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bukatyne:
@Myhonor:

You are 21yrs and he's 24yrs....

You are not old yet not too young to know the direction of your relationship.
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Baby doctor has told you he is not interested/he hasn't thought of a long time relationship and I must say I give him kudos (that kind of truthfulness is commendable. I must also say your thoughtfulness on knowing the direction of your relationship is a nice one)

That aside, you need to seat down to map out your life at 21.

What kind of life do you want?

School >>>> Job >>>>>> Marriage?
School >>>> Marriage >>> Job? etc. etc.

Where do you see yourself in future? What kind of person are you? What kind of husband would complement your person? What kind of husband do you want?

It is only when you answer these questions truthfully you begin to think of a relationship and marriage

@Mature suitors coming your way: You mean mature suitors just visit your parents that they want to marry you or they are coming your way directly?

great advice I like you can be E friends

bukatyne:
@Myhonor:

You are 21yrs and he's 24yrs....

You are not old yet not too young to know the direction of your relationship.
.
Baby doctor has told you he is not interested/he hasn't thought of a long time relationship and I must say I give him kudos (that kind of truthfulness is commendable. I must also say your thoughtfulness on knowing the direction of your relationship is a nice one)

That aside, you need to seat down to map out your life at 21.

What kind of life do you want?

School >>>> Job >>>>>> Marriage?
School >>>> Marriage >>> Job? etc. etc.

Where do you see yourself in future? What kind of person are you? What kind of husband would complement your person? What kind of husband do you want?

It is only when you answer these questions truthfully you begin to think of a relationship and marriage

@Mature suitors coming your way: You mean mature suitors just visit your parents that they want to marry you or they are coming your way directly?

great advice I like you can be E friends

tutorbaze:
Source: www.9janewsarena.com/2016/05/nollywood-igbo-actress-who-lost-husband.html

haa my friend's dad oo Kia success I wonder how you fairing

Seunboss:
my brother, the matter tire me o! a lot of ladies think with their behind. So men have now lost their rights to self defence, abi? She just dey run mouth. in my own house, nobody has the right to hit anybody. blade21 has been ranting since about how her father supports her violence against men. I no even understand. make she go court go talk am! "your worship, i hit him but as a lesser or more superior human, he has no right to hit me." mtcheew! nonsense!

no no I support self defense from her story she didnt hit him first and besides it's becuase she's de sister to de guy that's y i said he should have over looked cos it's his sister for Christ sake, I have never ever supported women hitting men naa not my pattern just this is his sister some loyalty suppose de that's y it's blood

numericalguy:
What is this idiot saying. You don't see anything wrong in kicking and slapping a man but it suddenly becomes domestic violence when he tries to defend himself.

young man watch your tone don't you ever in your life insult me what's wrong with you? if you don't have manners go and learn don't ever insult me don't try it

Acidosis:
I love you

so you are online loving another we are done

[quote author=joseph1832 post=45877154]Being rude to peeps like you, who always rush in on issues, without hearing both sides, and having facts to draw a logical conclusion, is the surest way to tell peeps like you, to go sit down in a gutter and shut tha fuck_ up. twists his tougue and runs out of thread and you don't have to be rude sha you can tell people off without been rude Goodnight Joe sweet dreams

joseph1832:
Please run along and bury your head in a septic tank. I asked you to show me where I said she's at fault and you're here saying you've seen lots of my comment here...

Don't make me insult you, whoever you are!!!. Kindly refrain from quoting me next time, if you know you have nothing to debate with.

Thank you.

you are already rude and you said I shouldn't allow you insult me smiles you don't have to be rude you hear learn good manners

nonix22:
Bros, u no go understand till she tells us the full series.

if this guy can beat his own blood sister like this then he can kill another man's child

joseph1832:
Dude, if you have a problem reading and comprehending, don't come quoting me and displaying it.

Where did I say that I supported the brother hitting the sister? Please show me or forever learn to read and comprehend.

I have seen lots of your comments here on nairaland you never see anything wrong with the male folk women are always at fault with you ok bye

lrguru:
I can never beat a lady up to the point that she starts bleeding, even if the person is a guy. the only thing I can do to my younger ones is shout and caution them, but never hit them. my point still is that nobody had any right whatsoever to hit anybody whether u are male or female, cos the person might just retaliate and u may not like the outcome. action and reaction still remains equal and opposite.

you don't react all the time if your boss slap you for office as angry as you are you go comport your self even say sorry on top fa lol

joseph1832:
True that, what sane brother hits his sister... Then I'll ask thee, is social media the place for her to post this, or don't you think she should have taken this issue to her parents? Instead this sympathy seeking stunt she just pulled?

In as much as I advocate that violence should never be acceptable as a means to settle a squabble, sometimes, violence has its own benefit, especially when dealing with peeps who prove beyond doubt that they can never be reasoned with.

I know you will support it as long as it's a guy hitting a lady you never have issues with it

jamesonic78:
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And I guess it will just be a mare argument

my dear if a brother can do this to the sister what of other ladies I fear oo

nonix22:
hmm, who she be for Tinsel sef? that Tinsel wey all the actors for naija don feature inside?? I bet you don run ur mouth pass ur boundry as Elder. How some girls dey even talk and act towards their Elder brother go evn baffle some pple even the presence of visitors and outsiders. Na God go save person. Next time before posting such rubbish tell ur family members first and starting with what you did to him.

Na so some babes go talk say I want a God fearing Man- meaning man wey go dey look and do like mumu wey she goes astray! Una weldone o! smh Some can never ake correction. Always right. mctweee

so a sister talks rudely to her brother and she gets beaten are you even hearing yourself fear God

OBAGADAFFI:
Finished is an understatement.

In my days, ordinary talking back at my seniors at home will be rewarded with punishment.

am telling you haa that my bro go de station by now cos my dad will drag him there haa

ronald4lif:
True, the degree of the retaliation was extreme and it's possible his intent wasn't to inflict much harm on her. This is just similar to the scenario where you may return a slap to someone who is unwell and die in the process but the intent wasn't to kill the person.

Requiting violent for violent isn't the best approach just as violently assaulting someone coz one is a senior sibling ain't also an acceptable approach. Both must be equally condemned.

according to her story she didn't hit him first looks like she was shocked by his actions

lrguru:
so u can slap and kick somebody and see nothing wrong with that just cos u are some senior? smh..... I'm sure that was the same way this same lady felt till she got the shock of her life. advice for ladies here, never hit any man and think u can get away with it everytime, cos u never can tell when he has already hit the wall

we are grown now I can't hit my bro but even if I did he won't hit me back and if he does sef not this bad maybe one slap when we where kids my bro hit me my dad dis owned him he was de only son my uncles had to beg my dad told him never in his life hit a woman talk more his sisters that boy lacks home training same with any guy who hits a woman to the extent of seeing her bleed

Achorise:
For you to have brought this on social Media, i can imagine the knd of girl you are @ home..family ties are never broken

the can actually he should have tought of that before hitting her

segzybam:
She should tell Us what she did to the guy jare. He cannot just wake up and decide to beat her up. Women can sabi play the victim card. We are not fooled.

can you even hear yourself what will make a sibling do this to the sister and you are looking for what she did THIS WORLD IS FINISHED I WEEP FOR THE NEXT GENERATION

ronald4lif:
I do condemn violence but not without getting as much details as possible to the circumstance that let to it. Can't just rush to condemn every violence, mostly if details of what transpired are sketchy and unclear like in this case where no details of what happened was told.

The bro didn't just start assaulting her, as he ain't mad, did he? I daresay, if she hit him first then she deserves to be hit too for I'll do same. Enough of people who think they can assault someone and go free.

I no gree with you on this one yes hit her back not brutalized her like this

lrguru:
what did u do that made him beat you up? or is he a mad man? after u must have finished running ur mouth or insulting him and he beats u up, u come online to scream domestic violence.

yes he's a mad man my younger brother can never hit me even if I slap or kick him he will just smile and hold my hands tight and say I can actually beat you but I won't cos you are my big sister a brother defends his sisters not hit them till the start bleeding that guy is a potential killer if he can treat his sister like this then he can kill his wife

see you better talk to him about it and how uncomfortable You are and be serious oo if not he's gonna cheat on you with her so talk to him well IF he doesn't listen start chatting on your phone too I can pm you my pin let's chat, laugh out loud during de chat and call he will get intrested then make your point Ps: this will work for a man who loves you alot

I support any time she's talking too much just carry her out uf your room and lock de door put on your laptop or song on your phone put ear piece increase de volume and jam hard when she craze finish she go come beg or if she's the type that hit first just tell her baby enter de car drive her straight to her father's house and drop her dere tell her when she learns manners you will come and pick her lastly when you can't take it anymore go to police get a restraining order against her then go to court and seek for temproary seperation till she learns no one should take abuse both male and female

pharmagba:
Thanks. What's your advice for a mother of twins or multiple birth?

it's not easy to exclusively breastfeed twins I doubt she can let her just be giving milk 3times daily then breast feed at interval it's not easy

pharmagba:
Thanks for the information.
How about for a mother of twins. Is it possible to do exclusive for them as well, she informed me that they are twin and for her earlier birth, she did up to 4months.
What's your advice for a mother of twin or multiple birth.

noo if de are twins she should give them milk but eat well so her breast milk can flow better that way de will breastfeed more then use milk formula to supplement it's not easy I pity her God will help her hubby should stop complaining it's not her fault when de are up to 4 months she can introduce pap but very light one let her just endure it will soon be over God bless her and de twin

pharmagba:
A new mother complained that her baby seem not to get fully fed on breast milk alone, hence had to get an infont formula.
The way her baby is feeding is raising some challenge in the family. Her baby of less than two months finishes a tin of infant formular in a week despite still being supported on breast milk. She concluded that babies of nowadays must have extra chamber in their tummy as cannot fanthom how the child feed this much, NOTE: this is not her first child. On the husband part, parting with about N2,200 weekly in this crunch economic times is an issue not including sanitary pads etc.
Please recent mothers in the house, how old is your baby and how long does it take finish a tin of infant formula?

she's not feeding well that's y she's not producing lots of milk she should eat well take lots of pap, tea, and liquids so her milk will flow well that way her baby will eat well if not de should deal with de cost

pharmagba:
I think you've just a little bit over generalised
. I agree with fact that some mothers do not like to breastfeed. But Laziness? Does breast feeding exert such hard work?
What will you say about a mother who after several minutes of breastfeeding says her breast is empty and she is feeling dry and dizzy yet the baby is still crying for more

if your baby eats too much you increase food intake as the mum that lady is looking to stay slim so she should deal with it y do you think nursing mum's eat more she should eat more increase her food intake

please call off de engagement am sure she's confused because some of those guys rich pass you just call it off and don't look back when she's ready she should come back that's if it's not too late for her, NB: she's going to hurt you the reason she hasn't done that yet is becuase one of those guys never propose so call it off

please stop kissing her feet show her you can be very tough dont but her oo but give her a dose of her own medicine so she can know what you going through, stop paying your salary into your joint account, if you buy a property put your brother or dad as next of kin, stop all those uneccessarry lovey lovey if she comes around then forgive her if not keep treating her de way she has been treating you let her know how you have been feeling

chickygirl:
FOD- hia, Thomas is d most stupid person on earth, so afta struggling 2 get a signl on dat phone d person he had 2 call was dat mumu martin dat is blinded by love..what was he hoping to achieve by dat

UDsS- Hmmmm, d way Rodrigo is treatin gresy ...so colmillo is still alive, am afraid for rodrigo

I love the way he's treating her she's too weak always looking for love and she's very insecure I don't like her at all

Oh tomas You are so stupid haaaaaaaaaaa

tomisinbaby:
You are unique,you are one in a million.

hahaha it's fun and I love de twist