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Kobojunkie:
The marriage is gone cause of his actions or hers?

Well, they both messed up.

But the extent the matter has gone, they should simply go their separate ways.

Kobojunkie:
Again, Men without money turn into animals and attack their family members. Is that what you are saying?

I am not saying that. But no one is beyond provocation.

She should go if truly he's an animal.

UnfairLife7:
domestic violence is a NO. It's a criminal offence

So why is she still begging him? She should go na. Abi?

Kobojunkie:
Men without money turn into animals and attack their family members. Is that what you are saying?

You only heard her side of the story, which I'm sure is exaggerated to fit her narrative.

Until I hear the man's side, I will take her "beating" submission with a pinch of salt.

emmeyen:
For every man that decided to attack a scared woman who probably did the only thing she thought was right after being beaten and humiliated by a drunk man, you people are simply mad! As in raving mad! May the likes of OP's husband befall your siblings or daughters. If you don't have money as a man, have good character. You cannot lack both and be shouting bruised ego. God punish that ego that will make you raise your hand on an hardworking woman who decided to take up the responsibilities of the home. And it's because she is doing it well, that's why he has the guts to go and drink. Nobody is advising that woman to run from the monster her husband has become till he is back to his senses. The he-goats are busy claiming she denied him sex. When he comes back smelling like a hippo after drinking, what is she supposed to do? Take her bath and lie down for him to climb?

Madam! Do you have male relatives? Put them in the know of who your husband has become, let them come and warn him not to raise his hands on you again. And be on the look out, if he doesn't change, biko carry your things and leave before he kills you and start blaming the devil. Stop feeling guilty. Else he will capitalise on that guilt and bring more drama. If he has ego, he should go and work! even if na to carry blocks for head. Real men work to provide for their family. Not going about sulking and beating their wives.

This is no longer necessary. The man won't do anything for/to her. The marriage is dead now, so no need for further drama.

Persephone1:
I see some ladies claiming law, they are right but in marriage, African marriage has law ever been used to settle right? No. Law comes in when thing has gone sour and beyond redemption. Op arresting her husband simply put a nail to the coffin. In Nigeria where police station is viewed as a thing of shame and a home for criminals . Op carry her husband go there go chilax and she wants everything to go back to normal. Lol please be realistic! Even the Oyinbo people in developed countries we are emulating go through counseling and therapy before carrying themselves to court. You want to jump procedure and except good results. We are Africans, until we get to a stage where sleeping in cell means the same as being in a correctional facility please think twice before you arrest your partner. It's the reason our mothers hardly report social issues like child rape because they know doing that means it is over (I'm not supporting it just stating a cause)

Op clearly did not prepare herself for the outcome of her actions. She has done it and apologized for it but I'd advice she watches her back. A man who destroys his wife properties acts on contempt and jealousy such man with a bruised ego is dangerous. I will suggest Op threads with caution and watch her back. If I may, I will suggest separation.

Am I saying this marriage is gone? I'm not God. Miracle no dey tire Jesus.

Call a spade by its name. The marriage is gone.

Alusiizizi:
The moment that you brought in other men to overpower your husband in his own house, your marriage was irreversably destroyed. What you did was even worse than keeping other men as boyfriends, in his eyes, and trust me, cry all you want but he will never forgive you. Your only option now is to move back to your Fathers' house.

100%

This marriage is over.

Just wait till he is able to find his feet, then you'll know wassup.

This is one of the many problems that men without money face. It is well.

Samantha124:
I'm sorry to say this, but your husband is childish.

If he was my husband and he starts emotionally blackmailing me like that by refusing to leave those police cells... I was going to leave him there until the police kick him out, or until he decides to leave.

As long as I'd have apologized to him and explained the reason why I got him arrested, I'd have left him there with his childish tantrums.

Maybe it's because I don't tolerate nonsense.

Well, I guess that would be the end of the marriage.. you'd be prepared to be divorced.

Profgordons:
I am hoping it comes soon for you too bro, with the pressure of school visa applications for September reduced, it is almost certain that IRCC will push more resources to other applications

Hopefully. However, I think some visa offices are just generally slow.

tshtsh:
Lol I’ll start by reminding that Canada is an expensive country due to the high standard of living and a system in place to push/pull as many people as possible towards the middle income bracket. However it’s worse for naira earners due to exchange rate issue. There are somethings we take for granted in Nigeria which is quite a big deal in canada for instance home ownership. Please if you own a house or land do not sell it . Work towards earning the money you intend to spend in Canada in Canada. It’s very possible as I did it and most of my friends also did. You can do it by getting a job before landing or if you’re a family person land first and your family joins you after you get settled as this way you get to spend less of your naira savings. It is also easier for a friend to house you than to house you + your family .

I also believe that moving to Canada for a high skilled work should be more of continuity and not necessarily restarting life. Many will tell you about starting with survival jobs and all but please aim for the high skilled jobs right away. It may not be easy but the more you try the higher the outcome. Try to spend more time around people who moved to Canada via express entry like you’re doing and less time with people who came via aduro. The mindset is different as they may be advising you on how to work around the system to get this benefit or that benefit. Kings don’t live on benefits.
Lastly my boss once told me Canada is designed for two people (household). Make proper plans and you’ll be alright . God bless.

This is quite insightful.

I have taken my mind off all IRCC shenanigans and have started looking at the jobs in my field and some of the other things you highlighted.

So when you say the system is designed for two people household, you mean its easier with a spouse? I've always thought being a single guy would be an advantage, as per german german level

tshtsh:
With IRCC it may be worth focusing on the transition to Canada and worrying less about IRCC. They will issue your COPR when they are ready. When I received my passport and COPR I was very happy that the expiry date was 11 months away (re-medical was done shortly before PPR). Gave me enough time to prepare, interview for jobs remotely and accept a good offer. The transition phase is very important though most people I know simply sold what they had and moved after receiving COPR. I don't believe in that though a story for another day.

I'll take this advice.

Please let that day for the story come fast. It'd be nice to learn from your experience.

tshtsh:
One year. January 2021 to February 2022

Wawu. Those guys are slow!

Jenykech:
I just read somewhere that RROV can be very slow and take months even after all parameters are marked as completed. One said all his parameters were completed in May but just got PPR on 15th August. BTW, how did you know yours was RROC?

I called IRCC and they mentioned my application is with RROC. Other applicants with the same AOR date in other VOs already have their PPR. Its tiring.

tshtsh:
Does this RFV come as an email or in the GcKey ? Mine was in the GcKey last year though visa office was RRoC

How long did your application at RROC take? All my application parameters have been completed over a month now, yet they are taking forever to finalize.

Onedimple:
Is this necessary? What help have you rendered to the community? Some people sha must talk.... nonsense

Please park well.

His comments are very valid.

If you have been active on this platform, you'd see what he has done for this community, even me personally more than those who have benefited immensely and then disappeared after PPR.

People just want to take, take and take without giving back.

Txxxx:
Hello house, please I need your experience concerning Ontario pnp, while I just got a nomination of interest letter today , my age would reduce by 5 points on august 26 and my ielts would expire in October, how would these factors affecting my submission and is there a way around it ?? Thanks for the audience.

I think your age is locked as at date of NOI for OINP.

Your federal profile will lose 5 points on your birthday. However, that wouldn't matter if/when you get nomination, since you'll get 600 points.

I'd advise you submit your OINP application before 26th tho.

Its terrible.

The full tank i used roll my eyes to buy for 7k5 is over 25k now.

I like this. But the price...