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Acme77:
@5

5 that's me oo hahaha infact I can relate to all he wrote

ramuona:
Ok... Thank you. So he should spend the whole day talking with her? Because is Business? Haba I'm jealous. I can't relax. I trust him but I'm jealous

lol at least you can over hear their discussion a whole day plenty sha hmm

ramuona:
My hubby is still chatting and calling his ex. He claims they are discussing business, another reason he gave is that his brother needs the lady's assistance . I have told him severally I don't like it that am jealous. Since morning they have been talking... Calling each other. I complained again he got angry and stopped talking to me. I don't have my ex's phone number anymore. I don't talk with my ex. I have also told him to put himself in my shoes. If I'm the one talking and laughing with my ex.. How would he feel.

Please family... Am I over reacting? Pls I need your advice on how to handle this. What better way can I tell him I'm jealous.

relax joor try and trust him if he says it's business then give him benefit of doubt he's your man now no need to feel insecure just calm down and be happy. Cheers

fathers are awesome I Adore my dad

Acidosis:
ahahahah I don't eat out please enter the kitchen

you will learn dear

Acidosis:
ahahahah I don't eat out please enter the kitchen

you will learn dear

Acidosis:
Yes oo

When u wan pack my dinner ?

I want pounded yam with vegetable scattered with snail, shrimps, periwinkle, very soft ponmo, stock fish and crayfish

sweet heart please eat out you hear there's this very good joint with fine servers call me when you get there so we can eat together love you lol make my bobo catch you

Acidosis:
I am your bobo.

hahahaha

Acidosis:
Hmmn, good to know you trust me

hehehe you no be my bobo na

Acidosis:
If women could be free enough to chat and sit under a male stylist for hours, what stops a man from chatting and smiling sheepishly at a sweet female food vendor who cooks sumptuous and extra delicious meals?

my dear oo I see nothing wrong with my bobo eating out if he likes let him smile from now till tomorrow for the lady I trust him tho he's not the smiling type

richyblink1:
Been in the shoes of the said man before, I can relate.

There was this chick who normally comes to get my order daily, as I don't eat before leaving for work and finds it hard to take meal to the office.

It graduated to her getting my digits and calling often to know what I will eat. It extends to her coming personally to serve the food at our canteen even though it's already in a take away pack.

It equally graduated to my colleagues calling her my babe because she smiles whenever she comes to serve me and will ask about work and stuffs. I saw nothing bad about it till my colleagues pointed out that the lady is tripping.

It equally graduated to her calling my sweetie whenever she calls to take my order. That was when I lost my cool and told her enough. Warned her severely how it's bad for my image as a married man. In fact, my male colleagues were all speechless because I asked her to come and did it openly. While my female colleagues were happy especially the married ones that has been on my neck about not bringing meal to the office and my love for eating out.

Op, it depends on the up bringing of the said man, and his values. An irresponsible man would not wait for a lady food vendor to misbehave. They go all out depending on what triggers their lost

you are a good man keep it up am proud of you

jeejee:
I need urgent suggestions on how to clear my baby's diaper rash. It's really spreading and making her uncomfortable. I've tried sudocrem but not getting the desired result. Can anyone help me out please.

please get baby tribotan cheap and very effective a peaditrician recommended it for my baby when he had same issues so get it

Onegai:
If pampering your man was all it takes to keep a home happy, then certainly in the times where a woman was supposed to do nothing but care for her man, polygamy wouldn't exist. All the pampered husbands out there still cheating, what's their excuse?

It is dangerous for anyone to base their emotions in how you are treated in good times, because life won't always be like that and your emotions cannot always be in check. You will have ups and downs, you will have days when you simply cannot smile and say "all is well", when your kids come you will be exhausted to the point that taking a bath daily will become an achievement. You cannot be a perfect person. So what happens when a wife simply cannot be "all" for her man, does that mean he goes out looking for a replacment? Love and a good marriage is built on the tough times.

nice one I like you sometimes

Chidoks:
To me it's about doing the right thing. It's about showing love and care.
Keeping fit is the right thing to do, packing his lunch is the right thing to do, praying for your marriage is the right thing to do.
There's a way you pamper your man that he remembers you with fondness no matter what he does. Love begets love, care begets care.
I don't compare my home with anybody's. What happened in otedola and danjuma's homes shouldn't have anything to do with mine, after all I don't have all their details.
It's not a battle per se, it's taking care of your own.

who told you packing lunch is the right thing to do that your man likes it doesn't make it right or that someone else doesn't park it doesn't make it wrong packing lunch is good for your hubby, but that guy in your office probably prefers to eat out instead of stressing wifey that's their own, y not focus on your home and do what you have to and stop using what you do to judge others, and who said love begets love laughs in Chinese trust me a man who will cheat will cheat you can only try but you won't stop him life is never black and white

women na God go save una

Alfred200825:
If my earthly father cannot torture me with fire, I don't think my heavenly father who created both me and my earthly father can try such. I serve a caring and loving God

then live a holy and righteous life becuase when GOD'S LOVE turns to Anger the end is disastrous. Ask Sodom and Gomorrah, ask the children of isreal in Noahs time ETC.

Warlord3000:
Won't say a thing

Even though the idea of eternal damnation by a Merciful God kinda sounds contradictory to me..

But wait .. What do I know sef

yes dear GOD didn't create hell for us it was originally for the devil but whosoever chooses to ignore God and follow the ways of de devil will rot in hell with him

BRB

crackhaus:
At the end of the day, the problem still boils down to you women who complain about everything.

- The man who sees women as inferior, according to you, a woman raised him.
- Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law don't get along, still between women.
- A man cheats on his wife, another woman somewhere opened her legs for him to cheat.
- A girl has come off age and is still not married, it's the women in her family that keep reminding her...her married female friends will add to it too.
- A polygamous man decides to add another wife, it's a woman who doesn't mind he's gon' marry.
- Men don't play an active role in raising kids, it's the woman he married that wants to live a posh lifestyle so she can be the toast of her friends...hence, the man is hardly at home and making the Cheddars out there.

You women should go and solve your inherent issues first and stop mentioning men every second, you are your own enemy - it's not men that constantly want to outdo each other on who wears the most colour-coded expensive clothes and ties the best gele, or who has the best makeup, or who wears the most expensive artificial hair, or who has the most handsome/richest husband.

Una no like una selves and will keep pretending to for as long as shoe, bag, necklace, or man, doesn't come between you.

Abeg make una let us hear word...

so after reading all she wrote This is all you got anyway it's not the fault of women the love the fine things in life blame GOD for that and if you don't believe in GOD blame nature we must complain about men de same way you talk about women, if you wan hear word behave well then we nor go de complain ok bye

Mpyaw:
My home is about to be shattered. Is it my fault that I couldn't give birth to a male child or am I God? My husband and I have been married for twelve years and we have four daughters. He doesn't really careabout the sex of the children. He loves them and can spend his last kobo on them.

He is the first child and the only son of his family, in their clan their wives do give birth to a son as the firstborn, I'm the odd one out who has a daughter as the firstborn. My husband is not really bothered about that but his mother is on his neck to give her a son or marry another woman if I can't. My once loving mother-in-law now despise me like a flithy rag.The pressure is just too much and my husband has been forced to dance to their tune. He was on my side when all these started but now I'm alone in the battle.

I would have given child bearing another trial but my doctor warned me not to risk my life by getting pregnant again because I had my last two daughters through Caesarean Section and the last one was a little bit complicated, it was just God that saved me. I don't want to lose my man, my home to a strange woman out there. What do I do?

tell your hubby to man up and give Y chromosome it's totally his fault you don't have a boy so u you bothered rubbish nija mentality

JayJustus:
culinary prowess hahahahahahaa...lol...not because I'm a culinary student but without my training I'm way lot better than Nigerian girls lol...I know how many of em always wait till I go home to cook for em...they can't cook lol...sorry...the top chefs in Nigeria are guys...except a few...you said beautiful?? dem try but they too fat...lol..

nija girls too fat I wonder the kind of Nigerian girls you see

Gkemz:
Wish i could find a Nigerian lady with all these attributes as listed because not all Nigerian ladies possesses all these qualities. If you doubt me try gold diggers. They'll dry u up and turn ur life to misery and finally abandon you for a richer dude.

you meet gold diggers cos you go for flashy girls you don't like moderately girls don't you know flashy is hard to.maintain

dmexy33:
the ratio of men to women is 1:7.
for every one man there are7 women!

imagine if we go for foreign women who go marrying una lol #wastage

Ghana girls are even preferable to Nigeria women no need to go foreign.

that's where you get ir wrong you marry foreing girls foreing guys marry Nigerian girls it's simple

jayhumble:
If you see any man spending on a lady in naija... Two things are involved... Either he wanna get into her pants or he actually love her cuz she stood by him when there was nothing....
There is nothing bad in spending on your woman but our ladies can be choking when it comes to demands and if the guy struggles to get it for them. Most will still cheat cuz they are not satisfied. You guys should learn to support and believe in young men too... It's not all about ready made old men... It's crazy hence why most male youths dont take yall serious cuz they feel and know that you are only loyal cuz u haven't seen a better option....

what are you saying how many boys girls marry old men infact how many rich old men do we have in Nigeria abeg stop generalizing most ladies I have seen are married to young struggling guys dunno what you saying

dmexy33:
you Nigerian women lack respect, especially those from middle and low class.

hahaha that's a first I tot it was those you mentioned above that are respectful

jayhumble:
Well I can't speak for them, but definitely they would have a reason for preferring an old white woman to a young naija girl... Talk about the fear of naija girls...

hahaha you funny die in fact you not serious at all you know the truth but if believing that nija girls are bad makes you feel good oo then

crazyclown07:
OP,I must commend you for ur points..

But you know individual difference in choice and as for me I prefer the foreign ladies to that of naija women cos foreign girls are real asset to u

yes oo marry one and get your papers no time

sukkot:
[b]I know most nigerian women are demons but nigerian men are equal if not more demonic than the women. you are all the same and are all cut from the same cloth and all have the same tendencies. go abroad ? nigerian men commit all manner of crimes in civilized countries just to get fast money. go asia ? they are pushing drugs like crazy. all over europe they are chasing bank frauds. how about the ones working in naija ? 419 and the ones working in banks ? they will withdraw your money behind your back. the politicians nko ? they will steal billions of dollars. the point here is the men are just as bad the women. the women dont have the liver to do all the things i mentioned that men do so their own hustling is ' stealing ' from men and using men as maga. but its the same thing they are doing with the men which is trying to get quick money. YOU ARE ALL THE SAME GET MONEY FAST PEOPLE, BOTH MEN AND WOMEN SO STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE WOMEN. THE ONES COMPLAINING ARE JUST ANGRY THAT THEY ARE BROKE LOL. like if a naija guy is rich you dont even have to con him out of his money as a naija woman - a rich naija man enjoys spending on women unless its a sophisticated rich man like dangote or adenuga who are conservative. point being > stop hating on your women because they are a mirror copy of who you are. you all deserve each other lolz you are all hustlers lol. CASE CLOSED[/b]

HIGH FIVE

ChappyChase:
90% of una never marry and baby mama full everywhere!!!!

My friend wake up! You're sleepwalking into the gutter!

baby mama's are Every were even for abroad dem de

jayhumble:
I'm Nigerian and I ve dated a foreigner during my UNI days.. Damn Nigerian girls... I gave up on naija girls long ago. They keep multiple guys just to play gamble on which one falls mugu for marriage. 90% of naija girls wants a ready made man. This is the last time I'm commenting on naija girls issues cuz these girls lacks exposure... They need to step it up! Foreign girls don't care about money like our own girls... Foreigners deal with their feelings... If they like u they like u be that and if they don't like u, there's nothing u can entice them with they still don't care.... Naija girls will date a monkey with big Tommy just Cuz of money... My ex GF would tell any dude who toasts her straight up that she's in a relationship and can't cheat... Even whenever I sneak peep her phones and social media... I see how she rejects guys cuz she can't date two peeps at once... I'm sure u don't want to check ur average naija GF social media and phone for the fear of heart attack.

It wasn't like this during the days of our mothers and grandmothers... Obviously there was alot of decencies back then hence why u see our parents marriage lasting forever... But the breed of naija girls these days is a disaster... Indecency and crazy shits

Naija girls are out of it when it comes to emotional decency... They (most of them) re too reliant on men... It's bleeped up... To me they re more of liability than supporters... Sorry if I sound ranting.... It's just complicated out here and u guys needs to quit this naija girls issues... We all know that exposed Nigerians don't wanna have anything to do with a typical naija girls (except some foreign born and raised naija girls cuz those ones have different orientations compare to the local ones at home) PERIOD

not true I have seen and heard foreing girls say the can't date a guy who won't handle their bills

Afroconnect:
Am afraid Nigerian women have lost that quality of patience and being able to share and manage when times gets tough. If small hard ship show face,dem go start to dey look outside. Ladies these days are too loose and carried away by materialism. They are loosing the quality of being home-makers and being faithful,loyal wives. Qualities our moms had.

men stopped appreciating loyal women you see a woman hustle with a man he gets money and realises she's not good enough people learn from people experience most young ladies have seen how their mothers suffered despite all her loyalty and you expect the lady to be like that

KINGinVAHALA2:
Not me and you, its only you. Why dont you tell me other reason(s) why divorce is now rampant?

I will tell you before now our women used to take all sorts of thrash from our men no matter what a man does he's king but now dr stopped de realised that you can still get divorced and remarry so that's y people divorce more now y stay in an unhappy marriage when you can move on

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Naija woman is more likely to be vicious and vindictive at divorce proceedings than a foreign woman.. Divorced Naija woman is more spiteful than a foreign woman because she's used to it and has better conflict resolution skills than a Naija woman who has been raised to believe that the easiest to accumulate wealth is Thru marriage.

lies lies lies