₦airaland Forum

Ferdinandu: Wey the Married men wey dey house and want some action outside marriage .indicate your city make we compile the list of ashi joint wey dey your joint send to you make una leave the single ladies in da house for we single Guys.Abi una no dey hear wetin the single ladies dey talk ni.

Hmm.. Ashi Joint almanac
Before we need your services,
Let the op name and shame or let her be branded a teller of fables

Time takes time - permit my statement

You can't expect men who have always been traditional in outlook to jump to neo modern men in one generation

I don't think it's only people around me. A lot of women I know are happy in their homes and even when I travel to the West, men help their wives do groceries, medical appointments etc

So be hopeful

Amelian I feel you jare
A lot of advice but at times those things are helpful in some Cases

In our part of the world, we tend to be conservative and view upwardly mobile young women as rebellious. Times are also changing too

Dahbutter: Its a pity u over estimate the worth of the average Naija girl. Am going to yansh one girl dis nite and she is coming from her guys house to mine 4 an agreed fee, she's already on d way to mines and even promised not to wear pant.

The larger percentage of Naija undergrad and wannabe undergrad chicks are ashys in secret, so wats d big deal.

As per having a relationship to get free sex? We guys hav discovered that "sex for free" is actually a lot more expensive in real sense yet worth far less than sex 4 cash

#team cash 4 @ss!

Badt guy

[quote author=[CHocolaTE]]
True.
Since men are now getting assistance from women when it comes to bread winning then it is only logical that they should help women when it comes to housework.


Majority kwa? Which majority?
You must not be living in Nigeria for you to have made this statement.[/quote]I have said that countlessly here but I will say it one more time

Men have always viewed house work as the responsibility of the women
Times have changed
Men will take time to change
It will TAKE TIME

On the majority of men loving their wives, that is my experience of the males in my family and my friends
If you don't accept it no problem

slimyem: ^fair enough.I can relate to it that way..

No problem

HotNaijaBabe: @Topic..Married men chase single girls and even tell stupid lies to get these gals( also,some single ladies chase married man even when they know these men are married) ..I wonder why some of you chose to ignore the simple truth..And its really frustrating to start a relationship with a guy who lied about his marital status only to find out his lies from his wife(just the way Op did)..

#My own experince -A married man told me he no longer talks to his wife cos they have issues- I found out his wife is heavily pregnant and he only needed a spare punny(to pass time)..Of course, I insulted him that very first day(I enjoy insulting married man who propositions me all the time)..and then I told everyone in the office..
@Op, u already know some NL men have no regard for women and no matter what u post/say..they always want to drag u down and trample on u..So, don't let them get to you..
#And pls always let people around u know about any married man that disturbs u, shame will chase them away from u(if u truly don't have interest in them).

Very practical advice.
Believe me any pretty single lady knows this
If she is telling the truth, Tasha is using this post to warn off a person(s)

slimyem: "a few","a lot of","a sizeable number" can be accepted not some non-experient value/percentage pulled out of nowhere.

ok so if the person i quoted had used adjectives rather than a specific number you will be ok

Corrected accordingly

ddippset: the OP might be sincere in her post. maybe, just maybe. but 95% a sizeable percentage of ladies have a principle of 'no dating married men' when the guy is broke or average, but when he's loaded, just like my man jay z said, they get fuzzy and they dont remember!

[quote author=[CHocolaTE]]

The roles are still in flux but no because of modernization. Arrogance and over bloated egos is what makes men act like women are their slaves. Modernization is not responsible for it.[/quote]Conflicts are mainly as a result of modernisation where men's traditional role as a breadwinner have been taken over by women who still have to combine that with domestic issues


[quote author=[CHocolaTE]]
Husbands should love their wives abeg, they should consider women and help them out.
If you love your wife, you won't have to worry about submission. A woman that receives love from her husband will not hesitate to do his will and make him happy. All this unnecessary display of arrogance and superiority is not the answer.[/quote]Majority of men help and love their wives so i dont see where your grouse is

slimyem: Oh well...a few exceptions here and there but too few to count or so i think.

Interesting you are making another generalisation about men while rejecting one about women

WOMEN..CHOI!...

slimyem: The bolded is exactly what i'm focusing on.The rest is no news but why it is "news" for you peeps to believe that there are lots of girls/women who are have never and cannot be like that against all odds is what i don't know.
Because you see a lot do it does not mean that there are not a lot who don't too.

Ok.. i believe there are young single ladies who will not date a married man.. of course there are
But there are those who will and that is the issue

As coogar says, if a man decides to be a polygamist, he has to date a single lady who has to date a married man

If you cant do it, speak for yourself

KNOW THYSELF

[quote author=[CHocolaTE]]
the two percent was figurative and I wrote it to show that the numbers are very few


Good.
Fine.
I am not saying nobody should get married or that marriage should be abolished, I am just asking why majority of men think women are just dying to marry them when they have such shitty attitudes after marriages and don't even have respect for their wives enough to help them at home.[/quote]ok fair enough...

Now i will take the post one by one

Marriage hardly benefits women

It benefits women by providing a social platform and prestige. also economically it has benefitted women from time immemorial

Men just stay by the side and watch

If your grouse are with the traditional roles of male/female relationships in contemporary times - then lets discuss that. these roles are still in flux due to modernisation

he begins to look outside at younger women because his wife is no longer attractive to him.

this is as a result of the transition from the african 'polygamy' to white man 'monogamy'. with time this wil be perfected


In some cultures, child outside wedlock is not that frowned upon
It is men who want to raise their kids in a social structure so that the norms of the people will be passed through


I now have a queestion for you also

What do you think is a plausible solution

Damn.. the transformation of tyler is bons

^^^ buzz kill

now youve started preaching.....

Most of the young ladies that come for SIWES/NYSC in companies these days all get hitched with one guy or the other
Most of the guys they hook up with are married and EVERYBODY KNOWS THEY ARE MARRIED

slimyem: How can you tell?
There exist those same "countless ladies" who are very decent,disciplined, and upright...who won't compromise their values for anything and everything.
How y'all just assume that all women throw out all morals at the sight of money is insultive to the ones who don't and would never fall in that class.

The reason i know is the amount of beautiful young women i [size=18pt]see with my korokoro eyes [/size]rolling with married guys

Go to joints in PH, Hotels in Lag and Abuja and you will see
dont try and defend this fact.. if u have an issue with the percentages focus on that but a lot of ladies more than you think date married guys

There was this lady that a close friend of mine fancied long ago
Accomplished professional in her career and working class
Yet she fell in love in a married guy.. if u see this girl she was a beaut
And it was not for money sef

Shyte happens

[quote author=[CHocolaTE]]
Kudos to the 2% of Nigerian men that still have respect for women and consider their feelings after marriage.
I salute you.[/quote]On what basis did you quantify responsible men as 2%

Also do you actually believe that marriage was instituted by religion solely and that over the ages, marriage has not been found to be a social construct that ensures continuity of community

And the enigmatic Elijah steps in

Bonnie and the warlocks?!
Tylers metamorphosis
who is this Klaus.... that all are scared of


and its gets more interesting

born7win: Just to serve as proof that you are not lying.

Thank you sir!!

I want to believe you are sending a coded warning
Download the dossier to ijebabe
She knows what to do and even make it spicy to boot

slimyem: ^what are you ouching at??
That baseless statictic and senseless generalization?

baseless to you but true about countless single ladies who date married guys

These married guys date women or is it aliens

ddippset: the OP might be sincere in her post. maybe, just maybe. but 95% a sizeable percentage of ladies have a principle of 'no dating married men' when the guy is broke or average, but when he's loaded, just like my man jay z said, they get fuzzy and they dont remember!

OUCH!!

Tashamania: Attention seeking op, attention seeking op.. Does an attention seeking op stop you from gathering your wacka$s and one celled-brain and getting the f outta here? No? Yet, they stay back and keep screaming just one thing.. Boy-girls

Dont worry about the e bad belle
Give us the names

#nameandshame

Ephramed: na my best pal even before she get married.so u dey suggest make i no call her again?

i feel you but she has moved on

Soon she will have a baby, nursing, parenting..
you can be friends tho and visit with ur girl friend

me i am here for scoops

name and shame the philanderers

The people can always open new IDs

[quote author=baby_123]Why are you calling my name when arguing with someone else as usual? Do I give you nightmares or what? [/quote]it is well

coogar: end of the road - boyz II men
water run dry - boyz II men
irreplaceable - beyonce
move bïtch - ludacris
kill you - eminem.

Madt bad messages

omonnakoda: You are 5tupid.Don't get me wrong! I mean disrespect !

Now I know you have issues...
Always quick to insult

Caveat!!

LesbianBoy: Rita Dominic a.k.a OLD CARGO should keep her advice to her self and GO and GET MARRIED!

LOL
In addition if you need to take a n.aked pic make sure it gets to playboy or hustle and get paid for it!

Ogaredu: Luis Suarez Stats this season
(club+country): 51 games 33
goals 8 assists 1 Bite

swozila

[quote author=Texas.Cowgirl]Same hand you're going to use to eat iyan and egusi?

ewww[/quote]people use their mouth to eat those foods too

count luis swozila

SUAAAAAAREZZZ



nice gol!

as usual, some undertones always crop up

i see nuthing wrong in online dating
she is young and single, she used this medium to warn off married men

some ladies dont mind married men

life is full of variety... choose your own spice

ish

ileobatojo: There's nothing to doubt. No one diagnosed a personality disorder.

ok.....