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Missy B:
I do not only smell ignorance . . . . .I see a tristful child suffering from dearth of feminine affection. I wonder why I even upreared his previous post with a reply.
I must be in a VERY good mood tonight.
**Death**

Missy B:
I shoulda thought of this.

homealone0:
I am tired of this hell loneliness and games they play, Can any1 come to my rescue in I mean meaningful and matured lady who understand what relationship and willing to give the best in it, I am ready for long term now, Get back to me now, I am tired of looking at couple holding eachother's hand in evening and wish to do same aswell, I am missing what's love is my God, Where is she God?

Navi613:
Women are half of every community, and they birth the renaming half. We often overlook the importance, prominence and value of women. Their sacrifices, burdens and circumstances she is forced to undergo when men refuse to take responsibility and shower their women with respect, compassion and mercy. Cultures in underdeveloped countries often ignore conditions their women are abiding by.

A man is nothing without a woman, and us women are certainly the reasons why our societies thrive, our communities strengthen and our children (or future children) will imitate our actions, our behavior and our attitudes.

The value of a woman is incomprehensible to describe in words alone. How would you describe the value of a woman?

jayon:
concerning poochy finding it hard to breakup earlier, i put these to your knowledge as We all know breaking up is hard to do. But unless you're Ross and Rachel, or some teen romance turned happily-ever-after, breaking up is an unavoidable part of life. And while it's up to you to decide what your individual breakup style is, if you want to avoid future bad relationship karma, you'll adopt a few breakup basics.

STEPS

1. Pick an appropriate place. The less public, the better. Remember, ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary.

2. Choose the right time. Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want your ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around?

3. Do it in person. If the relationship is relatively new, maybe you can get away breaking up over the phone. But come on, if you've been out on more than a handful of dates, isn't that kind of harsh?

4. Be honest but sensitive. No one likes to get dumped. But we at least appreciate the truth when it's over. Unless, of course, the truth is you've stopped finding him/her attractive, you've met someone better, or that you're just plain bored with the relationship.

5. Keep your emotions in check. Don't seem too happy about the breakup: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate. If you must, you can high five your friends later.

6. Don't react. Some people don't handle rejection well. Some people yell, scream, cry. Yes, that sucks. But it doesn't mean you should react to their meltdown. Remember, rejection is tough. You've already got the upper hand by being the dumper. Let the dumpee behave ridiculously if they choose to. And if their tantrum escalates, get the heck out of there!

TIPS

• Many people feel that it is poor etiquette to break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. It is easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, but you may lose the respect of your mutual friends if you take the easy way out.

• If you handle yourself well during the breakup, chances are you'll avoid any hard feelings with your ex. And while that may not seem so important at the time, it's vital to your future relationship karma!

• The term "break-up" implies a hard stop. But, often, a break-up is really a change in the nature of a relationship, where friendship remains, but a closer physical connection, and a desire to build a life together, is taken away. Try to look at breaking up in a more positive way, and see how it can transform your relationship.

• Think about why you want to break up with them (e.g., you may suspect/hear rumors that they are cheating on you).

• Ask them FIRST. Everybody hates when you break up with them for a reason that isn't even true.

• Think about how maybe if you want out, they might too. Ask them where they think it's going. If something is making being together painful, tell them that being together is hurting you (e.g., long-distance relationships).

• Although it says above pick a private place, this can sometimes lead to emotional conversations that end in sex and another miserable month of "trying to make it work". If it's really over (see warning one), meet in a quiet public place local to the other person for a drink or a coffee. Tell them straight away and succinctly that the reason you're here is to say its over and why - be honest, give the true reason e.g. nothing you do will make up for the fact that you slept with someone else/the fact that you weren't there to pick me up from the hospital after my operation was the last straw, i need someone more dependable etc. Then leave money on the table to cover both drinks and leave. Do not cry until you're far away. Do not call them AT ALL for two weeks - this helps to get some distance.

• Don't tell other people about it until after.

WARNINGS

• Weigh in carefully on your decision to break up, without analyzing it to death. Is this really what your heart wants? You may not be able to reverse your decision once it's made, and you may burn bridges in the process. Could you forgive yourself if you broke up with the man/woman of your dreams?

jayon:
concerning poochy finding it hard to breakup earlier, i put these to your knowledge as We all know breaking up is hard to do. But unless you're Ross and Rachel, or some teen romance turned happily-ever-after, breaking up is an unavoidable part of life. And while it's up to you to decide what your individual breakup style is, if you want to avoid future bad relationship karma, you'll adopt a few breakup basics.

STEPS

1. Pick an appropriate place. The less public, the better. Remember, ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary.

2. Choose the right time. Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want your ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around?

3. Do it in person. If the relationship is relatively new, maybe you can get away breaking up over the phone. But come on, if you've been out on more than a handful of dates, isn't that kind of harsh?

4. Be honest but sensitive. No one likes to get dumped. But we at least appreciate the truth when it's over. Unless, of course, the truth is you've stopped finding him/her attractive, you've met someone better, or that you're just plain bored with the relationship.

5. Keep your emotions in check. Don't seem too happy about the breakup: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate. If you must, you can high five your friends later.

6. Don't react. Some people don't handle rejection well. Some people yell, scream, cry. Yes, that sucks. But it doesn't mean you should react to their meltdown. Remember, rejection is tough. You've already got the upper hand by being the dumper. Let the dumpee behave ridiculously if they choose to. And if their tantrum escalates, get the heck out of there!

TIPS

• Many people feel that it is poor etiquette to break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. It is easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, but you may lose the respect of your mutual friends if you take the easy way out.

• If you handle yourself well during the breakup, chances are you'll avoid any hard feelings with your ex. And while that may not seem so important at the time, it's vital to your future relationship karma!

• The term "break-up" implies a hard stop. But, often, a break-up is really a change in the nature of a relationship, where friendship remains, but a closer physical connection, and a desire to build a life together, is taken away. Try to look at breaking up in a more positive way, and see how it can transform your relationship.

• Think about why you want to break up with them (e.g., you may suspect/hear rumors that they are cheating on you).

• Ask them FIRST. Everybody hates when you break up with them for a reason that isn't even true.

• Think about how maybe if you want out, they might too. Ask them where they think it's going. If something is making being together painful, tell them that being together is hurting you (e.g., long-distance relationships).

• Although it says above pick a private place, this can sometimes lead to emotional conversations that end in sex and another miserable month of "trying to make it work". If it's really over (see warning one), meet in a quiet public place local to the other person for a drink or a coffee. Tell them straight away and succinctly that the reason you're here is to say its over and why - be honest, give the true reason e.g. nothing you do will make up for the fact that you slept with someone else/the fact that you weren't there to pick me up from the hospital after my operation was the last straw, i need someone more dependable etc. Then leave money on the table to cover both drinks and leave. Do not cry until you're far away. Do not call them AT ALL for two weeks - this helps to get some distance.

• Don't tell other people about it until after.

WARNINGS

• Weigh in carefully on your decision to break up, without analyzing it to death. Is this really what your heart wants? You may not be able to reverse your decision once it's made, and you may burn bridges in the process. Could you forgive yourself if you broke up with the man/woman of your dreams?

cantell:
Shut the f*uck up!
So the men are now blamed for everything abi? 500%? Can you imagine?
What about the women?
I guess they're all virgin marys.
Stop ranting abeg!
We've been thru this before.
Btw, your posts looks familiar.
Are you sure you're not an old member hidin behind a new username?
Cos thats what they usually do, when they feel like ranting.

28Schweet:
THE SEA ARE YOU SERIOUS, how silly would one have to be, to not know what to chat about with a woman, we are intelligent beings after all, I mean really. I don't agree with Carolece on some things, her views on this thread however, I'm agreeing with ,

THE SEA:
all i am asking you is to contribute more as a female and how to create an interesting issue to talk about, and not to go to my blog compulsory

lareine:
i wish nairaland could be more educative as this. we need more people like u jayon, n r u a marriage counselor or something. pls send me your email, Ineed to talk to you about something.

[/quote][quote author=ufos77 link=topic=467834.msg6269149#msg6269149 date=1277307609]dont treat a woman too good or she will interprete it as weakness This is a weak statement.
dont date a girl for more than 3 months withoutr sex This is even weaker and sound like you a woman goes in for just the sex
never let a girl know you cannot live without her or she will exploit your weakness wouldnt even justify this statement with an answer.
dont give a girl all she asks for- sometimes deliberately deprive her(her dad does so and she still loves him) Then he's giving her the opportunity to go "fetch" things that she is deliberately deprived of from another man. My dad deprived us and made other women and their kids (possibly his) happy. And I hated him until he was dead. Havent forgiven him as yet, I am going to ask God to help me with it as its been ages and I still cant even go to his graveside.