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when you thought money is all you need in life to be happy but reality dooms you.

The biggest turnoff is when you are not behaving like a realman,you let her lead you,you are the woman on the relationship,forget about all this feminists men are naturally born to lead women subconsciously know this ,I don't mean you should beat you wife or gf I mean don't let you woman make decisions all the time.

women naturally want to be protected so you take the lead and protect her the moment you fail to lead your woman lead your relationship is going down..

carter009:
Average man or not, but I will still advice you to go and make money, you can toast a lady for all I care, but without money nothing for you , no lady need a broke ass dude around her.

Am not a broke dude hmmm and I don't waste money on women...

words like

**you are the sugar in my life tea

**you are the cockroach in my cupboard

**hello sexy angel

**which part of heaven did you fall from

**I will do anything for you baby


**you are soo beautiful

and worst of all

the fake overused and abused word 'I love you'

doesn't work again.

if the lady in question doesn't fell any natural attraction for you its a total waste of time and words up your game nigga..

MariaLavina:
All these will only work on a lady who has a thing for you and is only waiting for you to shoot your shot.



Be like say this op never chop better slap.

All my life even when I was a shy guy a girl has never raised a hand on me the worst I girl has done is to say am not in the mood to talk then I walk away simple..Negative mindst attracts negative energy...

lonelygem:
Woooooow..

Interesting but baseless..
I hope your blog will be useful enough to at least feature a link on "how to nurture vegetables from nursery stage.." This will help the masses and contribute to our shaky economy.

Nice write up skills though..

you are thinking about nurturing vegetables when other nations are thinking travelling to other planets and building advanced machines Blackman and inferiority complex.

carter009:
go and make money and see how she will start a conversation that will last for 2 hours, na you go run, � � � �

you can't understand you are still an average man

aklemp:
We all search for true unconditional love in life. If someone says they aren't, they're telling a big lie.

A poor/broke guy with a hot girlfriend will be happier than a rich man with the same hot girlfriend as far as love is concerned. The reason rich people may be miserable is because they know deep down people love them for their money/status/achievements and if it weren't because of these vanities people would not care at all about them.

So at the end of the day it depends on what you want. Do you want true love? If yes, by all means avoid using money to get love. When you finally score that hot girl with your character and word of mouth, she will be yours for life and you will feel it

This is the truth they say is bitter that's why most men run away from it.you ask yourself don't the wife and girlfriends of rich men cheat ?if money is all in a relationship why is tonto dikes divorced ?why is tiwa divorced ?a man who understands women is far more attractive than any other type of man.most of these men cannot hold a 5minute interesting conversation with a pretty woman money is the way for them.

nicepoker101:
Op this is my version. I didn't see anything about money in your post. I hereby declare this epistle as irrelevant.

maybe you should walk up to a babe and show her a bundle of money and tell her to follow you then come back and tell us result hmmmm.attraction is a product of emotions I wonder how you guys cope with golddiggers because in reality you know she doesnt love you..

Drshobz:
once there is money
your confidence will rise
ur self esteem will increase

the only language most gals understand is money

when I was broke ( not dat am rich) I hardly toast ladies
but now dat am seeing small change
see the way they flock around me

I have fvck 3 friends with money
so my guy go and make money

Money attracts women yes because because they are guarded by a natural instinct to find protection or security a rich man can guarantee a woman security but biologically nature gives everyman a chance to reproduce if only he can toughen up a very confident man is very likely to survive in this difficult world.

Davash222:
Giving her money is the easiest natural way to attract Women. Let’s be realistic here, please.

OK all the best for you and your money magnet

Davash222:
Or you can just give her money and skip all these steps.

money spending is not a natural way to attract. women remember be natural it is far better.

SmellySperm:
mtcheew!these farm toolz don't need those....just flash them money

respect women so they can respect your sisters

Once again I am no dating coach am just a natural man who loves to teach my fellow guys(only those willing to learn) how to be natural too with women.whether you accept it or not women are important to a man's life they were created to make men happy a man can never be truly happy without a woman in his life unless he is gay ,or impotent forget the hypocrisy displayed here.

The way to success with women starts from the mind .a man who sees himself as unattractive or is nervous and shy will not be too attractive to women the only we to build your confidence is to change your mindset about women firstly and secondly face your fears .As for the former you have to stop seeing women as being rude,nasty ,wicked ,insulting most women are friendly only a few are nasty probably because they may be lesbians,recently heartbroken,or just naturally have bad attitude not your fault.as for the latter face your fears by approaching women on the street,malls,supermarket, campus etc no matter how they treat you just keep moving this is recommend because if you eventually gets successful either once or twice it will boost your confidence so much that your fears will wear away gradually.you require some good set of skills to add to your confidence.

(1) when you approach a lady for the first time assume strongly in your mind it will be successful and put on a beaming and genuine smile and be relaxed under you skin she is human just like you.when you say hello to a lady for the first time the first thing she does is to read your body language which she is programmed to do naturally if see sense you are nervous ,shaky or lack self belief she may up her defence against you as she perceives you are not man enough.
(2)if she responds positively to you, you can say things like wow looks like someone had a stressful day or you can say why so much hurry life is too short to be in so much hurry lady slow down ,sometimes it doesn't matter what you say just be confident and positive you will be sure of yourself like you are talking to a male friend.if she gives you a frowned face you just smile and still believe in urself its just a test .

(3)extend the convo by asking her where she works ,schools and please don't ask too much questions ,just talk to her freemindedly like you are talking to a guy don't compliment her looks nope don't pass a sexual message too early compliment her intelligence,sense of humour dress sense but not her looks.

(4)don't stay for too long get her number and leave next thing is to fix a date.

my blog is coming soon am not doing this for money and fame and doing it because I love teach people.

byeee
see you next week.

morningstar55:
Truth be heard,every man dreams of a better tomorrow but the difference is ACTION.
It might interest you to know that most poor men are comfortable and happy being poor.

this one is high on weed ,if you love poverty please don't generalize it.

XaintJoel20:
Reasons are numerous while Nigerian could possibly slide into a fourth world country.
Some times when I remember what majority of the youths of this country do on social media, my belief in Nigeria's retrogression is certained .
While youths of developed and developing countries are doing more research on how advance, Nigerian youths spend time on frivolities.
It's sad...

so the Youths of other countries don't talk about sex smh.you guys will just be saying wat you don't know or sure of .last time I checked western countries invented porn and the consume it including we Africans the problem of Nigeria is hypocrisy.

fecta:
I. Don't know why you have to lie.

95% of women are products, look for the one you can afford or better still find true love in the 5%


My sisters if you were angry at the comment I made you are a product shikena

my guy I didn't read your comment to the end before I concluded your a realistic and wise they are millions of beautiful women within your reach and level .if every body in the world think the way some nairalanders think it would be a depressed world nairalanders can make mountains out of molehills.

chenzen:
lol.


its rather funny how some people jump up and down during their birthday as if they just won a jackpot...


u see a lady @ 35 single and without a boyfriend jumping up and down @ her birthday when she should be sober reflecting on her life and what has gone wrong with her.


u see a man @ fourty jumping up and down during his 41st birthday, a man who has no job, no money in his bank account, a man who lives in his fathers house and eats his mothers food and still collect small change for shaving stick & transport.


what is wrong with all u people.

foolish suicidal mentality.I guess you must look really older than your age because you overthink.don't be grateful that you are even alive to celebrate go to hospitals and cemeteries and see people of your age who do not have the privilege to even type on their phone like you are doing right now ungrateful fellow.Blackman mentality is sickening.

StarUp:
Start the investigation from "why he left the army"...

smart woman this are the kind of women we want in Nigeria not this empty headed slay queens that's very good way to start investigation.

only frustrated a humans would post a nauseating topic like this otedola is not even ready to die at 100.

MrBrownJay1:
As much as you started well and made "some sense" you failed miserably in the end....
A) the best advisor wouldn't tell you how the great man looks or acts, but he will show you how to become that person.
B) women are an incredible bunch, and all are different from one to the next.... Thinking that one way works for all, will have you fail time and time again.
C) now, talking about a "strongman" can be anything...strong mentally? physically? Financially? Emotionally? And sadly different women are attracted to different strength.... But above all what they desire is SECURITY
D) there is a thin line between self belief and being cocky.... Learning how to avoid crossing the line is the most important part.
E) with women, you must always be able to adapt to situations at hand, "standing your ground" is a wrong approach as any situation must be evaluated. It certainly shows you are NOT open minded, NOT flexible, NOT understanding, and most importantly narrow minded.
F) again, it's not everyone that can naturally be funny... And sometimes it's best to say nothing than make jokes that will throw someone off. If you ain't got it, you ain't got it. Don't try to be who you are not, because it will ALWAYS come back to bite you in the aaaass. So BE YOURSELF, the real you, not the fake pretense you.
G) be real and honest about your feelings/emotions...tell her about you, open up to her, don't be scared of her, don't be scared to let her into your heart/world. If you can't be fully honest with a woman, you will hardly succeed with women.

FINALLY, women themselves don't know what they really want (and even when they do, it can change at any times), so you got to understand that and be willing to adapt to that person, as you go along discovering her... And in return, possibly discovering emotions/feelings that you didn't know you had

before Id answer I would like to know if this long epistle is written by a man with loads of experience with women or just assumptions.

JasonScoolari:
....And the name of our senior special adviser on relationships matters is Mr. bigpriik.

hahaha doesn't mean anything now I just love controversy my spec even the above topic is controversial.

TarOrfeek:
Best dating advice - Don't date.

you must be gay
even your parents can never give that kind of advice

luvyaself95:
Some people will just open unnecessary thread with empty their brain...
who ask you to describe nairaland in your opinion...
idiot...

another dumbo wooow what a forum.

I discovered they are so many dating coaches here on NL but how many of them can you boast that their techniques really worked for you or changed your dating life ,last time I checked I have never seen any testimony here of any success .getting the women they like is very hard for many guys I guess it's one of the reasons guys resent women so much on this forum .

Am not a dating coach but this is the best dating advice you will ever receive ever on the internet.if you want to get the best women to like you then you have to be your best self its as simple as that .how do you become your best self .

1)love yourself:if you do not love yourself people will treat you like trash ,men will disrespect you and women will do worse to you .if you are the type that go through life with inferiority complex then then you literally will not be attractive to most, women they will see through you and its a turnoff.

2)believe in yourself :
the core primal attraction trigger in women is to find a "strongman" women do not know this but thats what they crave in a man it is part of their survival instint.A man who lacks self belief cannot trigger that natural attraction in women so whenever you approach women always be relaxed and confident in yourself.


3)pass her test:

No matter how confident you are even if they like you initially women will always test your confidence either with words or actions they subconscious do this to know if you are the man they are looking for this is crazy to most guys that's why you hear words like she dey form,she play hard to get,she doesn't answer my questions all these are just tests if you can pass them you are the bomb:what you should do when you encounter these tests is to "stand your ground" don't loose that initial self belief you had in yourself just becoz she is challenging you just laugh and allow her do her girl stuff.if she calls you are talkative tell her you were proudly a parrot in your former life,if she doesnt open up leave the fight for another day.whenever you are interacting with women always be yourself and stand your ground don't worry you will get better with time.

be funny :

humans cannot resist a funny person the ability to make laugh without being a clown is very attractive to women when you are self confident you will naturally know what to say to women to make them laugh.

watch out for more free updates...

Nairaland just a land where people have the opportunity to express their innermost opinions and desires in which they do not have the guts to express in real life because of fear of being ridiculed or judged.in this forum I have heard and seen things and come across people I have never come across my entire life.some are dumbos ,some are weirdos ,while some are extremely intellectual I will not mention names of weirdos and dumbos here before them I shake table .

byeee.

DonX001:
@Bolded,
The idiot should sent to jail for so long that by the time he comes out, the only people that can remember his songs would have already become grandfathers and grandmothers by then, using walking stick.

you are a fool would you say such if he was your brother I wish this naira marlies saga turns to war between youths and the government mtchwwwwww.

one thing can lead to the other.the way am seeing this whole naira marley saga with the way its going nation wide and the world over it may lead to a serious revolution and blood shed a war between Nigerian youths and the government the support the youths have for naira marley shows that poverty has clouded the morals standards of the Nigerian society.

xendra:
pffttt only a user will do most of the B.S. on your list, " ask her for money" give her your card to test her" lol... forget it. everybody read these sh!t

So your long epistle is about how a man can pick any woman of his choice (mostly based on beauty) but the woman is not allowed to pick based on her own choice (mostly based on money)?

forget love, even men don't think about love, just be well packaged/ beautiful. and you expect the woman to now loose her self for the man in the name of love? THINK AGAIN.

I wonder how men cope with ladies like you if its me I go don japa dump you since because I will notice it .I hate women with this mentality.FYI you know nothing about men because you are a lady we men are equally as complicated as women you cannot pinpoint what attracts us to you people .men choose women based on wat I call diiick factor or emotional factor if a choose chooses you based on the diiik factor that means he finds you good for just sex and will dump you later, but if chooses you based on emotional factor that means he sees a future with you a.for me I prefer women am emotionally attracted to because I will later loose interest if I like you based on your looks..

lilwetdick:
The high rate of sex obsession among Nigerian young men is alarming, night and day, all you will hear these men talking about sex, how they knack one girl and the other like it an achievement, everything you hear about them talk about is sex, sex, nkechi, sex, Bleep, em sweet, her pussy tight, her pussy no tight, i suck breast and all sort of nonsense talk that adds no value to human civilization, the energy they invest in talking about sex makes it seems like sex is the solution to poverty alleviation or a means to prosperity and a strategy for survival in this country.

The reality is this, a sex-obsessed man can never make anything good out of life. men build society not get obsessed about sex, sex is good but shouldn't be your main focus of existence, why waste your time and energy when you can build and have a good life with the youthful energy you are using to Bleep all the girls in the town, why dont you use it to lay a foundation for your future success so that when you are in your mid 30s-40s you wont be part of the losers shouting how Nigeria is the worst place to live.

Truth be told, most poor men of the future from this genertion will be men who used all their energy, time and thought to get sex rather than to build up their lives.

op with stupid assumptions if you have low libido goan treat yourself abeg your monicker shows you are even more obsessed With sex .
were you born on the 60s 80s or 70s before you conclude men of this generation are obsessed with sex.I love sex and am doing very well don't generalize

QueenSekxy:
Someone like op is not a man, he's a ritualist and a fraudster. Or maybe, an immature chap of probably 15years old.

@emboldened, when did you turn to monitoring spirit? I also, have to correct some stereotyped notion some uninformed lads carry and swallow, all in the name of reading a nonsense and useless article from nobodies on a public forum.

smh for your thin brain