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I am an accountant I like it but not love,  I wish I had my own business and be the M.D so long it generates good income. moreso I LOVE FREEDOM.

I love being in love, cos it brings the best out of me. Call me a RUTH but that 's d truth.

I could do anything very creative, sing most especially shopping and surf meen I wish I could make a career out of this !

@Akolawole, @Gidig and  @Iyke-D, @zionchic, @Hotstepper I dough my hat for u guys you're da MEN !

Not many people have a dream of discovering who they are, if an individual puts all d efforts and makes it a foreign land he'll surely EXCEL in multiples in his OWN country if he's truly success driven.

Many people have wasted money that they can actually use to invest in a small business on VISAS,  an amount of 350,000 plus ticket cost  all amounting to about 500,000 could get you somewhere back home. some do not see themselves in such calling them small business or simply because they r impatient.  but of course compare being your own boss and going abroad to also hustle, compromise your confidence by starting off doing some dirty jobs.

Going through this thread, I was able to deduce the fact that really and trully not Everyone aspires to b a LEADER, people don't mind SERVING others for the rest of their lives 

You people living abroad why can't u simply tell the truth about what we r all going through here? for God's sake if u can afford a GOOD education abroad , u would definitely  back home, also healthwise I live in the U.K do u know how much we pay for national insurance monthly and yet when you're ill u go to d G.P and you're embarrassing told to go home and take lots of water ? while they concentrate more on the emergency patients, do u consider how long you wait on the NHS list before you are attended to ? sometimes you're get frustrated to go private even after the NI contribution if u can afford this yes u can back home in niger !
I am an accountant and @TWINKLEDEW Who on earth told you that u can claim your tax back in the U.K? for God's sake u can only do this when u have been out of job for sometime and then u get a credit on your salary  and it doesn't make a difference because u were actually OUT OF JOB! . The more you earn d more u pay remember so matter how hard u try to maximise your salary u end up paying a higher tax up to 40% To take care of other lazy unemployed british who live off benefits!

and,,,,,, from my survey the people who are screaming about better life abroad have only just left Naija probably not more than 3-5yrs . Believe me when you get to the peak then you really understand that you're meant to eat the fruits of your own labour and not enslave yourself  or limit your capabilities.

Yes , I am planning to go back and I strongly believe, I will be better off being the EMPLOYER , paying other people at my business and also helping out within my HOUSEHOLD ! We do not get these LUXURY here do we  ?



and I will be looking out to say hi to u people who want to stay and looking forward to their pension b4 they start living good life When I come shopping at SELFRIGES AND HARRODS during summer holidays while you are busy operating the tills or better still window shopping !

sagacious:
I need to know of people going into relationship with old love ,how is it like?

Going back to your old love  actually balances your heart's true feelings, feeling so much needed, appreciated, most especially that natural attachment, where u can freely express yourself, without acting up of being so exposed or such an adult  stage if u now what I mean ?   but ,,, it can be so so fragile, a offence which others may see as minor or normal may be so hurtful, but when it's sweet u 'll be in the clouds , uhm love is so so fragile.

if we truly love each other we'll work something out --- 'attention' contributes a great deal in all relatinships

Txlonghorn:
That fool called me earlier today and wants to know if we all could hang out tonight, because my sis is staying with me right now cause she's mad at my Mom.what a sneaky bastard. I told him we would hang out with our parents tonight.This loser was like can I come with you guys to your parents.Omg this dude is like on my last nerve

Boy oh boy ! so your darling lovely friend has now turned into a FOOL \ SNEAKY BASTARD  all because he wants your sister ? uuuuhm-- how jealous -- check yourself man   it shouldn't be this harsh ! I 'm sure u r being overprotective 'cos u can't handle your sister being treated the way u treat other guys sisters   besides birds of d same feathers flock and u sure know this dude friend of yours moves in and out  . Anyways if it feels so bad, talk to him ASAP, for all u may care to know they could be having 'IT' off already behind your back.,,,, also mind how you handle the situation cos OPPOSITIONS encourage and also intensify such relationships.

twinstaiye:
You are right, otherwise all this seeking of advices will not have happened in the first place. The story would have been, why does he think he can come back into my life again?

Idekeson:
I don't trust you with your present guy, if you can't decide wether you love him enough to forget a guy that you didn't even sleep with back in high school. Are you sure you really love your current boyfriend? Something tells me deep in your heart, you want to get back to your first love.

I quite agree with idekeson & twinstaiye ---- I think it's worth a try giving your 1st love a trial , 'cos if u don't, u'll never stop looking back constantly with regrets no matter how many years. if it doesn't work out then it'll be completely out of your heart. LIFE ITSELF IS A RISK. also I do not think u should be scared of losing your present man 'cos it's so obvious that u do not feel the same way and I think he deserves a bit of honesty. whichever, don't make him feel dumped for another! u can have a mature talk.

and to share my personal experience I am also back with my 1st luv after 9yrs --- it might work out between u two because the feeling is so truly deep and true-- when I look at my man I still see that young boy, we still act like teenagers, our friends do tease us a lot about this !
and--- I also did have d fear that, could it be that it was just an ego game on his part when he kept coming back. the magic was that, I did not just give in to him. He went on a very long lenght, involving every link of people we knew/know, in common, friends, family etc just to have them solicit on his behalf. A man wouldn't go this far if he doesn't truly want u, at this stage if it was only a joke he would back out. I had to make him prove this becos I wasn't sure of who he could have changed into and I knew any slip of heartbreak through him would ruin me.

banke:
t4cash i don't have to invite them, all i needed from nairalands is just an advice, u know when two or more people encourage u don't feel really down, i don't know any body in this forum the only thing i want is their candid advice. no more no less. having the courage to write all this down is just sharing my pains and making someone to feel me!

Banke , how many more hurting news would u want to hear about what these two people have done, are continuing to and might get worse in the future ?

Well I wonder why all the people that were advising you to keep the baby and forgive these two ,are being quite now, the moment u started narrating this experience, I knew there was more to discover! if you want to keep the baby, u'll have to keep the guy yes I do agree with this , but why should you continue in this shit ? why ? I do sympathise with u in this predicament but I just want to let you know that this occurence is not strange in this world, many people are just selfish and HEARTLESS. At this point I do not think you should waste any more precious second by listening to either this boy or your sister . While they were at it, they must have been having fun selfishly thinking about their own pleasure,obviosly not thinking about you, or VALUE the relationship they should both have with you.

Why should you now keep this pregnancy? how dare your sister ask you to leave them alone ? what sort of husband or father do you think this man would be? a MAN should be disciplined and strong to stand his grounds , do you think this boy would be MANLY enough, to responsilbly raise a family? I know how difficult this is but u need to pretend as if u are not the victim here, and imagine the advice u would have offered. The Lord shall be your strength, I wish you good luck.

Thanx

I met my TRUE LOVE 11yrs ago , (20yrs) and he was also my first boy, we broke up, he never stopped begging me to come back but I was so hurt & couldn't even handle being just friends. but as nature would have it I never stopped comparing him to others, later separated by different countries. Somehow he got my phone no:  from a friend called me up just last year ,10yrs after d big break up, ever since then I feel complete all over again and feel naturally in love  AGAIN. We are now engaged

So Educative ! love u all d more 

at 20yrs you have a long way ahead of u, you have got to be strong girl , how old is your man ? he might not truly understand or ready for your sought of commitment. a man is meant to love you & show it ,not treat you unloved, it's not right , find a time to call him and ask him to truly tell you the truth about how he feels about you let him realize how you feel about the whole situation, and use this as a wisdom "when u r in a tight corner let the other man talk , listen hard enough and you'll see the weak spot",

Yeah ! preach it sisters !! when you are reserved they say you are rigid, snub or preeetendiiiiiiiing !! when you are just being friendly they get the wrong message that that u are easy so' they wanna play a fast one , or even the ones who are not so closely your friends point to you as that loose girl always found amongst lads , and the most annoying part is that when you find a man who truly want to get settled with you, he hears rumours , stories about all the guys u've been seen with,