosinex:
unhnmnn what an epistle! grin Bennyann, op you are doing great!
Hi dear, you came to do amebor this time, abi? grin
Christianity Etc › Re: What's The Fate Of Good, Godly Single Girls? by bennyann(op): 10:36am On May 23, 2017
temi4fash:
Amen




Well, My own shyness no reach that level abeg....

My father would be disappointed me, and i walked so many bad guys though people wonder, how am able to live such a very wonderful and Godly life even after rolling with them. When i have to talk i go talk abeg no time to check time..

These your story brought bitter sweet experience to me.

I was in that guys shoe at one point when i use to tell the lady that same statement, then one day we had these ish una mehn, the way she para eh, i was life Jeezzz wetin be dishuh

Una mehn, I look left and right begin, as pa guy wey i be na i no apologize straight but i had to calm her down begin speak many English, then she apologise for her for paraing me too i apologise for tortoring her head.. All in all we were good from then on, it made us stronger and better and so i refrained from making those statements too, but once in a while i use it with humor and we just laff it off..

I dont want to start picking holes how it could have managed the situation, its all in the past now. but i would make some point.

For me, the guy asked God for something and he got it, He asked God to give him a lady that would love him first, he got it, and you were the answer but you didnt like that part cos you felt it should be the other way, your way.. So you asked God to remove the love, the energy you use to ask God to remove the love, you would have ask for him to make the guy love so much that he begin to chase you up and down, dont you think its possible.
He was the one who asked God for something and if truly God answered him, he should have been the one to manage the affairs of things properly in that regards. He knew I was hurt with how things started, so he should have been careful with the way he seriously communicated any story related to it.

And I can't be praying such prayer now, it sounds like I would be forcing him to love me. I prefer to pray for someone whom I love and who's told me how much he loves me to love me the more. Not someone I can't pick from his statements if he does love me.

I don't think I'm valuable, if I was he could have summoned up courage to take me back. And you don't expect me to go back to him through the same route. Do you? That would be disaster now.

Besides, I waited for him to take me back but he didn't. I guess he was waiting for me to do my magic as usual embarassed it took the intervention of friends where I served and my family to bring me back to my senses.

This is someone I can't even say when and how we started the relationship because he started telling everyone I was in a relationship with him just few days after I told him I loved him.

I Can't go back to that again. That's not my portion. I don't just want to know I'm valuable but I want to feel it also. Is that too much to ask?

I'm writing to all guys out there especially the ones who take God to be everything.. When you see a lady who loves God as you do and at the same time has all the qualities you need, please treat her as a virtuous woman she is, irrespective of your shyness, principles, introvert nature and the likes because she isn't the type to hurt your ego. Even when she does, she's hurting herself too and she knows the best thing to do not to let such repeat.
Christianity Etc › Re: What's The Fate Of Good, Godly Single Girls? by bennyann(op): 8:18am On May 23, 2017
temi4fash:
Let me share a story with you...

Over the weekend i was with a man, young man too but married too.

We just meet and clicked immediately and we started gisting, somehow we got to the part of marriage,life battles and all

Then he told me he meet a girl before he got married, she was every dose of a good girl, easy going, calm and all the many adjectives you can call, funnily she was a virgin too, comfortable too, ( Just so you know how good she was)

Then the bomb shell, He started going out with her, In short he was ready to marry her, But he just realized since the moment the lady got involved in his life, things just started getting hard for him and in short, his life that was all good and all started just getting unnecessarily though.

He said he had to leave her, he just gave her space cos he could not bring himself to tell her, He said the lady did not offend him. He just had to let her go. But he remained friends with her too, after sometime she dated another guy same issue the guy just left too .

said the last time he saw she was not married and she was a good girl....

Life is crazy and so unfair but then the consolation we have is that through the victory of Jesus on the cross, we make life fair to us
It's such a sad story. I pray the one who will turn her destiny for good will locate her.

I'm so short of words but God please change her story, put songs of praise and wonderful testimony on her lips. Amen!
Christianity Etc › Re: What's The Fate Of Good, Godly Single Girls? by bennyann(op): 8:12am On May 23, 2017
temi4fash:
Well, that one is in God's hands. There is nothing that can be done about that.
But then most times when a guy likes a girl and they are in the same circle, the girl/lady usually know, how they do i don't know but somehow they get to know and sometimes you see the girl giving the green light and doing all other things to make it easy for him to approach
It's a pity our individual experiences is somehow deciding for us. like I've decided on how to handle so many issues due to my past experience until the ladies here and a guy's comment made me think twice.

You feel ladies know when a guy is interested in them, well that is said to be unknown until the guy admits it.

I once met a guy who was the quiet type and he was so God fearing even till now, he stammers ( I realised I like the odd things about him cheesy).

He drew so close to me and start calling me on phone daily after collecting my number from someone else. We could talk for hours daily and the conversation was focused on God and the Bible wink. But after some months, he called no longer as he used to. I was then beginning to wonder why, so I started doing the calling.

It turned out during my time of being the caller, he wasn't as receptive as I had been to him. Most times he acts so snobbish. But it was kind of too late for me because I realized I've fallen for him. That was the first time I've ever been in love - if I'm allowed to call that love. So I kind of felt hurt with how I was being treated.

When we find ourselves in a group, he hides from me and doesn't relate with me at all. He spends time with others more and when we're alone he leaves first. If you ask me why, I'll tell you it's because he was shy of his feelings towards me but I think I'm wrong because he says so

I didn't give up on calling him, though everything he does hurts me from time to time but it seemed I forgot then there were terms like a woman's pride and dignity. I couldn't even tell when and how I told him I loved him on phone shocked sad.

Because of that he got closer to me, so that was my only relationship and I am not proud of it because it hurts.
We couldn't last because we were kind of having childish arguments like, who loved each other first? Can you imagine? And he will say I loved him first.

Well it wouldn't have been a big deal but I felt I wasn't healed enough with all I've been through. So his answers increased or awaken the hurt in me. I then had to admit that the foundation of our relationship was not strong at all and if we continue building on that foundation, none of us would be happy. Because he can only be happy if I am but if I'm not then the relationship is as good as dead. During one of those arguments I let off my guard and call him some names like he isn't wise enough with the way he is going about it all and I think he is acting stupid. Well, that ended it all. Everything ended there because I was becoming who I wasn't and I was using the opportunity to take away his respect which I know no man like to trade for anything.

How can I tell him, he isn't wise or he is stupid?. God doesn't like that too. I hurt myself for saying those things to him also because I loved him. But I've forgiven myself and I know God has forgiven me. I also asked the guy to forgive me but one thing I never did was for me to ask him to take me back since that's what he wants.

We trust each other so much that he seeks my advice before doing anything. Anything I tell him now he believes, I don't know why but maybe because he knows the kind of person I am and what I can do.

You know how we put God into the wrong picture? The guy told me he prayed to God that anyone who is for him should tell him she loves him first. When he told me that I was shocked and I was like then that would be unfair of God if He actually made me do that because I feel I don't deserve that kind of a start in a relationship especially since I haven't involved myself in any before, all because I want to please God and don't want to make any funny mistakes when it comes to relationships.

So you see why we're on the different side of the divide?

How can you be so shy and you wouldn't know when or if you should propose to that lady? What's then stopping you from doing that when you see you're connected and she has all the qualities you need and want.

It's a pity I love him no more though he is good and Godly. I really prayed for God to take that love for him away from my heart. And I can't believe it worked because I know and everyone else knew how much I loved him. I have a great feeling he let all these played out easily because he saw I loved him than he does.

At a point in time, he even explained why he stopped calling me from the start. He said he realized I was having feelings for him and that was why he withdrew.

How can someone who is shy, know how to destroy the emotional pride of a lady? It doesn't make sense to me. Is that shyness or pride?


Temi4fash, I'm telling you all these so you won't pet your shyness and let go of whom you know you shouldn't let go. You have your story and I have mine and it makes both of us not to agree in some ways. But I hope you see now you don't have to feed your shyness when you shouldn't. I don't know if I should call it shyness anymore than I should call it pride. But you should know when to let it go

No matter how you see it and how you take it, the standard is for the man to speak first. So if you're rejected it shouldn't be a big deal because that's your calling. It's ladies who feel bad when they're rejected because it wasn't their original responsibility.

If you want to wait for the feeling to be mutual, fine. But when you see it's mutual, don't hesitate any longer for your type who is shy wink

Exactly.... Sometimes hmmmmm....

Hope you had a wonderful weekend...
Ok. I say sometimes or should I rather say most times cos I think I'm more of an introvert than an extrovert.

Yes dear, my weekend was very OK. Thanks.
Christianity Etc › Re: Prophet Jeremiah healed Known Mad Man On Live TV. by bennyann: 6:48am On May 23, 2017
Akiintom:
Yeah, akintom was banned, because one of the cowards here, got mad, and reported me, because he really became an aggravated idiot.

I got no issues with anyone, as long as they don't cross me with attitude.

Bless you sister!

I'm recommending you to a goodly brother. Pls PM me
Heii cheesy

Akin o ni pa mi oo. If he is as good as you, shouldn't I be scared? grin

You know We have to follow each other before a pm can be sent. So please send me a pm let me see how I can reply.

But please keep your cool OK.
Christianity Etc › Re: Polygamy Is Not Sinful! A Biblical Defense by bennyann: 10:07am On May 22, 2017
Pastafarian:
this sounds funny

how you mixed neighbour and wife
grin
Bro, your closest neighbor is your wife now
Christianity Etc › Re: Prophet Jeremiah healed Known Mad Man On Live TV. by bennyann: 10:03am On May 22, 2017
Akiintom:
Just imagine, that these characters here, who claimed to be Christians, are the characters that lead church services.

*a she, who is comfortable being wife to fraudster?

*folks so childish and criminally minded, as to foolishly cheer on, a quack traumatologist ?

*christards, whose minds are pungently filthy and given to gutter vomit?
yet claimed they got holy filth in them?

No wonder, that most churches are den of harlots, pimps, thieves, rogues, pedophiles and oppressors of the weak minded.

Bunch of perverts!
Were you banned? This is the Akin I know right?

But akintom, isn't it high time you calmed down? When you're not Catfish.Billy that faced Space.tacular.

Calm down now. For how many days now? It's OK jor.

Its better we wait for the doctors to create another thread, then no one can misbehave again grin

Calm down OK. Na beg I dey beg oo
Politics › Re: The Seven-fold Yoke And The Cabal That Own Nigeria by bennyann: 4:54pm On May 21, 2017
Hmmmm! Point 7 though embarassed

Freedom from the Cabal is NOT about “North versus South”. In fact, the greatest victims of the Northern cabal are the Northern masses themselves. The struggle entails “Northern Cabal versus All of Lovers of Freedom”.
Nigeria is structurally unworkable and MUST EITHER BE RESTRUCTURED OR BROKEN.
Politics › Re: Nigerian Banks Are Not Creating Wealth, Says Umahi by bennyann: 3:06pm On May 21, 2017
The example he gave seem to be the duty of the government.

Why don't we also look at it this way, if the government should treat the banks nicely, they might then remember how to impact wealth into the people without anyone reminding them.
Politics › Re: Buratai Moves Army Unit To Buhari’s Hometown, Daura by bennyann: 3:01pm On May 21, 2017
Something is fishy no matter how right and legal the procedure seem to look
Politics › Re: Nelson Mandela To Nigeria- 2007. by bennyann: 2:57pm On May 21, 2017
I guess we need a selfless leader. A leader who has the love of the people and the country at heart.
Politics › Re: Nigeria’s President, Reportedly In London, Is Alive Or Dead? by bennyann: 2:54pm On May 21, 2017
What's really happening? Is he dead?

The 'dead' articles are becoming too much already!
Politics › Re: If Buhari Die Your Brother Will Not Be Made President by bennyann: 2:51pm On May 21, 2017
I don't understand. You're lamenting like he's dead already undecided
Christianity Etc › Re: Why Do Christian Divorce And Not Remarry by bennyann: 2:37pm On May 21, 2017
He flirts and you're asking if he is right? undecided Now why should I blame or argue with frosbel2...
Christianity Etc › Re: Polygamy Is Not Sinful! A Biblical Defense by bennyann: 1:03pm On May 21, 2017
frosbel2:
You are letting your emotion get in the way of logic, first off I have one wife.

Secondly, these so called old testament men who married more than one wife were highly esteemed by God and even one was called a man after God's own heart.

God never called David an adulterer for marrying more than one wife, he called him an adulterer for stealing and sleeping with another man's wife and then making sure the man got killed.

Solomon was not condemned for marrying more than one wife though we can argue he went into excess. Solomon was condemned for marrying women who worshiped idols.

Nobody was condemned throughout the bible for marrying more than one wife , so your argument is extremely fallacious and totally baseless.



The reason why your Christian brothers have many concubines is because they have listened to the wrong advice of so-called pastors who not only mislead them but in many cases prevent them from marrying early and in many cases from marrying the right person.

Your men of god and priests are a different matter, they are the Number 1 Hypocrites worldwide, more so than Imams and Muslims scholars who at least practice what they preach. These your leaders are liars, sexual predators, and perpetrators of sexual perversion.



Hmm, it depends, there are many dysfunctional monogamous homes with litters of illegitimate children and there are many polygamous homes that are fully functional with children born within the confines of God-sanctioned marriage.



Yep, this word hypocrite very precisely defines the behavior of Christians and their mostly useless pastors who preach one thing and do the other.

Hypocrites all of them
Yeah, I think I'm letting my emotions get in the way.

And I never said anyone was condemned but anyone who has the Spirit of God in Him knows the answer to which is more Honourable and desired by God, whether is polygamy or monogamy.

But if Christians are to go by loving our neighbors as ourselves, would anyone like that who loves his wife as himself go for another partner?

Didn't you leave Christianity because of such since you defend polygamy to this extent?
Christianity Etc › Re: The thought of heaven fills me and I can't describe the feeling oh by bennyann: 12:16pm On May 21, 2017
Thank God for Jesus
Christianity Etc › Re: Polygamy Is Not Sinful! A Biblical Defense by bennyann: 12:07pm On May 21, 2017
frosbel2:
Do you know that this skewed view of marriage and sex which we emulated from the western world that is primarily responsible for the high degrees of sexual immorality among priests, pastors and so called men of God?
The problem is you lust after so many women that's why you want to abuse polygamy. Since the time of the old testament men have been made to twists the law to their favour but not now. How can the law be made to favour you because your hearts are hardened?

You're in charge of your life now so it's your choice.

No wonder many so called Christians have concubines outside because they've been eying polygamy.

All because of sex, sex, sex, sex and sex, you forgot your first love.

I know what polygamy does to children and the entire family and I don't want to be part of those that don't want to change that. I care for my unborn children. And any responsible man out there will love his wife as he loves himself, otherwise he should let the woman have fun too.

Hypocrites!

I am a Christian, not a jew. I am a follower of Christ and I must do all that reflects His teachings and His love.
Christianity Etc › Re: Polygamy Is Not Sinful! A Biblical Defense by bennyann: 12:00pm On May 21, 2017
frosbel2:
So all God's henchmen in the bible married more than one wife and then God decided 2000 years later to make it a sin for anyone else who wants to marry more than one wife ?? grin grin

Thank God I have been de-brainwashed from religious myopia and dogma.
As for me I prefer to serve God in the highest form of service.

It seems everyone wants to go back into the days when law was made for man because of their hardened hearts.


You may call yourself not brainwashed but
All you did was graduating into gratifying the desires of your flesh. Enjoy yourself OK and also enjoy your sex because that's the main reason you lots crave for a polygamous marriage.
Christianity Etc › Re: Please Is Matthew 18:21-22 Be Possible To Fulfil? by bennyann: 11:52am On May 21, 2017
damosky12:
Jesus had not given His life when that was said. He spoke under the law. Until His blood was shed, there was no new testament.

Hebrews 9:16 For where a testament is, there must also of necessity be the death of the testator. 9:17 For a testament is of force after men are dead: otherwise it is of no strength at all while the testator liveth. 9:18 Whereupon neither the first testament was dedicated without blood.

Now! After that Jesus died and resurrected, we are in the new testament.

Hebrews 7:22 By so much was Jesus made a surety of a better testament.


In this testament, we don't try to fulfill Matt 18. We are born of love ourselves . How? The Holy Spirit given to us.


Romans 5:5 And hope maketh not ashamed; because the LOVE OF GOD IS SHED ABROAD IN OUR HEARTS BY THE HOLY GHOST WHICH IS GIVEN UNTO US.

That's why John said,


1 John 3:14 We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death.

To be born again is to be born of God. Right?

Now see

1 John 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.

We have capacity to love. It's in our heart. We just love. We don't Labour to do. We just let love out.
cheesy
Christianity Etc › Re: Polygamy Is Not Sinful! A Biblical Defense by bennyann: 7:20am On May 21, 2017
mrvitalis:
That's Timothy opinion ..

Not God
You have the spirit of God in you, don't you? That's what we use to know the truth when there are confusions.

So which one do you think that Spirit of God in you will go for? Polygamy or monogamy?

I leave everyone's spirit to judge and not their flesh.

Note.: that wasn't Timothy's opinion.
Christianity Etc › Re: Polygamy Is Not Sinful! A Biblical Defense by bennyann: 7:01am On May 21, 2017
A bishop then must be blameless , the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
1 Timothy 3:2

Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
1 Timothy 3:3

What does it mean to be 'husband of one wife'? Is this not English? What's the difference between one and only? If another wife has him as husband, wouldn't that mean he is a husband of more than one wife?

So will you call yourself 'blameless' if you're the husband of more than one wife?

I'm not someone who likes to twist Scriptures to my taste. But if the bishops, deacons and elders are asked to live such lives before they can lead then I prefer to live that life since it's the highest calling, highest sacrifice in God's house.

Why should I then stoop so low to be in a polygamous marriage? What will now be the difference between so called Christians and the heathens?

Christians are meant to live a life worthy of emulation, a life that prevents future bitter lessons. If you want to live for yourself, fine. But those of us that have decided to live for God, we are the light of the world. We will represent Jesus well and people will follow that light to Jesus.

Why should you leave the instructions given to some to be a proper reflection of Christ so others can follow, but you so much opt for the one that will make people stagger.

First of all we live for God, then we live for others. The truth is as a Christian, we do not live for ourselves.
That's why most times we don't make use of the full grace in Christ because others won't understand and they may fall through it. We live in a way, our brothers don't fall because of us.

OP, there's no harm in going by your desires, but I hope you will come back to share your lessons after you've began the journey of not following the instructions given to elders?
Christianity Etc › Re: Polygamy Is Not Sinful! A Biblical Defense by bennyann: 6:55am On May 21, 2017
MZLady39:
Brother,
It was not and is not God's will for polygamy in Christianity.
The Lord clearly states in His Word (Genesis 2:24) that "a man shall leave his father's house & cleave unto his wife".
The same God who created the woman from the man....joined them together as 1 husband & 1 wife.
However, humans have free-will and can choose to make their own decisions in life (Ex. Abraham, Solomon, etc...)
Any choice we make has consequences...
Maybe it's not always about whether something is "sinful" or "not sinful, but rather that God gives us examples of how to do some things in order to save us from future irrevocable problems...
Now is it that you want multiple wives & need justification for it?
That's a good one dear sis. Most of us don't understand yet the reasons behind stories in the Bible.

I really admire Isaac and Rebecca, they gave us no issues unlike Abraham and Sarah, Jacob and Leah/Rachel. Rebecca was no ordinary wife because she was prayerfully chosen.
Politics › Re: Breaking! Another Bombshell Lie From The Stables Of Lai Mohammed by bennyann: 4:29pm On May 20, 2017
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Na today?

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