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Hey, you! Yes.. you! Are you still delaying that wonderful idea you may have been nursing for a while now? Have you been hesitating on starting that business, journey, career, course, or work you have  to do?


Have you identified a favorable opportunity, but you've not been able to utilize it because you're thinking too much about it? Then this article is for you. I want you to bear this at the back of your mind: "The active ones take it all."


Life offers everything to the ones who are active. Life doesn't care about your intention or what you're thinking of doing. It cares about what you're doing!


Let's say there are two people who intend to start a similar business, let's say it's a small restaurant. One of them has been nursing the idea for a long time and is very passionate about it. He keeps thinking and thinking of how to start up the business and get everything ready but has done nothing yet.


The other one also nurses the idea though he is not as passionate as the first, but he immediately starts cooking in very small quantities and sells to his neighbors and friends living close.


He is not thinking too much about how to buy a big land and build a big restaurant like the first may be thinking. He just starts cooking with what he has at that point and starts selling to those he knew.


Which of these two men do you think has a higher chance of making a boom in the business? Of course it's the second. With his strategy, he will slowly build a loyal customer base while generating some money in the process.


As his business grows, he will be able to acquire more materials and facilities needed. He may even hire extra hands. And before you know it, a profitable restaurant is born. The first man will still be there thinking of how to get everything set.


Even if he finally gets it set, the second person have made much progress already with the time he had lost. He will have to start from scratch to find loyal customers and advertise his business. If second man has played his game right, it will be difficult for this man to even catch up.


And what gave the second the advantage? Activity!


Dormancy is a trap. Even if you're thinking and making plans, don't let it entrap you into being dormant. Because dormancy of any form is dangerous. Much time is lost and before you know it, active men have taken the opportunity.


I give you another instance, let's say two guys are really in love with a girl. The first one may really be genuinely in love with the girl and really desires to make her his wife. But he isn't active. He doesn't make efforts to let the girl know how he feels about her.


He's just having these feelings and he's not active about expressing it. What do you think will happen? The girl will be there because there's no way she's going to know what he has in his mind. And she may never get to know how much love this guy has for her simply because the guy wasn't active.


Another guy may come around, he may not really love the girl that much, but he is an active man, he talks to the girl, shows care to her, takes her out on dates and courts her like a lady.. Of course, the girl is likely to fall for him because at least he was active enough to express his feelings.


Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself who you would go for given the choices? The answer is too obvious. How can she even go for a man who hasn't shown any signs that he loves her?


Again, let's say there are two politicians who aspire for a political position, one of them is active. He always moves around different communities, interacting with the inhabitants and gives them convincing speeches.


The other one does nothing but hope and pray that the people see the goodness inside of him to vote him on election day.


Which of them do you think is likely to win the election on the election day?


Activity.. There's nothing like it. If an upcoming musician comes out today and sings his very first song, do you think he stands a great chance of becoming more popular than any of the top musicians in the world by virtue of that song?


Of course not! He will have to be active well enough to perfect his art and compete with the masters. Activity is what will sharpen his ability and bring him to the limelight.


Activity.. How active are you? If there is anything you desire in your life that you don't have, it's because you've not been active well enough to have it.


Activity always pays the active ones. It never owes. It pays right on time. With activity, you will get everything you want and even more. Just learn to be very active in the pursuit of whatever you desire.


There's really no other way if you look at it deeply. You only look for other ways because you don't want to be active. You feel like it's stressful. And you desire to go back to your free and lazy patterns.


But activity has a price. You've got to pay the price for it. The rewards of activity are too great that they aren't for the faint hearted. You will be willing to pass through the stress. You will be willing to do what it really takes because you really want what it offers.


There's no successful man who wasn't active. Look around you. Study the successful and you'll see that they are very much active in their lives.


It's very few people that are willing to go that extra mile just like the active ones.. And that why majority of people are average and are living in obscurity, while those very few control everything.


They get to control everything because they paid the price that billions of people couldn't pay. The gains are worth the sacrifice isn't it?


There's no point giving more examples because there are many examples that we see in our everyday lives telling us that only the active ones get everything they want, but some of us don't pay attention.


Therefore, I am challenging you today to dare to be active. You're reading this blog post because you care about success, because you're different from the rest and you want to stand out from them.


You are already success oriented and that's why I'm reminding or challenging you to keep being active. Be relentless in the pursuit of whatever it is that your heart really yearns for.


You don't have to listen to what they're saying. You know exactly where you are meant to be and you're not setting for an average life like them, so you should focus on your activity.


Activity will always reward you and set you apart.


Life is all about activity and whatever that is inactive is considered dead.


Pursue excellence with activity and success will chase you pants down!


Be active and keep winning!

source:
http://www.boldwinner.com/2018/02/the-active-ones-take-it-all.html

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Hey, you! Yes.. you! Are you still delaying that wonderful idea you may have been nursing for a while now? Have you been hesitating on starting that business, journey, career, course, or work you have to do?

Have you identified a favorable opportunity, but you've not been able to utilize it because you're thinking too much about it? Then this article is for you. I want you to bear this at the back of your mind: "The active ones take it all."

Life offers everything to the ones who are active. Life doesn't care about your intention or what you're thinking of doing. It cares about what you're doing!

Let's say there are two people who intend to start a similar business, let's say it's a small restaurant. One of them has been nursing the idea for a long time and is very passionate about it. He keeps thinking and thinking of how to start up the business and get everything ready but has done nothing yet.

The other one also nurses the idea though he is not as passionate as the first, but he immediately starts cooking in very small quantities and sells to his neighbors and friends living close.

He is not thinking too much about how to buy a big land and build a big restaurant like the first may be thinking. He just starts cooking with what he has at that point and starts selling to those he knew.

Which of these two men do you think has a higher chance of making a boom in the business? Of course it's the second. With his strategy, he will slowly build a loyal customer base while generating some money in the process.

As his business grows, he will be able to acquire more materials and facilities needed. He may even hire extra hands. And before you know it, a profitable restaurant is born. The first man will still be there thinking of how to get everything set.

Even if he finally gets it set, the second person have made much progress already with the time he had lost. He will have to start from scratch to find loyal customers and advertise his business. If second man has played his game right, it will be difficult for this man to even catch up.

And what gave the second the advantage? Activity!

Dormancy is a trap. Even if you're thinking and making plans, don't let it entrap you into being dormant. Because dormancy of any form is dangerous. Much time is lost and before you know it, active men have taken the opportunity.

I give you another instance, let's say two guys are really in love with a girl. The first one may really be genuinely in love with the girl and really desires to make her his wife. But he isn't active. He doesn't make efforts to let the girl know how he feels about her.

He's just having these feelings and he's not active about expressing it. What do you think will happen? The girl will be there because there's no way she's going to know what he has in his mind. And she may never get to know how much love this guy has for her simply because the guy wasn't active.

Another guy may come around, he may not really love the girl that much, but he is an active man, he talks to the girl, shows care to her, takes her out on dates and courts her like a lady.. Of course, the girl is likely to fall for him because at least he was active enough to express his feelings.

Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself who you would go for given the choices? The answer is too obvious. How can she even go for a man who hasn't shown any signs that he loves her?

Again, let's say there are two politicians who aspire for a political position, one of them is active. He always moves around different communities, interacting with the inhabitants and gives them convincing speeches.

The other one does nothing but hope and pray that the people see the goodness inside of him to vote him on election day.

Which of them do you think is likely to win the election on the election day?

Activity.. There's nothing like it. If an upcoming musician comes out today and sings his very first song, do you think he stands a great chance of becoming more popular than any of the top musicians in the world by virtue of that song?

Of course not! He will have to be active well enough to perfect his art and compete with the masters. Activity is what will sharpen his ability and bring him to the limelight.

Activity.. How active are you? If there is anything you desire in your life that you don't have, it's because you've not been active well enough to have it.

Activity always pays the active ones. It never owes. It pays right on time. With activity, you will get everything you want and even more. Just learn to be very active in the pursuit of whatever you desire.

There's really no other way if you look at it deeply. You only look for other ways because you don't want to be active. You feel like it's stressful. And you desire to go back to your free and lazy patterns.

But activity has a price. You've got to pay the price for it. The rewards of activity are too great that they aren't for the faint hearted. You will be willing to pass through the stress. You will be willing to do what it really takes because you really want what it offers.

There's no successful man who wasn't active. Look around you. Study the successful and you'll see that they are very much active in their lives.

It's very few people that are willing to go that extra mile just like the active ones.. And that why majority of people are average and are living in obscurity, while those very few control everything.

They get to control everything because they paid the price that billions of people couldn't pay. The gains are worth the sacrifice isn't it?

There's no point giving more examples because there are many examples that we see in our everyday lives telling us that only the active ones get everything they want, but some of us don't pay attention.

Therefore, I am challenging you today to dare to be active. You're reading this blog post because you care about success, because you're different from the rest and you want to stand out from them.

You are already success oriented and that's why I'm reminding or challenging you to keep being active. Be relentless in the pursuit of whatever it is that your heart really yearns for.

You don't have to listen to what they're saying. You know exactly where you are meant to be and you're not setting for an average life like them, so you should focus on your activity.

Activity will always reward you and set you apart.

Life is all about activity and whatever that is inactive is considered dead.

Pursue excellence with activity and success will chase you pants down!

Be active and keep winning!


source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2018/02/the-active-ones-take-it-all.html

There was this young man who joined us recently at the place where I currently work. He just finished off from a well known technical school around the area and he was lucky enough to land a job with the firm. He was so all about his knowledge and expertise in the field and kept on looking for opportunities to explain things to any of the staff members who cared to listen.

Well, we all admired the young chap and we almost believed he was as competent as he claimed. Then came his first job role; it was the most basic. He was assigned to balance weights on a car tyre to ensure that the weights were evenly distributed and the tyres won't wear off unevenly.

This guy immediately set to work instead of asking any of the staff how the machine was run. He simply believed he knew it all. As he was trying to set up the vehicle's tyre, he made a big mistake and he didn't lock in the tyre accurately.. An assistant tried to interrupt him and show him the correct way of locking it in. However, the "all knowing" dude refused to listen, so the assistant left him to continue.

I was at a corner observing him alongside other senior members of the staff. We gave ourselves knowing looks and laughed at the boy's attitude. But the guy kept on saying that he knew what he was doing, that he had studied it in school and that we should come and check his phone to see that his procedure is online and indeed "very correct!"

No one argued with the boy. We just watched him as we already knew the outcome of his wrong setups. As expected, the automobile tyres kept giving him wrong values and he almost injured himself trying to still balance the simple tyre with more weights than even necessary. We all almost burst out into laughter at his frustration.

After he tried his best and came to accept his inability to do the task, our most senior staff had to come in. He reset the wrong arrangements of the new guy and followed the correct procedures. What the chap couldn't do in 30 minutes, he accomplished in 2minutes. Then after he finished, he looked at the boy and only said four words: "Learn to ask questions." I think the boy learnt his lesson that day.

I shared this experience just to emphasize the importance of asking questions.

Asking questions doesn't necessarily mean you don't know (even if it does, so what?). Asking questions mean you're ready to learn new things. It means you're willing to know the best ways of doing any stuff.

Every time you pretend like you know something because you want to avoid asking a question, you run two risks:

The first one is that you may never get another better opportunity of knowing that thing.

The second is that you run the risk of embarrassment or painful mistakes when the time will come for you to do it and you can't.

If you don't want to make same mistakes over and over, please ask questions.

A philosopher once said:

'The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life.'

It's better to be seen as a fool, then get to know something that you don't. Than to be seen as a
wise man, then they discover you actually know nothing.

Our people say that: "Onye ajuju anaghi efu uzo" which is translated as "The one who is fond of asking questions cannot miss his way."

It's as simple as that.

Most of us who have gone to good schools and are well read are fond of making the mistake of not asking enough questions.

You may feel that by virtue of your education, you know much more than other people who may not have been so privileged to get the same education.

Then you underrate them and you refuse to ask them questions when some of them may have the keys to something you seek.

That's what's keeping many people from excelling in life. There's something you can learn from anyone. No one knows it all, no matter how well read.

Build networks with people of like minds, but never despise what you can learn from those who may look less privileged.

Don't be afraid to ask anyone questions when your mind pricks you about something.

Your success isn't far away if you learn to always ask clarifying questions.

Bear this in mind and keep winning!

source: http://www.boldwinner.com

WallexyGold:
nice one
m sure it will be helpful
cos dats exactly what I need now
#self confidence.

Nice one

The Craze For Likes.

These likes are just there to tell you whether people like what you posted or not. It doesn't go beyond that.

Whether you get 10 likes or 1000 likes on your picture. Likes are just likes. You don't have to judge yourself by number of likes.

You don't have to to almost go naked on social media just to get "likes" when it's not your thing. For Christ's sake, what are likes?

Are you gonna die without it? Does it give you money? Weren't you surviving before social media took over?

So why the heck are you crazed about getting likes?

This platform is for networking and "genuinely" expressing ourselves and who we really are.

Always tailoring your posts to suit the public likes or sound politically correct is just plain stupid because we know that public approval does NOT ALWAYS mean that something is true.

Be true to yourself and don't lose your head to get likes on social media.

1 like or 1 billion likes, doesn't matter much. There's a reason Facebook allows you to like your own posts.
If no one likes it... Well, Yes. You figured it out.

Keep winning!

Source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2018/02/the-craze-for-likes.html

Just take some time to read through this article and you’ll figure out why you cannot please everyone. Think about the following scenarios and pause to reflect on every sentence:

You stay at home in your room and decide not to trouble anyone; they say you're too quiet, that you lock yourself up all the time and barely visit anyone.

You always visit them all the time or you visit your neighbors often, they say "What's wrong with him, why can't he stay in his house?" I wonder what he's looking for in everyone's house.

They see you with girls; they say "He is a playboy! We said it! Look at him."

You decide to hang out with guys, they say "Are you sure he's a man?" "He's always with the guys, maybe he is even gay."

You decide to dress simply without too much blinks, they say "Look at him, he has money, but he won't spend it on himself."

You decide to buy expensive stuffs and wear; they say "You see! He's always showing himself that he has money. He’s always bragging. "

You work very hard every day to make a living, they say "He's always working, he doesn't ever rest."

You decide to rest, they say "Look at him, his mates are outside hustling and he's here whiling away his time."

You don't do drugs or take alcohol. They say "That guy is always forming that he's holier than thou. He doesn't smoke or drink. He's a Jew ass nigga."

You decide to drink or smoke like them. They say "You see, that boy has joined bad gang." "He's a hypocrite, we thought he was good."

See guys ... There's nothing you can do in this life to totally eliminate gossiping from jobless people who take pleasure talking about you.

The country is so tough now that people have taken gossiping to an entirely new level.

You must ignore these people and stay true to yourself and your values. Don't do anything just for people to say 'good' about you because no matter what, they will talk.

Just stay focused and think about your actions before you take them.

If it's okay to you and your conscience, fine do it. Else, no matter what people say to you, don't do it.
There's no time to try to please everybody.

Stay focused. Do what you feel is best for you and keep winning!

source: http://www.boldwinner.com

Hitting the twenty year old mark is something that comes with lots of responsibilities. It's a period when the decisions you make critically shapes your future. It's important that young people in their twenties keep these five things in mind.

1. Career
In your twenties, it's important you find your purpose. Finding your purpose in this period could really be the best thing that will happen to you. It's easier to model your life and career around your purpose when you've found it at this stage than in your 40's or 50's.

Your career path at this stage should be clearly defined if you want to be successful. You cannot just apply to any jobs or study any course work without knowing exactly why you're doing it. At this stage, wasting your time on anything you have no plans on is an easy route to failure.

2. Relationship
The twenties is usually a time when your sexual attraction to the opposite sex usually peaks. It's a time when many young people make mistakes in dating and finding someone they're compatible with. Lots of young people at this age aren't serious about their actions as regards building a lasting relationship. It often hurts them and reduces their chances of being in happy relationships and finding the right person at a later age.

You don't have to wait to be thirty before you start beings careful with your love life and relationships. It's not about just having fun and hitting it off with any random person. You should clearly define your relationship goals at this level and make conscious efforts to build strong relationships with those you're compatible with.

3. Network
Your life is greatly influenced by the quality of your networks. At your twenties, you should be conscious of those you have in your circles. You need to build networks with people that add value to your life and people who inspire you to be the best you can be.

You shouldn't only be around those who only care about partying and living a lascivious lifestyle. You should be around people who are progressive in their thinking and attitude. You should be around successful people who are filled with ideas.

Make efforts to be good friends with these kinds of people. Genuinely care about their welfare and hang out more often with them.

4. Responsibilities
Before twenty, many of us might have been shying away from taking up any responsibility. This is quite understandable because from birth to our teenage age, most of the things have been done for us by parents or guardians. So naturally, most of us would want to shy away from doing anything to serve others and instead get from others.

Well, at twenty something.. You're way above that level. Society now sees you as an adult and not a kid anymore. You should be more willing to take up responsibilities now than ever before. Taking up responsibility will build your ability to lead, exude confidence and work with other people. You'll learn many important things in life through being a responsible person now. It could come in form of volunteering in your religion, organization or community. It could come in form of teaching or working for others.

It's high time you stopped running away and man up to those responsibilities.

5. Money
Money they say makes the world go round. Without money, your capacity is quite limited in the Real World. At twenty something, you really should be financially conscious. It's high time you throw away the idea of squandering money anyhow. The amount of money you have at this stage and the one you're working to get is very important.

You should make and keep plans for every amount of money you intend to spend. You don't have to be an accountant to do that. Just make a conscious effort to live within your means and balance your income and expenses. You'll save yourself lots of needless debts in future.

Instead of spending too much on beer and outing with friends, why not save towards an important idea you've been nursing? You should still have some fun or hang out with your friends, but you have to plan for it and know exactly how much you intend to spend. You're not spending to please your friends.. The size of your pocket should be considered.

Keep these things in mind and I bet you, you won't make much mistakes in your twenties.

source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2018/01/5-things-twentysomething-should-keep-mind.html

Happy New Year guys! It's that time of the year against when we kick off with fresh plans,
resolutions and motives. While making these necessary preparations, there's an important change you should not forget to make. That's why I've made this post.

The previous year has been tough but good anyways. I consider it good not because it has been the very best year, but because against all odds, you and I still made it into this New Year. It's enough reason to be grateful and hope for the very best. As we hope for the best of the New Year, we must make a vital change in our attitude.

A lot of us could've have achieved more last year if we waited less for other people. If we had taken more responsibilities and necessary actions by ourselves towards achieving our objectives, we could've been miles ahead of where we are right now.

How many times have you waited for people to do something for you that you could've done for yourself? How many times have you waited to people to meet you instead of making the effort to meet them? How many times have you expected people to give you jobs instead of getting those jobs yourself or creating jobs? How many times have you studied on your own and prepared for an examination rather than depend on a colleague to cheat with?

How many times have you waited for someone else to love you instead of going out of your way to love someone? Have you made efforts to organise small parties or picnic with friends or family rather than wait to be invited to one? Are you still waiting on your relative or friend to give you money or accommodation when you can take care of your own self?

I could go on and on to ask questions relating to waiting and depending on other people rather than yourself. The point really is to stir you to reflect upon the previous year and see those areas you've been too dependent on other people and seek to make serious changes this New Year.

You're never really free if you've not really mastered your own self. You should strive to be independent, so you can be creatively interdependent this year.
The more you make efforts to get things for yourself rather than wait and hope on a "saviour" to keep doing that for you, the better for you this year. The change you must make is to stop waiting on others and seize the initiative to get whatever you want.

If you seek to have fun, you should be able to create fun and not just wait or seek for where it has been created. Go out of your way and dare to live life with all its uncertainties. Don't wait for people to do it. If you can do it yourself, try your best and you will be better of.

Sometimes, go out of your way to set up and suggest meetings with friends and loved ones. Sometimes, you actively search out the solution to what you face rather than hope on someone to just give you the answer. Try to make your own money and live in your own house. It will build your self confidence and arm you with a winner's mindset.

Think of building your own business, try to love other people without having too much expectations from them. Dance, work and play. Try to live your life by your own terms and quit sucking up to other people because you're so dependent on them for your most important needs.

This change in attitude is key to make the best out of this year. Stop waiting, stop depending and stop hoping on others while being inactive. You are much more than a person who merely waits. You are a winner and you need to discover this for yourself by consciously making committed efforts in getting those things you want for yourself by yourself.

When you make this commitment, you will be surprised at how much help and success will come your way this year as you strive to live free.
I wish you the best of the year.

Stay sharp and active!

Keep winning!

source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2018/01/an-important-change-you-must-make-this.html

Yian1:
Educating, nice one from you. let me save this one first, will surely need ur instructions

Thank you.

Self confidence is a quality that you cannot find lacking in any successful individual. Knowing the quickest way to build it is probably worth some value. You shouldn't be found acting shy or timid when your golden opportunity comes knocking just like the depicted squirrel above. And that's why I've decided to write this blog post.

Damn, I used to be a really shy guy. I was shy to speak in public, I was shy to give a toast, shy to ask a girl out, shy to even look at other people squarely in the eye. This was a big issue for me because I lost many wonderful opportunities to develop myself as a result of lacking self confidence in certain situations. Even though I occasionally came tops in class, my teachers cared less because I was shy to take up some responsibilities.

No one really cared about how intelligent I was or how quickly I understood things. They cared about my demeanor and how well I carried myself. They weren't seeing good signs, so most of them avoided me and couldn't see any potentials except the few who came closer and believed in me irrespective of my shamefaced nature. This is important to note: Your level of self confidence is what attracts you to people.

Being shy was almost destroying my life and my potentials until I took a very introspective and analytical look into my life and made a firm decision to build my self confidence for my own good. That led me to read a whole lot of books on the issue which subsequently helped me gain a better understanding of myself and what I needed to be doing.

Nevertheless, irrespective of what I came to learn and know from those books, I was still not so confident. It was when I decided to constantly dare myself by trying out the things I was afraid to do that I noticed a sharp boost in my self confidence.
I had to push myself into those situations I was not confident enough to take. I pushed myself to speak up at gatherings given the chance, I pushed myself to organize mini parties with friends even though I felt awkward as regards how best to behave. I pushed myself to try taking people out to lunch or dinner. I pushed myself to dance, start conversation with strangers, look people in the eye and speak to an audience.

And I noticed that with every push that I made, my confidence grew. I definitely felt awkward while pushing myself into those situations, but I did what I could anyways. Whether I did them well or not never mattered to me. What mattered was that I pushed myself to do them. That was how my self confidence level rose sharply.

Every time I successfully pushed myself into a situation and I came out of it, I always felt an instant boost when I said to myself: "Nigel, you were able to this! Congrats! You have improved!"
It became fun daring myself repeatedly to do things I was scared of doing. And my confidence level increased with every attempt. It doesn't mean that I'm the most confident person in the world right now, because I still have my shy moments. Lol.
Notwithstanding, there's a marked improvement in my personal life as a result of my sincerest efforts to dare the scary and the nerve racking.

I know it will work for you as well, because I've passed through it and I'm proof that trying to do those things you thought you couldn't do or that you were afraid of doing really boosts your confidence like magic! It doesn't mean you should dare everything, please don't attempt to fly off a cliff. Lol. The point is to dare yourself given certain opportunities.

There are many ways you can dare yourself. You just need to identify those things you're afraid of doing or facing and make a firm decision to keep trying them one by one. You will notice that the more you try them, the better you will get in those things and the more confident you will be. Self confidence has to also do with experience. The more experienced you are in doing anything, the more confident you are when called upon to do it.

But then, you have to start the process by pushing yourself into those scary and uncomfortable situations. The push is just what you need to start building your self confidence immediately. It will feel awkward, it will feel embarrassing, you will still feel shy or nervous.. But just overlook those scary feelings and keep being in those awkward situations and acting the way you can.

The awkward feelings are only trying to keep you trapped the same way, so that you will keep avoiding those scary situations. But you will never grow with avoidance. You will have to face it if you want to build that confidence. There is no quicker way than that push.

Working on your personal grooming and social skills are also worthy to mention. But they do not boost your confidence as quickly as daring those uncomfortable situations does.
I hope this article motivates you to break out of that reticent nature.

Stay confident and keep winning!

source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2017/12/the-quickest-way-to-build-your-self.html

We're back to that time of the year again when many people begin to make resolutions for the New Year. This period however has been marked by lots of circulating articles discouraging some of these people from making those important resolutions on the grounds that they're overrated and hardly kept up with. I see something wrong with this one sided argument and that's why I'm here to give you a reason why you should still make and keep New Year resolutions.

First of all, I'll like to give you all the standard meaning of a new year's resolution. This is because often times, the problem comes from the understanding of the term.

According to Wikipedia:
"A New Year's resolution is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve their life."

Collins dictionary defines it as:
"a promise to yourself or decision to do something,
especially to improve one's behaviour or lifestyle in some way, during the year ahead."

Cambridge dictionary sums it up:
"a promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year."

The bottom line of these definitions is that a New Year resolution makes you intent, determined and conscious of doing something. Being intent on achievement anything as we all know is indispensable to being successful at it. Intentions go hand in hand with concrete plans and a soldier never goes into a battle field without any plans!

So those people telling you to scrap New Year resolutions are more like telling you to go into the New Year with no plans. You should go into it with no intentions for it. Just go in and take whatever comes your way. How does that sound? We all know he who fails to plan for just about anything is already planning to fail in that thing.

So New Year resolutions as we've seen from the definition helps us have a very conscious intent, goal or decision as regards what we plan to do with the next 365 days. What could be wrong with having one?

In the arguments by those who say we do away with the resolutions, they always want to drive a point by asking "How many times have you made a New Year resolution and kept it?" And then the logic behind it is: because you've not been able to keep up with some or all of those resolutions, why should you bother about creating one for this New Year?

Do you see anything wrong with that logic? Let me break it down for you. What they're saying in essence is similar to asking "Why should you keep trying to study and pass an important exam when you've failed it many times?" or "Why should you keep resolving to build up your new business when you've made a few losses at the initial stages?" That sounds more like a defeatist mentality.

Here's another way to look at it: Since your good intentions and plans for yourself to develop your life and add value to others hasn't worked well so far, why bother having any intention at all? Why not fold your arms, relax, keep living life in the same average way and sleep? How inspiring does it sound to you?

Here, we believe that failure at any good venture should never be an excuse to quit. Because you were not able to achieve something, you should not totally scrap the idea of attempting it. So their first argument is debunked.

Another argument is that New Year resolutions are often unrealistic and unattainable. This isn't an issue because it's only an unrealistic person that will set an unrealistic goal for himself or herself. If you're honest with yourself, you will set goals that you know you can definitely achieve. You can't say you want to lose so much weight in few days or make 100 billion dollars in a day. You only set unrealistic goals when you're not honest with yourself. So that's not even a point.

Having dealt with the major arguments from those against making New Year resolutions, I will like to admit that indeed New Year resolutions aren't easy to keep up with. According to a statistic by U.S News, up to 80% of New Year resolutions fail by February. Surprised right? Well, I don't know how they got their statistics, but the good thing is that there are 20% of them that made it past that threshold.

This upcoming year, I want that percentage to increase to at least 50% and here are 5 things I think you should keep in mind as you make your resolutions for the New Year:

#1 Don't Complicate It
It's important to keep your resolutions simple. It's unnecessary to complicate things for yourself. It's better to narrow down your intentions to 3 things you really desire to achieve and achieve it than make a resolution of 100 things then end up achieving none.

#2 There's No Hurry
Things that last often take some time and cumulative effort. If you try too hard to achieve your resolutions in the shortest possible time, you may end up stressing yourself out or even run out of patience and quit entirely. Just do something everyday that will take you closer to your goals and be patient with results.

#3 Remind Yourself Everyday
Some people just write their resolutions down somewhere and after the 1st of January, they can't even find it again. Some just forget their resolutions as time goes on. If you're serious about this, you should write it down somewhere you can easily read it every single day. Remind yourself why you made that resolution in the first place and let that be your motivation with every step you take.

#4 If Possible, Keep It To Yourself
Some people cannot keep their mouths shut. The whole world must not know about your New Year Resolutions. It was written by you and it's for you. Why should you go about telling everyone who cares to listen about it and then end up achieving nothing? Talking about your resolutions gives you a false feeling that you've already achieved them. This isn't good for you. The only exception should be with your significant other.

#5 Pray
Maybe you're among those contemplating on scrapping the whole New Year resolution of a thing because you've tried so many times and it don't seem to work. Maybe you've tried the 4 steps above and yet nothing. You might be missing the spiritual dimension to it which involves prayer. Whatever religion or spirituality you subscribe to, it's important you pray to your creator about your resolutions. This might just be the missing link.

I can tell you that New Year resolutions still work and I've been able to achieve most of the goals I set for myself at the beginning of the year. I hope it works for you as we go into this New Year. I hope you keep these ideas in mind and make better resolutions. I wish you a Happy and Prosperous New Year!

source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2017/12/still-make-and-keep-new-year-resolutions.html

Often times we face life with a mindset that makes us believe it's difficult to excel or become successful in certain things. Rather than keeping an open mind to learn the simplicity behind many things, we tend to complicate it with our minds. This article aims to help you see and approach things from the basics rather than complicate them with your mind.

Recently, I went for a skill acquisition program with some friends of mine and soon there was this enthusiastic guy who came to speak to us. He was confident, funny and delivered his lesson very convincingly. After his final speech, the whole class honored him with a thunderous round of applause.

And then a friend who sat by my side asked, "How does he do it?" I replied, "How do you mean?" He continued, "I mean, how does he make public speaking look so easy?" After a brief pause, I replied "It's because it's actually easy for him. He is that precise because he no more sees speaking as a difficult thing and so it has become actually easy for him."

It's not just my friend, many of you might be wondering or must have wondered about how well certain people become so good at what they do. You watch Barack Obama give a speech and he connects deeply with his audience. Then you wonder how he does what may look difficult for you so well. What about when you watch top football players like Messi play? You wonder how they manage to dribble with the ball like that and score.

You might look at pilots, engineers, mathematicians, doctors, singers, teachers, lawyers, strategists, dancers, politicians and etcetera. And then you wonder how the experts in those fields do what they do so well. You could think, "Well they practiced, so they became perfect." You're not wrong, but it's only a half truth.

Constant practice with a wrong mindset about what you're practicing will lead to frustration. What you believe about anything is exactly what you get. If you already think something is too complicated, believe me, no matter how hard you practice it with that mindset, you won't make any serious progress. You think your country is whack and nothing good can ever come from it? It becomes so for you!

Reminds me of something way back in college. I loved mathematics, it had always been my best subject and I found it very easy and exciting to learn. However, some of my peers had a mindset of difficulty when it came to mathematics. No matter how much I try to explain to them, they always say they hate math and won't ever understand it. Their words became reality for them. Only a few of them willing to believe that it was as easy as I told them, made some progress in learning it.

This holds one truth: Your mindset about anything will affect the results you get out of it. Have you ever wondered why a woman who believes that all men are cheats or irresponsible usually gets to hook up with same kind of men over and over? Or ever wondered why the person who believes that there are no jobs or opportunities out there seldom finds any? It's worth thinking about.

Some people think that things are difficult. The truth is that there is nothing as difficult as you imagine it to be. The mere fact that someone is doing it and doing it with so much ease should be proof that it's not difficult to do. But the thing is that you believe it is difficult and it makes you afraid to even try the basics which are usually easy to grasp.

People often want to make things look complicated and that's why they often miss out on achieving success. Things are incredibly easy believe me! If only you can accept that mindset of simplicity and approach it step by step. You will eventually get to that point where you see how easy it is. That's only when you have invested time through practice and then you make progress because your mindset is right.

Nothing is difficult once again. Just approach it with the right mindset, persistence and practice, then you will see how easy it is to do.

You have always been the one in between where yourself and where you want to be. You are totally responsible.

People keep asking what's the secret to success? The answer has always been free and commonplace: work hard and smart, do more than others in your area of interest. But then the answer is too simple, so they don't accept it. It has to be a secret or a mystery or something more complicated. So they seek for harder answers. They keep asking the question over and over.

Some ask, "How do I get good at math(or anything)?" And you tell them the simple truth: "Math(anything) is really easy, just work at it and practice as much as possible." But no.. The answer is too obvious, they want a shortcut to make things easier because the way of simplicity looks difficult to them. They go on looking for non existent shortcuts and never get good in what they want to master.

You should know that there are no shortcuts to finding how easy things really are. The shortcut is to have a simple open mind and then invest time and practice to learn the ropes. When you've paid your dues, it becomes very easy. But then you may decide to go on wasting the time you should've used to pay your dues in searching for illusory shortcuts. Then things will continue looking hard for you.

If you're to take anything away from this article, I want you to just know that nothing is hard. Everything is easy. But then you have to pay your dues(which may look hard) in order to see the simplicity in it. That's the price to pay for things to be easy for you.

Don't complicate things for yourself. Follow the basics, take time to learn the ropes from the beginner level to the advanced level, you will see that nothing is difficult. Don't look at the part that looks hard, don't worry about how you're going to do achieve it. Just know that it's as simple as ABC and bend down to learn it gradually. Everything will surprisingly look easier as you go higher.

We all need to approach our lives and challenges with a mindset of simplicity. That way, you and me will be positioned to achieve the very best!

See you at the top!


source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2017/12/face-life-with-mindset-of-simplicity.html

Thanks to everyone(enthusiast or critic) who has commented and contributed to this post.

It's my first time on NL front page and I'm excited a lot of people are able to read this on a platform like this. It's an inspiration for me.

Don't forget to check out www.boldwinner.com for more inspiring articles like this one.

Thanks once again, wishing you all the best of the season and a Happy New Year ahead.

Let's roll. Catchy title right? You probably were quick to click on this link because you really wanted to find the easiest way to rise above mediocrity. That's a good thing and that's exactly what you're going to get.

A lot of people are striving for success in their personal lives because they want to live life comfortably, stand out and not just live an average life like everyone else. This is really a good thing and the hunger to rise beyond the rest is the starting point. However, even though many people want to be successful and are striving for it, there are few people who eventually encounter success.

Why is this so? More and more people are working harder everyday doing work from dawn till dusk, trying to make ends meet but still they find themselves trapped living life at same level with other people. Some people have read many self-help books, amassed lots of certificates, gone to the best schools, tried their hands at businesses and even listened to the best advice on success but yet they can't still rise above mediocrity.

Mediocrity becomes a sort of a big wide gulf that is very accommodating and stands in between them and their success. Let's bring it down to you, my dear reader. Maybe you have tried your hands at stuff and failed. Maybe you've applied for lots of jobs, but you've gotten none yet. Maybe you have a work or a business that you're doing, but you're not really happy with it because you can barely pay your bills with it. Maybe, just maybe.

What have you done about it? You've read books, you've gone for seminars, you've done your research and you're trying your best. What's wrong? Why are you still trapped with the majority of people instead of breaking out? The next lines you'll be reading will tell you exactly what's been keeping you from achieving success and what you need to do. Read them carefully, digest it word by word, don't rush and try to understand, then apply it.

The only reason you've not risen above mediocrity is simply because you're not doing more than the rest in your best niche.

Yeah, you read that right. There are two important things there: "doing more" and "your best niche." You could be working so hard, but you may not be doing more than the rest. Working hard isn't the same as doing more. A person who does more doesn't just work hard, he goes the extra mile to accomplish much more than other people.

A person who does more will put in an extra 2 hours to learn new trends about his or her business while the rest are rushing home to party or club for the weekend. A person who does more will put in time to develop new skills that will enable him or her create something extraordinary, while the rest are complaining about how bad the government or economy is.

A person who does more is not an ordinary person who wastes his or her time. He makes it a business to be very smart and thoughtful about whatever he chooses to do. Working hard isn't bad advice, as a matter fact it's important to work hard, however the question is how smartly are you working hard?

There's a story, two men were given 10 minutes to cut down one tree each of the same size with two very blunt axes. They were not in the same place. So they had no idea what the other person would be doing. As the set time began counting, the first man immediately rushed into action, hitting the tree with the blunt axe. For 10 minutes he tried to cut down the tree without progress.

He was working very hard. Hitting the tree with all his energy. But he wasn't making any progress. In the end he didn't achieve any success. He was sweating profusely, exhausted and panting. This is where so many mediocre people are. They work so hard, and they invest so much energy into achieving more, but they get little. This first man was working hard, but he was doing little. He couldn't cut down a single tree.

When the time started for the second man, he gave it a bit of thought(important) and decided to sharpen his axe first. It took him 3 minutes to sharpen the axe and it was very sharp. And he hit the three "One, Two, Three, Four..." At the seventh hit, the tree fell down thunderously. He accomplished this in 2 minutes. He had 5 extra minutes to spare! This is worth thinking over for sometime.

This second man was thoughtful. He had to do more than the first by being very smart and thoughtful. His thoughtfulness led him to decide to sharpen his axe first. Of course, it paid off. Thoughtful and smart hard work pays off. He did more than his opponent by his thoughtfulness and smartness. You must be smarter and more thoughtful than the rest if you want to stand out and be successful.

The first man could've hit the tree 100 times in quick succession with aggressiveness. This man cut down the tree in 7 hits. It was easier for him to achieve success. Given the extra 5 minutes, he could cut down three more trees. If he desired to work as hard as the first man, 100 hits should cut down about 14 trees coupled with his "doing more" through being smart. The first man cut zero.

I hope you already get the drift about doing more than the rest. It's not about just repeating the same thing over and over without thoughtfulness or doing it the same way everyone does it. You must have the mindset and consciousness of doing things differently with "sense."

Then we come to the second thing to pick which is "Your Best Niche." You should be doing more in your best niche and not anywhere else. It's difficult to even do more than the rest in a niche you have no passion for. Even if you're doing more than the rest in an area that's not your niche, you won't go very far because it's not what you were designed to do.

This is where passion for what you do plays a great role. That's because you are motivated to do more when you're in a field you're passionate about. We were not created to do the same things. Everyone has a role and mission to accomplish. It doesn't have to be what another person does. Many people are trapped in mediocrity because they are merely copy cats and they're never original.

They say there's money in coding, they rush into coding when they clearly don't love it. They say there's money in medicine, acting, singing, engineering or politics, they rush into it without knowing if that's what they're meant to do with their lives. Someone comes along and says there's money in ponzi schemes, and you see them run along. These people simply don't know their niche. They're just floating and trying things out.

That's why they're easily fed up. They finally go into coding, medicine, engineering, acting or whatever and then it starts becoming a chore for them. They get easily bored and they don't have any passion for their work because in the first place they got it all wrong. Very passionate people are only found in their niche and their passion keeps them doing more than the rest.

That's why all those successful people who stand out are very passionate. You see it in their eyes. From the way it glitters, from their expressions, you simply know they're where they are meant to be. Everyday becomes play to them because they're in their best niche. Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, Lionel Messi, Oprah Winfrey, Barack Obama are few examples. These guys aren't working anymore, they're playing.. Playing keeps them doing more than the rest because they're enjoying the play.

Do you ever feel tired of doing what you love? Let's say a video game, an interesting movie or being with someone you love? Of course not! That's how work feels like for passionate people in their best niche! This article could help you identify your niche. Discovering your best niche is a personal job which only you can do for yourself. No one else will.

Once again: The only reason you've not risen above mediocrity is simply because you're not doing more than the rest in your best niche.

In other words, the easiest way you can rise above mediocrity(the rest) is by doing more than the rest(explained) in the niche where you function best. It's just the truth there is to it.

Until next time,

Stay bold and keep winning.

source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2017/12/the-easiest-way-to-rise-above-mediocrity.html

Jealousy and praise are two sides of the same coin. They are both emotions arising out of the same thing which is achievement. In a competitive world however, where many are trapped in mediocrity, it's easier for other people to get jealous about what you've achieved and you may tend to perceive their envy negatively instead of seeing it as a pointer to your path of success.

Take some time to reflect over your life and figure out the things that you're often praised about. Maybe it's your dexterity in fixing up technical stuff, maybe it's how good looking you are, maybe it's how sweet your food tastes, it could be how well you play a particular sport or even how well you speak, dance and perform on stage. Whatever it is, try to write them down.

Also think about the things that make other people envy you. Write them down too in a separate list. In many cases you will figure out lots of similarities in the two lists. But the point of this exercise is to bring to your consciousness the various things which can be harnessed to lead you to ultimate success. The list could be long or short. It doesn't matter, just be very honest about it and write anything as long as you can be praised or envied because of it.

It's important to make your decision on what you want your life to be based on those items on the list. They're the items that make you stand out of the average life. You should think creatively of those items, find out what it says about you and seek for ways you can add value to the world through it as a possible career path.

For example, say on the list, you have intelligence, maybe you always come on top of your class and of course feathers are ruffled. You have other guys who want to be like you, but you're not giving them any chance. You're busy winning the prize for the best student yearly. Of course, naturally your competitors and other students will tend to be jealous of you.

People tend to naturally feel jealous when they feel that someone else has something which they wish should have been theirs. Sometimes, even the best of your well wishers cannot help but feel a bit jealous of your accomplishments when you're moving up real fast. It's not like they want to be jealous, it comes naturally to them.

In such a school situation as described, the intelligent kid shouldn't make the mistake of channelling negative energy back to other students who may be envious of him. He would lose his focus if he does that and he will go on making unnecessary enemies for himself. But if he doesn't really let the envy of others bother him, he will stay on track as an intelligent kid and develop his intelligence very well.

With a sharpened intellect, he could go into any other field of endeavor he's really passionate about and excel.

For you maybe it's football, managing people, planning or organizing, cooking, dancing, acting, repairing, coding, arguing, manufacturing, talking, cracking jokes. Whatever you're praised or envied for, you should develop it. It points to various paths to your success. You could be praised for being good at games, it says you're a competitive person and you should focus on figuring out how to channel your competitive nature for creating good.

Some people are just very clean, or they have a keen sense of fashion. Some are just really good at Mathematics, some are good at writing or speaking very well, they've got an accent. All these are pointers to their success paths.

People must've made very good comments at you for the way you do something. There are things we do very well, even though we may not notice it ourselves, but other people could see it and say something about it or react in a certain way to you. See through this praise and identify your best skills and maximize them. Don't get carried away!

Alternatively, people must've gotten jealous over you based on something. You should be observant enough to figure out what's making them jealous because your strongest points to progress are usually envied as well. So.. Instead of getting worked up about who's envious or not.. See through the envy and know what you're doing very well. Then continue to do it and expand your experience and skill in that area. Those areas are your key areas to shine and as a bold winner, the goal is to keep shining and keep winning!

source: http://www.boldwinner.com/2017/12/jealousy-praise-are-pointers-success.html