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Thanks everyone , @ A40, he was a cheater as well as a beater! What did i ever see him in, I believed if I tried we could make it work, I realise now he needed to try more than me He was the one who failed not me

He is Yoruba,

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@ Karmamod, That is

Well my husband punched me in

Well my husband punched me in

What utter twaddle, How about he does the

@Bettes not Michael Boulton, its from 1950's its Percy Sledge, but I get your point!

I think you know when a guy truly loves you when he will always be there to help you out, you know you can trust him and rely on him, know he would never do anything to make you feel bad

Lets face it, you lost your mojo, mojo , no woman in her right mind wants an egotistical. selfish, self-centred, arrogant, male chauvenist, black-mailing, aggressive, cheating idiot for a boyfriend or god forbid a husband. What goes around comes around, I'D say you're gettng exactly what you deserve! What you need is a girlfriend that can tolerate you and your cheating, get a girl who will sleep with all your mates too, then i think you will have found your soul mate.  Just watch out when you start having kids and each one bears an uncanny resemblance to some of your friends

@ idupaul, lol! no not in a shop,

He just knows what's good!! Some people in their 30's are mentally and physically wiped out, while some look and feel like they are 20, some people in their 20's look and act like they are in their 40's, age is just a number, and well me, i may be 37 but look younger and have an energetic and fun attitude to life but with the maturity of my age, education and life experience, and my fertility sure as hell is not affected hehe!

Age is only an issue if people make it an issue, certainly age differences of up to ten years dependant on the type of people they are cannot be a boundary to a good and mutually beneficial relationship.

Hell no,

My joke above aside, My man is nigerian and no pushover, he is damn hard work, arrogant, dominant, independant, wants to be the boss and would love me to play submissive and yield to his every wish, , I think there are naija women out there who would willingly do that, I though am not naija and whilst I do submit at times to keep the peace, he knows where the line gets drawn. I have been married before and divorced and have run a home singly for many years so he knows whilst he can try to dominate, the truth is I am a strong independant woman that does not NEED a man. We are together to enhance each other's lives, neither to control the other. We are equals and he accepts this. He a real man and me a real woman.

I asked this question to my husband, but did not expect an answer we just laughed! In reality its sad but I know he would choose his mother, he has made it very clear that his mother is the most important person in the world to him, as she has always been there for him and will always be there for him. I would hope if the situation ever arose (god forbid) he would save us both.

A real man doesn't have to dominate! but a real woman lets a man think he's in charge but she knows she 'really' is in charge

But it is so true!

Mine takes pride in wearing his,

Believe in fate, that what is meant to be will be and what's not menat to be will not! If they really loved you then they will find a way back and if not let them go. Then don't wait around wishing they were back or wondering what they are doing, keep your self busy, visit family and friends, arrange dates out, take up a new hobby and do things to make you feel better, put yourself first. One day you will just realise that you can think of them fondly instead of with all the charged emotion.

I went through a break up, was devastated, went through all emotions, crying, anger, hurt but held the belief in fate, I had good days where I kept busy and felt good, but time is the best healer but thankfully he returned and we married! Trust in fate.

I know exactly how that feels when a relationship breaks down, my relationship broke down and we both broke down and then got back together and got married! Now we are so happy. But with the genotype thing, it can work but you have to be prepared to cover the expense of having a lot of medical intervention to prescreen any developing baby at foetus stage for if it has sickle cell (if this is the issue) and be prepared to abort. This will mean you have to be committed financially, commited emotionally and be prepared to only be able to afford a small family (or perhaps no children worst case. Or you can go with the grace of god and pray all will be well but then you have to face the realities of what may happen if you have a child with sickle cell.

Me and my husband have one son and he is a carrier of the sickle cell gene so I know that one day he may have this dillemma, me and my husband are just lucky that only one of us carried the gene. All best wishes.

When a naija man loves truly tell me how it

I'm white british, just married my gorgeaus nigerian man.

Need help please. I'm a fairly good cook but of western, italian and indian foods I'm english and white. I haver just got married to my wonderful nigerian man and whilst I have cooked my version of jolloff rice, fried planitain and beef suya I would love to cook some god nigerian dishes for him and our son who soon will be eating normal foods. Have you got any step by step recipes to make for him.  Thanks I'd love to start being able to have a nigerian meal on the table everynow and then for him-he would love it.

Well before my hubby I would have said a light coffee skintone but now I have to go with the darkest chocolate brown like my husband, mmm lovely. I'm white.

Thanks so much everyone, our past is laid to rest and this day may have been simple but has been the best day ever!!! He is surely a man to treasure I just don't know how my western brain could not see these things before!! Ah what wahala I brought!!! and so did he but eventualy we merged our cultures and saw each as we are, but now it is over and we are mr & mrs happy, thank you X

I stand corrected Rampant  

Well, tody i got married and we are so

How do I find out the address of someone in Nigeria. My BF has split up with me and we have a son and I want to contact his mama who I have a good relationship with.

Yes long, but so true and just what i needed to read as my relationship with a man I truely loved has ended and I need to let go gracefully.

Yes, just now.

Well I definately did. But for me I had to to know him. We did not talk for days after wedding. Now he wont say he wont or cant love me agin, we have son. i adore him butbi cant marry him because of son and not me. He should love me because of kids.