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NOT ME never desperate to marry after divorce

I am sorry did not mean to insult anyone, I just know of women in nigerian culture who are desperate to marry. Even with child he has to deserve me I believe.

@karmamod KMAss, I do know, but after 18 month he aint that good an actor lol!

i now know he really loves me, it wasnt the visa, which i had to be sure about, the hurt in his eyes tells me, i was so wrong, i dont regret the decision though I had to be sure. I had ro be sure.

How i was wrong! it was impossible given the situation to marry him, major visa issue, major stress, no time to talk things over as his mum was here, major cultural issues, now after 3 days i realise after how much he and i am hurting how wrong i was. I understand nigerian love is displayed differently than uk love but it doesnt mean it isnt felt as deep. Whilst I thought he couldnt love me now no more it is obvious is is trying to find a way and i realise how wrong i was.

So who will teach me yoruba?

Have you judged wrong
Have you ever been so wrong??

yes negro-nts but not if one day i find my son kidnapped to nigeria! after all my pains that aint happening. i am a gentle soul but no fool. i gave birth, financed, care for him, his  heritage is important but his safety is paramount. me and my children have been more his family and i will not allow him to dictate no longer.

Thanks Guy that was me being very angry before, I could give details of all but I won't degrade myself. I love him and his family but \I will not lower myself to such cold treatment. He has treated his mama ike his cash slave, and he callls me for not being nce to her!! As far as I am concerned I have gave her my time, love and apologies when not been there when my partner has mad me feel guilty.

Last time she was here she tol dme she was glad that i had met himand got him off smoke and drink, sounds like she had a eason, she made the wringing hand motion to me, he was still hiding pot from her

Update now, .

@lady t,

@ Busy body-

@negro-nts Not a very good 007 but in his case its a good job I'm not licensed to kill!!

As for f**king there's no chance, only have once in three weeks with 'mummy' being around and now he's gone so guess I'll be turning celibate!

I just feel deeply sorry for son that he will never have the family I thought we were going to have, but better no father than one who always puts us last and never has no time for us.

@ Rampant, If it hadn't happened to me I would doubt it too, but sadly it is true.

@ Lady T, yes holding the baby again, but I have no regrets about our son he is a joy and whilst I don't think I'll ever trust a man again now I will always have my children. I told him I would not marry him now but I did not opt out of the relationship, I never saw this relationship as being 'opt out' and it saddens me to know he does.

Thank you all.

@Negro NTs

@ topup
Thank you so much for your prayers.

@ Ruby, yes i have done these things with his mum and him, took them shopping and drove them around but at nights he does not come to me he says he can't leave mum on her own to come to me??

well update,

@ rampant
I do understand the points you raise and will definately consider and raise these with him.

@ rampant
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So how many boyfriends/girlfriends did you roadtest before you found the 'one' you wanted to marry? and why did you know they were the one?

Yep in my case opposites most do attract, white/black, older/younger, curvy/slim, blue eyes/brown eyes, kids/no kids, Lecturer/student and so forth can be good, can be bad!!

Guess its just an do not become emotionally attached.

Yeh not the best kissers lol!

I love him too much, more than I love myself which is not the way I would like. I love him so much that i forgave him ONCE for cheating ( I have never ever done this for anyone else although as to my knowledge it has never happened prior) but even though I love him so much if he ever did cheat again I would be gone and would not look back, it would be his loss of a good woman!

@busybody, this, wish I'd read the threads on here first lol!

A faithful man with her and the families best interests at heart. Romance, to love and be loved, children, security and respect.

wat di i miss?

I would grab the nearest objects and throw it at their heads out of shere anger, then drag her out of bed by the hair (sister or not!! slut) then throw his things in black bin bags and throw them out, cut up his clothes and see the best lawyer and sue him for divorce, hit him where it hurts in his bank balance!! Then pay a hiv infected prostitute to seduce him and let him suffer for the rest of his days. Oh for a placid, gentle soul like me there's a side of me no man better ever get to know!