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The good boys are both inadvertently and at will snowballing to become bad,,same with the girls.
Here's how it's happening.
This is the cycle:
The good boy (who probably is broke or not too good looking) would love with all his heart,but would keep been rejected by ladies he wants. He is a true love,,he is not a cheat,,he doesn't even have a girlfriend let alone someone to cheat on,,he desperately needs a girl he will shower with love and be faithful too.

But HELL NO! The girls dont look at his side,he is boring,he is not financially strong,,he isn't good looking (for the good looking ones, they are broke and the girls keep rejecting them because they want a rich dude or some girls won't just believe they are single and so see them as players).
For the Ladies,
She's loving and caring,ready to give her all and all that,,but she is probably not fine enough, too short or too fat,if she's fine,the guys are just so insecure and would just want to use and dump her, or the guys would always think she would have a bad character.
The girls always get heartbroken in the end after giving their all, some of the "not good looking ones" will be dumped as soon as the guys makes money,the good looking ones might also be left for a better looking one because the guys status has changed or even if he doesn't leave the fine lady,,the tendency to cheat would prevail as more ladies would flaunt themselves,,he might end up cheating around,,which might lead to the pretty one quitting the relationship.


The end point is
Once the loverboy has had series of heartbreaks and rejection,he doesn't trust girls anymore, he becomes a player and a very bad one at that, ready to devour girls, and if par adventure he makes money,,it becomes worse.

And once the true and faithful lady has had lots of heartbreaks,she will either not love with her whole heart or will become a gold digger looking for ready made men.some would even prefer to have many "side-guys" incase nepa takes light (lol)

At the end, relationships become meaningless and valueless,,just another platform to have fun.
And I'm so confused because I don't have a panacea for all these

scarletkinq:
have have not seen one

omotola is one

If ure an introvert nd not too good looking,,its easier for u,,when ure an introvert and ure cute,,then ure automatically a big snub to the people around u,,a serious womanizer and playboy to the girls u meet online (who doesn't even know u)
Ure jus totally misunderstood,,everyone notices u but u dont have an idea of it
Ur online friends (who don't rili know u) expect u to be a baller,party rider,,fun guy,,,lol. Only if they knew.

People can't jus understand ur level of self esteem which is raised to the power of infinity
U can't just make friends anyhow cos most of them are just like the rest,,no critical thinking
Loquacious and not calculative before doing things,,
I could go on and on...








Jus summarized my life

Maxi112:
loooolz which assets? in a tight gown or skirt whereby revealing all her curves to the world!

shes talking about girls being half unclad,,and ure saying she can't get expensive clothes,,as if wearing expensive clothes means u must be half unclad,,and omotola doesn't dress half unclad,,her dresses reveals her curves,,but the op ain't talking about ladies with good curves that wear dresses that show they have the curves,,shes talking about half unclad girls who dress indecently,,omotola dresses good,,shes hot and wears expensive tins without exposing her body,,thats jus my point,,ure talking as if one can't be hot except they show boobs and ass

Maxi112:
when you talk about "Hot" I wonder what your definition of hot means and how it looks by covering everywhere.


expensive cloth can be worn covering the whole body.

a girl can still look hot covering her assets,,have u heard about that name omotala ekehinde?

Maxi112:
op go get a life... jealousy will do you no good. it's their life not yours.


mind your business please.

you can't buy expensive cloth is not their fault.

you can't dress like them isn't their fault.


your thread reeks of jealousy

are u saying expensive clothes can't be worn without being half unclad? Are there not super rich ladies who look hot and slay who still do not expose their bodies?

Omg

When talking about stinginess, must it only be in a relationship? How many of you girls can dash one of your handbags or shoe to a fellow girl who has none? How many of you girls who receive a lot from guys can help a child buy a textbook or sandals? How many girls give quality offering in church?Some guys are stingy,,some girls are stingy too,,stinginess is not only a guy thing,,i personally think the girls are more stingy than the guys

magazineguy:
I use to ask myself that question a lot and it started to sound like being emotional was a flaw, a fault, or something plainly wrong. I mean, what is so wrong with being emotional anyway? Why do we have to constantly camouflage or suppress our feelings and emotions? Why do we have to fake the strength we genuinely do not possess?

I was strong on hiding and boxing emotions up in dark rooms until I stumbled on a beautiful article from Lonerwolf; I got an email notification on the blog post and I totally ignored the mail for some 14 days because I wasn’t exactly sure if I was even ready to let go of my “emotion-boxing” habit.

Sigh.

I eventually read the article and I am forever glad I did. I’m glad I wasted all that time leaving that mail marked unread for weeks (I hate leaving mails unread for the record) because I believe the universe was waiting for the right time for me to consume that beautiful information.

I read it and finally admitted that being Emotional or Hysterical isn’t a flaw or a sign of weakness like we seem to make it be these days. I read every line of that article, digested them, meditated on them and decided to live by no rule.

Asides developing a habit of constant gratitude, learning and deciding not to give a f**k anymore, unboxing my emotions was the 3rd life changing lesson I learnt in 2016. I made a solid decision to embrace every emotion that I consciously and unconsciously project henceforth with.

The Result?

My life has changed, not drastically, but gradually I suppose. I have learnt to accept actions, strengths and weaknesses in all its capacities regardless of the aftermath, my thoughts and that of others.

http://tushmagazine.com.ng/lmks-diary-emotional/

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lalasticala

not always as you think,,emotions have a way of not making you think straight,,some things are better done with your head straight,,too much emotions is bad,,tbh,,unboxing your emotions definitely has a lot of consequences,,talking from experience

morethanadoll:
I agree with this statement. I don't care how much money a guy has. If he can't make me laugh, be romantic without spending a dime, and I don't enjoy being in his presence, all of his fortune means nothing. I make my own money and can provide for myself. I look for a man to grow old and share life with, not for the dollars.

Are u for real?? Please can you duplicate your type as many as possible,or give me the link to find where your type are

majorbravo:
I'll be completely honest with you on this one, Bill's meat is Kenny's poison. Ask that friend of yours, if he is as close as you claim, he would tell you how fed up he is with pretty girls who always seem to have an entitlement obsessive disorder (EOD) persona (that's what I choose to call it, books refer to it as Narcissistic personality disorder -NPD). We cute guys have been through this and we always look at our not so handsome friends who have an opinion about our supposedly (in quote) "not so good-looking" girlfriends and say (so tenderly in our hearts) "These dudes just don't get it".

Being a good-looking male could be some kind of a pseudo-demerit because the pretty girls barely take us seriously and feel we rely on our good looks to get everything we own. We have a harder time even in other aspects of our life cos everyone thinks we want to charm our way through when all we seek is a fair chance to do what we love. The not so good-looking girls usually ignore the fact that we look good and not try to compete with/against us for advantage like most pretty girls do, and that's why it seems we get along a lot better.

But with time I have come to realise one thing: It's something I think your friend doesn't realise yet. And that is the fact that ladies would do anything to get what they desire, all it takes is for them to desire it well enough and they'll go for it, they rarely ever compromise till they get what they want. And when its theirs, they don't give two hoots about appealing to it anymore. I came to realise its better to date someone you are compatible with emotionally, psychologically and physically(very important). Never compromise on any of these cos of how she is acting now cos I'll tell you what's gonna happen, you're gonna regret it later. I would rather marry an attractive girl who turns out to be a nag or an ex-call girl than marry a not-so-pretty girl who worships the very ground I walk on now, and after marriage realise she was also an ex-hooker who also can nag for Africa + gossip queen.

The choice is difficult, it requires divine intervention, I have observed that women understand this concept a lot better than men do. That's why church seats get filled on 'Singles Night'.

somebody give this guy one bottle

ojun50:
lick my ass if he pain u

pain me? I resemble woman? Well,,ugly girls are ur portion,,enjoy them,,may u never meet the pretty ones and may ur daughters never be pretty....oya say AMEN

ojun50:
Ugly girls rocks they are home makers nd peace makers. Nt all dis ones that rub paint frm the face to there to to.

sharap ur dirty mouth there,,so pretty girls can't be home makers,,,nansense

If she's fat and doesn't have a pretty face, I will def leave her

Dash me dis one,,I no take,,kim is far better

Ifakiland:
Naso my broda, a gal can Neva friendzone a player...ure eida his sidechick, mainchick or "no chick".
Am sorry I don't keep female friends....lolz gals so love hearing dat frm guys, makes dem feel secured....but hey gal....ure abt to be his side chick.

lol,,are u an "Anthony martial" or a thierry henry,,if u understand what I mean

Chai,,even though I don't want to believe,,number one is so true

ARRANT NONSENSE,,nigerian pretty girls to be friends with a broke guy,who is not even handsome,,,story for d gods



Abeg lets talk reality here

macof:
the Bible God is an hungry buggy monster looking for souls to feed on to gain more strength.

But of course the Bible is nothing more than a story book

May GOD forgive u

mineANDurs:
Play hard to get and wait like 6months b4 getting intimate with him(if u want to), it works like magic.
They will disagree but its true.


Modified...
Stop calling for my head guys.
It is a well known "fact" that u guys tag any girl u find it easy to sleep with "a hoe".
U guys wants easy sex but disregard d girl after it.

Serious minded men will love and wive u if u "do not" give them easy sex.

I had a friend dat waited for 7 months,after having sex with the girl,he immediately sent her out,,as in just treated her like trash

Marcelinho:
why is man utd fans celebrating the expected arrival of mourinho like the won a trophy if am not mistaken this same mourinho when in chelsea you guys never in a day say a good thing about him.

we are not celebrating mourinho per say,we are celebrating lvg's separture

anigold:
its was destined for Ranieri to win atleast one League title in his coaching career,he has never won one before..
Mourinho never change he is a 2 season wonder and the third season is always a tsunami where he destroys every achievement of the previous seasons.. I was expecting to be a bit patient with Van gaal considering the fact that most of the manchester united players were now accustomed to his philosophy...

who and who have become accustomed to his philosophy,,ogbeni speak for ursef

Clintonblaze:
After sacking van gaal is mourinho better? My fellow football fans, am not picking sides here but am calling us all to reason this issue together. (1) we all attacked van gaal because of his boring possession football which he plays in his own half, but let's think, will mourinho play a better football? He led chelsea 2 seasons ago to play one of the sweetest football in epl for half season and after just one defeat during the festive period( which is a very trying time in epl) against spurs he panicked and changed to total parking the bus till the end of the season, even in bigger occasions we still remember the heavy parking the bus which mourinho inspired inter milan to beat barcelona. Mark my word, you will not get any good football from mourinho. (2) we love what martial, rashford, lingard etc did last season, they really tried I admit, they are the future of man utd. But are they? Mourinho is not known to be a lover of young talents, he needs proven players who have conquered leagues, who can attack any team at the same time, play defensive and be aggressive but sorry to say rashford, martial and lingard does not seem to have those DEFENSIVE abilities and you know mourinho, he will kick them out! Already the press has started linking ibrahimovic to work with mourinho and if that works, then be sure that the 34 year old will play every game this season even carling cup. (3) We all say van gaal has no friendly relationship with players especially when you think of how he treated chicharito( van gaal told him that he doubts if chicharito can play for man utd ever again after missing a penalty, that even wilson is higher than him in the order) and valdes. Now, over to mourinho, shevchenko and torres will tell you that he is not a friendly coach even lukaku would still remember his encounter, so a little mistake, a missed chance, a missed penalty, and mourinho will kick you out! (4) van gaal made a blunder when he sold chicharito, welbeck, van persie, nani, kagawa, evra, etc. And they are all doing well in their various new clubs, some won trophies and some became better players. Now, mourinho has a worse record, he sold de bruyne, andre schurrle, lukaku, and a host of many I can't mention and they all did well. (5) van gaal talks too much and makes headlines with stupid statement, recently he claimed man utd fans ask for too much, but what do you expect from fans who for the past 27 years,, all they know is winning trophies and being happy, all of a sudden you want them to lower their standard and start celebrating top 4 and fa cup triumphs, man, they aint arsenal fans please. But is mourinho better? I enjoyed his beef with wenger but I was angry when he said chelsea fans are as silent as a grave yard, I didn't enjoy his public treatment of chelsea doctor eva caniero,,, etc. We all can see that van gaal ain't what man ntd needs and mourinho ain't what man utd needs too if they are looking for long time replacement for ferguson, mourinho will sell nearly every players both good and bad, and bring in players of his choice, he will play dirty to win,,, he will park the bus heavily, he will fight and definitely beat wenger, he will win trophies but he won't last long andwhat is it they say about him staying in a club for more than 2 years Mourinho is just an upgrade of van gaal in more areas no wonder he was van gaals assistant manager in barcelona,,,,,, I am subject to correction in my little article,,, thankz

is mourinho better? I don't know,,but what I know is that united were so damn on point sacking lvg

FrancisDiote:
United have made a very big mistake by sacking a van gal... Mourinho comes with his baggage of problem, fighting the press, public dress down of players, fight with FA and playing less attractive football... Time will prove they made a costly mistake by appointing MOURINHO

which do u say the mistake is,,sacking van gaal or appointing mourinho? The later,i might agree with u,but sacking lvg is the best news so far for me this year,,that man made me hate football

accelion:
I wish I could talk to this your man, all he needs to do is to just make you feel jealous and so unimportant. Even you yourself won't believe how fast your brain would reset. If you already are these bad with the relationship, what then are you contributing to it? Wetin the man dey benefit from you? Lose your man and feel the heat!

it won't just work,u dnt know how these kind of people reason,,the jealousy won't get to them,,i dated one like that,just 2 months I took to my heels,nothing seems to work on them,they are not caring,they hate sex,,so many things,,it could even be more spiritual than physical

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

you are just exactly like the girl I broke up with recently,,truth is,u can't have a relationship while ure still like this,,your guy will soon leave you except you change,,,,,,,,so what do u do now,go meet a therapist and work on urself or u leave him cos ure just wasting the young man's time

lazo1:
I invited dis girl to my house, i noticed d smell from her pucci wen i pulld her jeans because of conji, i went ahead and Bleep her d smell from her puna was rill bad and stronge . for fear of having any deseas have to rub my dick wit dettol and my room still smell till nw. . Pls ladies always take care of ur puna . just hope i would get any STDS

yes you will

donbenedict:
lol no u havnt been affording it...why not try payin d 255k at the stretch... without a room mate..

ive been sharing it with my roommate then,,its quite much to pay at once

donbenedict:
If u knw u can't afford it why not cut ur cloth according to your size?

ive been affording it,,my roommate relocated,so I need another one

Please is there any guy looking for who to stay with in ph?
The rent here is so on the high side and staying alone is a part time luxury,,,anyone interested should please let me know,

The area is elekahia rumomasi axis,,the amount should be 170-180k for a year,and one can hardly get a one year house here..its mostly a year and six months,,so it should be 255k there about,,so a budget of 150k is needed,,combining with my own 150k,,we would have to pay all those their drink money and agent fee,,,,

Anyone interested should call me,,,,bpee on 08057434892.