₦airaland Forum

Get a mtn cheapest data from me by calling me in 09033267688

Kindly message me on WhatsApp/call 09033267688

englishmart:
Learn a skill, and develop yourself and your grammar, especially. An articulate carpenter stands more chance than a more experienced carpenter.

I love this

[quote author=popweezy post=127150644]OP..have you ever been laid on a sick bed for weeks,months or years?? Do you realize some people have a lifetime appointment with hospitals?? Life itself is a precious gift no one can give you. Appreciate it while it last! You never can tell when you will expire. We all can't be the same in all sphere of life. Reason why they say all fingers are not equal. Just admit that is the way God has designed life. Some will be rich while some will be poor. The poor ones never wanted to be the way they are. And without them, the rich won't see themselves rich.....

We all just won't have to settle for less. We struggle for greener pastures but just don't have to make someone cry because we want to smile. We are all living in this wicked world brother you got my vote with this your respond. I will keep reading this till it assimilate

Wealthoptulent:
When parting with Spouse & child/ren are involved pls have second thought, if its not life threatening... hmm! This young Souls pay the huge PRICE

What if it’s mental threatening? Is it advisable to stay put ?

Fiscus105:
I always sorry for any young girl that usually priorities physical attributes "much more" than actual quality of being a responsible husband when going to marriages.



All these, TALL, SIX PACK , SHINING HAIRS, would become toxic if such person didn't possess quality OF RESPONSIBLE MAN.


Meanwhile, person can be working in oil company and yet not being a responsible guy oo.

This really got my attention.Permission to pin this ?

turmacs:
Africans are the most foolish set of human beings on earth, especially the religious one's...

The poorest and most wretched countries are the most religious one's, while the richest and most prosperous are very far away from religion, that should tell you alot. Most people in this country like to act as if they are wise, especially the older generation ( the people currently in their 40's - 70's) but a large majority of them have foolish running in their vains. I know this country would get better someday, But i believe that would only happen when everybody from this older generation are dead.

Do you think the coming generation would be any way better. This generation abuses everything positive comes their way. I can bet you their old age will be worse than this present one.

westlius:
God see money
Even earning his daily pay per month am OK

you no even talk say per year sef. Honestly Some people are meant for less work more money. God abeg🙏

Akwamkpuruamu:
Be like say we escorts some people come this world

No be only escort sef.e be like say we come this world come do bouncer for some people ni o🤣🤣

RecentHistory:
If you're calling me for the first time and you call me on WhatsApp calls, I won't pick.

If you don't give me advance notice that you want to talk on WhatsApp, I no go pick.

But funny enough, if I'm having a conversation on large numbers or private stuff, I use WhatsApp calls. It's safer.

Sorry to ask,how is it much safer to you WhatsApp call for private stuff ?

[quote author=TemplarLandry post=124236655][i]Only archaic men with lowest of the lowest self-esteem imprison their wives under the guise of housewifehood.

Women are not dullards or nonentities. They have parts to play in every functional society. A real woman has to make some money for herself too.

Being a housewife means you're only useful to your husby as a copulation machine and a babies-producing device. Zero contribution to a functional society. That's bad bad. In northern parts of the country, we have lots of women that are full time housewives and having a great life and family.

Honestly, I think stingy man is still preferable than womanizer. If you as a lady you are a working type then you won’t have Issues with him.


Meanwhile you can reach me for your MTN Data at a cheap price 1gb 290 naira for 30 days
09033267688 via WhatsApp or phone call.

The best player to ever grace the football pitch.


Meanwhile you can reach me for your MTN data at a cheap price 1gb 290 naira for 30 days
09033267688 via WhatsApp or phone call.

teekay213:
You can marry him cos age is not on your side but keep talking to him and be a good wife,cook his best meal,clean up for him,do well in za oda room, pray for him and together.he might change when he sees how you care for him

After doing all these for him, what if he doesn’t change, wouldn’t it be too late for her to opt out ?

telim:
Dating for long does mean the marriage will last. My dad and mum only knew themselves for few days before they got married at a young age. They have being together for over 40 years without any headache.

there was headache but they used panadol extra instead of cutting off the head.but you see this present generation, they would rather cut off the head instead of using panadol extra.lol

FuckTheMod:
Some men are fõõlish sha

You manage marry a leftover, a girl with multiple bodycount, still paid her dowry or bride price IN FULL
A girl that has been through "A LOT" and "A LOT" ha been through...
Someone that has been passed around like football by multiple men...

YET, YOU GO STILL MARRY HER AND ALLOW HER TO DEY GIVE YOU HEADACHE AND PROBLEM

I dey talk am, the girl wey go give me problem in relationship or marriage for this life, DEM NEVER BORN AM ... Try me and see me drag you through hell, WITH EVERYTHING THAT I HAVE, EVEN IF IT'S THE LAST THING I'LL DO ON THIS EARTH.

I'll rather be dead than to tolerate nonsense.

i like your affirmation

Righteousness2:
Whoever is close to the Celine Dion should tell her to come down to Nigeria.
There is a GOD that does the impossible right here.
There is a GOD that saves, Heals and Delivers no matter what the doctor says.

Tell her to come down to the GOD of CHOSEN here in Lagos, Nigeria. She will be made whole.

It is not a brag, it is a Fact!
What the GOD of CHOSEN cannot do, Does not Exist.

Are you for real.you mean only prayers can heal her without taking or applying medicine ? Well,in my years of living,I have never seen such miracles.i only heard from television

For those that are working in essential places like filling station,supermarket,eatery and pharmacy,I think there work should be on shift, so there won’t be any off during the holidays except your off day fall on holiday period.

being:
You would be surprised she doesn't.. A lot of people don't think through long term effect of their actions.... Having an elder or someone she looks up to, break it down can actually do a lot of pleasant change. Or even if she knows, that elderly talk can JOLT OUT a change.

I agreed with you partially on having an elderly one to break it down for.but do you know changing an adult is a great task.Honestly,I still stand with,sometimes eye for an eye blood for blood,then she will realize she need to drop some of her bad habits.Honestly I don’t really like taking all of person shit.i serve them more than what they served me.then peace can reign

P

being:
That is why the first step is to get her counselled.. She cares for him when she isn't upset with him. According to OP, she puts on her dismissive attitude when she is unhappy with him which shows she is just without wisdom... Counselling would hopefully help her with that wisdom. Rather than OP exercising himself in those her bad habits and charging the atmosphere of the home.

And what made you think,after counseling she won’t put up this same attitude anytime she’s having issues with her husband.lemme tell you,she’s an adult she know what’s right and what’s wrong.i believe if any of her friend comes to her for marital advise she wouldn’t go this way.So,sometimes the advise we give others,we also need it as well

In whatever my children want to venture into,u will give my best to make sure they graduate as a university students,come out with excellent grades and be academically sound.Then they will go into football at tender age.May Almighty Allah gives me the grace to do it for them.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

Yes.marriage isn’t meant to be perfect .but is meant to deny one from happiness ?

RenegadeX:
Op ignore this simpish advice okay. Don’t have any heart to heart talk with any mofo . See I have dealt with women and I know them like the back of my palm. I repeat don’t have any heart to heart talk. Start giving her woto woto. An eye for eye. Sometimes this bitches do not respect you when you act Christlike or behave as a Godly man. They want to see crazy and you should enjoy showing crazy.

You need to harden your heart to a point were if a bitch threatens to leave you. You open the door and kick her ass out for making that threat. Kick her so had that she falls and scrapes her knee on the floor.

That money you are giving her stop giving her shishi. Don’t help her do anything. When you come home buy fast food and eat in her presence. Do your laundry yourself and make sure you go out and hangout with friends and post pictures of yourself having fun and arrange one of your guys girl to hold you in a romantic way.

When you come back don’t respond to her questions or naggings. Don’t make any advance sexually behave like she does not exist.

Either of two ;Dthings will happen. Either she will come to her senses or she too will not mind you. If she doesn’t mind you then I’m afraid someone is giving her back to back the way she wants it. She wants to tow her mothers lifestyle.

I repeat drop that gentleman that you are forming they don’t respect it. This bitches are like children once you don’t call their bluff they triple down on their bad behavior.

If she tries to abuse you verbally give am better slap for her left eye

You will be surprised how that once a week will change to thrice a week

I am just like you Mr op a very good man that don’t like cheating but if you take my calmness for weakness and want to be disrespectful. You go collect woto woto. Ready to go your papa house or that useless dick that she wants to cheat on me with. Let her go and have it fully. I no send your papa

Honestly. I really welcome this your advice.Sometimes you need to be like a boss not like all those indian actors not even only to your partner but to anyone that want to trespass.Like you,am cool guy that always want peace and be kind,but once I notice you want to take my gentleman for a mumu.u won’t wait a second to show u my jet li skills.

being:
klass99, this is a recipe for disaster esp in marriage!! @ OP Take note two wrongs will crash the marriage in no time.. that's d direction 2 wrongs will take you.. esp with someone like her who did not grow up seeing a marriage work.

For how long would he continue to wait for her to grow up and know that sometime you need to break your rules for your loved one especially your partner

Klass99:
Aww......you genuinely sound like a good man. It's sad you are not getting the love and attention you want or deserve.

Actions speak louder than words! Perhaps you need to change the narrative for her to get better results in your marriage.

Notice I didn't say talk to her or verbally communicate your concerns. Show her what you can do by your actions, show her that two can play this game she's playing. Don't buy into the narrative that two wrongs don't make a right.

From personal experience two wrongs do make a right - it is called giving people a dose of their own medicine, which usually pains them and they know not to mess with you again or they adjust their behaviour. But it's your call.

You said my mind.i think sometimes we need to see people what they show us than to think what they can be.in his write up,it seems he’s a good for him to not even been thinking of having fornication outside of his marriage despite been financially good.mehn this lady is about to loose her dear husband to some tiktok that are ready to give him more than what he’d need.

sisisioge:
Ok o. Looks like you have the whole thing well sorted. Good luck.

Don’t really understand your write up ma’am

frozen70:
I think you need to study her more to know when to ask for money or not

There might be some attitude about you that she may not be comfortable with

There could be some other things she may have observed in you that may be turning her off

So I think for now stay there and understand all you need to understand and also her mood swing

With time, you could be saving little money to sort out yourself incase she doesn't give you

But mind you she is still observing you all her eyes are on her business and those around you

Thanks so much for this piece

eniolorunfe:
Is she not going to pay you for helping her manage the shop? You better discuss with her and agree on how you will get paid. If it’s via commission on sales or a fixed salary because this your questions get K-leg.

It will also be a good idea to discuss how long you will work for her before you start your own business and how she intends to support you in achieving this so you don’t have to depend on her for long

i want her to stock the shop fully before I raise the issue of how I’ll get paid.

sisisioge:
Did you guys have an agreement on how you get paid for managing her shop upfront?

Was the 4k not supposed to cover your transport? If not, is she aware you would be staying the extra day to make the enquiry before you set out and why couldnt you just fit it into your schedule?

Are you even a smart person that can hold his own? This one that you're asking her how far, how far what exactly? You cant be stressing her with questions like a maid would be asking madam fa.

Biko agree with her very well before starting the work and dont go acting like a kid she will have to explain everything to before he gets it. Also, look into discussing doing your own side business inside the same shop. Eg, selling palm oil or onions, etc if she isn't selling that already. Doing business with family members is hard!

4k isn’t enough for transport to and fro.if I had any extra money with me for transport,I wouldn’t have called her.i only called her for transport which I was even reluctant.i have not discussed how the profit will be shared.i don’t want her to think maybe am after what I will be getting and I think that is too early to discuss.

mariahAngel:
She was fed up at that point.
As in, she had had it.
That was probably why she responded to you that way.

Do you depend on her for everything?
Why do you want to manage her business?
Do you not have plans of your own?

I got sacked from work. And I have been staying at home for a while.sometimes I do call her for financial assistance. So when she learnt I am out of job she believes I will be the best person to manage her business.depending on her for almost everything is what I don’t want.And am scared I don’t want us to have issue because she and her sister are all I have got for now

Good day my NLers. am here again to seek for your sincere advise.Am in my late 30s and life has been treating me so tough that I have to accept my present circumstances. Our last born is doing very well with her biz in Lagos and she asked me to come and handle a foodstuffs shop she’s about to acquire so life can be easier for me to live and I accept.I have been at the shop now and the people that were using are putting me thru some necessary things.I stayed with her,son and her apprentice who stayed with her.i sleep in the sitting room.I travelled down to IB to get few clothes.we were supposed to travel down ogun state before I preoceed to IB but she couldn’t made it due to her busyness. She gave me 4K to transport myself down to IB.i got to IB and am suppose to leave the following day but I had to stayed for a day to make an enquiry on certain foodstuff here at IB before I move back to Lag.i am so reluctantly to call her for transport fare back to Lag but I had no choice than to call her for the tf. But immediately I called her that am coming to Lagos tomorrow morning that how far before I could finish my word she just said how far about what I said am coming back tomorrow morning the next she said was I should come back whenever I want.i felt like sharp object just struck my heart. tho I had message her earlier this morning on WhatsApp that am coming back tomorrow morning.her response really made me felt bad honestly.tho she was a good girl to me financially.To God who made me I am ready to handle her shop with one mind and am wondering whenever I need money for some personal issue.how am I going to handle that or would I still keep asking her for money which I don’t really like.

Wagwanbrethren:
Someone should konk this one in the head. Face your trash God and leave that lady alone.
No be everybody go follow your useless religion, or practice wetin you believe na! 🤷‍♂️

This Kain one for don masturbate with her picture tire, but go start dey yarn trash once he gets to the pulpit so as to deceive em zombies for church! 🤮
Your God is useless, stop forcing him down everyone's throat. The bible is no different from a comic book, just that it's full of trash, we all must not follow it! 🤷‍♂️

Keep your preaching to your sheeps in church, you can even give them a uniform to wear. At least the nonsensical God will be very happy with that!

Man you go too far. If you don’t believe in God you shouldn’t talk down on him.chai