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AFRICA FINANCE SUMMIT in FRANCE!

Why in France and not in the continent.

That was how I was asked some months back.

I firstly answered, i bless the name of God o. Then, moved closer to him and say, Oga, help me for i am jobless.

The guy connected me sharply.

Sometimes, we don't know who we meet on daily basis....no need to fake up. Be truthful and let your help assist you

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nsiba:
What situations?

You mean to say that this nonsense can take place inside the shrines of our ancestors?
Mr Man if your pastor cannot see the thief in his prophecy or in a vision, beta leave that place and come join ur ancestors worship

Are you for real now?

So funny

ShootThemAll:
See how stupid and gullible you all are. Your pastor can prophesy for winners in elections, who your future wife and husband will be but has to use CCTV to know who stole a phone in his church! . Africans and their mumu...

Must you type.

Are you trying to justify her act?

CCTV weren't installed because of hwr but because of situations like that.

Do you know if the owner of the phone has been accusing another person wrongly already?

dollytino4real:
are no security in the church?

Security go dey secure inside church or supposed to be searching every souls passing through the gate.

It happened in the church, such wasn't expected

Ladylite:
Sex is normal.

But it makes you loose interest over time.

#fact

No interest can be lost before marriage.....maybe on the case, there's no genuine intention (the reason for going for her is just for the purpose of sex). Someone said and I quote, "we value sex more when unmarried, reason we are so eager to have anytime the opportunity present itself"

It is while in marriage that the loose of interest steps in.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

What is this one saying? Imagine him saying 'How dare' something must be wrong with this man. Is the pigeons human being? No wounder I couldn't fathom what he wrote.

Oga should pack one side, the pigeons is angry with Buhari, talkless of us Nigerians .

And which opposition party is he talking about, lose nutted dude.

Only if you can be calm enough to understand what he's trying to do.

He's only making jokes and you're here taking it serious.

#Nawa oooo

Chimaokigwe:
You and your entire family are not as valuable as a single loaf of bread. If you were, your boyfriend will have given your mother bread for her to stop crying.

She don offend you before?
But, so bad for a mother to be crying over not getting gift from a visitor!

I think the best tactic is this, once there's a knock at the door, the mother should slightly open window to check and double check the visitor's hand to confirm if there's a gift. If there's gift, open door. If not, remain shut.
This is to avoid giving the visitor who doesn't bring anything drink to take o

I come in peace

oshorstan:
It is what it is. Give Mama her due

What due?
So, if I'm to give all my ladies' mama due, on which account do I write them now?

The point is, he's still a boyfriend and not husband yet. He can decide to give or not to give.
That is, if he's got the financial strength

Exodora:
Fool even at that .
Some idiots like you are here calling
her names even when he ate in her house yet you all see nothing wrong in not coming with gift , had he gone there and they offered him nothing how would you all see it .
No matter how broke you are at least you can still avoid the smallest of gift even if is groundnut is still something. Ode!

I understand your plight and we know your type.
No need to reply this cos the write ups really revealed your kind of personality.

Make I run

iamL:
For the first time in my life I will agree that Most Nigeria girls are lazy and are self entitled with nothing to offer in a healthy relationship or marriage.

The only thing Nigeria ladies has to offer is pu.ssy. Aside that, so useless

oshorstan:
Oga even if na #250 bread. e nor mean

What if he's not having extra ₦250 for that purpose.

Something she's gonna eat and end up in toilet.

Where do we put human and physical bond and that we cherish monetary and gifts above them.

Money and gift will finish, na human go remain.

oshorstan:
na every day u day go. Church?

u can visit her once once na !

if you actually respect her as your mom, u won't find it difficult to buy her something even if na Irebhor bread of #250

And it is a must to always do at every single time you visit her.

Do you know of the guys financial strength?

Do you want him to go steal cos he want to get her something when he visits?

Exodora:
Stupid people even white people don't pay visit without a gift even if is sweet is still a gift .
How much is a wine even if he can't think of anything to go with .
I can't imagine visiting someone for the first time without even a gift .
Don't know why all these idiots here are making life look more harder .

You're the idiot here for not reading to understand the OP said that's not the first visit.
First visit, he brought gifts

oshorstan:
This is why I don't like public opinion. everybody likes to justify his actions. If you go to a shrine, won't u go with money? if u go to church, won't u pay offering? if you are going to orphanage home, won't u go with food and money? So why will a full grown man visit the MIL without going with common bread of 250 , or give her at least #500.Those of u hailing the man are hypocrites, do u know why? because u won't dare to try it to your MIL. You have disrespected her , make amends and do the needful. do u think it is easy to marry someone else daughter? Even our Jesus said, "Give what belongs to Caesar to Caesar" I will end it here.

Na everyday you dey pay offering for church?

deltateam:
Didn't you read where the fiance said, her presence was irrelevant. Does it mean anything to you?

You sought your fiancee advice, she gave, you disregarded.

Her fiance never came straight, she sensed he might fvck up and told him she wasn't around. He waved it off and still came and fvcked up. Something her instincts saw through.

People will understand better when they read in between the lines.

You modified this, hence for this response.

Bro, you're reading different meanings to this post.
If truly she sensed she might Bleep up, she should have told him in clear terms "DON'T COME" like the other guy said, his fiancee told him in clearer terms, don't give my parents something, she even begged but it wasn't so in the OPs scenario.

deltateam:
Didn't you read where the fiance said, her presence was irrelevant. Does it mean anything to you?

This was her post?
Kindly pinpoint where she stated that her presence wasn't relevant


I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?


There was no place he said so. He had plans to visit for that day and then, the lady said she won't be around, (does that mean don't come?)
If she had told him not to come, I would have agreed but come to think of it, this is a different ball game.

Don't come is different from if you're coming, bring something for her o. Do you know the guy would have gone empty handed even if the so called lady was to be around?

The guy doesn't have anything to give for the day. That shouldn't be the reason to ask for his head

abuhusna1:
I will never marry in your family.

I NEVER CHOP FAMILY.

LOLS

deltateam:
You are no different from op's fiance.

Reason being you didn't listen to her.

That confirms my assertion that different families have different values and you get messed up when you don't listen to your partner who understands and knows her family values more than you.

But bro, the OP didn't tell her own fiance to must go to see her parents with some gifts at hand o.
And to make this thing clearer, the guy has been visiting before this very last one and has been going with gifts.

The mother isn't considerate and the OP so not seriously.

Do they know the financial status of the guy or it is now a crime to go visit your lady's family when you've got no gift to give?

Joyrise:
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Traceey, you are not too wrong but you should not have told ur fiance what your mum said. Though we are African and this days men/women are reasoning like westerners, the could be an influence of this day social media on ur would-be-man. I will not support the man coming to your house especially willing to spend time with your mum empty handed. it is lack of respect. He should not also have even taken any drink from ur mum knowing fully well he didn't come with any neither and should have explained to your mum that he was coming from somewhere so he didnt even know he would find himself and would send her gift through you.

It only shows your man might be a stingy type and a self-pride man. For me, If he wants you, he would come back and if you go to him he will feel you are begging for love.

Many people on this platform contributing to marital issues are babies and some are too young with no experience at all about life.
So they call you any name they like.

Just try be yourself and pray for God's intervention. It might also be a red flag as per your man's attitude. He has no regard for your mum.

All these for a man who has been coming to the same mother with gifts but hell let loose cos he didn't bring at this very visit?

Must all visitation comes with a gift?

What contribution has the mother or daughter done in the guy to warrant a every-time-visit gift?

Is he trying to bribe the mother to get the daughter?

What is the significance of the gift to their relationship?

FIANCE/BOYFRIEND and not HUSBAND.
I wonder what would have been expected of him if they were married already

I am seeing in the mother, IYA IYAWO BOURNVITA.

I pity the level of understanding of our present ladies.

deltateam:
You still don't get it. It's fiance not boyfriend.

For you to be called a fiance, you have engaged the woman and if this little issue of gift or no gift will cause a rift between you two, it clearly means they are incompatible.

People have different values and you try to be in relationship with people who share more of the same values with you.

Fiance is an advanced way of calling boyfriend.

Haven't you heard of a wedding been cancelled just some days to go? If that could happen, who says theirs can't?

My point here is, the Mum shouldn't have complained at all and the lady was wrong not to have defended her guy if truly and genuinely, she loves her.

Wish you can send me the guy's number to me to help you talk sense into him.


Would have told him to borrow leg join leg and leave you and your expectant mother.

You are just revealing the type of wife you're gonna be in marriage. You go dey expose your husband very well. Not protection from you

deltateam:
Such little things matter. I have an Uncle. Anytime he travels and comes back, he must buy his wife something.

It could be as little as groundnut and bananas but it means a lot.

It shows care. There's a scenario where a man expects a woman to feed him and also give him pocket money.

E be things.

This is totally different to the main discussion. Wonder if you actually read the topoc of Discussion before typing these.

Your uncle buying his wife stuffs I different from a boyfriend visiting his prospective mother-in-law and the woman expecting him to buy things everytime he visits.

Boyfriend o! Not husband yet.
Abi, no be this lady of this generation that can wake up tomorrow and cook up a story not to marry the guy

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

So, everytime he visits your mother, he should be buying stuffs?

Boyfriend not husband o! Someone you're not sure you're getting married to.

From my view: I'm seeing two sides to this, its either you're tired of the relationship or you're not ready to settle down.

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