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Family comes first, because no matter what you do, your family will always be your family, nothing or no one can change that. A man/woman leave and will forget you. Most times when people get hurt by a partner, the family is the one they have to turn to for support.

US lost today

I really dispise a man calling me:

mom
mama
mommy
ma

Thats all the names we/he call his mother. For Christ's sake, you aint fvking your mother so stop calling me that.

topup:
Oh Carolece, I'm so sorry about this, it sounds extremely painful, I've never been there before, but I do advocate forgiveness, if you can even consider it, you are a very mature and sensible woman. No one is perfect, it does show your sister's immaturity though. Human beings are all different, but if you can forgive her, then do so, this does not mean that you have to be the closest of friends and do all things sisterly - after all it is such an awkward situation which you've been placed in.

I will allow time to help me deal with it. Thanks

saintneo:
Now back to your sister, I think U should forgive and[b] forget. I even wonder how you pray how can U pray with such a heavy heart?[/b]

My deductions, I believe U lack focus and progress in your dreams; this is because, your mind is clouded w/ hate.

Forget?
So are you telling me because I have a heavy heart I shouldnt or cant pray. Please, this doesnt make sense to me at all. Utterly nonsense!

If you are referring to being successful in life. You also have that wrong, as I am the most successful person in my family (mother and sisters). I have accomplished more than all of them combined, and its not like I am saying this to make it seem like I am praising vanity or being better than them in any way shape or form.

Mainly because your friend knows you best, knows your track record, and know what you are capable of doing. They love their sisters and dont want them getting hurt.

I dont get in a conversation with people who speak rubbish. You are on ignore because I dont have time for foolishness.

One of my all time favorite singers, Celine Dion, singing Color of my love.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jwt7fb7VnT0

slap1:
Dumped where?

Thanks for the laughter

alienYOUTH:
Oh, if he wont/doesnt care, pls disregard my earlier advice and leave d punk. The effort has 2 be mutual for u want success, besides u wont rly/fully enjoy lovemaking if u aint married 2 d guy.

RUBBISH!

Bed of Roses, rendition by Jamaican artistes


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nd36QohsI5g&feature=related

Angel4luv:
Yes i do, but he wouldn't care. I just love him and i don't know why.

If you dont know why you love him, I dont know what to say either. Some men will make "ego" dis-allow them from getting the help they want. I think if you talk to him in a way to let him know you are very serious about getting more from him he will seek help. Perhaps you can make an appointment and both of you can go see someone who can help you in that department. Good luck.

I pray alot, without prayers I dont know where I would be now. Its going to be hard to take the first step, but I hope I will in the near future though.

Angel4luv:
I even taught of leavin him cos i was fed up. I never enjoyed him for once.

do u talk to him that u r not getting enough of him?

That is why alot of marriages dont work. Marriage should only happen when you love someone, not when you are getting to old and time is running out on you. If it takes me to the time when I am 500, if I live that long    thats the time I  will marry someone. For now, I am very happy with me and my the age that I'm at, cant even remember when I was 30 

Some people care and some dont. I care and I pay close attention to what happens around me. I am not nieve and wont say "that cant happen to me" as everything has already happend anyways. I always expect the worse, if or when I get the best, I cherish it and the person, sing praises and shout hallejulah, but now I am hating to the best of my ability. Until men can show me they can be good then I will change my thoughts about them and my hatred towards them.

Angel4luv:
thanks anyway.

You are welcomed.

You have so many options now. Try one or all and please give the feedback. Thank you

Missy B:
I have come to understand the negative and selfish side of man, that almost nothing , shocks me anymore.
Talk about it. Hear her side of the story and probably, his too.
This will help You understand the whole issue, from genesis to the end.
If I were You, I'D love to know why she did it.
Are they still together?

I dont think I really want to hear it at all. I just hope some day I will just forgive her on my own. Dont know if they are still seeing each other as I distanced myself from them. The topic just does not come up. I only speak to my mother via telephone, havent seen her for 3 yrs now. I avoid seeing her as she is the one taking care of the lil boy. Dont know if the father is playing any part in his life, I have zero clue what's happening and I dont think its my business.

Faher:
Now, I see the genesis of the hate

Sincerely though, it's always good to forgive whether or not the guilty party is apologetic.
As hard as it may be, it's the only way to move on in life.

Has your sister tried to talk to you or apologize?

Thats not the only reason why I hate men. My dad! He was one of the worse men I've ever encountered. He was a w'hore, had so many kids outside the family, and he used to deprive us of basic necessities which he could afford. He beat us (kids and my mom). He was so disrespectful. I may sound cruel, but when he died, it was of great joy to me, I was a happier person when he died, and so were my siblings. My mother took it hard as she loved him dearly, but eventually she got over him after like two yrs and began a happy life with her girls (myself and 4 siblings).

My uncle who lived close to us, he was the biggest w'hore in the community, we used to tell lies for him as many women used to show up at the same time. Then, I didnt look at it as anything as I was too young to understand, but as I got older, it made me understand that the same can/will happen to me.

All the men I know cheat, every single one have kids outside their relationships/marriages, or have women that they are dating outside of the one they have.

Men I work with, they too have a tendency to cheat, its all around me. I just cant see myself in a relationship and trust. There will have to be an intervention from the higher one.

I have to stop hating before I can forgive her, as I cant stand the mere sight of her.

Angel4luv:
so why are you recommendin such for me cos from d tone of your msg u don't like it either. Maybe u taught i was kidding right?

They say it works. If my memory serves me right, you are the one who wants a man on you for hours. Not me.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=469613.msg6289363#msg6289363 date=1277591342]Gawd, men


Has your Sister contacted you or made any effort to?[/quote]She tried but I ignore her, my mother even tell me its time I forgive, but I just cant. She knew we were together so if the man put the qestions to her, she should have let me know, or turn down his offer. She shouldnt have. Men are dogs, I expect everything from them, but I didnt expect it from my own sister.

Never have.
Never will.
Dont want any man on me for no long hours. A few minutes and I am satisfied, because I dont really like men and sx in the first place.

I had what I thought was a lovely relationship with a man I met while in college. He's intelligent, creative, made me laugh alot and he was a very loving person. Always there for me and my family, nothing was too hard for him to do for my family. They all loved him.

To get to the point and to cut the story short. My sister had a boyfriend, they were having problems, they were together for almost 4 years when she found out she was "finally pregnant". When she found out, they started to have some serious problems, to the point they broke up. At that time, we (the family) didnt know what was the real problem as neither of them spoke about it, they just argued then she said they'd had enough and he left.

We were very supportive of her and the unborn child. My boyfriend would "fit in" now as the person to take her around. I sometimes even call him for her to take her places, and as usual, he never refuse, unless he's really tied up. He and my sister started to get so close, but ofcourse not, I wouldnt think anything of it, as she was hurting and he was a caring person, so I thought lightly of their closeness.

When the baby was born, the resemblance was splitting image of my boyfriend, quite interesting I said to myself, looking at the baby in the hospital. I didnt say a word, but obviously everyone in my family including him noticed what I noticed. My mother was the first to break the silence like a week after, she said it was a bother to her.

Surprizinly, both of them admitted to the affair they'd been having, and it was the reason for her and her boyfriend to break up, as her boyfriend found out and left her.

To this day, I havent said a word to the man I as with, it was never the right time to talk about it. I didnt want to hear, it was instant breakup. Going 5 yrs now. I grew very aprart from my family, didnt go there for a full year after the birth of the baby as it was too painfuly to look at the child and remember. He's innocent, and I dont want to hate him. As for my sister, I havent spoken to her as yet either and cant find it in me to forgive her.

Should I put it behind me and forgive my sister. Would you?

No question about the man, he's long history he's not even remembered. I've gotten over him ages.

Jamaican stone

femmy2010:
Either can make the move.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]@Topic. . .it's an equal thing in my relationship [/color]

I guess these minds are programmed to have the urge for sx together.

MRbrownJAY:
the more you talk down about men and the more i will have to point out to you that men aint the problem, you are!

Heard that already, tell me something new.