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arantess:
Worse will be up on 29th and heaven will not fall

You people called GEJ names and carried coffins with his face on them....nothing happened and nothing will happen now

Derrickfoster1:
Bola Ahmed Tinubu is a Cocaine sniffing animal

ImpregnaTor:
Wonder how a sane, 21st century man will comfortable follow Islam.

All religion are outdated but Islam is still stuck in 1567 and too rigid, which is not suitable for a modern society

Wawelexy:
Sometimes we have to put emotions aside and face the realities of life.... At that age, he doesn't need to be pampered, let him face his troubles squarely, nothing good comes easy.... He should brace up

DownTime44:
Hi guys


Please i put up this post basically because of my elder brother. I sincerely want to know if i was wrong talking to him, or I could have just let him be. I wasn't myself ever since i talked to him, and i was somewhat having guilty conscience since then.


I have an elder brother, he's 38 years old and also the first son. I am the fourth child in the family of five. The second child is a female and she's married. We lost our third child, that's my immediate elder brother some years back, while i have a younger brother. I came from a humble background. Lost my dad while i was in JS 3, even before his death we had been hustling on a daily basis for survival, and we live happily as one big family. My mother, siblings and i do hawk daily before we could eat. All thanks to public school in Lagos, my family wouldn't have had the opportunity to basic education. We hawk daily after school, weekdays and weekend. My family was bred and brought up in Ajegunle.


Few years after the demise of my father, we struggled to pay house rent. We had to leave Ajegunle to a local and developing area. I didn't allow my family conditions deter or weigh me down. Never! I believe I'd make it in life legitimately without venturing into crime, fraud, theft etc. After my secondary school, i was into all sorts of labour work. I worked in factory, building site, cleared bushes, laundry man , just to save up and further my education. I worked for 6 years after my secondary school, bought a bike from the little savings i had and proceed to school through jamb. I gave the bike to someone who often deliver #6,000 weekly for the upkeep of my family. I was in year 2 when i let go of the bike, it was on a higher purchase and the agreement we have had elapsed. I hustled my way through school and graduated. I'm done with service last year but couldn't land a job, probably due to my age. I'd be 29 this year and most graduate trainee often request for age below 28. Although, i had a 2.1. I'm only managing in a pure water factory to make ends meet, keep soul and body together and support my family


I sat my elder brother down and talked to him. He has been hustling like every other person in the family but i don't understand what's happening. He didn't futher his education nor learn a handwork. He's 38 but still live under his parents roof. He has been doing conductor work for many years. The family had talked to him several times to look for something else. It's fine you are hustling as a man for survival but doing conductor for many years without thinking of what else to do is wrong. A family friend of ours who later got to know what he does for a living had advice him also.


The bus he was following, the driver had misunderstanding with the owner and he collected his bus back. My elder brother had been idle for months, doing nothing. He claimed he has gone virtually everywhere in search of bus he could be working with but couldn't get any. This is a family that we all had to bring something no matter how little to survive. I was talking to him as a younger brother. I asked him why didn't he heed to people's advice when they were advising him then to stop the conductor work and look for something to learn, if perhaps he doesn't want to further his education? He doesn't believe in Nigeria education, because he could count graduates without job or those with petty job. My elder brother wear almost rag as clothes. I had to give him some of my little wears I'm managing. He has just one slippers. We don't wear same size of shoe or sandals, we could have been sharing that also. He sold his phone to feed sometime ago and had been without phone. I was initially saving to get my mum a small phone but i had to give him the phone instead.


He was crying when i was talking to him. I understand the situation of things in the country, which i myself is going through. I was just trying to know what other things he could come up with. I am not happy seeing him sitting idle doing nothing. The fact that he's the first son and found himself in this condition at that age breaks my heart daily. My mum had been so worried about his condition. I had to convince her that things will be better. I don't want her to develop high Blood Pressure that could lead to her untimely death.


Please guys was i wrong talking to my elder brother?

visaclick:
By 30 something you don’t own a car then your chances of success and survival gets slimmer

Draslo:
If you live in the UK, there's a 70% chance a footballer has slept with your gf or wife. Footballers have the most one night stands in Europe.

Think again before you sponsor a woman to the UK, they will use £ and Ferrari to reset her brain. Even player for Scunthorpe FC go ball your babe more than you possibly can

spy24:
In the western world

Women comes first then
Children then
Men then
Pets then
Immigrants

That's the order, if you mumu na you sabi

Godwin4444:
don’t mind d op

He would b surprised to know that the one claiming busy always create enough time for another guy

One thing I learnt in life is that nobody is busy, we only create time for what we want

Once I am in a relationship n u tell me u are busy na to lock up on your matter

TonyRazor:
Okada Rider's Daughter Scores Highest In JAMB, Gets INNOSON N3m Scholarship


https://twitter.com/innosonvehicles/status/1655634528080125962

zed7:
Greed and laziness is the cause of almost every Nigerian girl becoming a hooker. This has not been helped by the ease of making quick and illegal money by Nigerian men.

Imagine paying 100k for a round of sex with a bleached and worn out hooker, surely only men with illegal wealth do that.

LilMissFavvy:
Why don't you leave your sisters alone and mind your business

eben97:
The worst advice of my life I would be giving out to a person , is to get involved in POLYGAMY! YES, POLYGAMY !! Its a creeping beast, a virus that can unsettle the structure of true peace ,love and unity in any home.And let's all get this right and well, no home on earth ,I mean no home on earth as it is today live on TRUE PEACE ,LOVE AND UNITY practicing POLYGAMY.ITS all a hoax. Hypocrisy manifested at its peak. I am a product of same system and I can't in full details explain what I went through , and what I am still going through passing through the tunnel called polygamy.The Trauma can almost never be quelled unless God steps In and even the aftermath of the negative effects can really last forever.Bros , what is Been displayed in your family is as a result of the bad seed or egg been layed by your parents .... you might wanna give excuses may be because you emanate through the Islamic system.. that I won't argue about but the truth remains the truth , polygamy hasn't done the world any good .Even with very wealthy fams, the place for human flesh of greed , selfishness and pride will always show case it's self under such a system. Those with a single parenting might not really understand or be able to relate with this but I bet, those in this same shoes of polygamy would relate well. One man,- One woman has itt troubles but I can experiencially tell you ,it's can never be as traumatizing as the polygamous system.Dont even wish your enemy into it . Untill your sister is ready to let Slefishness and pride out her heart... The hate will continue and it might even get transcendental.

ZIMDRILL:
the root of the problem is culture, we love to be respected very much but without showing respcet to each other no matter how young or old

its a vicious cycle, younger gets bullied, dismissed or disrespectef when you are young/ younger and cant wait when there older or some younger than them comes along. The same bullying that was done to you, you carry it on the young ones

Lets not treat each based on who is older, just teach each other equally, if i see my younger brother first let me be the one who greet 1st

1 it teaches the young ones that elders can teach by example

2 the younger fells respected and noticed, it helps how they relate to you in the long run

3 it teaches the young one that respect is both ways

A good example, you are general
hand worker in a big company and the general manager greats you buy your name, it boost your confidence at work why because the greeting is a feedback to say the manager doesnt take you like thing but a human being he knows your name not becoz of the job he but he sees you as a human 1st and a his worker 2nd

Back to the story, your sister must try to see each other as sisters without saying this one is older etc let respect start from seeing each other as sisters

but its tricky becoz you said one was introduced as half sister meaning, your father has two wives or children with different wives

there is 100% chance of one the attitude from
the sisters is due to the influence of the mum due to the father having another woman

Karleb:
This is why I hate that people just marry because they are mature.

Aside finance and other things, an authority is needed in the house to call the sisters to order and make sure the family is at peace.

Sadly, even with money, some people don't have the required intellect to care for children above childhood level.

Mobog:
Leave then for the main time or Call the elders in the family. They'll be fine!

insidelife22:
Someone who earns a salary of about one million naira monthly can't say he is feeling anything like someone earning 30k monthly.
Plus all the looting.
Minister of labour park well o.

References1:
https://twitter.com/PeterObi/status/1655295206948757506?t=OpDPGSyI5L_epVUw_OZeNA&s=19[/quote]BAT AND PO had both congratulated him,we are waiting for AA to do his own

PoliteActivist:
Wrong! You can have both without being married

yrhuhfy113:
you can say its... two sides of a coin.

Some followed this man's advice and now are too broke to even come online to complain... they married so early in the name of things will be better... then BOOOOMMMM wife delivers twins or triplets... or something else happens... and the meager 150k salary became minus 200k debt.... and over the years... the man has become bitter and sad that HE WAS LIED TO and those who lied to him that made him rush into marriage on a low salary, have all abandoned him.... Now they vehemently advice anyone against making their own mistake. THAT'S ONE SIDE OF THE COIN...

THE NEXT SIDE.... they married early, favor, luck or whatever good spirit, shined on them and things began to boom so well and now they are doing well and they think it is because they married early so they advice everyone else to marry early thinking everyone else has the same luck they had. THAT IS THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN.


So you see, no two marriages will have the same story... everyone can actually know which side of the coin they belong to. Sadly we lie to ourselves alot in Nigeria... meanwhile abroad, a 40 years old getting married is still very much celebrated like a 20 years old... age is just a number. Getting your life working wella before marriage is what counts.

ExAngel007:
This post is heartbreaking - Lagos police PRO, Benjamin Hundeyin, reacts to a Nigerian man's post expressing his hate for men of Nigerian Police force


The spokesperson of the Lagos state police command, SP Benjamin Hundeyin, has described as ''heartbreaking'' a tweet shared by a Nigerian man expressing his utter hate for men of the Nigeria Police Force.

It all started when Hundeyin reacted to a tweet about a Police officer who got injured by a hit-and-run driver.

Reacting to Hundeyin's post, the Nigerian man with the handle @MrOdanz said he would never help a dying police officer. His post reads;

''If I see a policeman dying by the roadside and needing help, God in heaven knows I will not help. I will jump and pass. I hate you guys. All of you Nigerian policemen. My experience with you guys have left me very bitter. Even you Mr. Ben, I hatenyou. You guys irritate me

"This post is heartbreaking. The cheering in the clmment section is more heartbreaking." Hundeyin wrote with a sad face emoji, in response to MrOdanz's tweet.

However, the Twitter user didn't relent and further said he has never had a good experience with policemen.

https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2023/1/this-post-is-heartbreaking-lagos-police-pro-benjamin-hundeyin-reacts-to-a-nigerian-mans-post-expressing-his-hate-for-men-of-nigerian-police-force.html

Demigod22:
I offered help to random people when I can afford. When I return back to my alma mater, I help couple of people with project guidelines, I organized tutorials for all the levels, I gave out money, I help randomly. If you know me personally, you will agree with me that I am generous intellectually, financially, emotionally and otherwise.

She is not a random person, she is someone I asked out and she said No, I don't expect such a person to seek favour from me. Some people are just opportunistic or parasitic. What will I benefit from her friendship? NOTHING.

Aridunnuoluwa:
I will marry you if you arr serious... i am a divorced single Father of 1.... and i am ready if you are q good woman... i dont need your money or anything and we will both stay and live in Nigeria Lagos to be precise or we go back to my village

LondonDating:
True talk. A friends Mum in Nigeria waited for her 80 something year old husband to go blind before unleashing torture on the blind man.

Whenever he goes to wee and he misses the toilet bowl due to his blindness, she locks the front door and starts flogging the blind man with koboko to the point that the neighbors have to break the door down to rescue the blind husband from her koboko.

And these are people who studied in England many years ago.

The vulture is a patient bird.

onatisi:
lolz , see consolation

Fireman66:
This is highly disgusting, damn
NYSC should be scrapped
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Mokason288:
I am Igbo

The problem of an Igbo man is another Igbo man

Chibuzo I Thank God for your life