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Fedric:
Thank you very much. This is exactly who I am .


I like to enjoy healthy and loving and sweet relationship without blemish or thinking someone is using they brain on the relationship.


I'm just too open minded and want to enjoy life with someone I love.

This is my second relationship and I don't go intorelationship much .


I. Much more focus in achieving my dream and achieving financial freedom.


I'm so loving and my family could know that.

I'm an introvert and I don't really approach ladies for relationship.

I'm just a gentle type shall.




I dont see any issue in me calling my girl friend for multiple times , this is because I love her and I really want to speak with her .


I do not see any issue in me trying to show love .


It's obviouse that she isn't someone for me and someone who love someone like me .



Damn me

You're not damned


It's your love language


Na Whitey you suppose marry. Start asking questions. Speak to pastors. Your type would be abused by the ladies here cause they think loving is weakness as expressed by 90% on this thread



You're not weak for needing love or emotional security


Start living your life. Honesty and genuinely forget coding



Start preparing to travel out so you meet foreign women. From what I've seen about you... Just go to US and marry a white woman. That's the kind of love you need not materially attached people



Nigerian women don't know, value or appreciate love that's why when it's offered to them it's thrown back and trampled upon


Don't stay in any relationship that doesn't meet your emotional or psychological needs.

Fedric:
Exactly Baba. Thank you .

You need to change how you deal with women


Start flaunting your success to project your worth so they begin to rush. When they chase you do your sorting


No time. Dump their sorry arses

omonnakoda:
We need to distinguish between love and obsessive/compulsive behaviour.
We need to distinguish between love and clinginess driven by a weak sense of self worth

These sorts of behaviour are often driven by childhood attachment problems which is a very long topic for another day.

Simple fact is this kind of behaviour is a pattern that replays itself in all relationships and is underpinned by an unresolved childhood fear of abandonment now dressed up as "love" . It has nothing to do with love at all

Every relationship will need neediness. However healthy,etc stop downplaying this factor abeg una


I don't give two hoots about any lady. My ex worked in a multinational


It takes me just 5 minutes to get a reply from any lady or permanently walk away. Yes, I'm mentally, emotionally and psychologically strong, however that neediness and emotional security isn't needful in a healthy relationship is what I'll never agree to

I beg to defer with your standpoint.

bigcil2:
Yes

Which do you recommend I buy 2 inch or 3 inch?

Gilbus1:
Please an organisation abroad has offered to ship plastic waste from their country to Nigeria so I can recycle it. My question is if plastic waste is a contraband product to be imported into Nigeria?
Please I need an answer so I dont make mistakes.
I've tried contacting customer service number on Nigeria Custom Service website but it's not connecting.

Good idea

oliviacute:
Mr fedric it's obvious that you love this girl so much and when that show of love becomes excess it turns to see finish
no 1 mistake- calling a girl 20 times, that's really awkward if u ask me
I understand how it feels when in love though and things people do unknowingly for love
two times is enough..if she doesn't pick up, send a text
don't call back until she calls back
and try and train urself not to be calling her as often as before. let's see if she will change.
don't subject yourself to emotional toture because of anybody
if u observe that she is not straight forward
move in with ur life
there is a man for every woman and a woman for every man
life is not that hard

You've spoken well jare Olivia

But give that girl ten years, she's still single and fvck Ed all over the neighborhood by everyone. It's what we see around. Karma has a way of balancing the equation

Princessogaraya:
Amen

. Most times when they return, e Don sawa

The ones wey dey deceive them say break your relationship, you for guy done St appreciate what he has. Once they break it and those ones see, them go carry face. To go front, door Don block, to return back no way. Hence high number of single ladies. This is exactly what causes it.


The deceit of I can find something better. Person suppose get another job first before resigning one job. But lai Lai, dem nor dey get sense.

HalpyBee:
How on earth would you call someone 20 good times when it's not an emergency?! Maximum, 2 times.

Address the attitude of the girl friend first.

Nice one.


Saved

lekonso:
Run fast she is not the right person for you to marry. Most times these signs are always there but we fail to see them. She is not a wife material, someone that is already giving you emotional problems before marriage. What happens after marriage. It will be worse

Thank you for this comment.

dalass:
What's the emergency bro? Calling someone over 20 times

Like is she in charge of the working functions of your lungs?

Ladies don't like whining guys abeg.... You're certainly complaining too much over basically everything of which she's explained herself...

I hope you have a job?/At work, some have no liberty to receive calls... Take am easy oh

Another ranter on the loose. Before you address his insecurities, speak about the hooked wasting his time, then you can balance truths.



Smh

SweetCunt97:
A man shouldn't be too emotional or gummy gummy, your affection will be taken for granted. Simply stop calling or complaining. Those things you used to do, stop it all and watch if she'll come around.

Hypocrite. First call the girl and olosho before you call him names. Eediot

jaxxy:
Yes I know when a lady is playing games and men play games also bt there is Smtn we call reasonable behavior and reaction. If she’s playing games and expect him to play smarter not this cry baby moves I’m seeing.

Sm women even like guys who can outsmart them. He shud play his cards right not this Mumu behavior I’m seeing.

Have some dignity and respect pls.

What dignity. Am. I the one
Let's address issues one by one first

Tell him she's playing games. Simple as ABC


The longest I miss anyone is 3 days. Babes flock around me. Crying and begging asking me to open my heart. For where?


Anybody man or woman, break my heart, 3 days I feel pain, after that, I'm gone. No time.

Princessogaraya:
leave her alone,I don't know why we girls don't love who love us

she will realize what she did,it will be too late for her.

many of us have ignore someone that loves us but when will meet those bad guy we will now wish to go back but no way again

Thank you for speaking the truth irrespective of gender. May God satisfy you with your own crown

FashionCookie:
Women are bad...Women are bad. So who are these people still dating Them? Everyday na one cry-cry story or the other. Join your redpill brothers.

Na so. Leave hypocrisy address the issue at hand. Is the girlfriend acting as an olosho or not.


Birds of same feather dey say flock together

jaxxy:
If sm1 isn’t in love with u there’s a way u act and they will fall in love with u and there’s how u act they will think u don’t have sense. People respond to how u act. Love is not magic it work by actions, inactions and responses. Nobody owes u love or anything just like that or automatically. It’s happens by a combination of the RIGHT actions.

Even if u want closure that’s not how u get it. I can send a text and ask whatever u want.


He doesn’t have sense.

Smiles. You're. Mixing issues.


The OP may have need for closure doesn't mean te lady here isn't irresponsible. I know the number of ladies in relationships I would have fvcked pulling this same stunts... The lady is playing games. My own sisters are all married. I have four. And none treat their. Men that way.


You're a man you know when a woman is playing games.

jaxxy:
What I notice here with the limited information is u sound and seem very needy and clingy, give people/HER space to breathe. Ure not even married to her Ure probably choking her and not everyone likes it and responds well to it.

Give her space and time to miss u if she actually likes u. If she doesn’t like u then don’t force urself to marry her or u will regret it.

There's need for closure and emotional security in any healthy relationship. He deserves to have it. She's deliberately not interested in being accountable. The Op isn't the one with issues here abeg you.


Whatever condition the OP is was brought about by the actions and Inactions of the girlfriend.


The OP isn't clingy or needy. The girl isn't in love with him and has grown tired of the relationship



Cc Fedric

alizma:
If you want to leave happily with a woman, learn how to ride monocycle because you are going to need that knowledge at the beginning of your relationship. Go back when she want to, forward when she want to and even stand still at times and before you know it, you will be in control of the monocycle.
Women can be funny at times. So I will advise you stop calling, let her do the calling when she is free. If she does give you a call pick it and thereafter, recharge her line and wait for to call again while you take the responsibility of the bill until she starts complaining that you don't call.

My dear take a bottle of Origin on me abeg. You've spoken as a true elder

Cutehector:
You are boring, and why the fvck will you call someone so many times as if she is your slave?


Will she die if you ditch her? The way una dey think sef.


Sense demands if you call someone one two times and the person doesnt pick, you can leave a text message or a chat.


Yall too clingy and shittt.. Get a life. Thats why she stopped feeling you.

Stop it. This isn't true masculinity or being clingy. Abeg you. I personally never call anyone more than once, however, this isn't a case of clingyness abeg you. Correct yourself.

Fedric:
I noticed that my girl friend doesn't like to come over anymore. Of late she Dosen't pick my calls often, she picked after 20 times .

I called her plenty times yesterday but she didn't pick my call giving me silly excuses that she left her phone at home while going out.

She repeated the same thing today and her excuse was that she went to an office and she can't pick the call. She later say she have to submit the phone to the security officers at the gate and that's the law of the institute .

I never see this kind of excuses and when I talk to my sister, she was like she might have gone to a man house and don't wanna pick .

The main issue with her is she believes I complain too much and she also raises voice at me any time I told her an issue I don't like.

I'm seriously tired and I am having different thoughts .

I wanted to marry her but her attitude keeps preventing me from making such move.

I feel bad right now and I needed an advice .

I feel so bad that my thought right now is to pretend, use her, dump her and make her feel regretful of making me go through emotional pain.

Should I just let her go and I should go on my who way?

Or should I just free her and start doing as if she don't exist in my life again .

I'm not happy right now and I feel so bad .


Advice please.

Run. Fast

Dangotesmummy was saying something like this


Maami eeyin da?

You are madddd

Nigeria must disintegrate to move forward. It is a must

Aconomist:
Well, Dangote is now producing more electricity than the Nigerian government. I read somewhere that the private sector is producing 18,000 MW for their own consumption.

Nigeria is stuck between 4000 and 5800 MW

afroxyz:
After you people collect money you would deceive nigerians to do your bidding. That is how you people went to Venezuela. Influencer oshi

If you can do better than semantics, it will be better. This is a thread for intellectual discussions not petty mud slinging, you stripped fatherless bald fowl

Lucrativress:
I can guarantee you come 2030/2035 Nigeria will still be one Nigeria.
Sir Nigerians are huge fans of procrastination,it is only the people in the seats now that will be shouting split,they or their opposer's, the next sets will be carrying other things in their mind's, that is how we got to 2021 that we're in now.
These people are reaping from corruption,even the ones shouting, so they won't do this.
I will sure mark those years and I pray God sees us through till then,so I can tell you we are still One!

We will see

Aconomist:
The cement industry doesn't use generators. Dangote has his own power plants, which means he gets his electricity at less than its cost of production (because of the synergies between cement production and electricity generation).

I hope you are aware that there's a law that repels/prohibits independent power generation once it exceeds 1MW. If we were been honest, how come are some organizations rising up going around this to produce as much power as they desire
.. I'm not anti progressive but I know a 1/5MW Turbine would produce relatively cheap power to produce virtually anything.

Aconomist:
That's because the currency was devaluing. If you compared those prices to dollars, it was cheap. Now, Nigerian cement prices are exorbitant, even in dollars or any foreign currency. $4,000 is around $10 or 717 Indian rupees. But look at cement prices in India -- only 320 rupees.

I did my research too. Not just Zambia. All other African countries he goes to record cheap prices.

Ibrahimmrfish:
How much is corporate tax in south Africa and is their power situation the same with Nigeria,were all factories uses generators?

All backed by strong stock market funds generation. Plus, Nigeria was/is been used as Base to raise funds to keep those companies away from Nigeria functional while Nigeria is used as the sacrifice to raise funds to balance the sheets while they maintain normal in their overseas operations. That's what Dangote does


It's not just cheap in Zambia, it is in other African countries he setup cause he uses Nigeria to raise funds and use foreign country to buy clout and look legit


I've studied him extensively to know this


Cc Aconomist

Lucrativress:
The truth is Nigeria won't disintegrate,cause at the back of our minds we know we can't stand alone..
We think each Tribe has one mind within themselves but the truth is na lie,we are soo divided even amongst ourselves
If Nigeria should dare disintegrate, the gap between the Rich and the Poor would seem like the distance between Heaven and hell

Go mark the year. 2030/2035. After this period, the name will be forever forgotten

winterfell007:
On the contrary, you're very stupid. Long before they started this local production agenda, imported cements were quite cheap and affordable in the 90s

Perhaps the younger generation should sit back
Cement started climbing at 70 Naira need. From 70 Naira to 100 Naira, to 110 Naira to 200 Naira, and to 200 Naira, then before 500 Naira

And we were importing.