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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by BrokenHeart2016: 11:10pm On Jul 12, 2016
AdexOmoby:


I am completely sorry about what you've been through. It's hurts and it's painful. Really sorry. Remember the pain would just be for a while and soon you'd be stronger for it.

You seem to be a good man who unfortunately had a bad babe, one who had your best interest at heart. I wish all ladies would know that there are still good and faithful guys like you around. Please don't stop being good. Continue to be yourself. Do not allow this make you become bitter or cruel. Aren't you blessed she broke it off now than later? 5 years may be long, but your courtship has been termed successful because it's achieved the aim for which it was started-to find out if you both are meant for eachother.

It's obvious she's no longer interested in the relationship. I wish I knew her reasons. I am a lady and a lady wouldn't break up a relationship that long without reasons. I believe she's invested 5 years of her life there too...but somehow, she picked someone else. Hence, you've got to move on somehow. Please cry all you can. Don't be deceived that men don't cry. Mourn all you can. Let yourself feel the pain. It's alright. It's okay to cry. Your pains are valid. But after mourning, rise up and move on. It would hurt once in a while but choose to see the good side of life. She only made you stronger and tougher for life's challenges.

You could delete everything that has to do with her. I think you're helping yourself heal faster. Go out and make friends. Join a church club or organisation of your choice. Go out and learn a skill. Ensure your mind is not ideal. You're busy which gives you less time to wallow in self pity. You may want to delete her contacts from all your social accounts handles.

Hugs bro. You'd be fine. Gradually, you'd fine life again. And perhaps love too. I wish you the best.
Thank you ma, I appreciate your comment on this, presently am working and keeping myself busy I have a lot of thing to lay my hands on but right now am so sad infact am unable to eat since saturday have lost appetite...mom keep asking me what's wrong I had lie to her that I was sick...too bad have introduce her to my mom and she loves her so much telling me that she's a good girl that I shouldn't fight with her that we are both perfect, but am yet to tell my mom what happen cus she will be so sad...funny enough she even ask of her yesterday I don't know what to tell her

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Dhotseal(m): 11:11pm On Jul 12, 2016
yommysure:
hmmm,she finished with upper credit while you finished with lower credit .. she has finished with her hnd while you just want to enroll for hnd.....nice one...

Can u imagine the buffoonery? Guys just dey fall hand since 1215 AD
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by blaq05: 11:11pm On Jul 12, 2016
In mama peace voice

Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by BrokenHeart2016: 11:12pm On Jul 12, 2016
FODA:
Bro,look for another club,you cannot keep Ronaldo on d bench because of giroud,u re giroud in this case,while d new guy ronaldo.never expect much from pple if u dnt want to be disappointed.
Lol funny but your right
Thanks bro

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by worldman(m): 11:12pm On Jul 12, 2016
Sorry man such is life, just move on mine was 7year. don't loss ur self why crying over her

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by ofemigeorge(m): 11:12pm On Jul 12, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:

Baba, this is not a one sided story, have never done anything bad for her infact I can screenshot her text msg here for u to see...I didn't cheat neither hurt her
5yrs relationship too much my guy. Man clock no be the same as woman clock ooo. Wat are ur plans concerning marriage, income and life. Pls don't tell her another three yrs in waiting.....
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by baum1: 11:13pm On Jul 12, 2016
san316:
Poly guys with bad English. La WA ooo.

Sorry sha but I think she left because she's now out of ur league.

Unnecessarily mean and a sweeping generalization..

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by tpascal: 11:14pm On Jul 12, 2016
Heart break can be so painful. Just take it as immunisation.
Once you survive the ordeals, you will be a better person psychologically.
Sometimes, you need it to be a mature guy/lady.
No girl/guy is worth dying for.
Pick up your life and forge ahead.
God is preparing u for greatness.
Soon you will get a better person.
Till then, Doooooo

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 11:14pm On Jul 12, 2016
cool

Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by bellarmine: 11:15pm On Jul 12, 2016
Your girl just got herself a better financially well-to-do guy. She is moving on, so move on.


And trust me, you don't say fully what u did for her during the r/ship.

Some dudes sell their car to buy iPhone for bae and the gal still left.


Just MOVE ON...(The smartest thing you can do).

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Dhotseal(m): 11:16pm On Jul 12, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:

my education is very important to me at the moment, the worst part of it is that I applied to her school, same faculty same course though she will graduate this year.
Lalasticlala

No wonder she dumped your sorry ass...u were becoming a monitoring spirit unto her. How can u apply to do your HND in her school? Same department same course. Dude...u suffocated that babe with attention it was choking her.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by aspirebig: 11:17pm On Jul 12, 2016
Guy 5 years is a long time. In between, you would have go and know her people, since her parents are late, just the fathers family even if it is in a small way, do a little traditional and court wedding, not expensive since you are both students. Then the relationship is legal and formalized, you will know know you are investing on your wife.

Now, she has moved on oooooooh, no time. Deceit is everywhere o, even in marriages,remember what happened to a popular Lagos Pastor of a big pentecostal church recently.

In a nutshell, trust no one.


Life goes on, move on bro, she isnt for you. This will one make to work harder, make money, dont fail the man you want to be as a boy, in your next relationship, dont waste much time, take decision on time.


In USA, some dude are already out of two marriages in five years and they moved on.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by butanep(m): 11:17pm On Jul 12, 2016
Why are u lamenting. Hustle hard n upgrade your game.


Classy chick will die for you.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by BrokenHeart2016: 11:19pm On Jul 12, 2016
Biafrarep:
Listen attentively bro, Nigerian girls are not reliable, the moment there is no money, they lose interest & start 'grass is greener elsewhere' search. I was in ur shoes recently but I smartly turned the tables on her. I even proposed to her but she returned my ring saying i want to tie her down! She frustrated me into calling breaking up with her, i realised I cant stop loving her & begged her to come back but she told me to move on that she has a new lover! Then I left her & for good one month i stopped all contacts with i.e calls, sms, facebook, wassap etc. suddenly she started missing me seriously & kept call'n & text'n me but i ignored her. @ d end of 31 days, i sent her a message that i'll be coming around her hood 2 see someone & if she is around she should let me knw, she replied me & later i saw her, when i went home, she called me 2 knw if safe home. IGNORE HER 4 A MONTH!!
Thanks bro
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by holluphemydavid(m): 11:19pm On Jul 12, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:
, I do see her as the mother of my kids


U can still persuade her, den giv her Belle, den mission accomplish

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by nokingasgod: 11:19pm On Jul 12, 2016
Some of us have passed through that route before and its not a big thing. It is time to move on and you simply have to move on. It's a natural phenomenon and it may even be you at some point wanting a breather.

But what i found disgusting is the idea of lamenting over what you did for her while it lasted forgetting you too must have benefited from her, at least sexually. So Bro, stop whining and be a man.

It's also disgusting to hear you misappropriated money meant for your academic work and used it on frivolities for her sake. Well, think that's not love but stupidity. To compound the issues, she progressed into HND level while you Mr Lover Man is still wielding ND and still hustling. It would have been a different story if you had ''hit it big'', but my friend, still hustling with ND certificate and you expect her to stick by you.....Please wake up.

Going forward, learn to be a man, a real sensible and smart guy. Choose your girl carefully, she's your friend and not your wife yet, so learn to know the limit of your responsibility towards her if any. You don't take advantage of a vulnerable lady, spend few coins on her, enjoy free ''entry'' and free ''exit'' for several years and expect her not to be attracted towards a juicier offer.

Lastly, as it is in most cases, you may end up being the winner cos there's the likelihood of her coming back to you if not now then later. The story does not usually end that way, there's always a comeback, even after marriage. But, it is left to you to shake yourself free, face your studies or hustle harder so that when the time comes she wouldn't have to see you and say thank God i left him.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by BrokenHeart2016: 11:20pm On Jul 12, 2016
Agfrank2:
Bro just take it easy and move on.. same thing happened to me and I taught I was never gonna survive it but I had no option than to move on... I tell u that d same girl that dumped for her new love came back begging me to forgive her.. thou I forgave her but now she's nothing to me but my sex tool bro.. she knows the girls I'm dating now is far much beautiful and more complete than her. In case she comes back forgive her and treat her like u av never loved her before.. no matter what she will definitely come back bro cos she will miss u more than u are missing her right now... urs is just 5yrs bro but mine was 6yrs... #move on wink wink smiley
Ok boss
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Odunharry(m): 11:22pm On Jul 12, 2016
keypad1:
how u want take know if she do am for her house very early in the morning?
Omo as far you no do her bad. anything she do na she sabi..
Make she go junction or river nothing de happen
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by AfroKnight: 11:23pm On Jul 12, 2016
sirusX:


Read again and be mindful of his tone... He is trying to advise him to be good, and in the end he reminded him that being all goody goody might not pay.

Though I am not in support of the double dating, but I feel there are some things he should do different next time. I hope he figures it out

Exactly what I mean. AngelAhnie misunderstood my sentiments.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by BrokenHeart2016: 11:23pm On Jul 12, 2016
san316:
Poly guys with bad English. La WA ooo.
Sorry sha but I think she left because she's now out of ur league.
Baba no vex I wasn't in a good mood when I was typing this..

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by watchindelta(m): 11:24pm On Jul 12, 2016
hisssss rubbishhhhhhh.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by dancok(m): 11:24pm On Jul 12, 2016
Bro sorry, but I know u saw this coming, but u just ignore it because u love her, some girls reluctantly accept your love but they don't really love you, I assume this is the scenario here.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Danvianey(m): 11:25pm On Jul 12, 2016
Eiyaaa! Very touching. Maybe she has found a better offer somewhere just like you said "you are not currently financially buoyant". Anyways, God knows the #best forget about her and move on with your life better ones are ahead of you, they might be the one to do what you did to the other one. Lastly, never you count those things that you did for her for the happiest man on earth is the one who works and careless of where the glory heads to.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by addictiv(m): 11:25pm On Jul 12, 2016
Op I was in ur shoes few years back and I came to this same forum to seek advice. The enlightened ones advised me to move on and become successful and I did. I am totally grateful that I took that decision. Looking back now I discovered I dodged a bullet by letting go and focusing on developing myself. My drive for success has never been more profound. Being heart broken caused a turning point in my life and I swore I ll never be broke or suffer from any kind of oppression. My advise for you is to live life to the fullest and develop yourself. Life is filled with so much abundance than u can imagine and with great people who re ready to appreciate ur God given potentials. U ll discover that it ll get better with each passing day. But do not for any reason go back to the relationship even if she comes crying and begging cos they usually come crawling esp after you have added a few zeros to your net worth. You ll discover in future that it was probably the best decision for both of you. Dont go hating on her or start treating other women badly because of your experience. You ll be driving away lots of good experiences if you do.... Just wish her well and move on. More grease brah.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by NwaEzefuNaMba(m): 11:26pm On Jul 12, 2016
So it happened to you too? It happened to me thursday last week, my girlfriend just text me and broke up our 5months relationship; I even have some hidden intention to tie the knot with her of which I have talked to her about and she said she need time to think about.

Though I love her soo much, I have moved on with my life I know one day she will regret her action.


Bro, when one day closes, another opens!

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Handsomecole(m): 11:26pm On Jul 12, 2016
Well you are not the Ist neither will you be the last person to experience heartbreak. I had similar experience too when as a student I had to abandon lectures and moved to Lagos to husstle so I could pay my schl fees while school was on session when I came back to write exams my GF told me was no longer interested even though we do talk on phone and I do send her money. I was hurt but I moved on. From my experience two things helped me . 1: Activities : Try involve yourself in other activities especially more challenging ones, try do some new things that would get your mind off her. Interact with more people, make new friends, attend events, etc 2: Time : Allow times to heal you cos only time can heal so when you look back you will just laugh.

Hope this helps. But next tym don't love sheepishly with all your heart. Love with your brain.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by BlindAngel: 11:27pm On Jul 12, 2016
Vikky014:
stil didnt see it
. . Check ur spam folder, it mst be there and don't forget to thick it non - spam.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by omosefeeguaibor(f): 11:28pm On Jul 12, 2016
This is the part where people will come up with different bashing towards the girl not that I am justifying the fact that she left but hey! Who is looking @ 5 long years, guy if you had engage or married her with more emphasis on marrying her, who knows, we would not be making comment on matters like this. plus it's an avenue to teach yourself a lesson about making your hay while the sun is still blazing in summary 5years is just too much and even dangerous to waste on a relationship it could have been better than that. All in all my heart felt sympathy to you

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by sleekone: 11:28pm On Jul 12, 2016
She broke up with you via text ? The girl is harsh! There's no going back now just move on with yourself life. It won't be easy but it'll get better with time.
No need dwelling on what you did or didn't do for her . It appears she played you for 5years. If she valued your relationship then she would have at least broken up with through a phone call.
Focus on your job and things will get better.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by BrokenHeart2016: 11:29pm On Jul 12, 2016
Nuahall2k14:
Look for d nearest bridge go try jump... This fit b ur time to blow.. U go enter LIB and vanguard... Baba God Don finally pick up ur call.
Thank u bro, very soon I will give my testimony on NL cus the future is bright
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Neyoor(m): 11:29pm On Jul 12, 2016
I feel your pains bro. Considering the sacrifices, your conviction and commitments. May God replenish you in folds



Meanwhile "Broken relationship is better than broken marriage"


God knows best bro. Move on with your live, although it hurts and always tends to be impossible to let go but believe me, God is in control.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by engrajoo1(m): 11:30pm On Jul 12, 2016
thank God it nt a broken marriage..................in order words it means u guys ar nt meant to b together dont be perturbed bro

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