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AjanleKoko: Nah. You miss the point.
The whole point of dating, in my view, is to understand the dynamic and improve one's perspective. Note, my view only.
If for example, you have determined to get married at age 28, every relationship from when you start dating, till you settle on the final choice, is part of your 'education'.

So, Mr Corper had better be 'investing' in this particular relationship so as to broaden his horizon, especially if he didn't have much experience prior to NYSC. I stand corrected, but the majority of guys roast during their school years. Some gals as well, but mostly guys. So it is in Mr Corper's best interest to date during his service year, so he can start to 'train' for the 'Big Event'.

sweet..! a lot of cane choppers

esere826: In Came Ify


Ify is 10 years younger than Paul -she was looking UP, UP to him in the Age range category of her power scale
Although he was out of work, she was a University Student still under the care of her comfortable parents
She was not under pressure to marry while stiil in uni -Putting Paul SIDEWAYS in finance
Pauls' big familly name must have also tickled her, pushing him UP in her power scale

Paul get sweet mouth and is extremely intelligent (afterall na him build the Rock Cathedral) -Pushing him UP in her intellectual power scale
Paul is widely travelled -UP in her adventurism power scale


For Paul, Ify's beauty would have put her in his UP power scale
Her pedigree (dad is a prof, mum German) would put her in his SIDEWAY power scale
Paul's mum and Ify's mum are both none nigerians -Gives them something to talk about and share)
Many other conditions would have been in the SIDEWAY to DOWN power scale from Paul's perspective
plus offcourse she could manage him. Afterall she was not in a hurry to go anywhere at that point in her life

With such perfect conditions
GBAM ....LOVE was in the air

BONS

Idowuogbo: Ghen Ghen Ghen! Eshin shin carry kpomo!

Oga bee, u dey jot the scores?

i tire o madam ID
soon them go implicate oga of NL for this kasala

[quote author=tpia@]Post without launching personal attacks, dear.

Unless you are the op, i see no reason why the thread,or my response, is paining you so.

In your opinion, married men are the ones chasing the op and/or yourself, because, as you say, somebody who was stalking you because of your beauty or maybe money, obtained your phone number from you indirectly.


Not sure what we are supposed to do with this information, and maybe you should also let us know how it negates the fact that women openly and unashamedly chase married men as if their lives depended on it.


We should close our eyes and sings hymns affirming the angelic nature of we females, is that your point? Spell it out, thanks, some of us are slowand dont get whatever it is you're trying to say.[/quote]love this post
People should learn to divorce personalities from issues

coogar: most is the operative word, biolabee!

noted ... no wahala

coogar: most married women get big yansh na.........

stop stereotyping
the modern married ladies now are chicks.. mehn

slim and sultry
if u see them on the streets, you will not even know they are after 2

coogar: don't mind uju!
they know how to slap an okada man trying to make moves but when it comes to wealthy married men the excuses keep flying out - "they are too persistent"

Some of these single girls.. if u see them manhandle their drivers or househelps you will know they are true daughters of Katherine the shrew
But when the money man rolls in ala The Lion and the Jewel, they will Sidi up and be fuzzy about the person's marital status


This post is MINT

ddippset: the OP might be sincere in her post. maybe, just maybe. but 95% a sizeable percentage of ladies have a principle of 'no dating married men' when the guy is broke or average, but when he's loaded, just like my man jay z said, they get fuzzy and they dont remember!

Note: strike through is mine

Pataki: You are way too daft to know your nose is used for breathing.

You might as well open your arssssss in the open market and suck up all the air you need.

I hope you are keeping a close eye on your husband. I really won't be surprised if he is one of those hitting up on the Tashamania's of NL.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]The point is - Why does it need to get to that point?!!!

I think this is what you guys are missing....Why does it have to get to the point where a single girl has to tell a married man to back off!! By virtue of being a MARRIED MAN he should automatically know to BACK OFF!!!!

That's all!!!![/quote]if you have a good land, be ready for wheat and tares

[quote author=tpia@]As for the op, its simply a case of attack is the best form of defence, which she's using here.

Trying to make her married lovers look like the bad guys when in actual fact it takes two to tango. How did the man or men get hold of her phone number?


she saw his id on her phone at 10 pm, hurriedly answered it expecting to hear some sweet nothings or maybe a booty call request/ recharge card or brazilian hair cash drop, only to get a rude shock and nothing like what she had in mind.

Agbere, smh. Lord have mercy o.


As per women who were truely deceived by married men pretending to be single, that is not the op's situation.[/quote]OUCH!!

[quote author=tpia@]I think its a well known fact these days, its actually more common to see women chasing married men, than the other way round.

Some married men of course will chase women no matter the number of wives they have at home, whether 1 or 100, but the excessively high levels of women who will literally do anything to hook a married man, is an open secret.[/quote]

ItsModella: Apparently, there are a lot of learners on this thread. Some married men are the most persistent people I've ever seen. A friend told me of some site called eskimi, that is where you'll see 40-60 year old men (as per grandfathers) yanfu yanfu looking for young girls to bed. Shior, people don't know anything here.

Goes to google rightaway

Ujujoan: *Spits*

ewww.... gets galoshes to trudge through the spit land

reminds me of the lady who married the spitaholic

Ujujoan: She said married men in real life and nairaland . . and you know what, I believe her . . . I have no reason whatsoever to doubt her because it's has a 100% chance of being true!
So let the married men go after the single women looking for aristos and leave the poster alone.
Simples!

That is why the lady has to say NO
They will back off and look for more acquiescent ladies
But when she dey collect the gifts and trip to dobuy for shopping
married money no good that time

mutter: Well Ujujoan, sometimes we can be fooled but in most cases if we look hard enough we find out that the man is married before we get involved.

This is a female Daniel on this thread

Tasha the fabler.. take note

mutter: Just wondering how a married man can disturb a single woman
A man finding you attractive is a compliment. The woman can gracefully thank him for that and reject the offer!
From reading the post it is clear that you must have entangled yourself with that married man before the wife threatened you!
Now this !leave me alone I do not want" or "he was the one after me" excuse. is very old.
Whenever a man gets very pushy in his request the woman has in most cases given him the go ahead.
A decent firm woman knows how to put advances to an end before they get to the stage of being a nuisance.
Quite honestly as much as married men go after single women, many single women target them too because they are more likely to invest financially.

OUCH!!

lafflaff123: Make I concentrate on the one wey dey pain me now IDOWU.

Even with the WAR/FIGHTNG going on around me on this page, I am crawling with bullets flying over my head and trying to get to my objective IDOWU.

Hey Idowu I don try PM you but I no know if I do am well. Check your inbox or nairaland box if anything show.

Yepe.. You don loss eh

coogar: tasha is a bloody attention seeker.......

From debosky to pataki
Now I know tasha is an Eris

coogar: you know the end is nigh when only 3 out of 20 randomly picked naija women have a single partner. the other 17 have 4-5 boyfriends at a time.

Poke and clean mouth
All is fall in love and lucre

Is tasha an agent of discord planted to fan flames

Getting bloody....

Pataki: Stillwater, what kinda fines are you advocating for ladies to pay?

See it is so easy to put the blame on one particular gender in this case - men. But the truth is that if the men are so shyyyytie as you indicate - the blame should start from women/mothers who do not raise these sons/men to be proper role models to their ladies.

Ladies like Tashamania, I see them as such potential women/mothers! Her previous posts on this forum indicates that; so far you have a dangling stick in between your legs, you are a good game for her.

OUCH!!

Yekparipa

I warned her about her reputation o
#nameandshame

lafflaff123: If you are happily married I am happy for you. And if you are happily married to somebody other than a Nigerian and happy in your marriage then I am doubly happy for you, since Nigerian men are scary but I do want to let you know that infidelity is not an exclusive club of the Nigerian man alone.

Ask Bill Clinton ala Lewinsky and ask Arnold(terminator) about his child with his house maid. While I do not condole infidelity both in marriages and committed relationships, I dare say as compared to most men in the world Nigerian men still fare better.

I do not know the country you reside in, but if you visit most western countries and even some developing countries like Jamaica, Zimbabwe, SA and the rest of them, then you will know that though Nigerian men have their bad sides, women to a large extent get treated with respect.

Even the married men running after skirts outside their marriages in Nigeria are usually discreet in such act, and while you might not agree with them on why or how they do it, they at least try not to flaunt it in their wives face.

@ freecocoa if you are not married, then I suggest you get married to an African American man and see how women are treated. Very rarely do you see an African American man that does not have babies outside( baby mama's) while still happily married to their wives and they don't even care to hide their multiple outside relationships.

Ditto the married African American woman too.

I do not look like Tuface Idibia (fine boy) but at the rate married American women blatantly throw caution to the wind wanting to get laid can scare the strongest of heart( you go dey wonder abi she get wetin she wan infect you with) so coming here to say NA THESE THINGS WOMEN WAN MARRY is actually outside the point, as there are good/faithful and bad/unfaithful men all over the world as infidelity knows no race, country ,gender or color.

Some people will tell you that Yoruba women are the most unfaithful in Nigeria, but I usually tell people with such thoughts that the are actually wrong as unfaithfulness knows no tribe( after all IDOWU na Yoruba and she dey my eye now)and I come from a part of Nigeria where JUJU is suppose to kill a cheating wife, but I have met a lot of women from my tribe, especially on visits to Europe(London and Italy still fresh in my mind) who are happily married in Nigeria but are getting laid left and right there and still JUJU no kill them.

This story started with a girl complaining about single/married men hitting on her a lot, and as I said she alone knows herself and she alone knows the truth on how/why/where she and her multiple hitters(married/single) come across each other, and as an adult she should deal with it privately and not come here and start telling us about her adventures or why she even chooses to embark on them at all.

Bros you have killed it
These ladies never miss an opportunity to hit on the naija male

The lady may be lying but they will slyly channel their frustrations onto naija males

I don't know why

I say amin to your prayers

Please leave the males for the women who need them

Shuo

stillwater: Their manner of speech borders on degradation of the female sex to say the least. Very uncouth, crude and mannerless approach to women. Who are their mothers, is the question I ask? Thank God for social media. The world can see their dirty speech and actions. We women need to go to the drawing board. We can't be shi*tting out miscreants, or sleeping with certain barbaric elements of the society to produce another generation of barbarism. Seriously speaking, any woman that does so must pay a fine! What nonsense!

again with generalisations
 
Is it a nigerian man that cheated on his wife, the future queen of england
is it a nigerian man that kidnapped and r.aped jaycee Lee for years
is it a nigerian man that .. in short if i start e no go finish
read up on charlie manson, gilbero valle
 
you ladies just dont appreciate naija males
 
go and date the serial killers na shuo

stillwater: @OP, the best thing to do is to disgrace them.
People are saying your No has to be firm, like say Nigerian men in Nigeria dey hear word.

yes disgrace and name/shame them or your e- reputation will not recover
you many need to open a new moniker when the storm hits you
we are waiting

choi... e no go better for scammers

well done and excellent job.. ifyalways

busted!!

debrief08: Thank You Biolabee, just came back briefly to deal with some work issues that required my personal attention, would leave again soon.
As for your comment, I didn't direct my response at anyone, what I said was people who are afriad to share their real life challenges to friends they boast to come here to look for advice.
I know for a fact that people lots of people have great marriagges, I have one, but I also know in the real society we pretend a lot and are encouraged to do so.
I shared here how I mistakenly left a brusie uncovered in church when I was with my ex and the pastors wife scolded me as if I committed murder.
Her piece from the introduction talks about those who stay and die in marriage even when they are unhappy yet pretending to all that all is well.
I was severally warned not to share my former marriage challenges and issues, even here I was told to stop speaking about my divorce because it didn't fit into "societial ideal"
The truth is people and events are not perfect, as soon as people admit what's wrong and objectively seek sollutions we would have better dtronger unions, this is not a woman problem but a pretentious societies problem.
We even write articles that advocate that people shouldn't share their burdens because those who advice them are "pretenders"
I believe people should be more open, objective and honest. Society should reduce judgement on single women, divorced and seperated people, as long as we continue to stigmatise those who refuse to stay in misery we will keep having women who pretend till their death

MINT!!

I know we are not perfect but we put up a public persona
wish you all the best in your endeavours
It is well

naijababe: God have mercy o!

get out of my head

debrief08: I agree with with her, I don't think she is refering to all married women but those but those who love to harass single women.
There are some married women who are fond of making singles feel bad and specialise in harrasing them to "go and marry". Really happily married folks know that a good marriage is not rushed.
Also she was in my oppinion speaking to the people who will advice you to stay and rot even in unpleasant marriages, who will never be real on what really goes on and always want to show how marriage defines them.
I tell my friends being single is not a crime or disease, don't pretend, don't out of desperation marry and swallow all misery.
Be real, when you face challenges that overwhelm you say so, if not you will die in silence.
So many of them in church wearing asoebi yet covered in bruises.
Why do you think Nairaland has so much traffic? So many people who pretend to their friends and family in real life find solace here.
A bad broken down marriage is not a thing to be ashmaed of, being single or divorced is not a crime, be honest and open and you won't die prematuredly from heart attack, HIV or beatings.

Darn.. now u go and bust some people's merry charade parade
welcome back.. how was journey?