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I thought: if this guy has not changed as he said, why did he tell her of his past? Couldnt he have continued to keep her in the dark? It might seem that everyone is missing this fact Nope. here are the answers i came up with:
1. He was afraid she could find out later esp when they begin to prepare for marriage.
2. He used it to substantiate his past riches story.
Op, at what point did your friend know of his past riches since she didn't know he was married from the onset?
Let her request to meet this guy's family, in order to clear her eyes. I don't think he is from any 'OK' family as he said, whatever that means - and his background will say a lot about his person. Dont listen to any attemt to explain it away.Me self once nearly enter one chance before I marry. Your friend should be careful at this time, let her not rely on her own judgement AT ALL. God bless.

Exactly. Women don suffer.

pocohantas:
Lol.
Not that, but you'll be amazed at how much they pay attention to their hygiene when a girl is coming around.
Those ones in Nigerian universities are the worst culprit, sadly...they are the ones advising OP.

These same men will marry tomorrow, and expect their wives to spread the legs inside hot room with their smelly bodies because it is their CONJUGAL RIGHT.

Hammer T, you must be really good if you think that women love sex more than men cos i dont think so. I really root for this your comment but i need to ask: are you married? Cos you know that sex in marriage is a different ball game from sex outside it. You see, most men here feel that having unlimited sex with their wives is their right, hence they are not willing to go through all the trouble you advised to please them. The wife is just to lie down and spread her legs. They don't feel this way about a girlfriend, so, normally they would do these things for a woman that they have not married. In marriage, couples easily take each other for granted, you know they see each other in and out, everyday and then think too much about responsibilities. Many couples are actually not friends, they don't even laugh with each other,sex at night becomes mechanical and the woman who wants real intimacy just wants to cut it out! Real underlying issues bro.

hammerT:
so far all the men here have not represented manhood well.

women that love sex more than men, tells u she only want sex on certain days and u think all is well in that marriage.

the young man either has no game or is a one minute guy that does not satisfy her in bed and outside the bed.

u need classes on how to hammer and get her addicted.

haba! if i dont hammer in one week, na "u are cheating on me dem go dey take sing song" until i hammer.

Damn right am cheating on u, "a booty came calling i had to put the hammer down."

young man, ur wife is not a sex object, u cannot just open her up and dump and then start sleeping. that is the message she is sending to u here.


Spend time with her, seduce her, take her out, charm her, play with her, buy her things, make her feel like a woman and make sure u hammer.

No woman will give me dates and walk away that day and minute without the violation of those terms of contract straight away.

i must to hammer.

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Some ppl have advised the op to lay off his wife for a month to two to get her attention. He can't. Don't even go there, he can't.And that's where the real problem lies. Someone that gave this advice already acknowledged that the op is a slave to his loins, so how can he lay off sex for a month? Not even a week, ask him he probably wants it twice a day. The problem is that he is fine with it, doesn't see the need to control it but unfortunately, his wife is frustrated because he is equally making her a slave to it. I bet it's taken them time to get to this point, times that the woman has tried to compromise but has only gotten more frustrated.

Pls do not involve her parents in this. You will only get an unhappy wife who will hate you for making love to her against her wish and it will totally nosedive your relationships in the home for the worse. She cannot meet your libido and that's no crime. You BOTH have to meet halfway. Just change your strategies, learn how to love her in and out of bed. There's been a number of tips on this here. One, I'll like to second is given by a guy who calls himself Hammer T. Sound talk there. Peace

Incline:
Your wife was wrong, OP.


You're right, If I were any of OP's siblings I would have insisted the wife not join in the picture too. In fact if I were OP himself I would have insisted the same. No wife should cause problem for my mom on her special day. She dey mad ni?

This is too bad. I seriously feel for the woman that will choose to marry you.

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eyinjuege:
Your wife was just been naive and not necessarily being a drama queen.
She wants to be part of the clique by force or by fire
Marriage lesson 101, your MIL can never be your mother. Don't equally deceive yourself that you're a son to your own MIL.
Everyone should understand that and there would be peace. Boundaries would be set clearly.
You won't expect too much from your in-laws, and they wouldn't expect too much from you.
It is just what it is.
Your wife should have respected herself and understood the fact that your mother is not her mother.
Olomo mo iye Omo to bi- the parent of the children knows how many are his/hers.

You should have allowed her take the picture first without asking her to step aside. After she's taken the picture with only the "children", you can now ask her to move over and allow you take pictures with your siblings alone, and then you and her alone will take pictures with your mother as a couple.
You would have appeared thoughtful towards your family, and also towards your wife that you're a unit.
Everybody's happy.

Infact, since she likes taking pictures so much, she can take picture alone with your mother as the only recognised daughter in-law, pictures with the other female sisters and the celebrant.

Infact, too many pictures all day long.

I wan die o

Pidgin2:
This is very bad advice, OP you will be surprised that it is a secondary school student giving you advice. Nairaland is not the best place to seek counsel

Do you do anything in the house besides eat, sleep, watch TV and have endless sex? Your wife may be overburdened with house chores and she might be too tired to meet up to your demands.

Help her with domestic work or get someone to help her. Try and exercise self control, what if you have to travel away for a month, wouldn't you be able to hold yourself, is sex food, or does it sustain your breathing?

OP, I am surprised at the comments so far o. Personally, I think most women don't like sex as much as men, it's not about you. Some do but few, and you must take this into consideration when dealing with women, most especially your own wife. In my opinion twice a week is not bad. Your wife giving you days might be bad but your attitude might have forced her to do so. I do not agree with those that say that you can have sex with your wife anytime just because you married her. If a lady would rather not have that much sex, don't you think making her do it would be torture for her? Both parties should enjoy it.

So OP, if you know that twice a week is inadequate for you, I'll urge to take the advice quoted. Help your wife with chores at home, sometimes do things for her and have fun times with her without bringing sex in the picture and show that you care about her not just sex. Also, during sex, find out what she likes and give it to her. She will begin to be less rigid and seeing that sex makes you happy, she'll want to give you more to please you in return. Loving anything excessively is bad though, even food and sex. Pls learn some self control for your wife's sake, while she also works at meeting you halfway. All the best.

Just seeing this. Sorry, I couldn't read all 20 pages, just the first, then zoomed to the last. It doesn't seem like you exploited the bank option - did you? To be candid, I didn't like the way you left the bank and started relating with the guy on a personal level at the beginning. You should have exploited official options first. Never trust humans when it comes to money - you will be surprised.

I know it's not been easy and this exercise must have been draining for you, but honestly, this ending will only encourage other scammers to hold on in the future. I wish the guy was made to vomit the money. Well, his rep has been severely dented sha. So, he'll have long term 'rewards' of his dishonesty to reap.

Quite enlightening.

While I agree with you that mmm's operations is affecting the economy, I beg to differ on the given example. So what? There are thousands of other ppl that want d banker's job. Everyone can never be into mmm. Jesus said the poor will always be with us, remember?

1x2x3:
It won't collapse worldwide at once because how long the system stays depends on the population of participants and how they are able to fill up the void left that withdrawals of Super Admins.
Once it shuts down in a country he moves to another country.

To me it's an interesting system that could actually be modified to work better. This system can make money circulate and a whole lot of people will be rich but economy will be affected.
For instance a banker is laid off with a pay off of 5M he invests 2M which will give him monthly interest of 600k .
Trust me this banker won't seek another job for a salary of 180k.

While I agree with you that mmm's operations is affecting the economy, I really don't agree with the example you gave. So what? There are thousands of other ppl that want d banker's job. Everyone can never be into mmm. Jesus said the poor will always be with us, remember?

1x2x3:
It won't collapse worldwide at once because how long the system stays depends on the population of participants and how they are able to fill up the void left that withdrawals of Super Admins.
Once it shuts down in a country he moves to another country.

To me it's an interesting system that could actually be modified to work better. This system can make money circulate and a whole lot of people will be rich but economy will be affected.
For instance a banker is laid off with a pay off of 5M he invests 2M which will give him monthly interest of 600k .
Trust me this banker won't seek another job for a salary of 180k.

Thx, will look into it. How about the 2nd app that you mentioned?

You are so crazy! Where did you get this?

stagger:
Since you are now an American, you have to fill the W-9 tax form so your earnings can have the tax deducted straight away and sent to the IRS. Pray they don't come after you for tax evasion. Wesley Snipes spent 3 years in prison for it.

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Bad guy!

Today I join the throng of testifiers; it's only natural when someone lives up to reputation - a positive one. Thanks, for the Upwork withdrawal AleAirHub, for your time and for being reliable, as I had heard. I look forward to other times!

Not boring. I think Some reactions r extreme but If u claim Christianity, can u give answers?

Good Nairalanders,

I need to get a smartphone with excellent features under 30k. if i find one at about 20 or below i will be most happy. please recommend.
my eyes are on:

1. very longlasting battery power
2. excellent camera
3. good browsing.
4.for now i dont have a laptop so it it can do many of the things that i do on the laptop fine.
5.any other good feature you mention.

my last phone was not a smartphone.

thank you.

My dear, u made mistakes and d most important thing is to 'see' them and resolve never to repeat them in life! believe me, if u sleep with every 'fiancee' esp in just a wk, how many stories will u tell ur husband? who will understand? they will just conclude that u r lo0se. you must be careful not to fulfil what ur ex and friends think of abj girls because d truth is, they looked at u and felt u could do it. sadly, i think so too. i dont think you'll do it intentionally, but life events can take u there, if d price is right! dont pass d buck,m u liked d idea of marrying this guy, i can imagine u 'gisting' - u friends at d beginning. u likely decided on d abortion urself so u cud v stood up to ur parents in other areas! from now on respect them but dont always dilly to their sentiments cos that's what they r. u r better educated than they are. work for urself. u v some alawee now, dont u? manage it well, get more skills, make better income. marriage is not all there is to life for a woman. i'm not judging u, bn d

and take note that 500,000 a year is less than 50k monthly. bottomline -u had better v something else doing. 80 trees more like it. and pls dont mt create a relaxation centre under it or u will v nothing to show for ur hardwork. u v to protect ur trees from prying hands too.

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I am really saddened that at such a time, nokia ceo could open his mouth and say that "they didn't do anything wrong," yet, they lost out! the ceo! shdnt he know better? was it just to save face? then, he and his team proceeded to shed tears! i think they (he actually) just have a totally wrong attitude to the experience. perhaps nokia would have survived if they had been willing to admit the things they were doing wrong.

Thx op, looking forward to your new posts

There are several such threads on nairaland that have literarily become classrooms. phew! thanks, how is the going? read 2 of your writer archetypes. i had dreamt of being a writer all of my life but have never completed a writing as an adult, i'm thinking i really need some training and need to put in more commitment.

So sorry my response is coming this late. i actually didn't know my comments were posted that day, i just discovered - my phone had been misbehaving. to your questions: i couldnt trace the post that i mdntioned. like i said, i went thru several thereafter and have just aboutmuddled up things - sorry about that. then, shorter discourses are often better when you find that a piece is getting really long. or infusion of 'tricks' that would make it more appealing to the eyes like d use of bullets where appropriate. that is why double spacing is frequently recommended above single spacing for manuscripts etc.in marketing, d average person is a scanner, he wants to spend as little time as possible on a subject and move on to the next, so an epistle literarily puts him off if he is not someone like elmatino who is decided seeking such material. a shorter but punchy piece would bring him back seeking for more and then you can engage your audience again and again with more ppl joining the thread, there are severa. t7