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Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 2:29pm On Nov 26, 2012 |
Oh droppings?? wtf! |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 2:24pm On Nov 26, 2012 |
Oh sh!t, how the mess did this happen? *screaming* bring your ass over here Tamar Congrat babes. @Mavia and Gudit, you both did great, enjoyed reading through your rebuttals while waiting for Tamar to respond. @the contenders here and in the first topic, child soldiers. for making this debate realistic, we are all winners! |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 12:18am On Nov 26, 2012 |
Tamar1: Good evening. |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 12:13am On Nov 26, 2012 |
Tamar1: all I see is us going round in circles so I'll be stepping down now. |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 11:55pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Tamar1: well, sadly this is what is obtainable in this society of ours but that in itself does not make it right. so, no I didn't infer that. |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 11:48pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
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Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 11:37pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
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Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 11:23pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Tamar1: and why shouldn't they? these are household terms that are used everyday and slangs even created for it and even when they don't all they need do is to get themselves updated every now and then either from someone more experienced than them or the internet so as to be able to educate their kids. or is this too great a price to pay? |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 11:13pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Tamar1: from the definition of the word parent, you have first the one who births and nurture the child first before other definitions, that is to tell you how important biological parents are and in a case where they are no more, the other parent takes it's place. |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 11:02pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
From Tamar1, if i understood you well, u meant that parents have sole and.greater responsibility only because.they have the first responsibility? why do u think so? isn't it just like saying that chairman of a political party has sole responsibility to the membersby virtue of his office and that.state chairman and l,g chairman who can better reach. the grassroots has no responsibility? Parents have the greater responsibility not only because they are the first responsibilities, they are meant to be friends with their kids, observe their actions to know when they are on the wrong track, educate their kids on social and sexual vices, I mean they need to be updated from time to time so as to be on the same wavelength as their kids. and yes the chairman and not the LG will be held responsible if the objectives of the party is not met, why then is he the chairman? they do not have the prerequisites because they arent qualified, trained educators and also their instinct to protect will prevent them from giving their kids comprehensive sex ed. besides they are bound to teach children wat they.feel is right thereby stripping.the.kids.of the views of diff schs of tot and ability to make informed choices . i am saying that all parents are not esucated and that the onwa that are doesnt qualify as competent sex educators coz they are engineers or accountants [color=#990000] A parent do not need to get certified before he/she can educate their child, they have the ability to tell the wrong from the right and to educate their kids likewise, but sadly not all parents can. |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 10:42pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Tamar1: boudicca if i were to agree with you for a nano second tha t parents are to blame, going by your definition of the tem "parent", are you not saying that government, schs and media arr.to blame since they are caregivers, protectors, nurturers and even counsel a and guide ? This can only suffice if the biological parents are no more, but if they are, why should the balme be given to another parent? |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 10:38pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
maclatunji: @Boudicca, don't you feel that parents are a product of the society and any failures they have in terms of "sex education" is primarily society's failure? That's parents hiding behind the failures of the society and to me it means they are not ready to succeed, if a parents must succeed in whatever way, they need to first think of what they can do and if something worthwhile, they should sit and find a way around it to make it work instead of making excuses. |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 10:19pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Tamar1 [quote]agreed, parents have the first responsibility but does.that mean sole or greater reaponsibility? no!! because they do not have the.prerequisites to continue sex ed. the child is theirs but doesn't belong to them, they belongs.to us all... we feel the impact and suffer the consequences, they are our children. the.one.who raises the child is called the parent not the.one who begets.it[quote] if the child is theirs, he/she surely belongs to the parent first before anyone else. and what do you mean that parents do not have the prerequisite to continue sex education? are you saying parents are not educated enough? and for the records, one who begets and one who raises a child are both parent. |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 8:42pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Am I missing something here Cuddles? |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 8:10pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Tamar1: ......its frightening to think that you mark your child merely by being yourself. it seems unfair , you cant assume the responsibility for every thing you do or do not do...... simone de beauvoir... Why shouldn't one be held responsible for their actions? I mean a parent gives birth to child and decides to be themselves by not educating this child about sexuality, and you say they shouldn't be held responsible? Abstract Tamar1: With globalization, Nigeria is now abreast of the trend of events all over the world. This means the exposure of our youths to the influence of foreign culture. Today, our youths with the influence of foreign permissive culture have found themselves experiencing sex at a younger age than their parents did. Bearing in mind the different constraints faced by our society with which sexuality is treated, one finds that adolescents have fallen victims to the consequences of poor sexuality and sex education due to societal reactions to issues that bother on sexuality, Don't you think they fell victims because parents neglected their responsibilities?. [quote author=Tamar1]This discourse views the task of sexuality as a function of the system of the society at large which includes the government, media and religious institutions, and not the sole responsibility of the parent, and the importance of sexuality education in the Nigerian school system as a panacea of preventing the social problems associated with child sexual activities. This is where the issue of responsibility arises, and who is to blame for a child’s ignorance on the implication(s) of engaging in sexual activities. Introduction Human sexuality has to do with the ways people experience and expresses themselves as sexual beings, and this encompasses a wide range of social activities and behaviors. In biological terms, sexuality involves certain degree of sexual intercourse and sexual contacts. In Nigeria and Africa at large issues about sexuality are always shrouded in secrecy because of cultural inhibitions, while parents and educators (government) place high premium on the education of children about life but would hesitate when issues concerning sexuality and sex education are mentioned. In a judgmental society as ours, giving information about sexuality and sex to children poses the challenge of choice of words, while issues of decency in the transmission of information are very crucial. The world today has become a global village with Nigeria at the fore front of globalization in Africa. Nigerian youths now have access to information which was hitherto unavailable to their parents when they were youths which can be attributed to the influence of foreign popular culture being imbibed and accepted as the norm by her youths. Recent studies by World Health Organization (2002) has revealed that most African youths, Nigeria inclusive now experience sex at an earlier age than their parents did. This view has also been corroborated by the studies carried out by Okonfua (2002) and Okpani and Okpani (2002) which showed a decline in the age of sexual experience from twenty to sixteen among adolescents contrary to accepted moral and cultural values. This no doubt portends a dangerous trend which affects the society at large. With the hue and cry about the menace of dangerous and incurable diseases as well as increase in teenage pregnancy and abortion in recent times, the burden thus exceeds what a parent/guardian could bear alone. Government, and media as important institutions of the society vested with the all important role of training and preparing the youths to be useful members of the society have both failed playing their roles, leaving this assiduous task to the parents, hence 'the African proverb, "It takes a village to raise a child", epitomizes the importance of the role of the wider community in raising children and young people’. It is expected that these institutions through collaborative efforts should have provided the necessary guidance through wholesome educational programs to ensure the survival of its future generation of leaders. Thereby preventing avoidable deaths from illegal abortions by pregnant teenagers and dangerous sexually transmitted infections.
All you did was share the blame which I quite agree with you but you should know that training up a child is first the responsibility of the parents and noone else so if these parents fail to, they should be held accountable 1 Like |
Literature / Re: Who Is To Blame When A Child Has Sex Without Proper Knowledge - Live Debate by Boudicca: 6:48pm On Nov 25, 2012 |
Who is to blame when a child engages in sexual activities without the right knowledge about harms associated with such; is it the parents, media or teachers (government). My stand, PARENTS. Patricia C. Wass, the Coordinator of Sexual Assault Crisis Services in Connecticut wrote, It is “only by opening up the discussion about sex and by beginning to talk to children at a young age, will we ever be able to protect them from abuse. A pleasant evening to you all, The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC) defines a child as “a human being below the age of 18 years unless under the law applicable to the child, majority is attained earlier.” Parent. 1. One who begets, gives birth to, or nurtures and raises a child; a father or mother. 2. A guardian; a protector. Sexual activity, also known as- Human sexual practices or human sexual behaviors refers to the manner in which humans experience and express their sexuality which normally results in sexual arousal and physiological changes. These activities can be divided into acts which involve one person, such as masturbation, or two, or more people such as sexual intercourse, MouthAction, or mutual masturbation. Many people and events influences the way a child develop both emotionally and socially, the parental units in the family plays the biggest role however. Children look up to parents as models for social behaviors, interactions, and appropriate emotional responses, not only do they look to their parents on how to behave or feel, they also learn from interacting with them. Especially in this culture of ours that bombards young teens with conflicting and often-confusing messages about sexuality, the quality of parents’ relationships can make a real difference in the decisions that their children make about sexual activities. A number of reliable studies show that talking to teens about these issues helps delay the start of sexual activity, says Guilamo-Ramos. "When teens are making important decisions about their lives, like whether or not to have sex, they actually want guidance, and are absolutely interested in their parents providing them perspective," he says. "Parents are influential and somehow, they have missed that. Teenagers who have been taught to be expressive by their parents learn to follow their own beliefs and are not afraid to speak up and tell someone that they don't want to do something if they know it is wrong. Independent youth don't feel that they need to be followers and do what the crowd is doing; if they know something is wrong, they will find something else to do that will make them unique. Parents teach what is right and what is wrong so their children can apply those beliefs in the social world around them and also avoid unnecessary problems. (Halloran, Ross & Carey, 2002). Thus, when these social behaviors such as expressiveness and independence regarding sexual behaviors are taught by parents, teens become informed to make rational decisions, resist peer pressure, have fun in other ways and also cultivate a sense of responsibility towards others as well as oneself but when withheld, they are put at risk making them susceptible to social and sexual vices such as drugs, teenage pregnancies, misinformation from peers, epidemic of STD’s, cancers, rape and so on. However, there are a number of reasons parents are reluctant to talk to their children about sexual activities. Prominent being, according to Chidi Ebere, the co-founder of Child Aid Survival and Development International (CASDI), the preservation of virginity, prevention of premarital sex, illegitimate pregnancy and abortion, religion and culture, as well as maintenance of family honor and dignity, among others. Contrary to this assumption, he said “a number of surveys have shown that girls who were not educated about sexuality, including changes during puberty are more likely to embark on sexual indiscretion and become pregnant during their teen years than those who were educated about sex." Parents refusal to talk about these sexual activities, Wass said, did not mean that" children are safe, that nothing bad will happen to them. Only by opening up the discussion about sexual activities, and beginning to talk to children at young age, will we ever be able to protect them from abuse. Ultimately it will only be when sexual activity and sexual abuse are commonplace topics of conversation will perpetrators be held accountable. Only then would our society ever truly be able to prevent one of the most tragic things that can happen to a child.” The bigger issue isn't simply whether these conversations are happening, but what's being conveyed through them, says Sinikka Elliott, an assistant professor of sociology at North Carolina State University in Raleigh According to the study's findings: -- 42% of parents say they've talked to their teens "many times" about how to say no to sex. But just 27% of teens say parents have talked that often. -- 48% of parents say they've talked "many times" to their teens about when sex should or shouldn't take place; 29% of teens agreed. -- 29% of parents say they've talked "many times" to their teens about birth control methods; 35% of teens say their parents "never" or just "once" discussed the issue. -- 39% of parents say they've discussed the risks of sexting (sending sexually explicit text messages); 41% of teens say their parents "never" or "just once" discussed the issue. Now this begs the question to parents that are actually talking, what are they telling their kids? Ponder on that. Finally, INFORMATION is POWER and KNOWLEDGE, they say will SET ONE FREE… Therefore in this high-risk day and age, it is important for children and teens to be knowledgeably empowered with relevant information about sexual activities because it is safer for them to make informed choices than to make them out of ignorance, fear or shame. Thank you… Links en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_activities en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parent http://m.usatoday.com/article/news/1606371 http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Parental_Influence/ http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/FB-Teen-Sex-Ed.html http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/cecile-richards/teens-sex-and-why-talking_b_1958927.html |
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