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The reason why you are suspicious of everything about the opposite gender is because of too many negative stories you have heard about people in marriages and sometimes your own past negative experiences in relationships or marriages.

It is not your fault that you can't believe anything different, because the trauma of your past and many negative testimonies of others have altered the way you see things.

We always make guesses in life by matching known patterns to new experiences. If you were betrayed in the past, despite being good and kind to people,your new reaction to any relationship is fear and distrust.

However, if you're not observant to recognize that your past trauma is seriously affecting your relationship presently,you may end up destroying what you have.

We all treat people in a certain way based on our past experiences,which maybe negative or positive. It is bad if it is negative, as that can ruin our chances of maintaining healthy relationships or managing people.

First, through deep retrospection identify patterns that exist in your life,which could be traced to a particular past trauma.

Secondly, forgive yourself or the people involved who caused you such heartbreaks. If you don't forgive them,you will keep getting angry and justifying your actions; which will make you to remain stuck in that loop of past experiences and make you never to trust and commit to anyone.

Forgiveness will aid your healing. What you forgive will have no power to break you again. What you refuse to forgive,will continue to diminish your peace and affect your every decisions. Understand that certain heartbreaks teaches us how to value good people and gives us feedback on how our decisions (right or wrong)molds our destiny.

Lastly, give yourself time to heal. Looking for a rebound will not help you to heal,rather what you have refused to learn from in the past will keep showing up all over again.

If you don't heal properly before entering another relationship, the same mistake will recur.

If you don't evaluate your past trauma and heal from them,you would think that you're jinxed in life, because you will continue to get a particular outcome and blame others for it. This is why some people wonder why every good person that enters into their life leaves unexpectedly and they will end up saying,love is not for them .

Past traumas are a big deal.Deal with it before it destroys you.

Some people expects the worst in their marriages,even before they are married because of some of the negative stories they have heard about marriages, especially about the opposite sex.

They believe there's no lady or guy who can be fully committed in marriage.

This is the reason people are suspicious of their spouses even when there's no need for that. This kind of mindset can make it difficult for you to enjoy your marriage.

You're happily married, yet expecting that this beautiful dream will shatter into a nightmare.

It is possible to be happily married. That it doesn't work for Mr. A doesn't mean you too will be that unfortunate. Sometimes people are the cause of their failed marriages, or they played some major roles in the disintegration of their marriages. But when they're telling you the story, they'll blame the other party and exonerate themselves.

My point is ,what are those fears you have towards marriage. Better get rid of it, pray and believe that you will be among the happily married.

Don't allow your wrong mindset frustrate your spouse to be.

Hear me
Not all men are cheats!!
Not all women are promiscuous!!
Not all men are irresponsible!!
Not all women are rude and abusive!!
Not all men/women are the same!!

It is possible to be happily married.

Marriage is not the problem but marrying wrong. It is not a curse upon those intending to get married,rather a blessing.

The issue is the two adults who are yoked in marriage with the wrong attitude and mindset.

People disagree and fight even in a non marital settings, yet we don't tell them that socializing is wrong. So why do you think marriage is a scam even though opposite genders clash everyday even at home and in work places.

As you pray and search for the right one for you,also work on yourself to be the right one.

It is possible to have a good marriage.

Ladies should be careful with traveling a thousand miles to visit a guy they met on social media. I know there's risk in love,but some risk can jeopardize your life .

I know the guy looks cute,innocent, harmless, responsible and generous,but still exercise caution before meeting him in his house.

No matter your family problem don't allow people to use money as a bait to terminate your life untimely. Be cautious

Let your first date be in a public place, and take things slowly no matter the pressure he mounts on you. If he's too desperate to have you in his house,that should be a red flag that he might be up to something.

I remember inviting my ex classmate( a female) for a movie date. When she was on her way,she called me on the phone, that she had sent my phone number and address to her aunt, and that her aunt would call me. Immediately she saw me at the mall,she called her aunt, telling her that she had arrived and gave her details of the venue.

If I was planning evil for her,that action she took would make me think twice. Even though we were old time friends yet she still had to use her brain; because people change over time

This story about Celine and Afiba is very unfortunate. I pray that they would still be found. My fear however is that some people are alleging that they could be victims of organ harvester.

Some of them might be resigning out of fear, because with this level of political violence in River State,some of them maybe be getting threats to their life. It may not be out of loyalty to anyone.

A woman is happy over her marital status and some people are complaining, if she's not happy now people will still blame her.

Congratulations to her and her hubby.

Congratulations to them. The man of God also deserves a good wife .

My child started at the age of 2 in kg 1 going to 3 years in June. But before that we put her crèche for one year. The kg class has helped her a lot in learning how to speak very well and in identifying objects.

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I was discussing with a lady the other day and she said to me that her biggest regret last year was putting all her eggs in one basket. By that she meant that being in a relationship with one guy who could dump her to marry another lady is a wrong strategy.
She decided that this year she would date as many guys simultaneously as possible, atleast one of them would marry her.
While I listened to her, I felt pity for her. I could see how desperate she was, but honestly it is not her fault; especially,if you have invested so much into a relationship and it collapses like a pack of card.
But hear me, it is a big risk to date many men at the same time,with the hope that one would marry you. In most relationships, the guys would always ask for sex, so how would you feel jumping from one bed to another trying to satisfy different men so that at least one of them would marry you.
Don't allow desperation to drive you into making hasty decisions. Marriage though it is good and many desires it,but it shouldn't be the only bases for estimating your self worth.
There are somethings that would never happen at the time we want it,but it will still happen. Make peace with that.
Also, don't make decisions based on your emotions. That you are heartbroken today should not be the reason,why you would want to risk your life. Take time to heal from your past, and learn from the mistakes of your past before going into another relationship.