₦airaland Forum

Gamine:
I think any black soap would do.
We currently use Village Fresh.

Bentonite clay [b][/b]won't be sold at your local beauty store,
I don't think. But hey don't worry about it.

jovi:
@ Mad-max,can we get mama lotion in nigeria?

deniyor:
[b]Her major mistake is she should hv opened up about her past from the beginning or say nothing instead of lying. Just a simple "I hv had a very rough past in relationships I am ashamed to talk about". If the guy wants to know more, then that's his cup of tea.[/b]


i totally agree

deniyor link=topic=506077.msg6680447#msg6680447 date=1283359782:
Poster, what kind of a person keeps a xrated video of another school mate for four yrs. That's kinda perveted too. Who is the poster to judge that the girl is not good enough for the friend when the friend has chosen the girl as the one he wants. The heart works in mysterious ways. I can decide to fall in love with an ashewo. My friends better keep their mouths shut if they know anything. But I deserve to know what I am going into b4 I even start.

lol thats funny!

IyaBasira:
I hope this gets to you before you spill the beans but I just wanted to give you my advice.

To be honest, the re- virgin operation thing is not new. But it doesn't mean she is a bad person. She may have found a guy she really loves and theres something you said earlier that pained me. You said and I quote , There are some good girls out there better deserving of him than her, one of them ought to be blessed with a quality guy like him, NOT her. What exactly is a good girl? Is it one who has never slept with a man or is it a girl whose heart is truly pure? People say that God chose Mary because she was a virgin and its not true. It was because she had a pure heart and a sound mind. So in the world we live in today, who is truly good? It all depends on your definition.
She may have done awful things but please don't be so quick to judge. My suggestion is that you speak to HER . Be very honest and straightforward with her. Her doing the re- virgin operation might not necessarily be that she is capable of murder as someone said earlier. That is a girl trying to fix a mistake she once made. She probably feels that her virginity ( which is now gone)  was the only thing she could have given to her guy and she's not going to tell anyone how messed up she feels inside. You know how Nigerians are , they'll say "OH! Didn't you know when you were doing it ?"
Everyone tells you to move on but no one explains to you how to forgive yourself. You might see the whole re- virgin things as an act but I see it as a girl admitting that she messed up - not to her bf because she is just too scared. She is definitely not going about it the right way but thats why I said please speak to her first. And depending on how you structure your words, she might have a change of heart, who knows.
I am not justifying her actions in any way, however.
If you can convince her to come clean then no harm done. But be sure to ask your friend how things are going with her a while later. If you are really good friends then he will tell you about her coming clean (if she has). If she hasn't then feel free to tell him.

And please, please, I beg of you, do NOT show him the videos,  Put his feelings into consideration. Showing him will just traumatize him for life and this will just make things extremely difficult for the next girl who comes along. You said he already has trust issues and the video will not help matters. I know you want to look out for your friend but please follow my advice.