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debrief08: But like he says, if he has an affair its him who has something to loose not any lady.

preetydiva: Now I'm laughing hard! Lol. U're so funny. Thanks for ur comment jare . See it's not like the male folks are devils. Na. We (both genders) need one another. That's how God made it. I'm talking based on some other people's experience and complaints that they wish that relationships with their boyfriends,husbands, would treat them the same way that they used to when they toasted them that's all. If u read what I wrote,u would see that it showed that The men usually used to do all those stuff and more. But into the relationship, or into the marriage,they kindda reduce or stop it. It's not a war against the male folks pls. I still have brothers and father figures out there too. It's just an observation. It's nothing to be taken personal. Someone explained a good point earlier and he's Male. I even replied him for his maturity. He 'understood' the message. Thanks for ur contribution. It made me smile

chronique: Where are the final year students? lecturer is around o. Pls take ur seats ASAP.

Pataki: This is what I utterly disagree with.

The thread title is an insult.....the OP is ignorant/bitter about an issue in marriage.....then you create a thread to denigrate 'most' Nigerian men.

I hope the OP learns to correct her silly reasoning on time before it gets way too late.

greatgod2012: @op, you may think like that, but its not always like that, men, too are emotional beings, and if their women dont appreciate them, they also have the tendency of doing the same, so, if you feel deprived of appreciation, not complimented, not flattered, why dont you try and give them first.
There is a popular saying that says......."do unto others what you want them do unto you". Also, Gods words says, "give and it shall be given unto you", therefore, i will advise you to give the compliments first and you will definately get them back.
May God help us all.

CFCfan: *Falls from Golden gate bridge*

emerald topaz: God pls dont let me marry any of these men that patronize prostitutes or hv eva patronized one in his life.this i ask 4 in Jesus name!

Daresh: Sweetie it is women I blame for their plight. We believe we must marry and are willing to it all manner of bullshit just to claim married woman. See I'm married and I don't do half of the things u listed. I have a cleaner that cleans the house for me, I have a washer, my husband and I share work. YES we do. When he said to me what his foolish friends said to him " when I woman gets married she forgets her husband and only cares for kids" , I told him straight up, am I a machine? So after all this work while u sit and watch tv you still expect me to have time for you? If you want me to to care of u then help me to care of them and then I won't be too tired. After he saw that was it ol boy buckled up. Now he gets them ready for school while I make lunch. He cleans up when I'm too tired. The only thing he doesn't do is cook cos Walahi he will burn my house down. I'm so not stressed and I thank God for that

In essence women don't sell ur selves short. I'm not scared to be alone. My motto is I'd rather be alone than unhappy.

born7win: @OP

Don't confuse NL and society. My mother, aunties, and grandmothers have been pressuring my sisters to get married forever. The men in my family don't give a s h i t. I would say that most of the pressures come from women. These men on NL say it as a form of insult. They themselves wouldn't marry these ladies; they haven't even married their girlfriends.

My dear, taking the words that the pranksters on the romance section say to heart tells me that you are a learner. Instead of giving yourself a heart attack on NL, you should go and find yourself a husband.

Gamesmart: If marriage is that bad and valueless to women then why do women in all parts of the world including the West

- want it
- are desperate to go into it
- pressure men for it
- make it a destination goal after crossing an age
- enter it
- stay in it
- fight for it to continue going
- are miserable and bitter if it ends
- and are keen on get in another one after it ends

Come off it, sugar. Women are addicted to, are hungry for, work hard to and are desperate to marry, even the ones in western countries where marriage is increasingly out of fashion and there is no pressure. Except you are saying women are purely dumb, they sure do gain alot from marriage for them to make it centre of and priority of their lives.

Matthew briggs: What a very smart analysis at OP, from you post I deduced the following.
Your post should be called the "Desirability Quotient"

Which states that.
That the desirability of a man is directly proportional to Class and intelligence. While that of a woman is directly proportional to sex appeal and inversely proportional to Age. Given that the order of the present society remains constant.

The set "Class" is made up of the following variables such as, financial status, age, education, sex appeal and family background. With financial status been the most important variable.

It is to be noted that this quotient is used to determine desirability and possibility of you getting the one you Love or fancy to say yes to a relationship, but can not be trusted 100% to measure the possibility of finding true love.

NB: Love can not be reduced to a formula it's a force that till 2moro defies logic, it can't be bought or manipulated by tweaking your desirability value. True love is is divine.

Increasing your desirability can only help in getting you true love notice you or give you a chance.

That been said. I keep on increasing my desirability Value, to make it easier for her to say yes, and give "US" a chance.

Secondly in answer to the new dilemma faced by women who have discovered that the're is a short supply of desirable guys. They have 2 options which is either they lower their standards to a reasonable level and should'nth wait till their desirability quotient go down natural before doing so. Or they can keep contesting with the 90% women for the desirable 10%.

#Matthew Briggs

babestell: This is scary, very scary. How is the nation to move ahead if people cannot even understand when someone is speaking from a professional or 3rd person point of view. Most every issue be personal to the writer

Idowuogbo: Wots Olu Messiah saying? Dem tell u I come hia come find man? So bcus my online packaging carry craze dat automatically defines my person offline? wiv all d idi-amin stunts u dey pull for islamia section, awon Al-Qaeda don send you invite to their annual extremist get together parrie? U beta keep dat "if you want quality" bullshyte to yourself biko! Msteeeeeeeeeeeew! Oshisko!

merengue: w**.

2buff: Op and her fellow complainers. Please don't worry about it.
This your pain is only for a season.
A time is coming (within the next 2 decades) when random married men won't chase you anymore.

So biko bare the pain for now you hia?

Alaanyihaji: Tasha,I can quite appreciate ua absolute abhorence of the constant overtures from married folks and the warning to all is well taken.As a soft landing on the matter, it's good you take note of the following three things:1. A married man who goes after single ladies online or real life is i) one with a pervert mind and need to be saved,ii) Is married but lonely in that some women (wives) once they hav one or two kids neglect the attention the man needds and face teir children,iii)struggling with the intimacy issues in his marriage- eg a busy or a sick wife iv) is simplistic and young at heart and is easily attracted by the allure,charisma,command,flow, and beauty of fine girls like u,among other reasons: None of the above makes it right or recommendable to the single lady.2.Many of such guys don't always end up exploiting the single ladies-in the process they hav setup homes for the single lady, helped the indigent complete their education and some time put them in enviable positions in employments.3. It's important for the singles now to know that they will be the married of tmrow and determine to correct the aforementioned weaknesses of married women.Ask the married men who come your way what's wrong with homefront and they will tell you more. Thanks and keep your decision.cheers.

AjanleKoko: Well, it's not a 'strategy' at all. Just a way out for brothers who 'lost out' when they were in Uni.

Like you rightly pointed out, girls like to date upwards. So Mr Corper should take advantage, and go after uni or poly girls who live in his town of primary assignment. So he can quickly 'upskill' himself where women are concerned.

That way, when he is unleashed unto the wider world, he can be better equipped to handle man-woman interaction. Just imagine a guy who had no babe all through uni, and also roasted during his NYSC, now getting a job in a nice bank in VI, where lots of nice bubbly chicks abound. It would be more like a fish drowning in water

Minimal effort can be expended to get qualitative results. And there is enough room for trial and error

BoboYekini: I think that what should most concern us is the impact that this phenomenon is having on the larger male dxxy demographic. Hordes of sex starved, frustrated angry guys out there, very angry
just check this fellow's outburst:


@esere, you will advise they date paraga sellers? or perhaps truant secondary school girls? hmm...seems quite workable. A man's gotta handle his bidness. One way or another.

nnafather: Women are naturally lazy...right from the Garden of Eden. That's why they are mainly the agents of Satan. An idle woman is a devil's workshop.

AjanleKoko: Ol boy. Everybody needs to train oh.

coogar: wait till i start hounding you......
i shall make you my 4th wife.