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@ OP its easy for everyone to say family first
its really hard for a lot of people not to allow their jobs to interfere with their family life.
imagine some people leaving home as early as 6am to go to work and coming back like 8/9pm
you should keep it at the back of your mind that he is human and  must realy be tired.
talk to your husband about your feeling without nagging his life out  

but you know you need to be empathic about the situation(put yourself in his shoes)
ive been in your shoes so I know how it hurts ,hes probably finding it difficult to strike a balance believe me it takes a lot of determination and Gods grace to strike that balance with the crazy hours bankers for instance work.

God forbid he becomes jobless trust me ull prefer a realy busy man to a jobless man hanging around you 24/7  

@ mudley
I 100% agree with all you're saying BUT you need to calm down ahan what is it nau?
you can pass advise to people without being offensive haba!
besides I hope you know some ppl have commited suicide because of some harsh comments they got on forums like this (was just reading on the youtube suicides) pls easy o biko,ndo,dan allah like oddunnu said !


@ OP you have made up your mind on what you want to do
Pls update us on whatever happens
and if it turns out negative DO NOT GO bashing Naija men cause you were warned but chose to take the risk
shikena!

In as much as I am
this pretty much sums it up

MRbrownJAY:
^^^^^why this urgent need for a baby?! who is the desperate one here, you or him?! by the look of what you wrote, you guys barely know each other. shouldnt it be that you get to know the person FIRST before going on having their kids?

also, like a previous poster said:" have you ever heard of birth control?"

here is a clue: if he is so quick to wanna dump you because you question what he does or because of what your friends are saying THEN do you think that what you guys have is really STRONG?!

another clue: no matter how hard he took the miscarriage, the focus was on your well being and he SHOULD have been there with you. . . . . . . . .whether it be after work or whatever!

but I will sugar -coat it for you
sweety he was harsh but its pretty much what you need to hear
cause that guy is up to no good
and you should also take responsibility for your actions (not protecting yourself)
you need to get to know someone well enough before you start planning a future with him/her and then having kids.


all the best though, coz it seems like you've made up your mind to be with him.
Good luck

the one i got her is as big as this

http://cgi.ebay.com/John-Deere-Gator-HPX-Ride-On-/110552732904?cmd=ViewItem&pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item19bd74d4e8#ht_618wt_702

but its all dolled up ,barbie theme and all like this

http://cgi.ebay.com/Fisher-Price-Barbie-Jammin-Jeep-Batt-Operated-Ride-/200397726924?cmd=ViewItem&pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item2ea8a2a4cc#ht_1763wt_794



only d/side is if you have a boy after her like i do,he might not enjoy riding a barbie toy lol
so you may want to go for a neutral-color toy and maybe put some barbie/dora stickers to make it a bit feminine

whatever rocks your boat babe!

dany123:
Thanks for all your suggestions ,  while browsing i came across this ride on toy ,  a cool one ,  give your comments on it


In the first URL i have selected the green one and in the second url i  have selected Bright Red Ferrari and Toy Lamborghini Gallardo

[b]http://www.newcooltoysonline.com/baritoatv4wh.html[/b]

http://www.newcooltoysonline.com/baritoca.html

wow those are awesome toys
i like the ones in the 1st link better
i didnt know you could get them for kids under 3(safety issues)
i got one for my daughter a while ago,it was realy nice, pity i cant find the link on TRU
it was rechargable and she could have another kid at the back
only d/side is that it was about $500 before tax and assembly
if price is right then you should go ahead and buy the ones in that range cause they grow with the kids and they can take turns with siblings on the bike(you know what i mean)

depending on your budget you can get a wide variety of ride n toys from toys r us
compare on ebay for cheaper deals.
dont forget to read reviews before buying tho


http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2342270
or
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2452296

@ op
get over him
hes not good for you
hes going to scam your ass out again and again
these boys are ruthless
and you're way his senior (no pun intended ) but dudes not going to leave all these small chics here for a 34 yr old woman except if its a scam just saying pls dont take it the wrong way, just being real with you.
SMDH
pls stick with your husband if ure still maried to him

what do you mean by "you're in your mid-twenties"?
what in the world is wrong with these girls nowadays?
would you rather he stayed with you and treat you like crap
or you kick him to the curb, wait a while for someone that loves you for you, and only you
SMDH!
is it by force to have a boyfriend sef? ahan?


m/while didnt you guys read the part that hes admitted he has another girl?
are you guys encouraging her to tolerate infidelity
o ma se o!

how do i mean what?

serves her right
how wicked could someone possible be?
bloody schemer that cant even use her head
dumb.a.s.s,anyone laying claims about the phone calls for instance should be smart enough to know that the police will go through your records
MUMU meaning you can be an EDUCATED FOOL for real!

sore losers

if you realy need a job
you better risk it and come for the interview(that is assuming you dont already have one)
all companys start small, what do you have to lose?
I am in abj but never heard of it
but that doesnt mean that its not a good coy to work for

my mom once gave me the greatest advise in the world

"Never get serious in a marriage/relationship except if your man loves you more than you love him"

sweety keep that with you all the time
the other replies have answered your question
its left for you to take it or leave it

p.s he keeps coming back to you because of the gifts
who doesnt like awoof!