Yomieluv: nooooo;but very soon,it happened to my be-wife.

HML in advance

Dyt:

Hmmmm
Smiling
Where do I start from
I always feel renewd
That feeling that got u smiling when no one is arnd
Words can't express it jor

Awwwww

Dannylux:
The picture speaks for itself. Jaw-dropping arsee lol

Lol. That's someone's "property"

Yomieluv: Nothing like best method,any method can fail,Postinor 2 has really put me in deep sh1t before,thought it was effective,till......guess the rest.

The safest method is Abstinence. If you aren't ready for the consequence,zip up.

Lol. Are you married?

Thanks so much guys(Anitank,Dannylux,Davico,Dyt,Fkforyou,Lamlif on mic,lertee,little mistress,Mc oldsoja,Nwanneamaka,Pascal,Rexphobia,Rodeo,Suzie,Uj,Vessi,Yield) for your patience, understanding, and words... I really am very grateful.
We are cool now and happy . Talked for about 1hour 40mins, and I applied uj_sizzle's tips (thanks so much babe *hug*). I told him my take on the situation too.
I pray God always provides y'all with good listeners and comforters if and when ever the need arises.
@Dyt *hug*
Have a splendid day ahead.

Dyt:

I jst hope he's nt formin bn busy
Mayb he wanna swap hehehehhehehe
Cos dat sounds unlike him right?

Don't worry, everyth will work out fine
I dey fast n pray for u

Lol...naah...he doesn't play games. I believe he's busy.
*hug* thanks. I appreciate

Dyt: Babes
Latest update

Good evening He replied my text in the a.m...but we didn't get to talk till some minutes ago...still haven't really talked, seems he's been busy.

uj_sizzle: That's one strange man i must say. He loves you alright, but the incessant calling and keeping in touch can be tiring. I know that because i find long talks really mentally exhausting.
Your fiance should already know this by now. If he's going to sulk for four days because you didn't call for a few hours, then you two need to sit down and talk.
Reach a compromise dear, there's only so much a person can take

Now, about those long talks Some people just love to go on and on and on even when they've obviously made their point clear in the first few minutes, and they repeat the same things all the time. So here's what I do(from one sis to another ), I let my mind wander once i've gotten the whole idea of the 'talk'. Find a rhythm, and drop the occasional 'hmmm' 'uh huh' 'ok' etc. Seriously, don't fall asleep that's annoying You just need to find a way to work around it.
Always have something to fiddle with, that'll help keep you alert and wear a poker face.

It's a good thing he talks about your issues dear, appreciate that

@bolded *hug* Thanks for that piece of gold, I'll endeavour to put it to good use.
its not like I fall asleep all the time

anitank:
Ok maybe I don't, but you should not to take things way to far. I can tell it bothers you already so why hurt yourself? Try settling this issue before the end of the day ok?

Good morning and I'm sorry if I sounded a little harsh

Lol...we are cool jare..you only spoke your mind.
Yeah, I'm quite bothered thanks

Lamlif on mic: Somex it happen that the poster is more far matured than the advisers on nairaland,that makes one wonder what kind of advice these people can give.People are just shouting apologise!apologised!!they don't see the danger in the character of her guy,is hell when u have a guy that talk a whole day on issue that can be settled within 15 minutes,a marriage can be threaten by that single attitude of him.As for the poster I will advice you to change him once and for all before you marry him,if you are able to change such terrible character in him I tell you you have achieved a lot,and you have built a marriage of peace without agony for yourself.As you rightly said to [b]apologise mean it won't happen again and next time if such happen I bet you he will talk for 5 days accusing you of insurbodination.[/b]Take your stand now and let him know chatting 247 is impossible as you are busy doing other things even if you are not,just let him get used to it.If you don't do this now by the time you are employed he will be a pain in your neck and such a man can make you loose concentration at work which may result to you loosing the job,thinking about a guy you are in love with 247 or chatting him 247 can make you loose your own personal track in life as you have build all hope and focus on him.What if he dumps you at the end?then your eyes will be open and you will sit down to count your loss.You are realy a mature lady for seeing it from this angle you are seeing it unfortunately majority of your advisers are shallow minded. They are too young to reason like adult shouting apologise mtchew.You are on the right track liberate yourself,this singular act of him is enough evidence one should be bothered if your marriage with him will be peaceful and last,but if you love him try to stand your ground so as to change him if not be looking for alternative as u still keeps him.

thank you.
I can't just change him tho, I love him to bits. About the long talks, most times, I remain mute and listen, taking in as much points as I can. I guess its something I'd eventually get used to.

When this issue is settled, I'll most likely talk to him again about how impossible it would be to remain in touch 24-7, laying emphasis on the fact that what matters most is his presence in my heart/thoughts and mine in his.

Fkforyou: Personaly,I feel he is suffocating her with his over presence,she wants to know how it would feel like to miss him.
Anyway just appologise to let things slide.

thanks. Sent him a text last night

ebuetor:
Thankyou am greatful. Thankyou.

you welcome.

anitank: No offence miss but I actually think you're proud.

"I'm sorry baby, I was busy with something that's why I couldn't call till now". That would have solved it.

Then again I don't think you love him as much, if not you wouldn't let that day go by without calling him back...But four days?? C'mon

And the more you stay without communication, the more time you give him to re-evaluate "things"

you don't understand. Thanks anyway. Good morning

Dyt:

The slp wld come
Look for trouble too
Go on any thread, abuse anybody
I am right behind u
Hehehehee

Lol...I can't e-fight please..lol...from what I've noticed, some nairalanders are REALLY nasty
I'll probably just browse through threads and listen to songs till I crash.

Dyt: Go get some slp gal
I wanna read cool story tomorrow
If he no gree reply u, go him office and lambast him with kisses

I pray oo. Thanks dear. Tgc.

Dyt:

Chuckles
Not exactly
Bt similar
*winks*

Nice!!!

Dyt:

U need do smth to fall aslp
Try get busy chat,music,movie

Music
Is that you in your profile pic btw?

Dyt: Its nothing
Don't worry much
He might be fast aslp, am sure he's eager to read/hear frm u

*i know that feeling, exactly how u feeling right now*
Don't get mad at ursef ok
Jast calm down

Assume he's aslp

Thanks. I'm really grateful. Guess I needed that push. I'll try not to get/stay mad @ me. Thank you *hug*

Dyt:
He cld be sleepn
Send a text
Remind him how much u love n miss him

Done...called a couple more times...feel like a child right now

Dyt: 0

Quit replying here
Call ur man up dammit

ok. Just did- thrice. He didn't pick up *sigh*

Yield: Your boyfriend communicating w/ you after a disagreement is a good thing.
Some people would rather keep things in and then explode later, but he speaks
with you, to sort things out. You should embrace him for it. He isn't asking you
to do anything, but to be a listening ear. Not many guys are like that, you know?

Saw your initial post there's been times I fell asleep while he was talking not cos he wasn't making sense, or I wasn't interested, its just how I am...I can't count how many times I fell asleep during classes that seemeed to take forever or even during service...not because the "speeches" were boring, but because I can't seem to focus on someone talking and talking for a long period at a stretch.
One of the reasons he fell in love with me is the fact that I'm reserved...he hates lousy girls.
@ the bolded. Yes I know...guess I'm fortunate

Dyt: He bores u innit?
Loves u too much and wanna share everyth of it with you
Why complainin now, am sure u had ur freedom these for days
Do I sense u miss him?
Btw, I read somewhere in ur post *sorry*
If u cld say sorry to ppl u don't know why is it difficult to ley it out to soeone who loves u?
Like seriously, u don't need anyone tell u that
That's common sense youngwoman

Don't get me wrong please. I apologize when I'm wrong, and at times, even when I deeply believe I did nothing wrong. I love him right back, probably more. And I miss him.
I never said he bores me, I just don't get why he should be mad about an issue like this, he himself knows I'm not the type that talks much.
And the only "sorry" I think I said in this thread, apart from the one in my initial post is, "won't my apologizing mean "I'm sorry. It won't happen again" "

ebuetor:

i talked to her , she is said , she is willing to change,that i should put her tru, but i dont seems to understand how, i really would have had it quit with her but i had a rethink, that what if someone drops me for my weakness how will i feel. Then again enduring this relationship is where i find myself.

Since she said she's willing to change, tell her in plain words what u do not like about her...talk to her about the things you aren't cool with...it's never fair to remain with someone out of pity.

lertee: Call him and apologize,it doesn't make you less of a woman.
You should be grateful you have a guy who always wants to hear from you,it shows he loves you.

Thanks

Davico:
Sometimes u say SORRY not because u were wrong but because u value the person and the relationship.

little_mistress:
Demanding an apology means he still cherish your relationship & if you still do, apologise to him,make up & forge ahead.

Mc oldsoja:
your apologising simply means you value the relationship and you want to work it out.

Guess you are all right...thanks so much

Nasty22:
tnx m gr8ful

You're welcome

Vessi:
Hmmmm. The way I see it, you can't break even.
You gotta try your best to play it his way.
BTW, if he was fun chatting with, you wouldnt be complaining about this.
My Opinion OO

LOL @bolded...even if I were chatting with Kevin Hart/Basket Mouth, i can't do it for 24hours straight up...you've got to admit there are times one just has nothing to say. It doesn't necessarily mean the other party's boring.

Dannylux: He's found himself a talkative lady. Sorry, Miss.

Hmm...I really hope not

Vessi:
Talk it over with him.
Perhaps he's obsessed about you.
Perhaps he isnt always too busy at work, he's always bored?
Explain to him why you cant keep chatting all day with him on phone.
I wouldnt suggest you work in the same office with him.

We've talked about how impossible it would be to keep having something to say every single minute. The reason I've not made an attempt to reach him all this while is so he'll see that that issue wasn't an issue at all.
Would my apologizing now mean, "yes, I'm now up to the task of keeping in touch 24-7" when deep down I know its not possible?

Vessi:
E.O.D.
End Of Discussion!

Thanks

Suzie 0.:
Swallowing my pride is one thing i h.ate doing. Buh when it comes to a relationship, dont let it spoil things for you. So please, just say i'm sorry and end this whole drama. #my opinion#

I see no big deal in apologizing, but, please, won't my apologizing mean "I'm sorry. It won't happen again"?

Rexphobia:

Trying to see how convenient 'the calling creed' will be when you start working.


Yes, love is sweet. You may mean the world to each other, but don't get trapped in the euphoria of my world evolves around my spouse.

Actually, he's employed. I'm the one who isn't formally employed yet. I don't just know how to "keep talking" for 24hours. We talk on phone, chat, send pictures and all, but is it possible to do this all through the day?
We'd talked about the impossibility of having something to say every single second of the day before, and he was like okay, he understood. Now this...

Suzie 0.:
Swallowing my pride is one thing i h.ate doing. Buh when it comes to a relationship, dont let it spoil things for you. So please, just say i'm sorry and end this whole drama. #my opinion#

pasqal09: 4 whole days without speaking to him, yes you should be bothered.

*sigh*
Thanks

Rexphobia: He's pissed 'coz of that? Not calling for hours? A little strange.

The long talks...endure/tolerate it and when you can't anymore...tell him to STFU.

Should you apologize? If you still want the relationship, by all means do. If not, let it slide. But you guys need to talk.

The relationship may be over from his standpoint, btw


Someone needs to play the fool in a relationship...is that person you?



PS: are you a student or ....

Lmao @ the bolded.
Its funny right? Beats me too...because I sincerely don't see any reason for getting mad.
Thanks for taking your time to read and comment
No, I'm done with schooling, at least for now, why?

My fiancé and I have been together for over a year, and I love him so much. In my opinion, he's everything I could ever ask for. He always insists on our not carrying over a misunderstanding to the following day...believes we should always resolve our problems asap. When he's mad, he tends to go into "long talks" and I get tired cos I'm not the talkative type, and hate when people keep going on and on. Don't get me wrong, I'm a good listener, but there are some kinds of talks I'm just not up for.
I'm the kind of girl that doesn't talk much...the laid back type. In fact, several people have mistaken my quiet attitude for pride in the past, some still think I'm proud till date.
I'd complained about these talks of his, but that's the only way he can get things off his mind, and always says the moment we have a misunderstanding and he doesn't "talk" about it, I should be worried.
Earlier this week, he got mad at me because I stayed for a couple of hours without checking up on him, but in my opinion, I felt that shouldn't be an issue as I believe one can't keep talking to one's partner every second of the day. I let him know this, + I was even the one who had initiated a contact by 7pm that day.
Now this is where the problem is...he's mad at me for not getting in touch, and feels I should apologize, but I didn't see any reason to, so I said nothing.
Its been 4 whole days since we last spoke. Should I be bothered? Should I get in touch? Please, I'm so confused atm... What would you do?
I'm sorry my "story" is quite long, I just had to be as clear as possible.
Your comments are highly appreciated please. Thank you