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Not exploring my fantasies, not making friends, i regret not studying lol. I definitely regret a lot of things. I just left school last year, now I wish I allowed school change me. Oh well.

Saw this thread in the search and I guess I'm just gonna chill here. I'm introverted and kinda tired.

Daisy17:
I 100% agree with everything you have written. African parents need to learn how to raise boys to see women as their partners and their equals. The whole post shows the op is very controlling and someone who sees himself as superior because he's of the male species ( I won't call him a man because he needs to grow up and become one).

Thank you for this. Most women in Africa are raised to see men as gods. It's sad that most male children grow up with this 'I can trample on you' mentality.

laskay:
am just surprise you thinking a male and female are equal his the man and man need to control the relationship not the other way round I just pity lady's like you wa pe ni ile yin

I pity ladies that end up with people like you. Ciao

laskay:
I can see you are one of the type we are talking about

Okay. Assume as much as you want.

Do you want a girlfriend or someone to control? That's all I see. Feed her, shelter her, bla bla bla. If you two can't sit and understand each other biko split.

The North always decides.

I'm baffled. Nigerians voted party not individuals. See people chanting APC or PDP. How do you expect anything meaningful from these people that simply switch parties up and down?

groomed:
It depends on if they have the funds to run ads...

20k can do wonders on fb and IG

whytediamond:
I have a very funny and annoying case I'm dealing with right about now.

A company contacted me to design calendars for 2019 for them. After 2weeks of designing and countless tweaking plus product photo sessions, it got to the print stage and I suddenly the company said they can't pay the amount I requested for the print job.

I said OK fine, this is the soft copy of the job, get a printer to do the printing for less than what I offered, they went ahead and printed elsewhere even though the manager later confirmed they paid more for the printing compared with what I offered.

Now, the issue is this, I need my money for my intellectual property and time put into the design for calendar that they have already shared to their customers. To my greatest shock, I was told I won't be paid a dime.

What is their reason for not paying me? That I wasn't the one that printed the job, hence I won't be paid for the design. Like wtf are they talking about.

I'm already getting legal advice on how to recover my money from them.

Starting up a business ain't child's play people. Perseverance will surely pay in the long run. Stay focused, don't give up.

So pathetic. This is Nigeria sha.

Do you do everything5pounds?

CosmicJames:
Use your Payoneer account details:
(Bank name, routing number and account number)
Banking country: US

I think this reply addressed your other question

I just have to say thank you! I had an account but had to reopen another since I couldn't use my store due to location glitches... Thanks.

Explorers:
Cant explain this.

Years later after man&woman marriage.

wow

chufor:
Good morning
I know you are not referring to me but I really need help please. I created a blog on blogger.Please I will like to be your student . Thanks

HI chufor, I could help, but I will need you to be a fast learner... Lol please send a mail. I will reply you.

Hi sola, my name is Onome... I'm not a pro, but I know quite a handful to get you started... I can do this for free, I just need you to be a fast learner... kindly shoot me a message if you are interested. I am also in a group with cool blogger friends who will be happy to put you through, for free.

victorogundepo0:
PayPal fund needed. 50$ upward. Anything less than that, don't bother

HI, sent you a message on WhatsApp.

Apparently 2018 is coming to an end but you haven’t made a dime with your creative skills or hustle attempts neither have your business idea seen the light of the day.

It can be depressing, especially when you had high hopes of a better year.


Last year, I believed 2018 will be better. Earlier this year I pictured a beautiful income I should be making before it comes to an end.

But crap!

We are less than a month away to a new year and I haven’t come close to earning just what I foresaw.

Startup Depression; What is your Story?

Depression is real and I’m pretty sure it’s so close to getting hold of some individuals who started out earlier this year with cool vibes and a plan to win.

Your story?

You had a million dollar business idea, spent a good number of time reading series of books and tutorials, learnt how to kick off stably, but now, you probably feel there’s no hope in making it or doing it yourself without getting bossed around.

You might have also set out to make money off a skill or talent everyone around you presumed monetizable but then, the year is almost over and expectations have become different. You are about labeling your amazing skill inconsiderable.

You probably had plans of starting out a business, yet couldn’t make things happen. Now you think there’s a chance the idea was never meant to see the light of the day. There are too many people doing it, now you are about ending what you haven’t even started

You failed but others Succeeded!

Isn’t it funny?
While you were struggling with failures, someone who probably started out after you did was raking in incomes and sharing success tips. For some reason, the tips were not far from what you tried. Depression sets in gradually.

How Not To Fall Into Depression As A Startup

I am a startup and I know how challenging it can be to label yourself a startup yet again. But it is okay, at least you made an attempt, maybe not in the right way.

Sometimes I just want to blow up, drop my pen and go a solo ride to not trying again. But I don’t want to keep on being dependent or end up being that tiny beneficial parasite. I definitely want to keep trying without getting slightly depressed after an unproductive day and night.

Below are various hacks that help avoid Failing into depression as a startup that you too can attempt;
1. Read stories of other founders and creatives

I have been online for quite a long time and spend a good percentage this time drooling over the successful creations of entrepreneurs and business owners. While they have created remarkably good businesses worth loving, I never failed to understand that they too encountered issues.

Notable: Fred Smith, founder of FedEx got his project idea rejected by his college professor and got a poor grade on an assignment where he presented the idea for the company.

Most businesses didn’t start out all rosy. There were troubles and failures too. These troubles didn’t simply make them give up or get sullen in depression.

Notable: Arianna Huffington, has one of the most visited sites today (The Huffington Post). You probably didn’t know that she once wrote a book for publication but it got rejected by 36 publishers.

Imagine managing a big company or business?

I’m pretty sure business owners get overwhelmed when a new and related business spring ups with different tactics. There will be a need to learn that secret and do it even better. Yet experiencing little beginners’ set back is a problem to people like us.
Jeff Bezos

Notable: Jeff Bezos, a one time richest man in the world and founder of Amazon, one of the biggest online Marketplace. But before Amazon became a million dollars business, the company’s CEO encountered failure too. His creation zShops failed but then it gave birth to the Amazon Marketplace.

There are lots of business owners whose story can inspire and elevate troubled startups falling into depression. A post on Medium has quite an handful of quotes from business owners who encountered startup depression and smallbiztrends has just a handful of the failure stories of big business owners today.

Read Business Books

I must confess that I have never been a lover of books. I often find myself scanning through while trying to read. But then, there is a 99%. Chance that I have been missing a few helpful points.

Recently, I began inculcating the habit of reading business books word for word, no matter how hard the drive to scan through sets in. The good thing about these business books is the fact that most of them are offered for free by their authors.

Brian Tracy is one of such authors I’d recommend to startups. His blog is packed with mind blowing information and guides. Also, a simple Google search can give a handful of helpful books you can read.

Understand That Failure is not Bad Luck

You are neither unfortunate nor accompanied by bad luck. Failure should not make you think so little of yourself. It should in fact encourage you, be a driving force and a reminder that you actually took a step.

Failure should not mean the end of the world to you. I have failed quite a number of times and I do not know when next it will pay a visit. But through the years, I have come to terms with the fact that failing doesn’t necessarily make me or whatever I do bad luck.

Even Established businesses often encounter failure, yet you a just starting out. I came to realise that believing failure is as result of bad luck is a very popular reasons for startup depression.

Give Yourself A Break

Failing to achieve a project or sell yourself right should not make you over work yourself. Remember that you are human and the body can break down if over worked.

Sometimes I stay up all night repeatedly for days, looking for the best ways to monetize my skills or alternates without failing. But I’d keep the night drooling over successful projects and wondering if I have a chance. Little did I know that I was hurting myself even more and paying way for the startup depression I wanted to avoid.

Understand that Not All Business Can Be Successful at The First Trial

This should stick.
Not all successful businesses achieved their success goals in the first year or trial. Some failed over and over again before finally picking up.
Failing means there was an attempt, and the person was willing to try for success.
READ 4 Things to do Before Selling Your Startup

Most startups, even I thought that I can go from zero to hero and skip the hassles of feeling down over failure. You are probably on the verge of giving up.

Learn A New Approach

Before you get soaked in depression over a failed business, you should first realize that there are more than one approach to a problem. Motivational speakers often say “when plan A fails, there is always plan B to Z”.

In failure and setback, I simply assume that the angle I took the deal from was not the right one. I will always want to try another, there will Probably be a different and more positive result.

Don’t be Too expectant

Recently I thought of a new business idea that I feel can excel, but I haven’t done much. Though I believe so much in it when I kick off, I’m trying so much not to expect too much to avoid disappointment or depression.

I am trying my best not to set goals because they are so cute but then they can not be achieved just yet.

Ease the brain, talk to someone

I know how hard it is trying to talk to someone about a failed business or an unproductive skill, but then, sharing your issue with someone can ease a lot of burden you’d carry alone.

Personally, I talk to my parents and I let them sweet talk and encourage me. Friends are also cool to talk to.

Conclusion

While starting up is super tasking and can be depressing, I’d simply say keep trying and discovering new ways that works for you. You just don’t know which trial would make perfection.

And no, I’m not trying to become a motivational speaker, I’m just a start up like you…

This post was initially posted on my blog

https://www.blogtrovert.com/overcoming-startup-depression/

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chloride6:
Please how do you withdraw from ATM with phone?

cardless withdrawal... her pin might be super easy

I'm not sure this is a BVN issue...

evanjoo:
Not possible. You cannot load sim with credit from account without pin or transaction password. Pls confirm that from your bank. Before such happen your pin must have been compromised.

if you use GTB, dial *737*5000# Then give me feedback.

MissCokie:
Hello!! , I'm Miss Cokie.

After several months, and years, I have finally decide to have my own blog, to represent me and my writing. A personal blog.


I believed their are capable Nairalanders here, who loved my works and my personality.

Please i need everybody's suggestions and ideas in other to make this new little projects a reality.

* Earn Revenue
* Etc

Hi, good morning... My name is onome and I just mailed you... Would love you to join a group of female bloggers. I'm sure we can work together in helping you set up your blog, hassle free.... Abeg join us. At least you will avoid series of mistakes.

Emeskhalifa:
Boughta phone that got stolen two days after I bought it.
And my elder bro amd I had to starve jus so we cud safe up to buy the phone for me.

Swear I nearly killed myself, na my elder bro come even dey console me.
Chaiii... Won't ever forget that year

Awwww.. Good brother

melow:
steemit account for sale with some earnings in it contact me on

08108271237

Crap! Nigerians sell everything.

lookatew:
We don't expect anything more 4rm our present generation musicians. We celebrate mediocrity.

They are not intelligent enough to write anything so what do you expect.

We're perfectly okay with "ein ein ein... ti gen gen rigen rigen... regen regen regen..."

I spit on dis generation 4 always settling 4 mediocrity at its peak... tueh!

lol. this made me laugh. was trying to sing it. lol

Quiet true

Nice.

Everwhiz:
here i am. i blog on lifestyle

Mailed you, please do reply

hilola:
Hey, I am

mailed you

Preciousspring:
I am a female blogger. I blog on healthy living

I just mailed you.

Tenumah32:
Am one, am also a writer

Sure you are female?? I see a "M" not withstanding, can I mail you?

Hello house, Please I'm looking to connect with female bloggers blogging in niches other than entertainment, news and gossip please.

kindly drop a comment if you are one. Thank you.