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Tuesday June 7



“Lord, you have searched me and you know me… you perceive my thoughts.”  Ps 139:1-2 NIV

Healthy confrontation (3)

Just as a body builder develops a great physique by using the correct weightlifting techniques, you must apply the right techniques to achieve the desired results in resolving your conflict. No athlete attempts to lift heavy weights or engage in intense exercise without first warming up his or her muscles. The warm-up is crucial to the workout, as it minimizes the risk of injury and increases overall muscle performance. Similarly, preparing for confrontation is almost as important as the confrontation itself. Confronting someone spontaneously or without preparation can have disastrous results. Preparation allows you to look at the situation more clearly and not in the midst of an emotional moment, and will most likely lead to a more effective encounter. This would be a good time to pray: “Lord, you have searched me and you know me…you perceive my thoughts from afar…Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely” (vv. 1-4 NIV). It’s important that you first deal with your negative emotions, such as anger or resentment. While you may deem them justifiable, if you don’t “release them” by the power of the Holy Spirit they will become a roadblock to achieving harmony. And you must also refuse to succumb to the fear of addressing the issue, lest you abandon the entire notion of initiating a confrontation. God can work on both ends of the line. While you are praying and preparing your heart, He can prepare the other person’s heart. “There is deceit in the hearts of those who plot evil, but joy for those who promote peace” (Pr 12:20 NIV).

ganisucks:
shameless pastor. After eating the chicken, you now want to clean your mouth. Yoruba pastors have no dignity or self control. Just 10k can make them turn to pasuma

you certainly need deliverance. Running your mouth in a public forum against the anointed man of God doesn't give you credit. Instead, you pulling curse on your head unknowingly. I pray God forgives you.

The Pastor hasn't says anything contrary to what everyone he saying. In fact, he was encouraging the youth to be more pro-active instead of waiting on the government. Since people like you are dependent and living of free gift from people. Well, I'm not surprised about those trash coming out of your mouth.

Awon iran omo ole!

Planned information. Una don see mumu, a bi? If Tompolo like, let him run to heaven. When arrested, he will answer for all his deeds. Libya ko, Liberia nii.

Awon ode. Won ti ri mumu.

That man height, naa assets oooo. I'll see if I can market him to the Hollywood.

Zoharariel:
But who would want Dokpesi dead? Maybe Ebele Jonathan, you know, for spilling too much to the DSS & EFCC.

sharp guy. Your head dey there.

It is well oooo. The Lord will stand with the family at this sad moment ooo.

RIP Omolade! That was the film I saw her first.

Why some people will always like to play April fool all the time beat my imagination.

Jokers!

BUHARIISCURSED:
adieu in advance pmb

that your evil thought will never come to pass in Jesus name.

Can you imagine this he-goat of a lecturer? God have mercy on our kids @ school.

Nigerians, brave, smarter, adapt easily and can manage themselves anywhere they go in the world. Call them anything you like, it will not stop them. I love my people, my country. I'm so proud to be a Nigerian. What other people in the world consider to be a threat, Niger will laugh over it and move on. We are too strong abeg! Very tough. I always says to people that we are the mordern day Israelites. God bless Nigeria.

I have a dream. That one day, we will be able to shot some action film from the Aso rock presidential office.

martineverest:
im a redeemer...most of these pastors take clues from d head

I disagree with you on that. Even my redeemed pastor once told me that "Enu Baba ko ka gbogbo awon to waa labe won mo" meaning that, not all the pastors respect or carry out Baba's instructions again.

Iso lenu re oooo. Why now?

Pastor Adeboye must hear this.

PrettyCrystal:
Ooni of Ife the great tourist

Leave the King alone oooo. He's only a young king. And besides, he's doing his job as a great Yoruba leader to co-ordinate all his subjects.

Explorers, your head dey there brother.

In fact, I prefer your report more than Sahara or desert reporters.

Thank you.

freeborn76:
...While the biggest refinery in the world is being built in Lagos, construction of the 4th Mainland Bridge has taken off and the Eko Atlantic Project is gaining momentum. Kontinu bombing!

a bi? Let them continue what they know they can do best. Let see what happens when that sound of "to your tenth Oh Israel" sound.

MadCow1:
I want to see public office holders and civil servants going to jail with hard labour for 10 - 16 years.




Recover loots, sieze assets and make sure they stay bankrupt till they die..

if that happens, then we are on the road for a better tomorrow in this country. I hope so too sha.

Love Machine:
Tinubu be like.My prayer is yielding fruit.

Yielding fruit for what? Onirokiro!

ednut1:
no such tin as atm card. its a debit card

awon olooyinbo dee.....lol. Do your hear? That thing is called "debit card" and not ATM card oooo....

kingphilip:
Most times what's written on chargers are usually fake especially when the manufacturers knows that people will go for the one with the highest voltage..

Android users should just download ampere from Google play store for free and run it when testing their chargers that way you'll get to know if the charger is in good condition or not

Good morning Nairalanders
May our hustle this week be greased with God's favor
To claim it click like

Amin ooo Jesu. Thank you, and yours too brother.

4nobody4every1:
So much senseless bloodshed in Nigeria , what a country, you collected ransom and still kill your victim

I guessed she knew some of her abductor. And there's no way they will risk her going back alive. RIP to her.

Monday June 6




“A time to keep silence, and a time to speak.”  Ecc 3:7 NKJV

Healthy confrontation (2)

Confronting at a time when the person is most receptive takes wisdom. Wife, when your husband first comes home from work, give him space before you bombard him with the problems of the day. Husband, don’t wait until you arrive at the event to tell your wife you don’t like the outfit she’s wearing. Tell her when she can do something about it. And you should make every effort to confront a person when he or she is alone, just as Jesus commanded: “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private” (Mt 18:15 NAS). Confronting someone in the presence of others can cause them to become defensive in order to save face. Your goal is reconciliation, not embarrassment. If you have something “heavy” to tell someone, it’s not a good idea to have the confrontation at their house or yours—select a neutral location. That way it will be easier for the person being confronted to leave the scene if he or she becomes belligerent. And there’s always the possibility that this could happen. Sometimes you have to temporarily lose people, to win them later. “He who rebukes a man will find more favor afterward than he who flatters with his tongue” (Pr 28:23 NKJV). Note the word “afterward.” If you don’t get the immediate response you desire, you can still win—especially if you pray and allow the Holy Spirit to work in a person’s heart. But you must be willing to take the risk and confront the situation in order to bring about the change you desire. If you don’t, things will remain the same—or get worse.

......and that's why you are still been single. stupid and very irresponsible fellow. Mtheeeew!

The Germans will simply says "Gesund health" I hope I'm right though.....lol. which means more of "Good Health" to you.

It's just courtesy though, and for me it's a way of saying continuous blessing in your life.

Awon omo ti eniyan fi toro omo. The Lord will see you all through, as you continue your journey of life in Jesus name. Congratulations to their parent.

Sunday June 5


“When Peter had come to Antioch, I withstood him to his face.”  Gal 2:11 NKJV

Healthy confrontation (1)

When Peter showed partiality to Jews over Gentiles, Paul confronted him over it! Why? To keep unity in the church. Sometimes you’ve no option but to confront someone. The question is, “How?” None of us are born with the innate ability to do this; it’s a skill only learned through practice and patience. And the reason we’re not good at it, is because we avoid it like the plague. As a result, our relationships suffer and our problems don’t get resolved. The first step in preparing for a confrontation is to establish the right purpose for putting the issue on the table. The focus should be on achieving a better relationship. This can either involve getting someone to stop doing something, or start doing something. At no time should your goal be to tell someone off, or get something off your chest, or lay a guilt trip on them. So it’s important that you first confront yourself. Be honest about why you’ve decided to confront the issue. Do you have an ulterior motive such as resentment or wounded pride, or do you want to see a genuine change in behavior? You need to ask yourself, “When this confrontation is over, what behavior do I want to see the offender change?” Remember, in effective confrontation you are looking for a desired outcome and a win-win for both sides. “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city” (Pr 18:19). If a person knows you truly care about them and are seeking to glorify God in the situation, you’re more apt to get the response you seek.

......very rough.

Feranchek:
At least, when they're being prosecuted, there'll be thousands of people praying for them.

Exactly.

Overzealous DSS officers. I'm sure PMB did not ask them to do that. It's not everything these overzealous office leaders does that Buhari approves.

Enangson:
Lugard why?

Ohun lo da gbogb wahala yii sile. They would have just leave everyone the way they meet them.

PassingShot:
Inclusive government by bringing PDP party members?

You just "rant" without making any meaningful contribution to this topic.

@topic, we know their PDP's plan but it shall surely fail as previous ones.

Dasuki shall be jailed.

Kanu will be jailed.

All other looters will not be spared and NOTHING will happen.

I love that photo of yours. Only the wise can understand it. God bless you.

Shehucom:
Every body in lagos with hand craft is wicked. Tailor o, mechanic o, driver o, conductor o, generator repairer, Barber o, carpenter o, welder o and even market women. They are senseless as well.

You are very right. It's like almost everyone in this country are very dis-honest. Our appetite to get quickly rich has turned the whole nation to country without value for each other except to rip each other off. We always looks for ways to take advantage of each other. That is why today, even in our churches and mosque, filthy men moves around like men of God.