andromida:
I think you should place less emphasis on a man's status and more on his character my humble opinion is a man without good character and sound values cannot love you as you deserve that would depend on your own values too.

Poor is not synonymous with good character either. Most dudes who don't have much are humble for the time being anyway lol.
Among the rich and poor you will find good and bad men. Focus on men with character and values that are in sync with yours.

So if this upcoming guy has same values, a sound character you should definitely get to know him alongside the rich ones.

Bonita101n2:
I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.

Fourwinds:
OP poor.. she know wen talk true because she is behind d screen... I'm very sure it is because of her beauty dose rich guys are falling on her.

BuddhaPalm:
Y'all are hating on this girl for sharing her HONEST thoughts with us.

Also consider how the final choice of your wife/girlfriend hinged a lot on her big butt, breasts, complexion, age, etc.

She's entitled to desire what she desires.

byvan03:

byvan03:

Bonita101n2:
I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.

Wait are you poor in your family ni or they told you you will not make it in life?

You are a Gold Digger from Hell and Beyond, infact Satan tish u well well

Bia, Oya, you sef look at how many times you mentioned Rich up there and judge yourself by yourself; 10 times? Ah God punish you for me ooo!

You, Your Brother and your Gold Digging Family members should go and try and get jobs and learn to be independent

Your first boyfriend got a job in an oil firm and you never made mention of you getting off your ass to try and get one or do some business, u siddon there dey chop in money. You are a Barawo, and when Buhari start to dey arrest people wey loot Naija reserves, e suppose knock your door

Gerrarahere Men Shit!!

Ozwo!
Barawo!
Anuofia!!
Omo Ole!!!
Anini in the making!!!!

SmartMugu:

I'm sure her brother is broke too. Both of them want an already rich inlaw/husband when they weren't there when he was struggling.

SmartMugu:

I'm sure her brother is broke too. Both of them want an already rich inlaw/husband when they weren't there when he was struggling.

SmartMugu:

If you happened to have met her brother before, then it's most likely you. Just thread slowly with her, I wouldnt rush into anything with a woman that cares too much about money.

SmartMugu:

I'm sure her brother is broke too. Both of them want an already rich inlaw/husband when they weren't there when he was struggling.

fairygeh:
At OP,you are just the kind of lady that make men feel all women are gold diggers and all for the money.so so annoying

Is it that you are crippled or what or are you an 1mbecile ,you mean you didn't go to school/ you are uneducated that you cannot pray to have a good job yourself and not rely on a man for money saying he's not rich, bla bla,bla.
As for your parents expecting you to bring a rich man home at all costs,i guess you are from a poor background, omo oju o ro la ri.
I pity you

nnachukz:
Gold digger, go get a job. Remember to get one for your brother as well.

Bonita101n2:
I knew there will be judgement. If I was a gold digger Mr nnachuks, I would not be here plus I am from a very well to do family duh! I am posting a dilemma, a lady with a lot of suitors and making the right decision so please go and rea through again and think well before spitting out garb.

kulikuli26:

I'm the "broke" guy she is probably referring to. Funny enough she called me around 4pm today after I stopped calling exactly a week ago. She might have reacted to the comments she got from here. I pray she isn't the one but can't just ignore the close resemblance of the story.

fadolak:

Pls don't be too harsh on her but honestly i really tink d brother is jobless. Her brother is not helping her at all.
My sister, stay with the not very rich guy if he is the type that gives despite the fact that he doesn't have much because you will enjoy him when he becomes rich.

YourMain:
I'm sure you can work to earn money to achieve the lifestyle you want.

You never know what could happen to the rich guy you're not attracted to. He could lose his money then you'll have nothing.

A relationship should consist of both partners bringing something to the table. Go with the not so rich guy and work. That way you can eat your cake and have it.

Bonita101n2:



Madam before you gush out all sorts of words, take your time and read before spitting out garb. I'm from a very well to do family and working in a very good firm that peeps find it hard to get into. The benefits are very good in my company ok? I only wrote this to share my dilemma and temptation, not saying the rich ones are bad, I inly said it seems I'm drawn more to the not so rich.

Most of you don't even understand or even read what I had written, just rushed to say all sorts that have no relationship with what I had asked for calling me a gold digger. I am not and will never, ever, ever be a gold digger. I'm sure some of you calling me all sorts of names would at the speed of light pounce on a very rich suitor.

For some of the sincere advices, I truly appreciate, intact I'm still reading them, a lot of your advices are helping me... Let me continue reading all

Bonita101n2:
I knew there will be judgement. If I was a gold digger Mr nnachuks, I would not be here plus I am from a very well to do family duh! I am posting a dilemma, a lady with a lot of suitors and making the right decision so please go and rea through again and think well before spitting out garb.

YourMain:
I'm sure you can work to earn money to achieve the lifestyle you want.

You never know what could happen to the rich guy you're not attracted to. He couDont ld lose his money then you'll have nothing.

A relationship should consist of both partners bringing something to the tables. Go with the not so rich guy and work. That way you can eat your cake and have it.

Missmossy:
Too much emphasis on the word 'rich, marriage isn't about wealth. Some couples are in plenty yet they are unhappy. Marriage isn't for babes too.



Ones mentality really matters, why not make yourself a better person. I would find it hard to reason the way you sound. It takes two you know, it's not always about what the guy brings to the table.


Its ladies like you that make some guys tag ladies like you gold diggers. A word is definitely enough for the wise.

Ishilove:

Abeg she should not follow heart o. The heart is carnal and can mislead. Let her follow the promptings of the Spirit of God who will never mislead.

ogechieku:
don't look for rich guy you too can be rich by investing on prostitution. open s brothel for yourself.

simi4me:


This is the most sensible comment i have ever read coming form a girl. You just made me proud that we still have sensible girls in Nigeria.

kilokeys:


U mentioned "rich" ten times in ur article..

Pple try saying rich ten times

Rich
Rich
Rich
Rich
Rich
Rich
Rich
Rich
Rich
Rich


And the op is saying she isnt a gold digger.. I dey laff o

Toks2008:


In as much as i agree with your standview i will also advice th lady to look deeply into that not so rich guy personal perspective of life so that she wont just love a poor man without a zeal to survive.

There are many jackass guys these days who will not mind living on the lady in their lives.

Furthermore i belong to the school of taught which believes that my lady has no role in financial contribution to the home front.

I care less if she makes millions a month,its my responsibility to take care of her and the home and she should save her money or do watever she likes with it.

Professurr:
Your advice is on point.
I also have to say you have the prettiest lips have ever seen on NL