HelpeeDeck:
this is a reason why nigeria as a country dont move forward n good..when it is full with mostly people of such low mentality beings...In foreign country whereby someone post a problem he or she is facing, d next u will see is people providing solutions or advice for d person..but of os here in nigeria all u get is someone abusing u and even mocking u at d process like they are even better or saints..social media now adays are full of kids n imatured ones..Imagin some one father coming here to abuse and mock people..if dis country must go forward n good we must change our sense of reasoning and attitude toward people n dealings with people..it is better if u see a post that u dont like,is better u dont reply,rather than u abusing the person that stated what he or she is facing..one thing any body must know is that,through most people post here he or she can get educated the more and know how to tackle some isssuea in life..but when u abuse people,how will d rest come here to seek for help when they have problems..pls reason and apply wisdom before u pick up ur phone or pc to comment on people post..Good day

Thank you for this!!! I'm just here laughing at some of the useless insults thrown on here. Someone came here to seek advice on a confusing situation, aside the wise ones... The others without thinking are just spitting out garb.. Keep it up guys

And to those sincerely giving their advice without insults, Thank u

macminista:
My wife had countless rich suitors but she choose me, why? She LOVES ME.. I was jobless but we got married it wasn't easy but today we dey SMILE to the BANK. We re stronger n more in love than ever with 3 lovely kids...i hope you know that things do change #marryingmralreadymade

Thank you for this! Good advice

fairygeh:
At OP,you are just the kind of lady that make men feel all women are gold diggers and all for the money.so so annoying

Is it that you are crippled or what or are you an 1mbecile ,you mean you didn't go to school/ you are uneducated that you cannot pray to have a good job yourself and not rely on a man for money saying he's not rich, bla bla,bla.
As for your parents expecting you to bring a rich man home at all costs,i guess you are from a poor background, omo oju o ro la ri.
I pity you

Madam before you gush out all sorts of words, take your time and read before spitting out garb. I'm from a very well to do family and working in a very good firm that peeps find it hard to get into. The benefits are very good in my company ok? I only wrote this to share my dilemma and temptation, not saying the rich ones are bad, I inly said it seems I'm drawn more to the not so rich.

Most of you don't even understand or even read what I had written, just rushed to say all sorts that have no relationship with what I had asked for calling me a gold digger. I am not and will never, ever, ever be a gold digger. I'm sure some of you calling me all sorts of names would at the speed of light pounce on a very rich suitor.

For some of the sincere advices, I truly appreciate, intact I'm still reading them, a lot of your advices are helping me... Let me continue reading all

For those that are about to and are married, how did you finally choose "The One" out of the many, many suitors if you did have. Even if I'm dating and getting close to someone, more of them keep coming, distracting and not all seem bad.

Aside prayers or is it only prayers, how did you come about choosing one good suitor out of the other good ones?

Thanks a lot @YourMain... would yield to your advice. I agree with you. I work in a very good company.

Thank you @DamkemzI, for your advice,

I knew there will be judgement. If I was a gold digger Mr nnachuks, I would not be here plus I am from a very well to do family duh! I am posting a dilemma, a lady with a lot of suitors and making the right decision so please go and rea through again and think well before spitting out garb.

I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.

I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.