Myhonor:
Hello landers... I just created the thread because am confused... I started dating dis introvert because I thought dey were d best in relationships... My date is very calm, gentle, a gud cook and very intelligent.. He is actually a medical student in his finals... He is a kul guy but he has some annoying flaws.. He is kinda strange.. There are times he just gets angry for no reason.. This has happened like twice now.... After some time I asked him y he behaves like dat and he told me dat happens to him ever since he was young, dat he just gets angry and won't be in the mood to talk to anyone... He apologized so I 4gave him.. There was a time he dreamt I was pregnant so we both laughed about it den I asked wat if I get pregnant wat is he going to do... All he said was dat he was going to deny the pregnancy. .. I asked if he was serious he said yes and he was being honest with me(don't even know if he was still joking) so I just forgot about that issue... So there was a time we were discussing and I asked him wats going to happen to us after we graduate becus we both stay in different states.. I stay in delta and he stays in ph but we both attend the same sch.. After asking him dat he said he hasn't tot about it but it was gonna be difficult for him to be in a long relationship because we wud barely see each other.. I told him not to worry becus my sis is still around in ph but he was saying he might do his housemanship in lag or abuja and probably be staying with his uncles making it difficult to accommodate me.. I was disappointed with his response tho, so I asked him if he even has future plans for me dat he should tell me now instead of wasting my time... He told me he loves me but he hasn't really tot about dat... He said I was expecting too much from him and he is scared of disappointing me later in d future... He later told me he was going to think about everything and give me a response nextweek....d problem is dat I feel i acted too desperate by asking if he has future plans for me bcus am still young just 21 and he is 24.. . But I just wanted to be sure I wasn't wasting my time with him.... Sometimes I just feel like breaking up with him but I can't bcus I really love him.. I still have mature suitors asking me out but am scared because I think dey just want to have sex and I don't wanna be jumping from one relationship to another.... But dis my bf has not even made future plans for both of us ... So please i need mature advice on what to do dats y I posted it on this section....Thanks all.. .

Myhonor:
Hello landers... I just created the thread because am confused... I started dating dis introvert because I thought dey were d best in relationships... My date is very calm, gentle, a gud cook and very intelligent.. He is actually a medical student in his finals... He is a kul guy but he has some annoying flaws.. He is kinda strange.. There are times he just gets angry for no reason.. This has happened like twice now.... After some time I asked him y he behaves like dat and he told me dat happens to him ever since he was young, dat he just gets angry and won't be in the mood to talk to anyone... He apologized so I 4gave him.. There was a time he dreamt I was pregnant so we both laughed about it den I asked wat if I get pregnant wat is he going to do... All he said was dat he was going to deny the pregnancy. .. I asked if he was serious he said yes and he was being honest with me(don't even know if he was still joking) so I just forgot about that issue... So there was a time we were discussing and I asked him wats going to happen to us after we graduate becus we both stay in different states.. I stay in delta and he stays in ph but we both attend the same sch.. After asking him dat he said he hasn't tot about it but it was gonna be difficult for him to be in a long relationship because we wud barely see each other.. I told him not to worry becus my sis is still around in ph but he was saying he might do his housemanship in lag or abuja and probably be staying with his uncles making it difficult to accommodate me.. I was disappointed with his response tho, so I asked him if he even has future plans for me dat he should tell me now instead of wasting my time... He told me he loves me but he hasn't really tot about dat... He said I was expecting too much from him and he is scared of disappointing me later in d future... He later told me he was going to think about everything and give me a response nextweek....d problem is dat I feel i acted too desperate by asking if he has future plans for me bcus am still young just 21 and he is 24.. . But I just wanted to be sure I wasn't wasting my time with him.... Sometimes I just feel like breaking up with him but I can't bcus I really love him.. I still have mature suitors asking me out but am scared because I think dey just want to have sex and I don't wanna be jumping from one relationship to another.... But dis my bf has not even made future plans for both of us ... So please i need mature advice on what to do dats y I posted it on this section....Thanks all.. .

sunnydayasaba:




Go and read your book, At 21 you talking abt future plans, Get a gud grade, graduate and let successful men come running after you. Your not in love yet, your just in lust. Open ur eyes and think with your brain. All you should need from any man now is FRIENDSHIP without any commitment or string attached not some fuckmate.


You can't determine who your future husband will be now, So face your studies so you can determine your grades

jashar:
Nne.... why are you rushing the stages of your life?
@21. Biko, focus on your life and develop your self as much as you can.
Discover yourself 1st before one man will come and complicate your life (albeit in a good way ).

Oh yeah most importantly. Stop pre-marital sex.

Mindfulness:
@Myhonor

For how long have you guys been together?

jashar:
Nne.... why are you rushing the stages of your life?
@21. Biko, focus on your life and develop your self as much as you can.
Discover yourself 1st before one man will come and complicate your life (albeit in a good way ).

Oh yeah most importantly. Stop pre-marital sex.

Myhonor:
6months

Beremx:
Are you a virgin?

Op, concentrate on your studies for now. suitors will always come around when the time is right.

@ bolded.... and it's your business how?
Even if I'm not, does that mean I still engage in pre-marital sex? Maybe you've not heard of the transforming power of God.

I gave my advice, give yours without involving me bikonu.....

Myhonor:
thanks alot

jashar:


@ bolded.... and it's your business how?
Even if I'm not, does that mean I still engage in pre-marital sex? Maybe you've not heard of the transforming power of God.

I gave my advice, give yours without involving me bikonu.....

Beremx:
Ok you don't engage in premarital sex? Thank God for you.

Dheartless:
But to be honest most women are desperados when it concerns relationship future plans o.

Na so some these ones wan put chain for my neck, now a days I dey fear to even say I love you talk more to press b... Erm something.

bukatyne:
@Myhonor:

You are 21yrs and he's 24yrs....

You are not old yet not too young to know the direction of your relationship.
.
Baby doctor has told you he is not interested/he hasn't thought of a long time relationship and I must say I give him kudos (that kind of truthfulness is commendable. I must also say your thoughtfulness on knowing the direction of your relationship is a nice one)

That aside, you need to seat down to map out your life at 21.

What kind of life do you want?

School >>>> Job >>>>>> Marriage?
School >>>> Marriage >>> Job? etc. etc.

Where do you see yourself in future? What kind of person are you? What kind of husband would complement your person? What kind of husband do you want?

It is only when you answer these questions truthfully you begin to think of a relationship and marriage

@Mature suitors coming your way: You mean mature suitors just visit your parents that they want to marry you or they are coming your way directly?

byvan03:
Bukatyne has said all, leave this little boy to grow and consider other things she pointed out too.

bukatyne:
@Myhonor:

You are 21yrs and he's 24yrs....

You are not old yet not too young to know the direction of your relationship.
.
Baby doctor has told you he is not interested/he hasn't thought of a long time relationship and I must say I give him kudos (that kind of truthfulness is commendable. I must also say your thoughtfulness on knowing the direction of your relationship is a nice one)

That aside, you need to seat down to map out your life at 21.

What kind of life do you want?

School >>>> Job >>>>>> Marriage?
School >>>> Marriage >>> Job? etc. etc.

Where do you see yourself in future? What kind of person are you? What kind of husband would complement your person? What kind of husband do you want?

It is only when you answer these questions truthfully you begin to think of a relationship and marriage

@Mature suitors coming your way: You mean mature suitors just visit your parents that they want to marry you or they are coming your way directly?

bukatyne:
@Myhonor:

You are 21yrs and he's 24yrs....

You are not old yet not too young to know the direction of your relationship.
.
Baby doctor has told you he is not interested/he hasn't thought of a long time relationship and I must say I give him kudos (that kind of truthfulness is commendable. I must also say your thoughtfulness on knowing the direction of your relationship is a nice one)

That aside, you need to seat down to map out your life at 21.

What kind of life do you want?

School >>>> Job >>>>>> Marriage?
School >>>> Marriage >>> Job? etc. etc.

Where do you see yourself in future? What kind of person are you? What kind of husband would complement your person? What kind of husband do you want?

It is only when you answer these questions truthfully you begin to think of a relationship and marriage

@Mature suitors coming your way: You mean mature suitors just visit your parents that they want to marry you or they are coming your way directly?

thorpido post=45993203[b:
]@24yrs old,the guy is too young to know exactly what direction ge is going[/b] and he is being truthful with you by letting you know he can't make promises now.You're 21yrs old and you should also pay more attention to your studies rather than thinking about marriage with someone who cannot even commit.

Blade21:
great advice I like you can be E friends great advice I like you can be E friends

bukatyne:


@bold:

Some 24yr olds know what they want out of life.