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Egemeole:
Best advice you need repent and give your life to Christ or you will end up in hell

Haba! Kilode? I'm not a sinner nah lol

tushbobo:
I think you are still young and need a mentor even if for a week. Knowledge is all you need.

Yes sir, will u be my mentor?

b0rn2fuck:
Very bad, to be honest, she will locate you for either friendship sake if she move on and not regret but if she eventually regret, she will come back begging, I don't just become born2fuck in a day, I got heartbroken of my life in 2006 , I was still fighting for jamb success and because of this girl, I couldn't enrolled myself in university back then ,I wasn't serious at all. after heart break, I rushed into part time without mercy , 2008 I found a girl in LASU, beautiful 2006 till late I found the girl, I have started smoking, drinking, attending ashewo joints and clubbing, that's how I almost wreck my life. I am glad today despite she let me become a beast to other women, I still kept the girl I met in 2008 early till date, she has a daughter and we are cool in my own house, like I said, not rented. Still in my early 30th but to be frankly speaking, I have my ex in facebook, we chatted once a while then I chose to ignored and change my number, she demanded we see but I refused, just imagine, someone who left in 2006 wanting a reunion at least in 2015, someone women go no shame, I asked you never married? Like my bad mouth, she said, she has been getting play and no serious, even though me never go court go shot I wed, I have been living with my woman and a daughter of 4 yrs old, I finally put an end to smoking, and drinking 2 months ago and over 2 yrs, I quit clubbing and ashawo joint, I was in church recently which I have long miss.
This is not just a story, she will come back one day, she will poke on every of your activites but you get yourself a better life, this is a challenge to gather, my broken relationship help me face business and school and the new girl arrival wasn't the demanding type. Never knew my ex have been monitoring all, she broke with different men, the funniest she demanded a night but I ignored, I rather go sleep with prostuites than sleep with ex, gather yourself, move on, don't seek a girl, challenge your future, you never buy land, you never buy car, build house, Rome wasn't build in day,its look hard but easy to do when single, start up plans before any devil comes in again, most of these women are devil.

Nice one there bro, thanks a lot

sade1994:
Sometimes you just grow out of love. Some of us are battling with that. Don't blame the girl. It's not all about money.

What are u saying?
Ogbeni park well jor

scantee:
guy if i could overcame mine, believe me you will be fine with time, jst try avoid her pics for now it will help you, no girl what to make you sleepless night my guy...ur a man & can easily get a better girl.

I don't even have her pics anymore, have deleted her number on sunday no urge for calling her like before...my heart is just heavy anytime I think about the text msg cus I still find it difficult to understand

vicadex07:
you be correct bobo jare... ops mumuness is so annoying and irritating

I concur

djojo:
To be frank with u, I can't console u nor tell u all is well.
You made a very big mistake building someone's life and playing with ur own academics just in the name of love
You suffer yourself just to make someone happy no fulfil at the detriment of ur own even God never tell us to do that.
You paid for her school fees and u were unable to continue yours since 2012, guy it's a pity, didn't u av a guardian or someone that do advise u that make u do all these or u just did it without consulting anyone.
Well it is not too late to move on but never try it again that u want to sponsor a lady through school except u are more above in educational level than what u want to send her.
With the way u explain things love really affect u that make u not to think twice that she might be cheating on u.
I will advice u go to her and allow her to repeat that statement in ur present and if she can say it, is better u move on with ur life.
Try to make fun about it with ur friends and allow them to make jest of u with that u will forget it within a short while
I never see abayaku na only abokoku I dey here

Lol you funny oo...thanks a lot

Neyoor:
I feel your pains bro. Considering the sacrifices, your conviction and commitments. May God replenish you in folds



Meanwhile "Broken relationship is better than broken marriage"


God knows best bro. Move on with your live, although it hurts and always tends to be impossible to let go but believe me, God is in control.

Ameen God bless u sir

omosefeeguaibor:
This is the part where people will come up with different bashing towards the girl not that I am justifying the fact that she left but hey! Who is looking @ 5 long years, guy if you had engage or married her with more emphasis on marrying her, who knows, we would not be making comment on matters like this. plus it's an avenue to teach yourself a lesson about making your hay while the sun is still blazing in summary 5years is just too much and even dangerous to waste on a relationship it could have been better than that. All in all my heart felt sympathy to you

We are still young that's why...though we always day dream about our future

addictiv:
Op I was in ur shoes few years back and I came to this same forum to seek advice. The enlightened ones advised me to move on and become successful and I did. I am totally grateful that I took that decision. Looking back now I discovered I dodged a bullet by letting go and focusing on developing myself. My drive for success has never been more profound. Being heart broken caused a turning point in my life and I swore I ll never be broke or suffer from any kind of oppression. My advise for you is to live life to the fullest and develop yourself. Life is filled with so much abundance than u can imagine and with great people who re ready to appreciate ur God given potentials. U ll discover that it ll get better with each passing day. But do not for any reason go back to the relationship even if she comes crying and begging cos they usually come crawling esp after you have added a few zeros to your net worth. You ll discover in future that it was probably the best decision for both of you. Dont go hating on her or start treating other women badly because of your experience. You ll be driving away lots of good experiences if you do.... Just wish her well and move on. More grease brah.

Thanks bro your comment is well appreciated

dancok:
Bro sorry, but I know u saw this coming, but u just ignore it because u love her, some girls reluctantly accept your love but they don't really love you, I assume this is the scenario here.

You are right bro, I saw it coming cus the last time I visited her in school I went to sympathize with her because she just lost her mom, I went through her phone and I saw a strange msg in her inbox though she did not reply the msg...but I don't want to raised my voice in that present situation I just let it slide

nokingasgod:
Some of us have passed through that route before and its not a big thing. It is time to move on and you simply have to move on. It's a natural phenomenon and it may even be you at some point wanting a breather.

But what i found disgusting is the idea of lamenting over what you did for her while it lasted forgetting you too must have benefited from her, at least sexually. So Bro, stop whining and be a man.

It's also disgusting to hear you misappropriated money meant for your academic work and used it on frivolities for her sake. Well, think that's not love but stupidity. To compound the issues, she progressed into HND level while you Mr Lover Man is still wielding ND and still hustling. It would have been a different story if you had ''hit it big'', but my friend, still hustling with ND certificate and you expect her to stick by you.....Please wake up.

Going forward, learn to be a man, a real sensible and smart guy. Choose your girl carefully, she's your friend and not your wife yet, so learn to know the limit of your responsibility towards her if any. You don't take advantage of a vulnerable lady, spend few coins on her, enjoy free ''entry'' and free ''exit'' for several years and expect her not to be attracted towards a juicier offer.

Lastly, as it is in most cases, you may end up being the winner cos there's the likelihood of her coming back to you if not now then later. The story does not usually end that way, there's always a comeback, even after marriage. But, it is left to you to shake yourself free, face your studies or hustle harder so that when the time comes she wouldn't have to see you and say thank God i left him.

Lesson well learnt...I appreciate your comment sir

hope4nigeria:
Congratulation Op, God has just removoved Badluck from ur destiny! You are expected to go for thanks giving.
I had similar experience, my ex told me to my face that she never knew when I will become a man! OMG. She followed Ready made man! After 9yrs now, I'm happily married with Two boys! I later got info that my Ex got chronic Vibroid and her chances of bearing a child is slim! The already made man abandon her! Till now she never married! We met recently in abuja! I took her to a restaurant! She was crying full of regrets while I'm giving thanks to God because I loved her then more than my live! She was later begging me for money for her fibroid Operation! Which I sent her 50k! Tho my wife must never know of it sha, so Op thank God in Advance.

Hmmm...thank u soo much sir
Have lost appetite I don't eat like before

harrysjones:
bro do u ave anybody that is close to her try contact the person tell the person what realy happen .. who know she may change her mind...DO u rely offend her..

I didn't offend her in any way

nextstep:
Was marriage on the horizon?

No, we are still young

teevodaprinz:
You ve got to move on Bro... Probably u weren't meant for each other... When GOD chooses for a man or woman there wouldn't be anything called heartbreak... If you push and the later part is tragic... Bro it would be difficult to trace back the part... " it's better to be single than to be in a wrong marriage " So pray to GOD to lead you... Moreover, if you are opportune to study, never allow your woman to be ahead of you particularly on the academic ground so my advice for you is " Focus on your studies... Don't even think about another gf now #though that depends on your age and readiness for marriage# when the time comes... I mean the right time. Your partner will surely show up... Be strong bro that's the other side of human love...
Get yourself busy with something valuable and you will look back later and say "Thank GOD it happened that way" that would g the your mind off her... ALL IS WELL BRO

Am still young bro..am in my early twenties

Nuahall2k14:
Look for d nearest bridge go try jump... This fit b ur time to blow.. U go enter LIB and vanguard... Baba God Don finally pick up ur call.

Thank u bro, very soon I will give my testimony on NL cus the future is bright

san316:
Poly guys with bad English. La WA ooo.
Sorry sha but I think she left because she's now out of ur league.

Baba no vex I wasn't in a good mood when I was typing this..

Agfrank2:
Bro just take it easy and move on.. same thing happened to me and I taught I was never gonna survive it but I had no option than to move on... I tell u that d same girl that dumped for her new love came back begging me to forgive her.. thou I forgave her but now she's nothing to me but my sex tool bro.. she knows the girls I'm dating now is far much beautiful and more complete than her. In case she comes back forgive her and treat her like u av never loved her before.. no matter what she will definitely come back bro cos she will miss u more than u are missing her right now... urs is just 5yrs bro but mine was 6yrs... #move on

Ok boss

Biafrarep:
Listen attentively bro, Nigerian girls are not reliable, the moment there is no money, they lose interest & start 'grass is greener elsewhere' search. I was in ur shoes recently but I smartly turned the tables on her. I even proposed to her but she returned my ring saying i want to tie her down! She frustrated me into calling breaking up with her, i realised I cant stop loving her & begged her to come back but she told me to move on that she has a new lover! Then I left her & for good one month i stopped all contacts with i.e calls, sms, facebook, wassap etc. suddenly she started missing me seriously & kept call'n & text'n me but i ignored her. @ d end of 31 days, i sent her a message that i'll be coming around her hood 2 see someone & if she is around she should let me knw, she replied me & later i saw her, when i went home, she called me 2 knw if safe home. IGNORE HER 4 A MONTH!!

Thanks bro

FODA:
Bro,look for another club,you cannot keep Ronaldo on d bench because of giroud,u re giroud in this case,while d new guy ronaldo.never expect much from pple if u dnt want to be disappointed.

Lol funny but your right
Thanks bro

AdexOmoby:
I am completely sorry about what you've been through. It's hurts and it's painful. Really sorry. Remember the pain would just be for a while and soon you'd be stronger for it.

You seem to be a good man who unfortunately had a bad babe, one who had your best interest at heart. I wish all ladies would know that there are still good and faithful guys like you around. Please don't stop being good. Continue to be yourself. Do not allow this make you become bitter or cruel. Aren't you blessed she broke it off now than later? 5 years may be long, but your courtship has been termed successful because it's achieved the aim for which it was started-to find out if you both are meant for eachother.

It's obvious she's no longer interested in the relationship. I wish I knew her reasons. I am a lady and a lady wouldn't break up a relationship that long without reasons. I believe she's invested 5 years of her life there too...but somehow, she picked someone else. Hence, you've got to move on somehow. Please cry all you can. Don't be deceived that men don't cry. Mourn all you can. Let yourself feel the pain. It's alright. It's okay to cry. Your pains are valid. But after mourning, rise up and move on. It would hurt once in a while but choose to see the good side of life. She only made you stronger and tougher for life's challenges.

You could delete everything that has to do with her. I think you're helping yourself heal faster. Go out and make friends. Join a church club or organisation of your choice. Go out and learn a skill. Ensure your mind is not ideal. You're busy which gives you less time to wallow in self pity. You may want to delete her contacts from all your social accounts handles.

Hugs bro. You'd be fine. Gradually, you'd fine life again. And perhaps love too. I wish you the best.

Thank you ma, I appreciate your comment on this, presently am working and keeping myself busy I have a lot of thing to lay my hands on but right now am so sad infact am unable to eat since saturday have lost appetite...mom keep asking me what's wrong I had lie to her that I was sick...too bad have introduce her to my mom and she loves her so much telling me that she's a good girl that I shouldn't fight with her that we are both perfect, but am yet to tell my mom what happen cus she will be so sad...funny enough she even ask of her yesterday I don't know what to tell her

Mariojane:
You ve to move on. Life goes on. What I always tell myself is, I will try to be better than the way I was so that whenever I meet anyone from my pass I will be able to boast about what I have achieved without them and their unfortunate selves. But we need to hear the other Side of the story

I have a question though, you saw the message on Saturday nd none of you call each other until you call on Sunday,Is that how you run your relationship? I don't speak with my fiancé less than 4times in a day and it has been that way for years.

I mean when she text me it was early in the morning on saturday not that we don't use to communicate on phone but imagine u just receive such a strange text, I just laugh cus I thought it was a mistake and beside have already late for work I had to shower quickly and dress up...not until sunday that I called her

zeongeon:
No girl is mandated to stick with you for ever as long as she isn't your wife.

No man who is reasonable ties his happiness or build his world around a woman or a human being.

As a man you should be bothered about building a career, pursuing a dream or running a business of yours and not being bothered about a girl....

Having in mind that she did nothing wrong breaking up with you..YES she did nothing wrong...she gave u an opportunity to face your life squarely and make something out of your life so that at the end you xn decide to date or marry either a girl or many girls from any race, tribe or religion.

You will be a big fool if you try to figure out why she left you or if you try going to beg her to win her back...You will be wise if you make up your mind at this time to put woman aside and make a life for yourself.

Finally, "In woman was sin's beginning, and because of her we all die. Allow water no outlet, and be not indulgent to an erring wife. If she walks not by your side, cut her away from you"..SIRACH 25: 23-25

God bless you sir

ofemigeorge:
My guy sorry o. But I no read all ur story...the beginning made me see something for that relationship. You say she text u Saturday,u ignore, no call at all till Sunday. Chairman.nnnn we need to hear the other side if the story. From her own point of view.

Baba, this is not a one sided story, have never done anything bad for her infact I can screenshot her text msg here for u to see...I didn't cheat neither hurt her

Misskaycee21:
hmmmmmm your case is the reverse of mine (female version) He cheated n left after 5 years now begging to come back just let her go, with time she'll realise and you will heal

Sorry about that ok...I feel for u

don4real18:
Another sad tale of a heartbroken mugu.... she wants a graduate to marry but you only have Ordinary National diploma

I'm not a mugu bro...I was blindfolded by love

slevin1:
Op if u can observe, all the advices given here is to bid her wish and move on and frankly, do just that. Then feel the pain that it drives u to make it in life and that it puts her in a position where she'll find herself monitoring ur dps and Facebook updates and wishing she never took that decision. But first, MOVE ON.

Thanks my brother, now that you mention the words "MOVE ON" my mind is free now...right now I think I need motivational speaker
Thanks bro God bless u

Vikky014:
stil didnt see it

check your mail now

Vikky014:
i didnt see ur mail. resend it pls

Sent again

AngelAhnie:
You know why I laughed, don't you

No I don't

AngelAhnie:

Why are u laughing? :-